I will only add that that 20-30 years from now most like the overwhelmingly majority have settled down and gotten a family, and I also want to add that there are millions of people who live clinically depressed without love.Im not judging you for your choice I only want to well tell this so you just know about what you can expect. As not everything goes as planned.
@weirdoweirdo I am very aware of that and I have considered that when I made up my mind.But then, I am a little of a special case because one of the major thing that brings people together (if not the most important for many) does not interest me the least and that is intimate relations.In 40 years, I will likely still be able to find a person that does not prioritize intimacy over just being together and to me, that is more important than to have the pressure to deliver and expect a performance.Of course there is a difference between being single and being lonely, I agree.
Life is too short to not experience love and sex. It’s enjoyable so seek out the right person to do stuff with. Why do you only have to prioritize your education? I’m in college but I love meeting girls and making friends. College takes up time but it is no excuse to not find love. Loneliness sucks and there is no reason to have to deal with it. Being with someone will make you feel better about life and give you more drive. What do you do in your free time when you aren’t working? Sure you work a lot but I know that you have off time, especially if you are in college. You might look back and regret that you didn’t use your younger more attractive years to find love. The interactions we make with people are just as important as the aspirations we have in life and that’s why a lot of the successful people we know are very sociable like able people who have a significant other. Do you really want to be 50 years old and just start searching for someone to love when most of your prime years have passed? Think of all the couples you’d know at this time that have already been married for over 20 years and have had kids. If you want a family or any sort of company you will have missed out. The window for having your own kids biologically is 20-30. Any later than this and you risk your children having birth defects. If you decide to stay single this long you will have given up the chance to have someone to spend your older years with or to have a family. It will be very hard to find a partner at the age of 50 because most men are already taken by this time or have decided they will not date anymore. I might add that at 50 the men will be a lot less fit due to natural aging and it will be hard to find someone you find attractive. How will you feel when you are older knowing you never got to experience love? Would you rather have look back and see a life full of love and social interactions or with regret at a life with no love?
@username-5000 I thank you for your very explicit reply. I should perhaps been more detailed with my original reply.Part one of my reply (GAG complained at the length of it)I am not interested in being sexual because sex just does not entice me. I find it has more negative aspects than positive. People go great lengths cheating, abusing raping and even murdering for sex and if I analyze the replies from mostly guys here on GAG, it gives me a fairly good idea of what their priorities are in a relation.I find GAG to be an excellent mirror of society and honestly, I don't like what I see or read. I am not seeking to be sexual in a relation and at age 50, a great number of men have made their experiences, collected a number of trophies and body counts, given or received STD/STI from their multiple partners.I do not strive to have a family because, let's face it, in 99% of the cases it involves being sexual and I am sorry to say, that is really something I find disgusting. All these exchanges of body fluids. If at least they were limited to where they were intended to be placed but no, very few guys are satisfied with that idea.Part 2 to follow
@username-5000 Part 2 of my replyA guy that of 50+ has left all those activities behind him for the greater part and I hope to find someone that prioritizes intellect and character over the strenuous physical activity. Sweat, grunts, moans, body fluids, body odors and a messed up body are the results of that activity. It just revolts me beyond words.But on a positive side, you can also be in love with someone without being physical. You can cuddle, hold hands and give pecks on the cheeks. That is just as much proof of love than to be intimate 2 times a day until it becomes such a habit, a routine that it is not pleasurable anymore for the one that practices that activity. And then what? They placed so much emphasis on getting physical that all the other beautiful things of a twosome where dismissed.Thank you but I will keep going my pace through life. Furthermore, people have found a second love or new wife in a retirement home. And those prioritize every day as it comes, without being sexual. Are they less happy? I do not think so.Thank you for taking the time to read to the end (I hope).
To summarize what you say. Are you a virgin Or have you suffered any type of sexual abuse?
@master_sex I am virgin and intend to stay like that for a long time.
The day they take you out of virgin you will stop being a girl. Life is a roulette you never know where you are going to stop.
@master_sex Again, not likely to happen. I am asexual.
... and totally abstinent.
It is a term a little unknown to me. But as a learning I would like to know what happened in your life in about 5 or 10 years.
@master_sex As a master sex, I am surprised you are not aware what the signification is.
