It's a bit shallow, and as you age, I imagine you'll come across men that put "rich" men, to shame. That being said, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting a "successful" man. Even the men that have nothing nice to say about your question, can admit that as men, we want women that are physically appealing. And often times we mistakenly place looks above all, and typically end up disappointed. So we all have our likes and dislikes, but focusing on money and/or looks alone seems to be the best way to end up disappointed. Someone worth having, has more to offer than money or looks. But it mostly takes time and experience to understand why.
It’s hypocritical for men to date a girl just for her looks but shames women who want to date guys for their money
In my opinion girls that value guys based on height and looks are much more shallow than girls who value guys based on money.
Because if a guy is working hard and making good money, it actually tells you a lot about who he is as a person.
Whereas a guys height, jawline, eye colour tells you nothing
There is nothing wrong with wanting a successful man!.
I state this all the time and get called a gold digger constantly.
Not my fault id prefer to live comfortably and admire men with drive and passion for what they do.
Sorry not sorry✌️
You do you doll!❤️💋
What do you offer other than your gorgeous looks?
It wasn't a backhanded question. You're good at getting a rich man to date you. What personality traits do they look for in your experience.
@flowers70 every question asked on here is none of their business to ask then
@asker there is no personality traits required. Its an equal trade. They want a hot young woman with youth, in turn we get a highly successful man. I want them to be hot too, so im not just picking anyone. Im highly selective. My current boyfriend is 20 years older and is hot af.
Did you have to compete with other hot girls for him?
Preach it. Just because you’re an unsuccessful loser and girls don’t want to date you doesn’t mean you go cry “ sHaLlOw GoLd dIgGeR” how about you work on yourself and stop being so damn useless? What do you have to offer? Why would a hot girl want to date you? Are you successful? No. Are you smart? No. Are you rich? No. Are you physically attractive? No. Like fuck off. I respect myself and know my worth I won’t fucking date you. I want someone on my fucking level. I’m working hard in school, I work hard in the gym, I take pride in maintaining my appearance, I work hard to make money. Get on my level or don’t talk to me.
@DaneAxe To me, I can’t put the word “success” and “broke” together. Most people that are actually very successful have money naturally pouring their way anyways. Money should be, to at least some fucking extent, a priority in everyone’s life. You need money to survive. There’s no arguing that. They don’t say money makes the world go round for nothing. In a competitive world like today’s, I would pick the STEM major who worked his butt off and has the better paying job compared to the guy that did some useless major, picked the easy way out and has a poor job. I just don’t see why people can’t just get an education and pick a career that’s actually useful and work not only harder, but smarter. It’s just stupid to me because everyone has an equal opportunity to succeed and do well, but lack of IQ prohibits them from aiming higher in life. And the fact is, majority of the highest paying jobs such as surgeons, doctors, engineers, lawyers, businessmen etc require hard working, smart and successful people. All highly sought after qualities by everyone INCLUDING women.
The fallacy you have here is that wealth is an indicator of passion, which is completely untrue. I'd call artists passionate individuals, but they're all broke as a joke. To the contrary, wealthy men are usually restrained of passion, because passion is an emotional state and emotional states lead to poor decisions, and good decisions are what lead to the acquisition and accumulation of wealth. So the assumption that passion = wealth is absurd.
@Kiran_Yagami Wealthy men aren’t passionate about what they do is your argument to make you feel better about yourself, broke boy? K whatever helps you sleep better at night Mr. nail tech!
I read through the comments and still want to talk about a point the guys made. To me, there are men who I'd consider successful who aren't rich at all. For example, I know a guy who does great volunteer work. He truly does his part in making the world a better place, yet he doesn't ask for anything in return - that's against his beliefs. In addition, he's one of the most social people I ever met: any event he goes to, he instantly makes friends with everyone. Lastly his passion is outdoor sports. That doesn't make you rich, but it makes you fit and happy.
