Would you date a transgender person?

[JoseJr]

Would you date a Transgender person? Im not asking gay or bi, lets say your a male and your dating a girl and you later find out she was born male and vise vera, but she never told you? How would you feel?

[JackSmy]

If I met her, and she smiled, and we talked, and got to know each other, and shared a lot in common. A few dates, a few kisses, and then, that moment, that time...
If I was liking her, as a person, and had some dates, and lots of talks, and texts, and kisses, yeah.
If she said, "you have to know something, about me," and she told me, openly, before, with integrity, honesty, why would I suddenly not like her?
Relationships, and personality, and how we feel about people, isn't dependent on their sexual organs, at least, to me. Why does that matter, if she is trans, and has a penis, and even if she doesn't want to risk, or can't afford, complete reassignment surgery? She is still the Lady I met, and like, and share a lot in common with!

[needadvice1245]

She's not though because it's a man dressed as a woman period

[SirRexington]

No. I'm heterosexual. Contrary to the belief of many gender post structuralists being straight or gay is in fact associated with the person's sex and not their gender. Lesbians will not have an intimate relationship with a woman who identifies as a man due to there being a penis involved. Lesbians hate penises... how shocking. Straight men aren't just attracted to people who look like women but actual women who have a vagina... we do not and will not have a relationship with someone who does not have a vagina.

And fake vaginas are hideous and creepy. So none of that either.

[elissa23Trans]

Thanks for saying this. I’m a trans woman myself and I agree with you, fake vaginas look horrible. It’s basically an injury created by a surgeon that never heals over.

[SirRexington]

@elissa23Trans well look, I'm not here to shit on trans people. Y'all have your your issues that need to be settled like I have mine and anyone giving you shit certainly will exaggerate the issue, but I just it disgusting. At the least I find it cringey.

[strawberrysouffle]

Depends. I'd have to know quite early on (say after two dates have gone well, something like that) otherwise I'd feel like he withheld important information.
I'm also not interested if he doesn't look like a man, because that is simply what I'm attracted to.
And I'm not too fond of a vagina either. I could deal with it if it was temporary and I'm interested in pursuing a serious relationship with him, but otherwise that's a dealbreaker.

[sarahbear1750]

Nope. I don’t care how many reassignments surgeries you’ve had, I will still see you as the gender you were born as. And last time i checked, I’m into men with an actual cucumber and not ones created by a plastic surgeon🥒

[SexyAshh]

Oh damnn😂👍🔥

[ElissaDido]

No i would not. I consider transgender-ism to be some sort of mental illness (like body dis-morphia, anorexia etc).

I believe that their basic human rights should be respected (as in, we should protect their lives like any other citizen) but we shouldn't and can't force people to accept such behavior as "normal behavior". They can do what they want. But it's not normal.

[JackSmy]

@ElissaDido How are 'they' forcing people to accept them as who they are? Most try to avoid most straight people, just because of all the hatred, and bias, and shit that people have posted to this question, alone! None of them are trying to convert 'straight' people to be LGBTQ+!!! They just really want to live their lives, their own way, as in the US, is part of the Bill of Rights, and the Preamble to the Constitution.
When did that change, that AMERICANS, turn on our own?
The Great Founders wrote this, into the Declaration of Independence!! It was THAT important!!

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."

Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness!! Leave them be, and let them have their happiness!! They aren't messing with your married Misery!!

[ElissaDido]

@JackSmy I didn't say they're forcing people to become LGBTQ+, I'm saying they're forcing people to accept that transgender-ism is normal and not a mental disorder.
Big difference.

[JackSmy]

@ElissaDido And I said "How are 'they' forcing people to accept them as who they are?" not at all what you wrote: "I didn't say they're forcing people to become LGBTQ+". If you want to nit-pick, then get your own accurate!!
I know a lot of them, through a lot of friends, and NONE, want anyone to do ANYTHING but just see them as people, with the same rights you have!! None are 'forcing' anything, on anyone, except the basic rights that they deserve as people!
They are 'normal' as they are, and science has established that, and the fact that you choose to deny it, is not their problem, but just a failure, on yours, to accept reality. The earth is not flat, and they are NORMAL, as they are!

[ElissaDido]

@JackSmy A man cutting off his genitalia and getting hormonal therapy to resemble a woman is just as a normal as donkey painting white and black stripes on his skin to resemble a zebra.

