Women are getting more picky because we're constantly being used for sex and is hardly any marriages that actually sticking around. Let alone any guys actually wanting to wait for marriage to have sex at all. But then blame the women when they choose to have sex outside of marriage and his partners, and now the guy still don't want them. So let's do it looks and more to do about whether or not you're going to be compatible with this person actually going to stay with them. Women not getting too tired of guys hopping in and out of their lies only to have sex and it does nothing lasting. As I'm pretty sure men are getting just as picky because they're tired of seeing women whoring around, don't want kids or don't want to get married, but then they spend your money on women that act like they don't want to be there. People in general are getting pickier. Because the world is getting more disorganized and more evil every single day. People and our children are dying for crying out loud because of other sexual choices. And at the scene the death of my mother on her deathbed because of the sexual charges she done before she even met my father, that she did not even deserve, I think I have every right in my mind to be picky about who what type of person I'm going to commit my life to. And besides. We're only supposed to be with one person for the rest of our lives anyway. The fact that people want to go against the order of God is proof that this world has a lot of problems but then we complain about those same problems. I don't blame people for being picky. I blame people for not actually thinking about what type of relationship they expect to have in the type of person that actually need in their life that they can actually commit to for good. I cannot be responsible for other people's choices. But I can't be responsible for my own.
mm maybe. I don't know, there really isn't a scale that shows the years if men or women have gotten pickier. I just think men and women are picky anyway when it comes to choosing partner/dating.
But from what I've witnessed on this site, i think women do need to be picky cause over guys blaming us for "poor decisions" and that the woman should have "choosen better" and if she would have done that then she wouldn't be crying about being heart broken or left behind with a bunch of kids but then at the same time we're told "your're too picky, that's why you single".
It's like make up your minds, you either want us to be picky so don't end up choosing the "bad boy" or you don't want us to picky cause we're acting "too stuck up". These are the mix messages i keep seeing from men and It's making me highly confused. Don't get me wrong, I understand there are just some people who are OVERLY picky, but a lot of us are just trying to be careful and not get hurt or accused anymore for choosing the wrong men.
In the internet they are. In person, I personally don’t feel like it. Although I have to admit that most women are becoming entitled or they have a search engine mindset.
The biggest frustration are the sh*t tests. Like recently a girl who was a solid 7/10 did all of the sh*t tests from A to Z to me. First test, playing with her phone on our date to see how I would react. Then she had the NERVE to do the final sh*t test when we were about to get it on. Bra, panties, everything was off then she said softly “I can’t”. So I got up, and started putting my clothes. Before I walked out of the door she pulled me back into bed.
The game never ends, the game just got harder thanks to social media. Everyday a girl wakes up, first thing she sees is a like on her post. That’s the equivalent of snorting a line of cocaine.
Thank god Sexbots and love dolls are BOOMING. All my friends said I was stupid to invest in that mini industry, soon I’m going to enjoy the fruits of my reward. Once artificial wombs will be a thing, it will be game over.
I don't think women have gotten pickier. When you see their responses on here you're hearing what they prefer for their ideal. A lot of women have a set type of guy in mind and when guys hear what that type is, he feels he has to fit in every single category perfectly and thus get the impression that the woman is too damn picky. In reality a woman knows what she prefers, what her ideal man is, but also has areas where she's willing to bend a little here, bend a little there, and won't bend at all in some places. They will end up with someone that differs from their ideal man but when a guy asks the girl about her ideal man it does feel like it's a "you must be exactly this or the answer is no". Women do have more options now than they did in the past so it can seem like they're being pickier but I don't really think they are. They just have a more clear picture of what they like because they've been exposed to more. So, in essence, they're able to gain the experience of figuring out what they like at a much earlier age.
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It's possible, especially given the high cost of living in most urban areas these days. Don't forget that at your age women are outnumbered by guys and are at what most consider their peak attractiveness.
Many of us guys are pretty pick too, especially as we get older. And women don't like that because it means we can choose, which injures their ego.
Well, 60 years ago women were just suppose to be wives, mothers and maids...
Now we are expected to be wives, mothers, maids, coworkers, graduates, philanthropist, physically and mentally fit, cooks... the list goes on.
Women have the opportunity to be so much more and seeing as most families can't live off of a single wage anyway, need to be more than a stay at home mom. Why would we want men who are just providers? Go to work, come home, get fed, have sex, sleep, repeat?
We want partners who will put as much into life as we do?
