Is wanting to date a wealthier man bad?

Question

I've talked to a few guys online and in person that were poor- and up. I noticed that whenever I talked about something that seemed a little pricey they would always make a remark. It just kind of annoyed me. I’d rather talk to someone that I can relate to and do a bunch of things with. When I hung out with certain people things just appeared limited. No shame to anyone at all, this is my preference. But I feel like if someone were to hear that a girl wants to date a wealthier guy, they think she’s a gold digger

Realistic07 · Accepted Answer

How do I put this…
One can live rich and be poor. Having every lavish meal, enjoying wonderful sites, travel, very good drinks, and peace.

That said not everyone is looking for that the person that can make anything, build anything, cook anything. Some people just want to be taken care of without the necessity of worrying about money.

Life is so often that it is logical to think that one would not want to worry about it at a certain age or another. In society, people often make the choice of balancing finance with relationships. Sometimes balance is found sometimes it is not. When it is not often times the couple will split. Why? Well because finances a very large debate that is highly subjective to individual perspective and lifestyle.

So it’s not bad to want what you want or to be with who you want to be with. In addition, it’s understandable to be tired from life and just want to be able to have the satisfaction of being taken care of. Those words said a simple note money does not increase the quality of a person. Finance Issues as they relate to a relationship happen both for the reason of lack there of money, and for the reason of an over surplus of money.

Money changes people for the better and the worst. In addition, one doesn’t really know who there with until quite a bit of time has passed. So who’s to really say In what way anyone should live, and who’s to really say in what way anyone should love.

Ultimately, these are philosophical questions that I think you should really ask yourself a bit.
All said one must understand no one wants to live in a life of struggle, but a little bit of struggle is not necessarily the end of life or even the end of quality of life. Often times adversity breeds perseverance & Personal/ Interpersonal strength. Particularly when we’re talking about relationships as a whole.

Best advice I can give if you’re going for money make sure you’re bringing something of value to the table so that way you’re not walked on, and if you’re in it for love sure to humble yourself to the reality that love comes in all shapes and sizes. One should not stifle, nor look down upon themselves or others about things that are just simply a part of life. We all walk different paths. Often With unknown results, but that’s why it’s called the journey through life.

Ultimately think on what you really want; because I think right now what you should do is just take time to get to know yourself a bit more. Money could take away all suffering it would have by now, and not a single penny spent be greater than any amount saved.

Keep in mind, the rich didn’t get rich by spending all their money, and the poor are not poor; because they chose to be.

Whatever it is, you decide I hope that it does bring you happiness and maybe a little bit of perspective. I wish you luck

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I suppose that depends.

First, wealthy men are rare, and in high demand. There are 20 or 50 or 100 times more women who want them then there are wealthy men to go around. This results in two things: most such men aren't going to take most women seriously, and are only going to use them for sex - being happy to trade a taste of his lifestyle to get that sex, sure, but he's not going to commit to a relationship. He doesn't need to, because for every woman who objects, there are 20 or 50 behind her who will happily agree. The other thing is that if he's a rare exception who DOES commit, he's likely only going to commit to a girl who also comes from wealth and is already used to the lifestyle and sees no need to flaunt it. Such a woman would be much easier for him to relate to.

This leads to another basic truth: just because you want a wealthier man doesn't mean he's going to want YOU. Are you the kind of woman such men want? Do you KNOW what men like him want? Are you SURE? Have you actually asked a few of those men what they are looking for in a relationship partner? I suspect their answers aren't what you think - but maybe I'm wrong.

All together, this means that actually getting a relationship commitment from such a man is unlikely at best. You can TRY, but don't be shocked if he tells you things like "he's not looking for a relationship right now" or "he just wants to keep things casual" or "he doesn't know how he feels about that right now." Those are all ways of saying "we can have casual sex, but don't expect a relationship commitment."

Most non-wealthy women who end up with a wealthy man get there the following way: they meet him when he's still relatively poor, but is building, is motivated, and ambitious. This means that life will be a struggle at first, and he's probably going to be VERY busy building his empire, and not only will he not have much spending money, but he also won't have a lot of free time (the blade years). And this may last for a number of years. But typically, things hit the "curve on the hockey stick" - the inflection point - after which he can work a lot less and he'll be making a lot more.