Hahaha at least you're funny 😅, I imagined you with the serious one. I know the term superficially, but not scientifically.
Sometimes the first kiss is all it takes for me to fall in love
@valentine74 Thank you for your reply. I like the way you phrase your reply.It is nice that you could keep your innocence of year gone by and say that it works for you when you to get a kiss to fall in love. That is endearing.I wish more people would have that type of reaction ;-)
If you meet the right guy and kiss him you might get turned on. I believe that sexuality is fluid and that in time your desires could change. For example, I had a friend who was a lesbian in high school and would constantly talk about how gross men are and how she’d never have sex with one or be with one. Once we got out of high school I didn’t talk to her for a year until I saw her at an event and she introduced me to her boyfriend who she had been dating for months who she then proceeded to grope as they were leaving. Moral of the story is these things might change so I wouldn’t rule it out if the right person comes along. Personally me and my ex couldn’t kiss without wanting to grope each other.
@username-5000 Of course that could happen.I see way too many negative points in being sexual and I have my well established routine to suppress any surging libido. So, I am as cold as a fish all year round when it comes to hormone peaks.
What’s so bad about sex why work so hard to suppress your desires? If both parties are healthy and practice it safely it’s a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do.
@username-5000 sex just takes much too much importance in people's life. Less than 1% of a person's lifetime occupation rules 99% of it. It changes people for the worse if they cannot have it. They are ready to rape or murder to satisfy their uncontrollable hormone levels. I could eventually agree to having sex if it was for procreation but usually people have it not to procreate but just to act worse than any animal would ever do. Have you ever witnessed a couple of horses, falcons or hedgehogs behaving like humans do? Of course not.Actually, people are hypocrites when they pretend that they dislike a person with body odor or bad breath, yet they perform oral sex on a woman's vulva that stinks like high hell after a number of minutes being aroused and intimate. Where is the logic behind this double morals?And that is why I don't want any of that egoistic and hypocrite behavior. And that is why I have become so good at suppressing what to me has become the very cause of an unnatural human behavior.
Actually many species have sex for pleasure. It’s fine if you don’t want to have sex but unnatural? seriously? Our species has been doing this for millions of years. Sex has been present in every single human society on earth and without it we would literally be nothing. A majority of people won’t kill or rape for sex we don’t want it that bad. It’s fine if you don’t want sex but don’t insult the people that have it. We do it because it’s fun and it releases chemicals in our brain that make us feel a greater bond to each other. Also oral sex isn’t for everyone if you don’t like oral just do regular sex and foreplay? How is sex hypocritical or egoistic if it is consensual and wanted by both partners? Me and my girlfriend have sex often and many times she asks me for it and we have a great time. We use protection and are both STD free. We both try our best to cater to the other persons desires. “Have you ever seen animals act like humans do?” Actually yes a lot this is a big part of how we study human sexuality by studying chimpanzees and rats because they have a close evolutionary heritage to us. Animals engage in consensual sex often and sometimes in unconsensual sex. Chimpanzees and rats have foreplay and flirting patterns like we do. Horses falcons and hedgehogs all have sex as well.
@username-5000 I know you are trying to divert the question of human sexual behavior. That other animals perform certain body manipulations is a fact but no animal would ever be so perverted to attach another one if he could to abuse the partner the way humans do and to dream of being raped like a number of girls will tell you or to dream of having sexual intercourse with their underage sons and daughters like many adults fantasize.And yes, humanity did have sexual intercourse for the purpose of procreation for thousands of years before 2019 and and I never denied that fact.
That’s just not true other animals do stuff like that all the time it’s actually really common for other monkeys to attack another monkey. Rape is very common in chimpanzees and has been observed in lots of other mammals too. In some species rape is the only form of sex. Us Humans are a lot better than animals.
Pretty sure some kind of monkey even got to the point of prostitution in a test that was ablut introducing a form of currency to them.
@username-5000 Ok, I think that any further discussion will not bring anything new to this thread which we have misused beyond reason.You stay on your position and I will keep mine and everybody will be happyHave a great day and thank you for the chat.
Ok we will end this discussion but just read the article I sent you.
Thanks for the MHO Helen 👍
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You shouldn't love a girl for sex.. there are most things you should love a girl for... i know sex is mostly important but dont makes that as a priority