Why do guys treat me like crap?

[Anonymous]

I'm probably one of the nicest people you could ever meet. I'm open-minded, very understanding and sympathetic, I go out of my way to help people and I don't act fake or judge anybody. I have a great sense of humor, I naturally make people laugh and I'm very social and approachable. I see the beauty in everything and everyone. I care about what's skin-deep, I have never cheated nor will I ever. When I fall for a guy I fall hard, I treat him like a prince. I'm pretty attractive (not trying to sound cocky), but lots of guys just want to get in my pants. I'm not desperate, but I want to find a guy that sincerely cares about me and doesn't treat me like crap. So many guys who I thought were my guy friends would get so jealous and get mad at me over nothing and would start calling me a slut if I even gave my number to a guy... they talk sh*t about me or they just completely disrespect me to my face. My ex did the same this to me after a while. I just don't know what's wrong with me, they make me feel terrible for everything that I do. :( I just don't understand how they could talk to me that way and make me feel horrible every day, when I'm one of the most sensitive and kindest people they know. Why do some guys treat certain girls this way?

[PassionateStud80]

I am nice too and get treated by most girls in some of the same ways and I am also not bad looking.Some girls might say I am hot or a stud.I don't know I am not a self righteous jerk.The reality is that alotta people are swallow and selfish and its us nice people that get walked all over so these people can feel good about themselves.These people want you to feel like you are the problem and it is your fault so you feel bad and then when they comfort you, you feel better and basically become dependent on them.Absolutely nothing about the way you are being treated or about you is your fault and you don't deserve it! I would say avoid and cut off all contact with people that are treating you this way if they can't agree and follow though with treating you correctly.If you continue to associate with people that treat you like this it is really gonna mess up your head.You will probably become depressed and truly believe the you are the problem when you are not, among countless other mental condtions.If these people can't treat you correctly then they are not your friends.You would be better off without them and you will meet good people that will be your real friends.I really hope that things workout for you, too bad I can't be there to tell these people a thing or two as this really pisses me off.If these people become a problem I hope that you will tell you family and they will help you.You should tell them about it anyways though.They can help you though this and it sounds like by the way you describe yourself that you have a good family and good morals which is more important then these fake friends you have right now.

[Anonymous]

You're under 18. Guys are bags of raging hormones at your age, and they want very different things than the girls of your age.

Sorry to break this to you, but 99.9999% of guys at your age, are basically scum.

They won't stop being scum for a couple of more years.

This is why you shouldn't get too involved with guys until you're at least in your 20's. Date casually but don't get too attached to them. They are scum.

[Anonymous]

This used to happen to me too a few years ago & after all that, I said f**k it I'm just going stop. I didn't stop being nice. I always am, there's no way I'm going to turn into a jerk or the bully of the school. But whenever someone would try to step on me, I'd trip them (figuratively). It wasn't worth it to let someone treat me like I meant nothing because I did mean something. Just ignore them (I don't like it when people tell me this it gets me furious & impatient) as much as you can or confront it & tell them to stop (that's more like it!)! (Whatever you do, do not cry! - If you cry, they might just bother you even more) Some guys are just jerks

[pr3ttybr0wn]

you're too nice and you give too much too soon. you let others disrespect you and you care what people think too much, giving them power over u. people can sense when they're around someone they can take advantage of and it causes them to have less respect for that person. I guarantee if you stop trying to gain ppl's approval and just start being real, no going overboard for people who wouldn't do the same for u, and putting yourself as a higher priority others would have no choice but to respect u

[angelwithin]

I decided not to date until I was out of high school (after I was 18). My first boyfriend was at the age of 18 and it lasted almost 3 years.. That's the difference between guys who are mature and guys too young to know better. Just wait.. wait it out and don't bother about guys until you're a little older. Most guys around the age of 20 and below are not ready to deal with girls of any kind.

[desidoll]

They only treat you like crap when you allow them to do so.They know which girl they can take advantage on.Looking at your age,those guys are immature and doesn't know to value women.Stop mixing with these douche bag and stand for your right as a girl.

[Misty_04]

Because you let them, so they think it's okay. Quite simple.

[Skittlez2]

Yea teenage guys are...ugh. Theyre immature and and moody.But the thing is it sounds like they like you and you make them really jealous just by talking to other guys.

[GymStatus]

Shows you how evil people can become... It happens to the nice guys and girls on Earth. Just stop talking to the people who wrong you. Stop letting them run over you

[Lilmommaruth]

I so know the feeling.