To me this person is very successful at whatever he does. He's smart to and has a master's degree. I think it's very possible to be successful without money, just like it's possible to be a useless rich kid who's just blowing daddy's money.
I'm not saying you have to date the guys I like to date. Just don't speak trash of people with a different opinion. Open your mind and don't judge too soon :)
@Felinegirl great for those people. I remain close minded on my opinion. Be passionate and have money. The end
@Felinegirl move on nobody cares. Get a life
@flowers70 oops sorry, I talked too much about my crush again haha...
No need to be mean though. Let's all stay nice to each other :)
Ugh nobody talking about Wendy's workers. I'm talking about activists, scientists, etc. I plan to join doctors without borders. I'm a medical student now, but when I have my licence I could work in emergency areas saving lives. It pays 1000 a month (and free accomodation and food), so it will never make me rich... But I'll have a life and you cannot say I'm lazy or a failure at life. Just different goals. And I'll have an adventure of a lifetime.
What was that thing about reading comments before replying again? ;)
That said, I do like it if a guy can cook - but no burgers, I don't eat meat :p
@Felinegirl Yes, you do have different goals. But that doesn’t necessarily make you smarter. I believe you should aim higher. But you’ve already chosen your path.
Nothing wrong with that. You can do whatever the fuck you want, it's your life.
these women thought they could do whatever they wanted also
good luck with that
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1hUQ53Oxu7s
Just dont expect anyone to not judge you for it.
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No but I think it's kinda silly. You're missing out if you do that.
Just like if I only liked rich girls, I'd miss all the awesome poor girls.
And it is kinda gold diggerish, but not the way your poll suggests. Gold digger is just an adjective, not a noun. So it isn't good or bad it just is a description of a behavior a person can exhibit.
I have seen and known both rich and poor guys. For instance, Kingsly Advani is a personal friend of mine I met in college. He roomed down the hall from me in a summer research program, he's now a crypto-millionare in sillicon valley as an Angel-investor.
I also went to the Nebia 2.0 product launch party and met the team behind the startup. A lot of Stanford guys. Annnd, lot a gold diggers. (xD). Funny thing is, like I said, I know a lot of these guys and their neither smarter nor dumber than everyone else.
I also know a lot of people who grew up in extreme poverty and never made it out. A lot of this has to do with the circumstances you're born into and how your life unfolds. It isn't necessarily an indicator of how good, bad or virtuous a person might be.
For the record I also know some incredibly rich girls from college. They were always trying to hide their wealth from the world.
Serously, I knew one girl from Taiwan who was an insanely rich instagram model and I didn't even know until after we got to be close in sn art history class for a few months. She was badically straight out of 'crazy rich Asians.' Annd, she wasn't any different from the poor and middle income girls. Just wealthy really. And it didn't make any difference.
It’s not wrong cause you have that freedom but keep a few things in mind:
1. Men who have resources tend to expect more from you than guys without. It’s in your interest to bother to find out what men like and to be likeable. This is not simply about your appearance but also about your attitude/personality. And you DO NOT learn this from listening to women.
2. There’s lots of competition. This means you better bring more to the table than the vast majority of women. It’s common for women to have the looks. Less common for them to have better personalities (see point 1).
The above points assume that you want serious. Otherwise just look great.
I’m considered intelligent, adventurous, and kind by people who were and are in my life. I figured that a woman needs to have more than a pretty face to secure a rich man. The flaw I have that many of the competition don’t have is lack of charisma because of my social awkwardness. I see those women and they’re very charismatic and not close to awkward. I don’t know how this affects my chances with someone wealthy
Nothing wrong with your preference wanting someone to provide for you and family. You want someone who makes good living and controls their time, that is more challenging. Sometimes rich means they have no extra time, especially if they are starting/running business, lawyer...