Scientifically genetics say if you have a Y chromosome, you have male genitalia in the vast vast majority cases, and therefore you're male.

[JackSmy]

Obviously you and I are not like them, and can NEVER really understand what they think, and feel. The difference, is that I know many, and call them friends, and we talk, and I CARE, AND WANT TO UNDERSTAND, rather than just dismiss, and HATE, because they are different.
It was much the same with the 'Coloreds' before (Sorry, to those, and I only post that hate-word, to make a point, that African-Americans faced the same hate, and prejudice, before, not because of sexual orientation, but because of skin color, and it was as baseless and irrational, then, as hating on LGBT now!) Seems that people who don't know history, just repeat it...
Someone, much greater than me, once said something like that, George Santayana.

[Brookie1212]

Thank you for saying what most of us are thinking

[JackSmy]

@Brookie1212 Responding to my support, and trying to understand, and them just being people, like everyone else?
So hard to know who is responding to what, sometimes! :)

[Brookie1212]

@JackSmy actually, I’m responding to Elissa. I think that they are people just like the rest of us and Deserve he same god given rights. However, I think it is unhealthy to promote to society because I truly think that it is not normal

[JackSmy]

@Brookie1212 best to put the @nameoftheonerespondingto: when you respond, so limiting the confusion!!

[Brookie1212]

@JackSmy well she geTs a notification

[JackSmy]

@Brookie1212 And that means what? She get's a cookie? :)

[Brookie1212]

@JackSmy she knows I responded😂 and yes she gets a cookie.

[Miristheiss]

@JackSmy
That has nothing to do with dating a person who was born of your own sex and has the same genitalia you do. You two would never be able to produce biological children together... etc.

Yes, they have their basic rights just like anyone else. Since that was never in question I'm not sure why you went on your little speech there.

[JoseJr]

@JackSmy man your taking it wrong way. Both opinions and "rights" are like assholes. Everyone has one. My whole point of the question is if hypothetically you met someone and dated and maybe even had sex, then later on told you they were a born a man or a women. I'd want to know that before hand. Im not into that stuff, nor do I want to be. I've met 2 people in my life that you just simply could not tell they were born as something else. If that ever happened to me I would become violent because in my mind you kept a big secret about yourself that not only affects you but me too.

[JackSmy]

@JoseJr I guess my question to you is that if this hypothetical male-become woman was so real, so much like a woman, and you had sex with her, and then, LATER found out that SHE was actually born a HE, who is the fool? I think you, my man, for having sex, thinking she was, and so convinced, that you did, hating trans people as much as you imply!!
Dude, I am laughing at this, and sending it to all my LGBT friends, for them to have a laugh too!!
Calling me out, when you were the one getting tricked!!! Best joke Punchline in like a year!! Thanks dude!! Loving the image of you walking up with her, and her just saying, casually, "I was born with a dick, but you were the best lay since I changed!" Have a great life!!

[JoseJr]

@JackSmy you got jokes, its all cool, nah never happened. The whole question was born when my girl said it was rude to ask hypothetically a person for a birth certificate or some kind of proof before anything ever happened. But its all cool mate, get your giggle out. As the old sayings goes, whatever floats your boat lad

[JackSmy]

I just love when people post questions, and try to disguise their Hate, and try to make some point about just not understanding others, and hating them, just for being different!
Should I assume something, about you, posting as "JoseJr"? I don't, because I choose to get to know the person, rather than just judge on names, or 'gender' or other things, and social, racial and sexual stereotypes.

[Hanihanii]

As a straight girl, I'd get mad probably? Not cuz he/she is a transgender, but cuz he didn't tell me... I have the right to know such a big thing right? I think it's better to confess such things in the very beginning, and then I'll decide if I'm okay with it or not and either I will date u or say sorry. Cuz... if he thinks that it's not a big thing and won't really affect our relationship then... why wouldn't he tell me before we start dating, and hide it from me the whole time, u get what I mean?

[MissKittyz]

Nope. I might be bi but I'm only interested in a real women and a real men. Not the ones identifying as something they weren't born as and changing their bodies completely. Just not into that. I'd be friends with them though. Just not date.

