It's a bit shallow, and as you age, I imagine you'll come across men that put "rich" men, to shame. That being said, I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting a "successful" man. Even the men that have nothing nice to say about your question, can admit that as men, we want women that are physically appealing. And often times we mistakenly place looks above all, and typically end up disappointed. So we all have our likes and dislikes, but focusing on money and/or looks alone seems to be the best way to end up disappointed. Someone worth having, has more to offer than money or looks. But it mostly takes time and experience to understand why.
In my opinion girls that value guys based on height and looks are much more shallow than girls who value guys based on money.
Because if a guy is working hard and making good money, it actually tells you a lot about who he is as a person.
Whereas a guys height, jawline, eye colour tells you nothing
There is nothing wrong with wanting a successful man!.
I state this all the time and get called a gold digger constantly.
Not my fault id prefer to live comfortably and admire men with drive and passion for what they do.
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Nothing wrong with that. You can do whatever the fuck you want, it's your life.
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No but I think it's kinda silly. You're missing out if you do that.
Just like if I only liked rich girls, I'd miss all the awesome poor girls.
And it is kinda gold diggerish, but not the way your poll suggests. Gold digger is just an adjective, not a noun. So it isn't good or bad it just is a description of a behavior a person can exhibit.
I have seen and known both rich and poor guys. For instance, Kingsly Advani is a personal friend of mine I met in college. He roomed down the hall from me in a summer research program, he's now a crypto-millionare in sillicon valley as an Angel-investor.
I also went to the Nebia 2.0 product launch party and met the team behind the startup. A lot of Stanford guys. Annnd, lot a gold diggers. (xD). Funny thing is, like I said, I know a lot of these guys and their neither smarter nor dumber than everyone else.
I also know a lot of people who grew up in extreme poverty and never made it out. A lot of this has to do with the circumstances you're born into and how your life unfolds. It isn't necessarily an indicator of how good, bad or virtuous a person might be.
It’s not wrong cause you have that freedom but keep a few things in mind:
1. Men who have resources tend to expect more from you than guys without. It’s in your interest to bother to find out what men like and to be likeable. This is not simply about your appearance but also about your attitude/personality. And you DO NOT learn this from listening to women.
2. There’s lots of competition. This means you better bring more to the table than the vast majority of women. It’s common for women to have the looks. Less common for them to have better personalities (see point 1).
The above points assume that you want serious. Otherwise just look great.
Nothing wrong with your preference wanting someone to provide for you and family. You want someone who makes good living and controls their time, that is more challenging. Sometimes rich means they have no extra time, especially if they are starting/running business, lawyer...
I've seen this be both bad, as in I wouldn't want any part of it, and seen it go good... they live very well and have money for nice stuff and trips. It just depends, rich is one factor and it will not satisfy on it's own, but it can help a lot.
i don't think women who want's a rich men is necessarily a gold digger, for example if she herself comes from a rich background its expected that she'd want some one who can support her life style; also priorities differ from a women to another, some girls just don't want to worry about finances in a relationship/marriage (like can they afford rent next month? bills? could they take care of a child? should they limit the number of kids they want bc of their financial situation... etc)
and let's be honest individuals always want's what's better and pleases them the most (for men beauty the more beautiful the girl is the better, for women money the richer the men is less worries about the the futures and kids (if they have any or plan to))
Not "wrong" per se, since you're entitled to like what you like. Though it does mean you're probably kinda shallow/ superficial. Nothing wrong with being shallow as long as you're honest about it. Also, for a rich man in the 1% wealth bracket, you'd better be a "1% woman" to be able to keep up with him and bring value of your own to the table. Also, the *smart* rich men are smart enough to conceal their wealth in public. Like, I served a customer at work the other day, and as he was leaving my colleague said he recognised the customer as a billionaire who went on Dragon's Den. You never would guess he was a billionaire by how he dressed or acted. The rich men who go around flaunting their wealth at every opportunity are probably more likely to get rinsed of their assets in some idiotic business blunder (or divorce settlement for that matter).