I've seen this be both bad, as in I wouldn't want any part of it, and seen it go good... they live very well and have money for nice stuff and trips. It just depends, rich is one factor and it will not satisfy on it's own, but it can help a lot.
i don't think women who want's a rich men is necessarily a gold digger, for example if she herself comes from a rich background its expected that she'd want some one who can support her life style; also priorities differ from a women to another, some girls just don't want to worry about finances in a relationship/marriage (like can they afford rent next month? bills? could they take care of a child? should they limit the number of kids they want bc of their financial situation... etc)
and let's be honest individuals always want's what's better and pleases them the most (for men beauty the more beautiful the girl is the better, for women money the richer the men is less worries about the the futures and kids (if they have any or plan to))
Not "wrong" per se, since you're entitled to like what you like. Though it does mean you're probably kinda shallow/ superficial. Nothing wrong with being shallow as long as you're honest about it. Also, for a rich man in the 1% wealth bracket, you'd better be a "1% woman" to be able to keep up with him and bring value of your own to the table. Also, the *smart* rich men are smart enough to conceal their wealth in public. Like, I served a customer at work the other day, and as he was leaving my colleague said he recognised the customer as a billionaire who went on Dragon's Den. You never would guess he was a billionaire by how he dressed or acted. The rich men who go around flaunting their wealth at every opportunity are probably more likely to get rinsed of their assets in some idiotic business blunder (or divorce settlement for that matter).
Is it inherently wrong? No, but it depends.
Do you really improved your life to the point of having something great to offer him besides sex? Do you value a loving relationship? In that case, being rich is just what you value the most in a man, but without intending to take him for a ride. That's okay, people can disagree but it's just about your values.
Or were you used to have sex with every low-life man at your sight and behave as a low-life woman at the same time you expect a prince charming to come in and save your ass from your poor choices? Because this is disgusting and you would be trying to force someone in a relationship of convenience, to become your provider. You wouldn't be honest about it with your husband, for sure. And that's what makes it so despicable.
I mean, yes, if thats the only thing you look at and you just wanna use them for your own gain instead of trying to get to know them and loving them for who they are. I also want to date/marry a guy that had a good education and makes good money but in the end if he doesn't have a great personality his money won't matter to me at all.
Not wrong, but a bit shallow. If that's what makes you happy and you can convince a rich man to take you too, I don't really see moral objections.
It's not my personal preference though. My goal is to be financially independent and date a guy I really like.
Of course it's wrong
You're literally making this statement true:
"Women use men for money
Men use women for sex"
So if a guy is good to you but doesn't earn that much, you will still not go out with him?
That's just stupid and a lost opportunity lol
Funny that no college women’s studies course will ever mention these women exist. But this disgusting hypocritical proof there are a lot of them and they are shameless.
You should also call yourself a feminist and march for equal rights. Also metoo the shit out of any average guy who stares at you for an extra second. Please have your cake and eat it too.
There is no excuse for a disgusting worthless. oxygen wasting piece of trash like you to exist in 2019. Prostitutes and whores have more honor then you do. At least they are straight up about their service.
There's a difference between only wanting to date wealthy men and only wanting to date a man because he's wealthy.
The latter us obviously a gold digger, the former however is having her choices shaped by society (as the real definition of wealth undergoes change in both criteria and threshold)
So I wouldn't call such a woman a gold digger, but I would say she should study her heart.
Probably more misguided than 'wrong'. If you think money is going to buy you happiness, well, good luck (because it won't). You're highly unlikely to get a rich boyfriend/husband if you don't have something to offer, and even if you succeed, you're only going to find out that money doesn't buy happiness.
Good luck.
No but all you mention is money. You never said anything about life goals, common interests, personality/attituted, type of love etc. The person would have to have at least the least amount of money and or take home at least the least amount of money each year that you consider for someone to be rich.
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse but you never know when either one might one out. You should earn your own money.