[J3nny]

Never. That’s a mental problem i would never want to deal with. And trans women are never that attractive. other than wesley tucker. but he’s still not manly enough

[Mollynotgemma]

I would be more upset that they kept it from me for so long and that would be the overriding issue foremost! As I’d feel the relationship we had was a lie and would feel that my partner was a stranger to me! Would I then end the relationship? probably instantly... because of embarrassment and doubt of everything we had! Would I forgive... most definitely... but the damage would have been done

[Brookie1212]

No I don’t consider this normal behavior and I think society is trying to normalize it and I don’t agree. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community, I just don’t believe being transgender is a normal thing

[Hanihanii]

Same

[_Jay_]

y'all do know that body dysphoria is literally a mental illness that affects less than 1% of the people. And like i think that they should have a chance because you dont deny a person with no legs a wheelchair right?

[Brookie1212]

@_Jay_ I agree, I wouldn’t want someone not to date me because I have a seizure disorder. I get it’s a real thing. But that’s why it’s called body dysphoria or gender dysphoria. It is a mental illness. Society is trying to promote it to say it’s a healthy thing and it isn’t. I am straight, I like guys. If I found out my boyfriend had a vagina it wouldn’t be the same. I never said they shouldn’t have a chance I just wouldn’t want to date someone who considered themseld a boy when they are a girl

[Brookie1212]

@_Jay_ we’re not as ignorant as some people think. I’m sorry I like guys and don’t want to date girls

[_Jay_]

No like its alright y'all just came off as if you wouldn't go closer to a trans person than 10 metres

[Brookie1212]

@_Jay_ I literally said I have no problem with the LGBTQ community. God everybody’s so sensitive nowadays

[lifetime4u]

It's not a normal thing it's like forcing a cat to be a dog when the cat is actually a cat and a dog is actually a dog. Also, the Americans are forcing it because many of the influential persons in the USA have some links to the LGBTQ community.

[_Jay_]

Yea im sensitive and thats my problem but im also bored so there's that. Sorry if it pissed you off xd.

[lifetime4u]

@_Jay_ what a ludicrous thing to say

[Hanihanii]

@_Jay_ exactly as the others said... I wouldn't date u cuz I'm straight, but I would be friends with u. Just because we don't like u romantically doesn't mean that we hate u or something...

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

First off, it is not she was born male or he was born female. If you were born male, you will always be a he. God judges our life according to our birth sex.

Transsexuals do not deserve any dating. How dare they mock God by asserting their sex over what God wanted them to be. No matter what, you can‘t change into the opposite sex. It is aestethic by looking the part.

I will never date a transsexual because they are mockers and agents of Satan. God wanted them to be male or female and be proud of it, not try to alter it.

[MannySimms]

Really? If God had a hand in this issue, why would He/She/It allow these people to exist?

[Brookie1212]

Okay I am Christian too, but come on. Mocking god? He loves all his children equally and that’s why we all continue to sin. All sin is equal in gods eyes. Are you going to Hell for getting smashed one night? Your sin is no better or worse than theirs. I don’t believe being transgender is a normal thing but you don’t have to be so blatantly and utterly disrespectful towards a human being

[MannySimms]

@Brookie1212 Mocking? I'd NEVER mock God and I surely didn't here. Christians? Oh hell yeah. Let's remember that the post I replied to put God in the mix, not me. And YOU chose not to answer my question, right?
The greatest failure in Christianity is not asking yourself what Jesus would do. You should have done that here. .

[Brookie1212]

@MannySimms no not you omg the other guy

[Brookie1212]

@MannySimms I gotta start tagging people

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

@MannySimms
God wants us to be free thinkers, not robots. God gives us free will. We aren't zombies who are forced to do good.

[MannySimms]

Yeah, but what happens if you DON'T do good? Oh, right. You get a seat near the fire. PLEASE think for yourself. No one knows more about God than you.

[btbc92]

Nope. I would sense that the person was or not. If they lie, GOODBYE. I asked for a man, not a woman. A fraud is a fraud. If you have to lie, your not a good person. I don't have to tolerate that.

[Knighted2170]

I’ve actually thought about this question. There are transgender people who started the process at a young age. I’m talking like 8-12 years old taking hormones. Then doing the surgery later on.

The fact is I still see them as their original gender. It’s a block I have so it’s not going work.

Now, if I found out later (as the question implies) I would be pissed. That’s not something to keep in the background “waiting for the right time.”that’s just being straight up dishonest in my view.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Shame on the parents for letting an 8 year old kid ruin their childhood and possibly their life just coz the parents wanna look all "progressive"

[Knighted2170]

@SomeGuyCalledTom
It happens. It’s been happening for a while. You can find documented articles on this.

