Would you date a transgender person?

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Would you date a Transgender person? Im not asking gay or bi, lets say your a male and your dating a girl and you later find out she was born male and vise vera, but she never told you? How would you feel?

JackSmy · Accepted Answer

If I met her, and she smiled, and we talked, and got to know each other, and shared a lot in common. A few dates, a few kisses, and then, that moment, that time...
If I was liking her, as a person, and had some dates, and lots of talks, and texts, and kisses, yeah.
If she said, "you have to know something, about me," and she told me, openly, before, with integrity, honesty, why would I suddenly not like her?
Relationships, and personality, and how we feel about people, isn't dependent on their sexual organs, at least, to me. Why does that matter, if she is trans, and has a penis, and even if she doesn't want to risk, or can't afford, complete reassignment surgery? She is still the Lady I met, and like, and share a lot in common with!

SirRexington · Accepted Answer

No. I'm heterosexual. Contrary to the belief of many gender post structuralists being straight or gay is in fact associated with the person's sex and not their gender. Lesbians will not have an intimate relationship with a woman who identifies as a man due to there being a penis involved. Lesbians hate penises... how shocking. Straight men aren't just attracted to people who look like women but actual women who have a vagina... we do not and will not have a relationship with someone who does not have a vagina.

And fake vaginas are hideous and creepy. So none of that either.

strawberrysouffle · Accepted Answer

Depends. I'd have to know quite early on (say after two dates have gone well, something like that) otherwise I'd feel like he withheld important information.
I'm also not interested if he doesn't look like a man, because that is simply what I'm attracted to.
And I'm not too fond of a vagina either. I could deal with it if it was temporary and I'm interested in pursuing a serious relationship with him, but otherwise that's a dealbreaker.

sarahbear1750 · Accepted Answer

Nope. I don’t care how many reassignments surgeries you’ve had, I will still see you as the gender you were born as. And last time i checked, I’m into men with an actual cucumber and not ones created by a plastic surgeon🥒

ElissaDido · Answer

No i would not. I consider transgender-ism to be some sort of mental illness (like body dis-morphia, anorexia etc).

I believe that their basic human rights should be respected (as in, we should protect their lives like any other citizen) but we shouldn't and can't force people to accept such behavior as "normal behavior". They can do what they want. But it's not normal.

Hanihanii · Answer

As a straight girl, I'd get mad probably? Not cuz he/she is a transgender, but cuz he didn't tell me... I have the right to know such a big thing right? I think it's better to confess such things in the very beginning, and then I'll decide if I'm okay with it or not and either I will date u or say sorry. Cuz... if he thinks that it's not a big thing and won't really affect our relationship then... why wouldn't he tell me before we start dating, and hide it from me the whole time, u get what I mean?

MissKittyz · Answer

Nope. I might be bi but I'm only interested in a real women and a real men. Not the ones identifying as something they weren't born as and changing their bodies completely. Just not into that. I'd be friends with them though. Just not date.

J3nny · Answer

Never. That’s a mental problem i would never want to deal with. And trans women are never that attractive. other than wesley tucker. but he’s still not manly enough

Mollynotgemma · Answer

I would be more upset that they kept it from me for so long and that would be the overriding issue foremost! As I’d feel the relationship we had was a lie and would feel that my partner was a stranger to me! Would I then end the relationship? probably instantly... because of embarrassment and doubt of everything we had! Would I forgive... most definitely... but the damage would have been done

Brookie1212 · Answer

No I don’t consider this normal behavior and I think society is trying to normalize it and I don’t agree. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community, I just don’t believe being transgender is a normal thing

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

First off, it is not she was born male or he was born female. If you were born male, you will always be a he. God judges our life according to our birth sex.

Transsexuals do not deserve any dating. How dare they mock God by asserting their sex over what God wanted them to be. No matter what, you can‘t change into the opposite sex. It is aestethic by looking the part.

I will never date a transsexual because they are mockers and agents of Satan. God wanted them to be male or female and be proud of it, not try to alter it.

btbc92 · Answer

Nope. I would sense that the person was or not. If they lie, GOODBYE. I asked for a man, not a woman. A fraud is a fraud. If you have to lie, your not a good person. I don't have to tolerate that.