It's not that we are picky or harder on men, we just don't want to waste our time with someone who isn't not on the same page as us.
I'm married but let's pretend I'm not for this.
I have a house, a jeep, a great job, a daughter, I'm clean, A great cook, highly educated, great friends, I volunteer... I do a lot. Other than physical attraction what would I share with someone who just got out of high school, worked at panera, lived with their parents and takes the bus with no plans to change?
Not much.
SOOOOO my advice.
If you feel like women are being "too picky" because they aren't picking you. Rise up. The more you have going for you, the more women will see you as a possible partner.
Actually I’d argue that both genders have become more picky but let me explain why. It’s because of something known as the paradox of choice. Basically when people have more choices they are less likely to make a decision and less likely to chose something or someone they deem as “average”. Now let’s take a look at online dating. We swipe on hundreds maybe even thousands of people at once. That cute girl or guy you’d normally flirt with in public? Well you swiped no because she was wearing a team jersey you didn’t like. Online dating is on the rise and this is fine but the problem with this is that it creates an environment of too much choice where gender roles are often taken to the extreme. Ex: girls getting lots of messages, guys having to send out hundreds to get a response. Say what you will it’s no fun to be on either side for anyone regardless of gender. I think we can fix this by getting out in person more and organizing dating events where we don’t just cold approach people but we actually sit down in front of someone and talk to them in person. This way we get to hear them talk about their passions and see the way they smile. We feel a rush as we look into their eyes and flirt with them in person in an environment where it is easy to have a conversation 1 on 1. I think the one thing modern dating lacks most of all is the personal in person emotional connection and conversation which is difficult to create online or even at a party/bar where the music may be too loud.
Yeah I think so, there was a guy I was talking to, at first I didn’t think he was my type... because of his looks, he wasn’t bad looking or anything I just didn’t think I was that into him.
I ended up falling in love with him tho, and things were good... I thought he was my soulmate, I loved him so much and suddenly he got so attractive to me? It’s weird, but it’s over a year ago... and I still miss him, like I’m still heartbroken over someone I wasn’t even attracted to at first, until I got to know him and not just his looks, now when I see guys that looks like him in just some similar ways.. I get so sad, and I still find them so attractive. I just want another him, he broke my heart.
But so yeah women are getting pickier with guys for sure, but I believe it was worse before though. Like I don't know, 100 years ago I’m guessing guys got judged not just by looks but because of money.
Also, I think feminism has something to do with women being so picky>.< you know how some say that you don’t need a man, because you’re So independent and shit, and they’re talking like niggers acting sassy as fuck, pushing men away. XD idk! Oh well that’s my opinion.
Women are becoming more picky with men because men are putting them on a pedestal. A fat unattractive woman with a wart will get the same amount of attention as a genuinely attractive woman these days. Heck, I've even seen men who think they are women getting loads of messages from other guys.
Yes! I personally am because there’s so many douche bags now. Can’t find a decent dude to be with because most of these men are assholes and cheaters!! I hate the male species!! I might as well marry myself and adopt kids with all these cheaters running lose these days!! Some are even married men on dating apps... trying to look for side action while they have like 2+ kids and a loving wife (F these ungrateful pricks)!! Just a little rant because some of us single ladies are genuinely looking for someone to settle down with but end up talking to a douche bag/married dude😷
Everybody should be picky. Then maybe people would stop getting with lazy bums, deadbeat dad's, spiteful babymamas, all sorts really.
It's a relationship, that's quite an important thing to get right, so it'd be dumb not to be picky and to just settle for whatever.
Of course they are, and I don't blame them.
The average woman gets bombarded with male attention. Whether it's on a night out, going out with friends to a bar, or even just walking down the street.
Throw online dating into the mix and that male attention gets even more extreme. Hundreds of matches and daily messages, women at this point can afford to have whatever standards they like because of the amount of options they have.
If a guy doesn't meet her standards there's plenty more where he came from.
I saw a comment about tinder a while back and it was something like this.
"If you're talking to a girl, remember, there are currently 50 other dudes trying to do the same thing".