As a man who has money, I can tell you that I intentionally avoid women like you. If I go bankrupt, are you going to still have my back or go find someone else. Men are attracted to loyalty. Not freeloaders who will ditch you for the next best opportunity. Men want you to be attracted to them rather than their status or materialistic items.
I have a friend who’s with a rich man. She truly loves him and wouldn’t leave him if money got tight. I
Well did she only get with him because he’s well off?
Have better experiences with rich guys because they seem more educated and make more intellectual conversation
No, she preferred dating wealthy men. She fell in love with that guy though
Most people that are considered “rich” by society are made up of successful investors according to statistics. You don’t even need a high school diploma for that. Education lands you a 9-5 and most people don’t become rich off of a 9-5. I can understand that most individuals who are self made into wealth are fairly intelligent, but there are plenty of extremely intelligent individuals that are not rich at all, so why rich? The average IQ of an electrician is 110 which means they’re more intelligent than the vast majority of the population, so why not date an electrician?
I value financial stability. It’s not like I’m just offering my looks. You probably have good looking girls throwing themselves at you because you’re well off so they can’t compete with solely a pretty face. People assume that women who want rich men have nothing to offer besides their looks.
Financial stability is offered by a man working a 9-5 pushing into the six figure bracket in CA. A man with absolutely no debt, making $80,000-$90,000 a year in CA offers a very stable life, but it’s not considered rich by any means. So why not someone who’s financially stable but not rich?
It is the status factor or something else?
I’d be willing to date a man who makes $80000-100000 a year if we have good chemistry
Probably pressure from family. They have very high expectations
I grew up without a lot of money so I’ve experienced both sides. I don’t think your parents should judge potential dating partners based on their income. Yeah, it comes with a lot of positive things, but it’s not an indication of a good man. I feel as if women should judge men off of their drive, ambition, intelligence, values, and morals. Financial success should be secondary to all of that.
That kind of hits home as well because when my ex left ex left me many years back, her mom told her that I was a broke loser and cops don’t make that much. That was my route at that point in my life. We broke up, but her mom judged my value as a man based on my income. She would probably feel pretty stupid if she knew what I was worth today.
If you judge a mans character on surface level attributes, you’re making a mistake. If a man has confidence, endless drive and ambition, the money and prestige will come. You could be a part of a mans journey to success and that’s a lot more impactful in my opinion.
I was in a similar situation when an ex was financially cut off by his parents. My family pressured me to find a new wealthy guy. I was stubborn enough to resist their pressure. We broke up because he moved to another city
It’d be amusing to see her mom’s reaction if she finds out you’re well off!
Lol it would be satisfying to see the reaction especially considering that the only thing she really did in her life was four years in the Marine Corps during peace time and worked random admin jobs not even adding up to more than $20 an hr. College dropout and not even a homeowner. Yet, she passed that judgement onto me aha. It is what is is.
I don’t think you’re a bad person for your preferences. I think your views are heavily influenced by your upbringing and parents values just like anyone else. I think a lot of women are afraid to admit that they of course want to seek out the strongest man and that money equates to power. It’s biologically driven into women just as other things are biologically driven into men. It’s just a question of what extent do you take that. I don’t morally agree with limiting your pool to men who are rich. I think you can seek out men who are intelligent and financially stable without them being rich. Maybe you’re a little confused on what you want as well? Thats pretty normal, especially if family isn’t putting pressure on you. Hope it all works out for you 👊🏼
You seem like a genuine, well off guy lol. Hard to find those around here. Thank you!
No it's just a preference. That's what I prefer because I know I will be wealthy myself one day and should have someone at or above my salary. i dont want my man working like a damn slave I want to be with him and have a family knowing they will not struggle and be well cared for
No, but you are a gold digger. There's nothing wrong with being a gold digger, but if you prioritize money over other important characteristics then don't be surprised when the quality of man you get is lacking. Also, don't be surprised when you aren't the only woman he's keeping around, because a man who lures women in with money has no shortage of suitettes foaming at the mouth to get a taste of his resources. If you can be bought, you are expendable and replaceable.
