Why do guys treat girls like shit?

[harrison102]

Why do guys treat there girlfriends like shit and the girl still loves him , I hear storys like this and I wonder why can't I get one. I think loving someone is the best feeling ever but how do I know. I have never had a gf and the way I am I don't think a girl will date me lol

[Wicked_Lady_Rights]

Girls can be stupid, especially the younger they are. You should remember that the asshole didn't start out that way. At first he was an asshole to everyone but her, she was special. He protected her and she felt safe. It is not further in the relationship that he turns his true self on her, and when she is shocked, he says he is sorry and it won't happen again... but it does. It takes girls a couple assholes sometimes to see the signs. When a girl loves, she loves with all her heart, and it can be hard to shut that off. It's not like a light switch. Other girls are just idiots. They say nice guys finish last, and to an extent that is true... because the nice guy gets a great girl as soon as she is ready and he is the last one she ever loves.

[harrison102]

That is so true thanks :) have you ever had a bf like one? Xx

[donut94]

"They say nice guys finish last, and to an extent that is true... because the nice guy gets a great girl as soon as she is ready and he is the last one she ever loves."

I think you just typed the statement of the century. Lol, not trying to kiss up but that was awesomely typed! I truly understand what you are saying when you say it takes a couple of assholes to see the sign and when a girl loves, she loves with all her heart.

That was the situation for me with my ex. He would treat me like shit and I just kept forgiving him and trying to get him to treat me well and show me the love/ affection I wanted. Thank goodness I left him after seven weeks... but still, should've listened to my instinct to leave him after the first week ):

[harrison102]

Do you think I could be a good bf? X

[iamlola]

When a girl falls in love with a guy, she has no idea really that he might not be as awesome as he seems at first. In the beginning of a relationship everything seems sweet and amazing --> she and he make great memories together. Then the problems come across them and they don't know how to deal with them, so they start having arguments. If the situation gets really bad and they can't find a way around disagreements, and they will be arguing for most of the time.

Even if the girl would want to break up, she still has those memories with him. She just hopes that she might have it all sweet again, which is why she won't leave the guy. Smartness doesn't necessarily overcome feelings.

[harrison102]

I do think its very nice and sweet if a girl thinks it will get better. I can't wait to get my first gf I would so look after her and tbh I want her to be the one. I want to marry her I want her to be the mother of my children

[zombiebabe]

because those guys are sick fucks and that their gf are too naive to realize it
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[harrison102]

I am a good guy but no girl thinks I am worth it

[zombiebabe]

that's not fair

[harrison102]

Of course not, how do you think how that makes me feel?

[zombiebabe]

pissed off i guess

[harrison102]

Girls say what they are looking for in a guy. I think I have abit of every thing but still no girl wants me

[AidenBlue]

The guys who do this are generally attractive guys who can get any girl. They know that the girl will take the abuse and still come back. Its similar to the NFL problems of late. These guys treat women like dogs because they act like dogs. They keep coming back regardless. I am not saying this is all guys or all good looking guys but i see this a lot where girls will be with a guy somewhat 'out of their league' and will take all forms of abuse to stay with the guy. The guys become calloused to them. Its not fair. Its not right. Its just how it is.

[Mesonfielde]

Because those girls would date anything that moves and displays a semblance of "masculinity" but then act surprised they are abused. They are not exactly worth anyone's time, reasonable people wouldn't be attracted to that. The trick is that you need to actually like each other, otherwise jumping into a relationship doesn't make sense. That is why finding "a girlfriend" is hard, but your chances are much better if you are actually basing your interest on someone who is actually interested in you and vice versa.

[harrison102]

Right ok mate , atm no one likes me

[Anonymous]

What you are suffering from is 'nice guy syndrome'. You feel like you are superior to the guys who have girlfriends and are bitter that you can't get a girlfriend yourself, even though you spend excessive time listening to girls complaining about their boyfriends (or listening to anything that suits your agenda).

Thus, you ignore all the happy couples out there, or even all the men who complain about their girlfriends, because this doesn't suit your agenda, whilst failing to realise that the guys that do have girlfriends are obviously offering something to these women that you can not or do not give them.

You also need to realise that complaining about a partner is the way some women/ men socially bond with others. They get together to moan and whinge, it doesn't necessarily mean their partner is some evil guy/ girl. I refuse to believe if you got into a relationship, you wouldn't give your girlfriend at least one thing to moan about and vice versa. Nobody's perfect.

[harrison102]

Right ok is it ok to think that you would be a perfect bf?

[Opinion Owner]

Did you even read what I said? I said nobody is perfect. Men aren't perfect, women aren't perfect. No, am I probably not the 'perfect' boyfriend but we both love each other and enjoy our time together and that's what's important to us. Good look finding a girlfriend with the attitude you seem to be lugging around.

