Kindness, sincerity, uniqueness, morality, having a healthy sense of self with strong convictions yet not stubbornness. An appreciation for things like the arts, because it shows me they don't live on pragmatism alone, and are open to and are in touch with beauty and a rich inner, emotional life. Knowing and understanding yourself is paramount to me. You don't have to be anywhere near perfect, but you have to be able to analyze and introspect. If you don't have objectivity about yourself, you may not be amenable to reason (and reasonable, intelligent discussions, of which the topics could then be unlimited, are the juicy steak of life.)
I notice this type of question (which I do find very interesting) often results in a lot of 'what do they offer me' kind of answers. That is ok, but that's another way (one way) of looking at it. I believe at the root of the question, is 'what is it about them that makes you love them'. That's how I see it, anyway. I won't fall in love with someone just because they love me, or want me, or treat me well. And I can fall in love with all sorts of people, and have, there has been no 'type' all my life. Though as time passed I have learned that often they were not right for me in the end, but you can do these things for a while in life - go out, play, experiment, learn, grow, develop who you are, and appreciate others. People are so different, no two are identical (part of the reason I loathe stereotypes and archetyping people so much). Everyone has something to offer others (I'll keep this happy, and not talk about the s*** people out there who need to do a lot of work on themselves and are unworthy in their current state).
P. S. Thanks for asking a good question. I'm sure it's been asked before, and a lot of users don't like the repeats, but I am ok with other people asking. It can reshuffle the decks, and bring in a different combination of users and answers.
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Oops, I belong to those remaining 25%.
So far, I do not let any feelings interfere with my studies and my goals in life. I prevent all types of close contacts so as not to get tempted and I must say, I have been quite successful with my strategy.
Sure, guys have attempted to hit on me but I systematically reject their proposals because I am ambitious and will not let anyone or anything interfere with it.
I will have enough time in 20-30 years from now to think about love and if love does not come, it is not tragic. Lots of people live happily without love and all the constraints it brings.
And this one you think of, is probably the one that is on the very bottom of my priorities anyway.
I can only speak for myself, others may vary. It starts with the hair, beautiful thick silky straight hair that glistens in the sun.
Then Fair beautiful face with great skin complexion. Then beautiful body, between athletic and voluptuous not size 0. A great smile and laugh.
Then behaviour, she should be strong, confident and caring, whilst being fun and quirky. With strong opinions. Het natural body scent (when I make her sweat 😏) should smell good (biological indicator that your immune systems are compatible and you will have healthy children).
Then chemistry, mutual interest, life goal comparability etc
Lastly the small things. Morning sex, me waking her up by going down on her, her doing the same to me. Cuddling on a cold night or morning. Lounging around together all weekend Netflix, chill and takeaway.
Pushing her cold feet and hands into me for warmth in bed... the little things
That's when you wake up the next morning and say I love you.
If I fall in love with somebody, it means they have a great many qualities that I love. There are certain qualities and values that I hold dear, or love, and when people express these qualities and have the same values, I take a liking to them.
So if they’re a male and they have everything that I admire, I’ll love them in a friendship sort of way, a highly esteemed friend let’s say.
But if a female values the same things I do and has many characteristics that I love, I will instantly feel a very powerful and strong attraction to her. That is when I will love her.
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First of all, love needs to be redefined. People think there is only one type of love, which is not true.
Regarding the question, good manners make me love someone.
Manners and sensitivity go hand in hand.
Anyone who has manners has class.
A classy person chooses not to flaunt even when he has everything to flaunt.
Those classy, kind and sensitive people really do have a powerful presence and positive vibes. They have that warmth that makes them approachable.Attraction and Shared Connection, after having formed intimacy. By intimacy I don't mean sex, tho that does help. When you are attracted to eachother and you've really opened up, gotten raw emotionally and have experienced them as a person. To me if once you really know them and form a connection from that. Love is inevitable.