I got curious on the subject when I first heard the name Nichole Maines. A transgender actor on a popular tv show. The character is supposed to be transgender, but the actor is truly transgendered as well. So, I looked it up to see if was just hype, or true. It turned out true.

Nichole Maines was born Wyatt Maines and began taking hormone blockers at age 12 to delay male puberty. Hormone replacement followed, then gender surgery.

There are cases of this all over the world. Just have to dig a little.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Yeah I've heard of several cases like this. Apparently here in the UK parents have been prosecuted (!) because they refused to allow their child to have their hormones artificially fucked.

Transgenderism should be a mental disorder in the next DSM. It needs to be treated at the roots-- not catered for on a whim. Imagine working at a mental hospital, and a serial killer is admitted, and instead of trying to cure him, you give him a bunch of young female victims to rape and kill. That's essentially what happening with "trans" kids, and even adults (although if grown adult wants to ruin their life that's their prerogative, but shouldn't be funded by the taxpayer).

[Knighted2170]

@SomeGuyCalledTom

They say it is a mental diagnosis. It was GID or gender identity disorder. It was changed to GD or gender dysphoria to remove the stigma of the term disorder. The change was made in 2013.

[Lliam]

No way. And if he/she told me after we had already been dating I'd be pissed. They should be up front about shit like that.
If I was on a first date with a tranny and they told me, I'd be really understanding and nice. It's possible that we could even remain friends. But I wouldn't date them again. I'm only interest in romantic relationships with actual woman.

[TripleAce]

Never lol
Its almost like you are sleeping next to a friend by chance. While you’re sleeping you’re have this amazing dream about cuddling with a sexy babe

You wake up and find yourself cuddling with your bro friend. Your mind goes wtf and you immediately walk away in digust

Id get that feeling multiple times in a day with a trans person. Can’t help it. Its a natural feeling 🤷🏻‍♂️
Even if i wanted to i wouldn't be able to lol

[elissa23Trans]

Pre-op maybe. Post-op no. Those who have had gender reassignment surgery have a shorter lifespan and develop all kinds of mental illnesses after the surgery and the created organ infects all the time. I’m a trans woman myself and I’m glad I chose to stay away from bottom surgery. Genital surgeries on trans people create hideous results.

[GraveDoll]

Nope I perfer men and men born only.

I grow up in a house full of women. I have all sisters. why would I want to date one.

I can not ignore science ever. I would be extremely upset and yes i would end it quick.

[Anonymous]

No - I wouldn't. I'd prefer a natural biological man. And I would be annoyed that they weren't honest with me because I would have been able to tell them from the beginning that I wasn't interested instead of wasting both of our time.

Besides I want kids. A trans man can't give me kids.

[andreasderjuengere]

I am totally unwilling to get emotionally engaged with a trans. It's not a judgement, but a preference. At some point I will have mentioned my point of view and I expect to be treated openly and honestly.
If this is not done, I will feel betrayed (in case that I did not figure it out myself) and will respond accordingly. Which will not be pleasant for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Hell no I wouldn't and I would want to set that mofo on fire for trying to deceive me about something so important.

[gorman24]

Never been put into such a situation as that. The fact though that they didn't trust you enough to make the decision to date them after they told you is already a turn off. So I would most likely not just off that alone. That and its just not my thing so I guess my answer is a probably not.

[OrangeBoy2]

If I always saw her as a girl, and If I was in love with the person...

The only thing I would get mad would be her hiding the true from me.
Not because she's transgender.

But knowing my personality I would probably understand her reasons to lie... and accept her back.

[SexyAshh]

Never.

Im fine if someone decides to be gay whatever, but i won't accept going to that extent..

It disgusts me

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Me too.
Good girl. There is hope for our species.
I can't believe someone downvoted you

[Mikael818]

Good girl.. May God bless you.

[SexyAshh]

Thanks boys;)

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Three SGayWs downvoted you

[SexyAshh]

SgayWs,?

Im forever downvoted because i have an opinion, i actually like how many people i upset, makes me laugh:)

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Me too

[That_Skinny_Chick]

I dont care about their past. If they're a good person and im attracted to them then im fine because thats all im looking for.

[JackSmy]

@That_Skinny_Chick Great response!! you sound like a good person, and thinking about who the other is, rather than their body!

[That_Skinny_Chick]

@JackSmy thanks😊