Is it inherently wrong? No, but it depends.
Do you really improved your life to the point of having something great to offer him besides sex? Do you value a loving relationship? In that case, being rich is just what you value the most in a man, but without intending to take him for a ride. That's okay, people can disagree but it's just about your values.
Or were you used to have sex with every low-life man at your sight and behave as a low-life woman at the same time you expect a prince charming to come in and save your ass from your poor choices? Because this is disgusting and you would be trying to force someone in a relationship of convenience, to become your provider. You wouldn't be honest about it with your husband, for sure. And that's what makes it so despicable.
I mean, yes, if thats the only thing you look at and you just wanna use them for your own gain instead of trying to get to know them and loving them for who they are. I also want to date/marry a guy that had a good education and makes good money but in the end if he doesn't have a great personality his money won't matter to me at all.
Not wrong, but a bit shallow. If that's what makes you happy and you can convince a rich man to take you too, I don't really see moral objections.
It's not my personal preference though. My goal is to be financially independent and date a guy I really like.
Of course it's wrong
You're literally making this statement true:
"Women use men for money
Men use women for sex"
So if a guy is good to you but doesn't earn that much, you will still not go out with him?
That's just stupid and a lost opportunity lol
Funny that no college women’s studies course will ever mention these women exist. But this disgusting hypocritical proof there are a lot of them and they are shameless.
You should also call yourself a feminist and march for equal rights. Also metoo the shit out of any average guy who stares at you for an extra second. Please have your cake and eat it too.
There is no excuse for a disgusting worthless. oxygen wasting piece of trash like you to exist in 2019. Prostitutes and whores have more honor then you do. At least they are straight up about their service.
There's a difference between only wanting to date wealthy men and only wanting to date a man because he's wealthy.
The latter us obviously a gold digger, the former however is having her choices shaped by society (as the real definition of wealth undergoes change in both criteria and threshold)
So I wouldn't call such a woman a gold digger, but I would say she should study her heart.
Probably more misguided than 'wrong'. If you think money is going to buy you happiness, well, good luck (because it won't). You're highly unlikely to get a rich boyfriend/husband if you don't have something to offer, and even if you succeed, you're only going to find out that money doesn't buy happiness.
Good luck.
No but all you mention is money. You never said anything about life goals, common interests, personality/attituted, type of love etc. The person would have to have at least the least amount of money and or take home at least the least amount of money each year that you consider for someone to be rich.
As a man who has money, I can tell you that I intentionally avoid women like you. If I go bankrupt, are you going to still have my back or go find someone else. Men are attracted to loyalty. Not freeloaders who will ditch you for the next best opportunity. Men want you to be attracted to them rather than their status or materialistic items.
No it's just a preference. That's what I prefer because I know I will be wealthy myself one day and should have someone at or above my salary. i dont want my man working like a damn slave I want to be with him and have a family knowing they will not struggle and be well cared for
No, but you are a gold digger. There's nothing wrong with being a gold digger, but if you prioritize money over other important characteristics then don't be surprised when the quality of man you get is lacking. Also, don't be surprised when you aren't the only woman he's keeping around, because a man who lures women in with money has no shortage of suitettes foaming at the mouth to get a taste of his resources. If you can be bought, you are expendable and replaceable.
I don't do it for the money. I also realise that they go for the "good girl" type. I don't hope to stay with them either since I'm a little chubby and have too much tattoos for them to show me around to their friends and family. But for a ONS? Totally. It's a turn on for me cause they are more confident and seem more powerful and dominant. Maybe it's just one of my fetishes.
If the only reason you want to be with them is because of their money then yes you’re a gold digger, but if you ask yourself if you’d still be with him even if he wasn’t rich and the answer is still yes, you’re not a gold digger. But be honest when answering that question, don’t let guilt of judging yourself cloud the real answer.
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