Why do I guys treat me differently?

[Anonymous]

I'm in High School doing my final year. Everyone gets along great, there's a lot of banter and joking between everyone, we're like one big family. The guys usually have their arms around girls in a friendly way though and it seems like everyone is at ease. But it's different with me guys don't treat me like other girls ( Not that I want them to hang their arms on my shoulders, just the sense of belonging). I don't know if I make sense, I hope I do.

Anyway I noticed that guys seem more reserved around me or show a watered down version of themselves. I want people to feel free around me and this is really bothering me, I feel left out. Even the school douches act this way. And it's mainly guys as with the girls I get along well with almost every girl and they don't act weird.

Please give me an idea on what may be the cause.

[SnowedIn]

Based on what you've written, it sounds like you want to be part of the group -- but on your terms. I'm pretty certain they can sense that you're not comfortable with the arms around each other and other ways that they hang out. That discomfort is going to affect how you relate to them and vice versa.

They treat you differently because, if you read what you wrote, you want to be treated differently. Maybe not the differently that they're treating you, but that's what they've got.

[strateguy632]

all the evidence is written. they can sense you don't want to get touched therefore different therefore an outsider.

[Anonymous]

You don't give off laid back vibes. I avoid women when I get the feeling I have to walk on egg shells around them. I want to be my full annoying shithead self.