[indigo65]

Most girls (notice I say girls as we usually learn) like to think that they can change a 'bad boy' into a 'good guy'. I unfortunately fell into the trap of falling for a guy who everyone thought to be a bad influence. He was hardly the type to beat you or anything though. At the time i found it exciting and exhilarating. I think they generally cause a lot of emotion, even though it is usually negative which is a key factor. Also the thought that everyone else sees him as a tough guy and only you get to see his soft side. However that really didn't end well and you learn that nothing beats respect. I'm sure you will find someone soon as you are just the sort of guy that girls need when they've been hurt by these 'boys'

[dupe666]

Because they are usually controlling in a relationship and a guy who controls (leads) in a relationship turns women on. So they fall in love with abusers because other men don't offer her this.

[harrison102]

right and girls like that?

[dupe666]

They don't like to be abused, they like to lead/controlled if you will.
But guys today don't know how to lead, so women end up in the clutches of sociopaths who aren't afraid to lead because they don't give a shit.

[AdamThomas]

Steel Panther will explain this better than I could:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rgb_tD7Q5_w

[RationalMale]

Reminds me of a song I heard the other day.

"Nice guys finish last, that's why I'll treat you like trash. It's not what I really want to do. But, you only date bad guys, so I'll give it my best try to treat you the way you want me to!"

[harrison102]

Its true , I ask the question do nice guys finish last and a lot of people said no boring guys do

[RationalMale]

Hmm. There's probably a reason why in our age group, a girl calling you "nice" is the kiss of death, haha. Do yourself a favor... google Chateau Heariste and returnofkings. Two helpful websites that might give you answers.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you;ve never been in a relationship so you can't accurately judge someone elses

[harrison102]

Its storys I have heard like one of my friends her bf was choking her because she did not put any vegg on his plat

[pr3ttybr0wn]

ok that is extreme as fuck. that's not something normal or everyday that happens. perhaps your friend should turn him in for assault

[harrison102]

She loves him, he is the farther of her child

[pr3ttybr0wn]

ok? that's whats stopping her from putting him in jail. I guess she doesn't mind her child being fucked up emotionally by growing up in an abusive household. if this guy kills her, who's gonna step in to raise the baby? that's sad but again its not normal

[Modernhippy]

I wouldn't say shit just don't treat them better than anyone else. If u treat them like a princess they will treat u like a peasent

[Dolosauris]

Because those types of guys Just see woman as play toys for their sexual fantasy's

[harrison102]

And the thing is they know. If she leaves me I will get another one. I can't get one! I am still waiting for my first

[Anonymous]

Because all humans have baggage and we all eff up in relationships.

How you think you'll be in a relationship isn't ever how you actually are.

[harrison102]

I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

The girls who are with really abusive awful men were usually raised in similar homes. The girls whining "my bf is such an asshole" are usually just running into the fact that humans kinda suck at relationships sometimes.

[harrison102]

I want to be the best bf ever , but will a girl give me a chance I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

You've got to keep putting yourself out there. Dating is a numbers game.

[harrison102]

So just meet inperson?

[Opinion Owner]

Try to make small talk with lots of different people to start. Then, if you seem to have something in common, don't be afraid to ask for her number!

[harrison102]

Right ok thanks :)

[TheStupidBlondie]

They are probably those little innocent naive girls, and think they can change the guy and make him love her forEVA.

[harrison102]

i think you are right

[Anonymous]

The same reason girls treat guys like shit. There are equal numbers of assholes in this world in both genders.

[harrison102]

lol ok

[Opinion Owner]

You're obviously a little naive about all of this. Get some experience grasshopper and you'll understand better.

[Anonymous]

because sadly girls view/see being treated like shit as a sign of dominance, most expect to be dominated by a guy sadly

[harrison102]

Ok mate

[AdamThomas]

You can be dominant without being an arsehole about it, just saying

[Opinion Owner]

Don't know how to do that

[AdamThomas]

This explains dominance very well:

www.theattractionforums.com/.../...-dominance.html

[Opinion Owner]

I wish that was natural and common sense for me

[AdamThomas]

Well to most men giving a girl the choice and giving her more control is common sense isn't it? Who wouldn't want a partner who puts all of their needs and wants first right? That's how a lot of guys think. Unfortunately they just don't understand that most women like a man to take control, especially when they hear women complain about men who do. Often they'll complain and call a guy and arsehole and claim that he's treating her like shit when he isn't, he just made a decision she didn't like and he stuck to it. Of course she'll exaggerate and make him out to be a monster, but really he's done nothing wrong. And then she'll stay with him anyway because she finds that attractive whether she realises or not, she doesn't want a wimpy doormat.

[Luckyou]

Because they are mysoginists, that they also blame women for everything, as reflected in some answers on this page.

[Anonymous]

They are probably well endowed. That's why the girls stay with them.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but you look like James Franco.

[harrison102]

Who is that? Is he a guy that treats his gf like shit?

[Opinion Owner]

He is an actor. I don't know how he treats his women. But please oh please google him... type in james franco in your search bar.

[harrison102]

is it a good thing i look like him or not?

[Opinion Owner]

He's not a bad looking man lol. He is coyly sexy. Depends on how you carry yourself. So, you agree you look like him?

[harrison102]

no but my sister said i look like him but a lot of people say i look like christian bale