Knighted2170 · Answer

I’ve actually thought about this question. There are transgender people who started the process at a young age. I’m talking like 8-12 years old taking hormones. Then doing the surgery later on.

The fact is I still see them as their original gender. It’s a block I have so it’s not going work.

Now, if I found out later (as the question implies) I would be pissed. That’s not something to keep in the background “waiting for the right time.”that’s just being straight up dishonest in my view.

Lliam · Answer

No way. And if he/she told me after we had already been dating I'd be pissed. They should be up front about shit like that.
If I was on a first date with a tranny and they told me, I'd be really understanding and nice. It's possible that we could even remain friends. But I wouldn't date them again. I'm only interest in romantic relationships with actual woman.

TripleAce · Answer

Never lol
Its almost like you are sleeping next to a friend by chance. While you’re sleeping you’re have this amazing dream about cuddling with a sexy babe

You wake up and find yourself cuddling with your bro friend. Your mind goes wtf and you immediately walk away in digust

Id get that feeling multiple times in a day with a trans person. Can’t help it. Its a natural feeling 🤷🏻‍♂️
Even if i wanted to i wouldn't be able to lol

elissa23Trans · Answer

Pre-op maybe. Post-op no. Those who have had gender reassignment surgery have a shorter lifespan and develop all kinds of mental illnesses after the surgery and the created organ infects all the time. I’m a trans woman myself and I’m glad I chose to stay away from bottom surgery. Genital surgeries on trans people create hideous results.

GraveDoll · Answer

Nope I perfer men and men born only.

I grow up in a house full of women. I have all sisters. why would I want to date one.

I can not ignore science ever. I would be extremely upset and yes i would end it quick.

Anonymous · Answer

No - I wouldn't. I'd prefer a natural biological man. And I would be annoyed that they weren't honest with me because I would have been able to tell them from the beginning that I wasn't interested instead of wasting both of our time.

Besides I want kids. A trans man can't give me kids.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I am totally unwilling to get emotionally engaged with a trans. It's not a judgement, but a preference. At some point I will have mentioned my point of view and I expect to be treated openly and honestly.
If this is not done, I will feel betrayed (in case that I did not figure it out myself) and will respond accordingly. Which will not be pleasant for both of us.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no I wouldn't and I would want to set that mofo on fire for trying to deceive me about something so important.

gorman24 · Answer

Never been put into such a situation as that. The fact though that they didn't trust you enough to make the decision to date them after they told you is already a turn off. So I would most likely not just off that alone. That and its just not my thing so I guess my answer is a probably not.

OrangeBoy2 · Answer

If I always saw her as a girl, and If I was in love with the person...

The only thing I would get mad would be her hiding the true from me.
Not because she's transgender.

But knowing my personality I would probably understand her reasons to lie... and accept her back.

SexyAshh · Answer

Never. Im fine if someone decides to be gay whatever, but i won't accept going to that extent.. It disgusts me

That_Skinny_Chick · Answer

I dont care about their past. If they're a good person and im attracted to them then im fine because thats all im looking for.

Dark93 · Answer

I would never.
Im personally not comfortable with the idea and if I found out the "girl" I was dating was transgender I would cut her out of my life completely.
Not only am I not comfortable with it, but it would be an extreme betrayal to keep it from me.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

No.

Nothing against them, can be friends and all, but I just wouldn't consider themselves a "real" woman when push comes to shove. (I would never say that to their face, I do have some social acuity lol)

xkildy · Answer

I agree with brookie1212, your either gay or not gay. Just like there are only 2 Genders male and female.
If you like women and you're a man your straight. As a women, you either date a man or women you don't get a third option.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I'd feel like they lied to me and as with others who've lied, would most likely end the relationship

TacocaT6969 · Answer

No. I would only date someone who was born a man and enjoys being a man.

Hidden_P · Answer

No I wouldn’t. Plain and simple, I want a relationship to have an outcome of a family and a transgender person cannot give me that.