I don't do it for the money. I also realise that they go for the "good girl" type. I don't hope to stay with them either since I'm a little chubby and have too much tattoos for them to show me around to their friends and family. But for a ONS? Totally. It's a turn on for me cause they are more confident and seem more powerful and dominant. Maybe it's just one of my fetishes.
If the only reason you want to be with them is because of their money then yes you’re a gold digger, but if you ask yourself if you’d still be with him even if he wasn’t rich and the answer is still yes, you’re not a gold digger. But be honest when answering that question, don’t let guilt of judging yourself cloud the real answer.
Is it wrong to only date women with a tight vagina?
Nice one
But to say is it wrong to only date hot sexy women would be more accurate
@Flower7 I am going to assume that you intended for me to respond to your last post and not the Asker. Actually, I have encountered a few women who were not so tight any more, but that was not really the point of what I said.
The answer to that depends on how successful you are yourself. If you're rich too, then I think it's very reasonable to want someone who's on the same level as you.
I believe it is a flaw of nature. Nature is very flawed.
Females instinctively seek a mate that can provide for them.
All I can say is that if you seek rich men, I sure hope you bring more to the table than just a pretty face.
It depends on the reason why you want a man with money. If it’s so you can sit on your ass or shop all day long while he works, yes it’s wrong. If it’s so that you can afford kids or do something useful with the money, then I don’t think it’s wrong.
I think at least you are sure what you want. If you find such mutual person, well go for it. I dont know why people call it a gold digger. I would say a gold digger if u cannot emotionally connect with a rich guy and yet you are with him
What a problem with that?
Yes, you will be 'called gold' digger a lot, but F them they can date broke drug addicts, it is their choice of life.
I would not mind to date rich girl who would buy good life to me, what is wrong with that?
I should stay where I am now, why, if there would be such opportunity?
What's wrong about gold digging is the dishonesty. If you're upfront about it and let the guys know that that's what you're after, there's nothing wrong with it per se.
Depends if you'll date a guy just because he's rich or to leach his money then yeah that's wrong, but if you'll pull your own weight and it's more about the success and drive in men who can achieve high paying roles then no not at all.
It's depends on your intentions. If you wanna date rich dudes in order to have a materialistic life, then I'd say it's kind of shameful to do so. But if it's for something along the lines of "I want him to be able to provide nicely for our family", then I don't see anything wrong with it really.
It's neither wrong nor right. It depends on your reason wanting to date only rich people is an effect, you got to answer yourself what's the cause for it. If your reason is getting expensive gifts, posh dates, etc. You will eventually reach point when you will get emotionally exhausted and alone.
Yes, that's wrong. Mainly because women who only date rich men aren't as picky as if they didn't mind that feature. But it's ok for women who reject every man that they'd also reject if they weren't rich.
About the update: No person who only date rich people is loyal. Being rich isn't inherent to people. People who only date rich people means that they would stop dating their partners if they became bankruptcy and that's really far from being loyal, especially if the couple have done some plans about their life that can also be possible is one of them becomes a poor person.
Wanting to only date guys who are financially stable is one thing, wanting to date only rich guys is a but shallow... nobody wants money to become a problem, but dating someone just because they have lots is not great.
I can tell you that rich men have a very, very low opinion of gold diggers just like poor men do.
You better be a very good looking girl as rich guys are few and far in between, so you have a lot of competition with a lot of girls that are likely prettier/smarter than you.
But everyone is allowed preferences, just like I don't like fat girls.
Not every rich guy has a line of women competing against each other to land him
There are rich guys with no women after them too. Possibly because he works too much or is introverted
I'm prettier than some but some are prettier than me.
The only rich guys that I know who are dating girls that are lower in looks, are girls they were dating before they got rich. Most rich guys I know date very beautiful women. If you’re beautiful, go for it, but just keep in mind what I said.
