Had a good first date yesterday but haven’t heard from him today?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy from bumble yesterday for drinks (it took a while to coordinate / confirm a date and time but it happened). I was super super nervous for it but it went wayyy better than I thought. We were there for 2 hours, I had 2 Drinks and he had either 2/3 drinks. We had lots in common mostly from our travels, living in the same cities, and going to the same university. He was definitely a little more eccentric then I thought but I guess who isn’t a little weird. There were no awkward pauses it was probably awkward for maybe the first 3 minutes tops. The convo was very 50-50 also which is a good sign. Anyways he walks me back to my car and as we’re walking I’m like oh you forgot to the tell me the story of xyz and he’s like well got save something for the next time. I thanked him for the drinks and we did you know the awkward first date hug and I left. I haven’t heard from him today and i was surprised cause usually have a decent feel on things. I thought we had lots in common. I did tell my girlfriend right after the date that he really nice and easy to talk to I didn’t know if I got a romantic vibe for him or not as of yet but sometimes it’s hard to tell on pure blinds and i definitely would go again cause we had lots of common. I haven’t heard from him today which I’m actually surprised about. I mean he definitely isn’t must of a texter just based on our interactions before we met up but I thought I’d hear from him. Do you think he’s purposely waiting 48 hours to reach out? Or he just didn’t get a romantic vibe. I am a bit confused.

[Emmy_98]

I've met up with a total of 3 different guys from tinder and after each date the guy has messaged me later that day telling me he wanted to see me again, and 2/3 of them had asked me at the end of the first date if I'd be interested in doing something else again. I'm soooo new at this so I just assume that if they don't text me that maybbe they aren't interested... But maybe he's waiting for you to text him, or maybe he's just no much of a texter in general. I think if you got good vibes from him and you felt a connection, you should probably trust your gut. If he doesn't message you after 48h I'd say send him a quick text saying that you enjoyed the date and would like to see him again if he's down... good luck girl!

[Asker]

So you wouldn’t write it off as of yet? I’m not gonna reach I kinda think it’s the guys job in the beginning to that. I don’t know I felt a romantic connection as of yet cause we were strangers but definitely some connection- I just had determined if it was friendly or romantic. He’s not a big texted. I thought my gut was usually write by I guess I’m reading this all wrong?

[Emmy_98]

Okay yeah, maybe you could just wait to get a text. If he truly is interested in you he should reach out. It is possible that you could be reading things wrong, but from my experience, I've always trusted my gut and typically it's been right.

[Asker]

I mean it’s pretty obvious when someone is having s good time or not. When should I say this is a write off- by tomorrow?

[MostPaloney23]

You can reach out and show interest. I don't think a guy that's worth your time will be put off by you reaching out outright or too early. Don't subscribe to those silly rules they don't work. I wouldn't necessarily panic yet though.

And if he suggested something about a next time and it seemed unforced it's usually credible. And it's credible neither of you didn't know how to escalate to romantic or flirty vibe. If you meet again, you can start that if needed

[Asker]

Ya I wasn’t too worried that we weren’t super flirty on the first date only because it was a completely blind date and getting along and maintaining a convo was obvioisly priority. That’s why I wanted to go on a second date to see if it could get to the point potentially. basically on his profile he had written he’s had a few near death life experiences so when I was messaging him on bumble I was like I feel you’re exaggerating or making these stories ! When we were on the date we had so much to talk about I didn’t even get to to ask him about it so. So when he was walking me to my car (2-3 min walk) he brought it up and tarted telling me about one quickly. Then I’m like well that’s just one what about the others you were advertising. And he said well gotta save something for another time. Then we awkwardly hugged and I thanked him for the drink. He could of jsur said that cause that’s the polite thing to say? He’s not going to be like no I’m
Not going to tell you. I agree most people don’t follow these rules but I just thought If a guy likes you he’s texting the best day. At what point would
You write it off? By tonight (when it will be exactly 2 days?)

[spartan55]

I don't go for a hug if I'm feelin it on a first date.

[Asker]

It was a complete blind date I don’t kiss on first dates so I don’t think that was it. Do you think this is a complete write off?

[Asker]

Now I’m overanalyzing everything and thinking maybe my intuition has been completely wrong and it wasn’t a goo date?

[spartan55]

Why don't you kiss on a first date? What I meant since he didn't try to kiss you...

[Bmories99]

A lot of the guys I know usually wait 2 to 3 days just to keep the relationship casual and to not look clingy or serious.

[Asker]

So you wouldn’t write it off yet? Is it kinda an unspoken rule you text your date if you had a good time the next day?

[Bmories99]

I wouldn't write it off yet. I have never heard of that of course I last dated when dinsouars roamed the earth. So I am a little out of date with the unspoken rules. However I do know guys wait 24 to 72 hours before texting about another date.

[Asker]

I just thought it went pretty well. Maybe the hug was awkward? Ending first dates tho is always a bit awkward

[Bmories99]

I agree.

[Asker]

I’m just in my head now

[Bmories99]

Relax, you never know. We tend to overthink things at times. And I agree as a guy the end of a first date is always awkward, as a guy we think do I kiss her, hug her, shake her hand. What will keep her interested with out being creepy.

[Asker]

I guess maybe I’m hesitant cause I was the one who directly made firm plans for the first date so I don’t want to come off too strong. If he liked me wouldn’t he of contacted me today? I don’t know. I generally have good initiution about situations but now I think mahbe i was crazy thinking it went well / questioning it? Is this a write off you’d say I mean it’s pretty protocol the guy texts the next day kinda like guy paying for first date?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps he is waiting for you to reach out to him or he is waiting a day or two

[Asker]

I dunno I think he knows the guy is the one saying I had a nice time blah blah. I’m not gonna reach out. So you wouldn’t write it off yet? Is it kinda an unspoken rule you text your date if you had a good time the next day?

[Opinion Owner]

No id give a another day or two also you could just send him a text saying you enjoyed the date and see what he says after that

[Asker]

I dunno I’m a firm believe the guy needs to do that after the first date especially from a dating app. I just feel like I have good gut instincts and I thought he enjoyed himself sooo I’m confused. I knew there was some connection I couldn’t determine after a first blind date if it was friendly or romantic. Or maybe I’m delusional and it went awful? But I don’t think so

[Opinion Owner]

It’s 2019 that type of thinking will keep you from finding people

[Asker]

So what should
I do? I was the one who really initiated the first date that’s why I’m
Letting him reach out now

[Vesta]

dont act clingy

[Asker]

I’m not. So you wouldn’t write it off yet or would you? Is it kinda an unspoken rule you text your date if you had a good time the next day?

[Vesta]

Just don't act clingy

[Asker]

Lol I haven’t. I’m not gonna message him. Do you think if I haven’t heard from him by tonight it’s a write off? I thought usually my gut feeling was right but I guess not