Ephemera1 · Answer

Here I'll spell it out  F  U C K N O  I'd rather date a guy that doesn't lie to himself or have mental issues, and I only go for women.

r1ngzz · Answer

I'd feel pissed, we might have to box afterwards, but honestly most of them look like guys still lol if she looks like a guy even a little I honestly just stay away. Don't want to get caught slipping in these streets

datgirl · Answer

Nope. NEVER. Wouldn't date a transgender man even if they were the last person

Anonymous · Answer

if you're born a man then you are a male it's that simple. same as if you're a girl trying too be a man I'm sorry too inform you but you're a female.

honestly fuck all that if I didn't catch on quickly & it got that far I would be shocked & ghost em until I compose myself then still stay ghost👻

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I have dated someone who is trans and I would do it again without hesitation. As long as we are compatible and want the same things out of life, that's all that matters

genericname85 · Answer

i would not choose to date someone. if they lied to me and i found out later, then they have even less of a chance (not saying there was a chance to begin with) but if i don't trust you, then you have no chance with me.

ITGirl95 · Answer

Nope, I will always see you as the gender you were born with.

Tam0320 · Answer

No, I am pretty clear that I am straight so why would I?

Pink2000 · Answer

Fuck no. I need a real man. I don’t want some sewn on dick.

marleyanna2016 · Answer

I would date a trans male if one found me attractive and wanted to date me

just_a_potato · Answer

Well I'm bi but even then for some reason I couldn't date a trans girl but would date a trans guy it's weird

Lauren-green · Answer

I think if they were the right person for me, then sure, why not

síocháin · Answer

I would like to give it a try just to understand the psychology of being a transgender

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Probably, but, very doubtfully for romantic reasons because, I'd like to have kids! They couldn't give me any. UNLESS it was F - M guy who wouldn't mind me getting him pregnant a few times!!

Anonymous · Answer

Most men wouldn’t date one, since they like to use women in order to get biological children and such. But they love to fuck them, especially if they still have their penis, since men are more or less gay.

Xlink · Answer

I'd kill them being 100% honest. Then kill myself not cause of jail but because I'd feel so sick. I believe the trans should date the trans or the gays.

KatherineJ · Answer

If I were single. I would definitely be disappointed that he didn’t feel confident telling me about his past. To me that would say “I don’t trust you enough” to share what I’ve been through.

name_is_eric · Answer

I'm not gay, so no. Besides that shit is repulsive to think about  I would physically assault him for deceiving me. Maybe bust his kneecaps or something

Xoirwinkan · Answer

That's the sort of thing of nightmares. Something not biologically female from the beginning just feel weird if you try to get it to be female. It's the whole 'surprise I have a dick' trope, even if she doesn't have one.

Anonymous · Answer

My crush is going through transitioning right now and honestly could he get any more cute because like i think he is doing that right now. I was the first one he came out to though so like I don't know. Im happy for him and still have a crush on him.

cth96190 · Answer

Hell no! I have less than zero interest in fucking the arse of a male in a dress. XY is XY, end of story.

rjroy3 · Answer

I'd like to think I would pick up in it. Even some of the smoothest transitions like Blaire White i could tell. But no. No i would not lol.

Factshurt90 · Answer

So you are asking STRAIGHT people if they would date a post op transgender? Just to clarify.

Tasmith95 · Answer

That would be something you should really declare on a first date as youd feel pretty betrayed if you went down the line caught feelings and then your almost trapped by your feelings

MannySimms · Answer

She met ALL of my criteria for being hot. I found out after receiving the best blowjob ever. We went out for a while; didn't last.

SugarBlossom · Answer

I wouldn't solely because I'm very religious and that would be look down upon in my religion.

humanearth · Answer

Oh well. I feel in love with them. Can't change my feelings of love. I guess they have to put up with me and my non anti Google self.

steelbunny · Answer

I don't know, I'm not really sure about how sex works with a trans guy

Logorithim · Answer

Hell no.

GhostMochi · Answer

No, they're too whiney and emotional, not to mention they're attention seekers.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Its quite a large thing to hide. I'm all about openess and honesty.

Anonymous · Answer

tbh i know this sounds bad but i wouldn't - i accept people who do this 100% i know heaps of transgender people but i find them less attractive if i know they are

GD360 · Answer

No. I would be angry. And it probably make me be very untrusting about other people

JessieLo · Answer

Nope, I think it’s weird

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