You’d be better off going after a guy who’s very ambitious as he has a higher chance of becoming rich later.
If a girl only likes me because of my material value and not for me tgen i dump her immediately. Only a fool would stay with someone so shallow.
If you expect fancy new shit from him all the time, yes it's wrong. However, if you like the idea of dating a successful man but will buy your own stuff, no problem.
I would personally stay away from money hungry loving men.. all they think about and care about is money
What is YOUR criteria for 'rich'?
No woman worth her salt is going to want a dead-broke bum. She wants assurances that he can support her and the 84 children she wants to have with him. She's be a fool otherwise.
It's just sad... romance and love are separate from money and superficial things. Will you leave a guy because he loses his job or money? Then it's not really love in my opinion
Yes it's wrong you're only in love with the money and not person who as the money. Ownce the money gone you're gone and looking for your next victim who has money. 👎👎
Yes. Putting money as more important than who the man is himself makes you a gold digger rather than someone looking for love and a family.
I'd say it's equivalent to men who only want to date girls who like anal. And as such a guy, it would be a little odd of me to call it wrong..
Nothing wrong with securing your financial security. IF YOU ARE A VIRGIN or you have such a Giant sexual market place value. Nothing wrong with double standards. What do you bring to the table?
Not a virgin, I have had a few partners though
I hope you understand the concept of sexual market place value.. if you want to be a Young trophy wife and have the benefits of a wealthy men you should at least work out, create a beautyfull body and give a lot of sex. The more sexual partners you had, the more your value plummets. If you want to date a rich men, the thing you should bring to the table is assets in the form of femininity. Most rich guys want a trophy wife and not a carreer women. So f your education, go to the gym and seduce some rich beta cuck🤜🦄
I think it’s gold digger Territory all that person good for is money. What happen when they go through tough times and lose money then you throw them away?
nice answer, you must be very mature for your age:)
I say dearie you learn to earn it rather than be dependent on HIS money {Feminist Alert}
That's up to you if you want to date the shallow part instead of the person.
You also have to consider people doesn't want to date you because of that.
An other thing that you probably never gonna experience real in love feelings from/for a person.
You do you. They do you. It's really your own business. Everything comes at a price and you know yours. Right, wrong or indifferent. You do you.
Very shallow, but I guess if they're cool with it it's ok.
Update: that's awesome :-). I'm sorry. For real. I did think you were just a gold digger.
No... but if that’s the case at some point morality comes into place. Because money has never made happiness.
You can have whatever standards you want, but what I'm wondering is what do you have to offer? Are you someone that a rich man wants?
Why ask dumb questions you know the answer to?
To find out if people consider women onlydating rich guys a preference that’s ok or not ok
A guy only dates thin women, avoids dating overweight girls
That’s a preference that most think it’s perfectly ok to have. Looks and money are superficial aspects of dating
No but it means you're a very shallow person and will lead a lonely life
like GOD said they will search for the precious life
AND NEVER FIND IT
you think the kardashians are happy even with all the money they have
JUST LOOK AT THEIR FACES
they look worn out and dead
the precious life are the words of GOD and following them through
You're looking for security, and solvency. Nothing inherently wrong with that, but it may indicate a personality flaw.
Different women have different needs.
If you want a fancy life-style why date a poor guy? makes no sense
Its not wrong.
Nothing wrong with it at all. I used to date rich older men. It was fun while it lasted. In fact I’m dating a man who used to be rich. He’s a great guy and I’m glad I met him.
No but you've got to be realistic in considering what you have to offer rich men in the long term.
No but it’s better to have relationships with love.
Successful man who can provide for a family? No.
A rich man who has enough money to spoil you and 4 other families? Yes.
I honestly don't see anything wrong with that. There are so many go choose from. Why not?
There’s nothing wrong with it if your intentions are clear upfront.
But if ur using someone then that is wrong.
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