I'm picker because the men in my area have gotten worse. more pushy & it's always the unattractive older men or guys with sagging pants & that smell like pot bothering me. I don't want to date a guy near my step dad's age gross or a guy that does drugs. If that's been called picky then your probably just offended because your the type of guy I'm talking about. When I don't want to be hit on by a guy that smells like weed. One minute they tell me I'm beautiful. The next minute when I tell them sorry I'm not interested they call me a slut. I have deal breakers & that is one of my deal breakers
With all the choices in the world that were given every day I don't think they have gotten pickier they have just got more modified more directly to the source. Back in the day when there wasn't all these things to choose from for mate besides kindness being a love with them things like that like a so the holder the world gets the more things we have the more things we have to choose from tends to cloud our judgment a little bit but women should be picky they have that right just like a man should be picky and not just take whatever comes along. But doing it is at such a young age you'll learn things in your move on so I mean sure to them being a mass murderer we you learn from that experience from their relationship hopefully and it's not right you make it right by changing it not changing the person Themself just a whole nother person
Well I personally think because now days most women are more independent and self reliant that we don't need a man as much as many decades ago. It's more of an option than a necessity. So if we don't need a man to rely on for financial support than why accept anything but the best. Women used to more often depend on men for the income and to support her and the family. So it seems people used to marry yoinfer and put up with more and try harder to make things work because divorce would be really bad for a woman with no career or income of her own and no way to support herself and children.
Yes, because online dating has given them the impression that even if she’s a 3 she deserves a 10. These women are getting tons of sex from tons of great looking guys BUT when they decide to get off the penis monkey bars and eventually look for a long term they’ll be in for a surprise.
Men are becoming more picky too which is why the club industry is going extinct. Men are spending more time at the gym... and predictably the women have followed them there.
I don't know, but all the guys that show up in my friend suggestions, and all the guys in the town I live in that are my age, are chubby and have beards and look about 5 to 10 years older than they actually are. You know? they just don't take care of how they look. Its kind of disappointing tbh. Its not really picky, just why do they all have to look the same? why do they all look like they've given up on themselves and are in mid life crisis looking mode? dress for success? the general population of men around me aren't cutting it :\
Well, THEY'RE the ones that are going to end up alone and old maids because, at the moment, the ratio is 3 girls for every boy!! When I was growing up in the `60's it was 2 girls for every boy!! In another 30-some years, it'll be 4 girls for every boy and so many more of them will ether be alone or into sharing with other girls!
So, girls, if you don't want to spend the rest of your days alone, you damn well better stop being so damn icky about who you want to be with, especially for such incredible superficial reasons like, what he looks like, how well he dresses, how flashy his car is or how much money he's got! WE'RE more in demand than you are so, you better get yours while you still can!!
Say whatever you want, but starting in 2008 there has been an upward trend. Fact.
graph is of people who have not had sex at least one time a year, plotted independently each year. UChicago does this study for the federal government every year.
It seems times were good between 1990 - 2000. Then something happened between 2000 - 2004 that caused the girls to stop having as much sex, then times were good again between 04 - 08.
But then starting in 08' everyone is having less sex, but for the first time ever in history the number of men going without is rising faster than the number of women going without.
Makes for some weird math, in my opinion. Could possibly be explained by Tinder, instagram and social media.
We need to be pickier. Everyone does. There's too much hooking up and not enough of actually getting to know someone. I have things that are absolute deal breakers that I refuse to compromise on. You also can't force chemistry. I'm happy being single and will stay that way before I settle for less than I deserve
Here is what I think is happening : a lot more young women (usually in their early 20s) tend to think they are queens and they deserve everything. Unfortunately, that mindset get them nowhere and the only thing they can get is hookups with guys who basically lied to them to empty their balls. After a while, they will hit their 30s, realize they have no stable personal life while everyone around them is happy and starting families. At that point, they either become depressed, bitter and/or start to hate on men because it's too hard for them to admit that they are not queens and do not deserve everything for just having a vagina.
Maybe.
There are more self entitled with double standards, more self damaged one's.
Still. If they want what thay are after they need to come up to the standard what the one's they are after have otherwise must they crawl to the cross reevaluate their standards and settle with what comes around soner or later to not be alone.
That phenomenon have been around for more than 40 years, most likely the same amount and some people stumble in to almost only that kind of female's, just don't get hucked up on it. doesn't someone want you your better off without that misfitting person, she wasn't that much of quality as you first thought.
Remember that shit is still shit. misfit is still misfit.
I haven't had an issue. Its all about attraction looks, confidence, success, if you have these three things women will flock to you. If you have it all there is almost no girl you can't get. I rank myself up there as attractive and I have success while my confidence is high but not too high. I have no problems getting with a girl. This is not overconfidence this is fact. A story when I was just bar age I had the looks and the confidence but would always lose out to the guy flashing money around. What this did for me was push me to be successful and right now I don't have an issue getting a date.
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