Even if they find you extremely attractive but you just don’t like the way they look. Like they don’t look physically appealing to you or they’re just not your type. I keep thinking about it because if someone told me they don’t find me physically attractive then I’d automatically think they thought I was ugly.
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I should’ve been more specific. If someone won’t leave you alone because they want to be with you and you’ve already told them nicely that you don’t like them but you never said why, would it be wrong to say “I don’t like you because I don’t find you physically attractive” in my case it’s I have a boyfriend but if I didn’t I still wouldn’t be with you cause you aren’t my type.
Is it rude to tell someone you don’t find them physically attractive?
It’s rude if they didn’t ask your opinion. One of my friends would tell me that all the time when I literally never asked and even though I didn’t care about his opinion (he’s not exactly good looking himself) I just found it so rude and uncalled for.
If that’s the case then I’d just let them down gently and say something like “I just don’t think this will work out”. Like you said, if you say they’re not attractive they will automatically think you’re calling them ugly.
It isn’t rude to tell someone you aren’t physically attracted to them but you maybe emotionally intelligent.
Emotional intelligence is about managing your thoughts and feelings and those of others to achieve a desirable outcome.
EM is about putting yourself in one’s shoes, asking yourself how will I feel if those words were said to me.
The insights you get from imagining yourself as the recipient of what you are about to say or do should lead you to choose words or a course of action that do not hurt the feelings of others (or at least reduce the hurtful feelings.
For example, I tend to say something along these lines: 1. You’re a lovely girl. I could see why most guys would like you. I’m not dating at the moment.
2. You are a lovely girl. You make me feel in my element. I know for sure you would get hurt if we date.
3. Could we friends, please? I wish I met you much earlier. I’ve already started seeing someone.
Sometimes, no response is the best response instead of saying the above. However, there are situations where being blunt is necessary.
For example, when the girl or guy just can’t get the obvious clues you are not interested in them. They then start to stalk you.
@Pink2000. I’m sorry my seemingly detailed response doesn’t meet your expectation.
Hopefully, someone who stumbles on your question would find my response useful.
They would know why it is rude and when it isn’t rude to tell someone you don’t find them physically attractive.
They would probably learn how to reject someone’s advances in an emotionally intelligent manner.
And probably they would be curious to know more about emotional intelligence and develop EM skills to improve their social interaction with people, both offline and online.
A more tactful way as I see it just tells them they aren't your type. You don't have to go into the reasons why. That serves the same purpose of rejecting them, and you can be very firm about it, but at least that makes some minimal effort to avoid upsetting them.
As for the basic question, in Japan at least, it would be considered extremely rude. There's a tremendous emphasis here on tactfulness and empathy and people being able to read body language and in between the lines though.
Just because something is true, doesn’t mean it has to be said out loud.
Obviously he answer is yes! It is rude to tell someone they are unattractive to you, because doing so is sparking negative emotion upon someone else for no reason at all besides to be mean-spirited.
If I found them extremely attractive then the way they look wouldn't matter, or would just meld in with the attributes that make me find them physically attractive.. But to answer yo question, if you just say it out of the blue then yeah that's rude as hell.. But, if they ask of you think they are attractive, and you are honest then naw it's not..
I don't think its rude. Its best to just be truthful than to lie and then wait till there's deep feelings to say the truth bc then it's just gonna cause more issues.
I guess that it's rude, especially towards girls since girls care about such things more than men. So I try not to say anything unpleasant about the girl's appearance. Because I know that such words may hurt even though many girls would deny it and say that they don't care.
Nah not unless they were harassing me lol i use to out girls to the side for the ones that were my type when i was younger and then later i would look back ans be like damn they were actually my type i was just trying or smashed another first?, i never felt they was ugly theb again girks that i would consider to be ugly don't talk to me & would probably get a big head if i did persue them
I don’t think it’s rude but it will hurt for the other person no matter what. I don’t think that there is an easy way to tell someone you’re not attracted to them.
Just try to be calm and understanding if they take it very badly.
I think a lot of people would take that statement the way you did. There are much less harsh ways of saying you aren't interested. And in doing so, you are under no obligation to explain why.
If they ask you directly the only rude thing is to be dishonest. If they don't want to hear that I don't find them attractive then they shouldn't ask. I won't lie just to save their fragile egos.
In college, before I made a vow to not have close male friends, I friend-zoned this guy for the 3rd time after he asked me out for Valentine's Day. He then demanded that I tell him why. So I did.
It's very rude. Keep negative comments to yourself and don't belittle anyone. I'm sure a lot of people think you're not attractive... there's someone for everyone but don't be a bully about it. It's immature and wrong.
@Gemini19. Did you see this: "Not one thinks I’m unattractive and I can guarantee it"? It has an element of narcissism. A wise person once said: a rich person doesn't tell people he/she is rich; only empty people do.
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