But that can only happen if you're not desperate and are not afraid to lose them. Because if you're afraid to lose them part of you is held back. You feel like if they knew THAT part of you then they might not love you and leave or you overlook things about them. Looking at them with rosetinted glasses, because of a sense of lack. When that's hidden away you can never be truly wholly open and honest. And when you're desperate you can never really know and love them, because you're lying to yourself about what you're okay with.I love someone who’s good hearted. Who just oozes goodness. I love a sweet and kind person. I desire gentleness in a partner. Maybe because i’m like that myself. Kindred spirit.
I also like a naughty cheeky side. Probably a side he’d only show to me.
I dig the innocent looking types but really is crazy like me 😂 in a wayNot one singular reasons. Everything about him felt like home, not just one part of him or us. I cannot say why I fell in love with him, just that I did and I am lucky I did.
Depends on the frequency of the love and their capacity to accept it, me, and the universe at the same time.
Just as my love is continually challenged to grow and broaden its parameters and circumference to include more of my self, more of my world, and more of her ever growing enigmatic love as it returns...I'm not exactly sure, I just know it happens. For me I look forward to see my boo everyday after work or during our days, when i don't see him I do get a little pouty but i can manage cause we do see each other everyday. I also get that warm feeling when we snuggle.
I fell in love with my current boyfriend when I met him at work. For some reason, it just felt like we clicked perfectly. We had the same exact sense of humor. The same values. Like, every time we talked, it came so easy to us. We’d be talking and before we knew it, an hour had passed by and it only felt like 5 mins.
Being good looking, muscular, well dressed, cool haircut, caring, looking out for me and letting me being clingy without complaining about it. Never yelling at me neither hitting me and being gentle with me (no teasing, no rude touch, etc...)
Also liking video games, anime, comics and I prefer quiet / introvert guys.Someone who has a good sense of humor, respectful, kind, caring, smart, loving, understanding, and loyal. Someone who loves me for me. Someone I can easily talk to about anything, to cuddle with, to have fun with, go on adventures, to support me, understands me, and be there for me no matter what through my ups and downs.
Being able to trust her, getting lots of affection (them initiating), having the same morals, some same interests of stuff to do together, loyalty, them being dependable/know I can count on them, knowing they consider my feelings/how something would make me feel, and if she happens to have the kind of face that I find very cute.
Personality. Someone funny, respectful, kind and caring. Someone who loves me for me and someone I can rely on and who will support me. And someone who I have a connection with, and can talk to and be comfortable around. Also them being adorable is a turn on.
If they have a general concern for my life and is broadcasting whole heartedly to me she is invested. Last but not least she has to have her own life to completely infuse our realms together emotionally.
I don't know that I've ever really experienced true love, but I've always formed an attraction after I got to know the person and liked their personality. There's just something that clicks.
Nothing, literally nothing. I do not see myself as someone who is able to fall in love. Also, I do not believe in love. They are just chemical in your head, Sexual attraction and once they fade away you will see the other person's true colors. Most of the time you won't like it. I never been in love, not even once
For me , its the interaction between the 2 of you. You can like a girl but that particular one hits the spot. And you are hooked. I have dozens of female friends that I chat with have meals with and get up close and personal with. But when I met the second wife it was like two jid saw pieces slotting together. We were at mutual friends funeral. We met got chatting about Michelle and that was that married in 6 months …...
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TrustKindness. When they are polite. Saying yes sir to me is a turn on. Respect is a big one. But if they are messy or unhygienic its an immediate turn off all emotions and vacate
I have fallen in love a few times, each time has been due to being accepted. They accepted me for who i am, and showed that they were genuinely kind hearted people. Its that easy for me, has never had anything to do with looks.
By how good the person makes you feel just being around them. And you want to experience that for the rest of you life.
I think it is impossible to say - It is just so instinctual maybe beyond words, the connection - A wife of a friend of mine just explains it perfectly "He just gets me"
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