Why do guys act nice and treat me well and then months later they treat me like crap?

[Anonymous]

I've dated a lot of guys who will act like the "nice guys". They will be nice to me and treat me well from the beginning of the relationship then months later they will be jerks and treat me like crap. It makes me feel like why would they be nice and treat me well then be jerks and treat me like crap. Is it because its a way to get rid of me and break up with because guys don't like to break up with girls or its just me?

[Anonymous]

This so depends. It could be they are faking it. That is a real and valid possibility. It could also be something you are doing. I don't know you personally this is not an attack on you so don't take it the wrong way. My sister will tell you I'm the nicest guy in the world to a point. You can push me too far. Ok dated this girl who had me do sexual acts on her until she came. When I asked to have acts done to me so I could get off she told me no. This went on for like two months in our relationship. She then told me she was a once a year type of person. I'm a twice a day person. Finally it got to the point where I couldn't see her because it would physically hurt me. I begged her to compromise with me to find a middle ground. Eventually I had enough. The rest is history. Let's just say nasty words were said on both sides. I should I have snapped no. Was she inherently wrong. No. It's a little more complicated than this.

[Asker]

You mean they were faking it to be nice to be? Thats weird. I had a good sex life with my exes and they never complained about it. I've was always there for them and treated them right. I tried to fixed the relationship why they are being mean to me now and what made them change. They weren't the best of communicating

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not saying you did anything wrong I don't know your relationship or you personally. That is why I'm throwing out ideas. Like I said it could be that. It could be outside stress too. There is a lot that could be wrong. Maybe multiple factors at play.

[NightHawk99]

It seems the guys you speak of are fuckboys playing the get-all-the-pussy-you-can game.

[Anonymous]

What exactly do they do? You either have extremely bad luck, or yes maybe it is something you do? Maybe it's the type of guys you choose? Maybe switch it up and try a new type. It's definitely worth analyzing though. Unfortunately only you can do it when we have none of the details lol.

[Maniwishiwashome]

It can be a lot of different thing, look for any red flags, don’t be afraid to end something with whoever your with if they are being disingenuous, at end of the day real recognizes real.

[Shihab91]

Maybe it's you... Or them ... Not me though

[Asker]

Dude this isn't about you