Why do guys take advantage of girls in highschool?

[MyLastRemnant]

I'm 16 and about to be a Junior in highschool. The 2 years I've been in highschool so far I've seen almost exclusively bad relationships. There are the guys that anyone should be able to clearly see are duchebags. Girls will always go for the same guys and even guys who are known to cheat on their girlfriends. I've had multiple crushes and each one I've talked to for months and months only to have them friendzone me and go for a guy who just looks like a duche. Sure enough they break up after 2 weeks then she complains on snapchat and cries about it. When I was there for months trying to show her I would actually care and show her I want a mature loving relationship. The one thing that really hurt me was when one girl I had been talking to for over a year and absolutely adored, lost her virginity. She told me she would be waiting until she was older and I told her to because no guys in highschool are worth it. She told me she didn't want to have sex anytime soon. In the time we talked she had gone through 3 relationships all of which lasted less than a month and I thought it would convince her that I knew what I was talking about. The guy she lost it to was a senior (she was a freshman at the time) and now whenever I think about it I get physically sick. I actually feel the need to throw up. I dont understand why girls do this, I'm always incredibly nice and caring but I'm never given a chance. I dont understand why it's so hard for girls to see who the genuine guys are in highschool. It's so bad to the point I think everything is a simulation, every girl cannot be that... stupid. I'm actually baffled. I get so stressed out trying to prove to girls what will happen when they get with a guy, but it never helps. I will be spot on, to the T with my prediction and they dont even think about it.

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More of a better question is, how do the girls allow themselves to be so blatantly used? The guys try and brainwash them... how can you not see how bad of a guy they really are? How can you allow a guy you barely know to have sex with you? Even take your virginity... but the guys you talk to for years even aren't given a chance to even date.

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Why am I so emotional? I'm 1y shouldn't I be some asshole guy who wants to have fun with a bunch of girls? Why do I want to find a girl to have a meaningful realationship with. All my friends tell me to loosen up a bit but all I want is 1 girl I can love. I get so stressed and feel horrible all the time because I miss having someone I can show affection towards.

[nopedydoo]

so as a 16 yr old girl.. ik what you mean. but its bc these girls want attention so desperately. and dont blame the guys honestly. they could end the relationship whenever they wanted and that girl could've said no to having sex. those girls just want attention from guys bc it helps their self esteem. tbh its kinda easy to see which guys are fuck boys and which guys aren't. its sooooo easy and i stay away from those guys and try to not talk to them or anything. i think your falling for the wrong girls. look for girls who are confident and dont feel like they need a boy to make them feel special. also your 16 so just wait. hopefully most of these girls will mature and get ready for a real relationship soon.

[MissDawn7961]

try concentrating on your education , church , getting a job , minding your parents , taking care of yourself and let the girls go for now ! Thanks

[MyLastRemnant]

Church. HAHA I'm good

[fonduegirl]

it goes other way around too, kid

[AnAmerican]

Many just and want to date multiple people and although you might see those guys as douchebags they might not. In highschool not everybody is looking for serious relationships and that's fine I wouldn't expect them to. If you keep getting put in the friend zone it's probably because you set yourself up for that.

[Iron_Man]

Basically they just want to ground and pound they don't care about serious relationships. They don't even know if they're going to be going off to college in another state soon

[MyLastRemnant]

Why do girls allow that? Why can't they see they are being so blatantly used...

[Iron_Man]

Because they are naive and young and inexperienced and the high school guy lies to them basically just brain washing them into sex.

[Iron_Man]

Thank you for most Helpful Award

[mylessdavies]

Some girls in high school just wanna lose there virginity and date guys for looks to look good in front of friends and to show off I guess, some don’t care about personalities at all just go completely on looks it’s stupid really :)

[nopedydoo]

yeah thats true, a lot of this is to seem cool and gain popularity and be able to brag about having sex or a boyfriend

[mylessdavies]

Yes a lot of girls do then and I fail to understand why! But yes I don’t know why people feel the need to brag tbh

[markscott]

Sometimes girls are naive and are taken advantage of. Other times, good girls actually are not a good as they profess to be, and they are attracted to the bad guys, because they like the atmosphere around bad guys.

[RasmusAiken]

Hormones run so hot in HS that few will pick a S. O. based on a solid loyal emotional bond. Many people have to figure out what kind of relationship doesn't work before they find one that does.

[zagor]

Because girls just want to get fucked by a hot guy. It is only later that they feel regret as a sort of defense mechanism, but in reality they got what they wanted, no matter how much they deny it, even to themselves.

[0112358]

You seem to have the false impression that people’s primary objective in dating is to find a nice person who treats them well.

[0112358]

Also...

More of a better question is, how does MyLastRemnant allow himself to be so blatantly used? how can he not see how these really are? How can he spend years being emotional support for girls who are giving him no interest they want to date him?

[WTFever]

For the same reason girls use their looks to get what they want.

[Anonymous]

Don't blame guys for the shitty choices and poor decisions of females.
Girls like the guys who treat them like shit. Period.

[acidcoochie]

girls just wanna have fun.

[blondfrog]

One word hormones.