And because you were with him when he had nothing, and you supported him through the tough times, he's likely going to be loyal to you. A guy who has everything the day you meet him, knowing you had little, is far less likely to trust you and far less likely to respect you, and is thus less likely to be loyal. That's just human nature.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

First of all, it's your preference. If that is your social status and circle and what you can relate to, there's nothing wrong with that.

But, if that's not your normal circle, a man with money isn't going to be impressed that you can pronounce Cartier correctly, prefer to dine at three-star Michelin restaurants, carry a Gucci bag, and name-drop. People with money don't care about that sort of thing, even though they might own some of it or have certain connections. They have people trying to use them all the time. They'll let you feel successful for a while because it costs them nothing, but they will never take you seriously. They value authenticity, creativity, and empathy. You see, people who have money understand value. They spend money or make connections because it adds value to their life, not because it's popular, or trendy, or "rich".

However, something to keep in mind is that a doctor can be really bad with money, and a mechanic can be very prudent. A lawyer can be all kinds of unethical with their financial management, and a school teacher can be meticulous and generous. A man can bring home a million dollars a year and pay out a million and one in debt. Another might hustle and make 50K a year, but he does all his own home repairs and renovations and is a careful budgeter.

I'd look more for how they manage what they have and what their goals are. Money comes and goes; ethics and character are priceless. Just some thoughts. :D

Account · Accepted Answer

If you want to put yourself inside a golden cage and give that guy the key, sure go for it. None of my business. When he attempts to control you in every way since he has more power, don't claim that you didn't expect that to happen.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm strongly against the gold digger mentality and don't believe it results in happiness long term, but you do you.

SvenTree · Answer

I don't think it's bad... I think it's superficial, entitled, opportunistic and not the most important thing one should focus on. But I don't think it's bad...

In wouldn't say I'm rich, but I'm easily in the top 1% earners of my country. Things may not be as easy as you think. Wealthy men are already scarce (compared to the total population), some are gay, some are married, some have stable girlfriends, many are too busy with work to care for dating (so the already small dating pool is even much smaller). I'm currently 30, I haven't dated anyone in several years, since I'm always working, I also fear people will lable me a predator or a creep if I date someone who males less money than me, has a lower status position or is younger, saying that "I'm taking advantage of power dianamics". Many of my friends (with similar earnings) don't date either for similar reasons.

My point is, that I don't think it's bad if that's your preference... But you might not be as simple and rewarding as it seems.

jshm2 · Answer

Yes, as you being you doesn't entitle you to their wealth.

If they have the funds, and you are bringing more to the table than pussy and a bad shopping habit, then they will automatically give you that wealth.

One of my former girlfriends married a rich guy; she's almost as rich as him. But they never talk money, as the relationship is about love and mutual fun.

Or to bring it down to your level. Would you be happy for a guest turning up at your party to drink all your beer and eat all your food, just to fuck off later without saying a word? Of course not. You want them to come for you and a good time, the food and drink is just the added bonus.

You still have a lot of growing up to do, kiddo.

morganherrel · Answer

There is absolutely no shame in preferring higher earning men, especially if that is just one element of the complete package.

Keep in mind that it's not necessarily "gold-digging" if it correlates to other attributes that are highly desirable for you.

Men with high income tend to be more accomplished and successful people. They are more likely to have intelligence, work ethic, decision-making ability, charisma and leadership, etc.

I say go for it and see what happens (:

hahahmm · Answer

Here's the thing... a guy will only call a woman a gold digger because she left him or because he sees that she is treating another guy poorly. But her simply wanting to have a better life & get a guy who can raise her social/financial status by itself is not considered a crime.

Naturally, if a guy has less than whatever it is you want then you are not compatible. No need to apologize for anything. That's life. People can be incompatible for a huge number of reasons.

Now for the other side of that... today women see rich guys entertaining average women on social media. A lot of women think they deserve a rich guy and spend all of their time chasing that but the reality is that very few of them will get that. And just because a guy doesn't have much now doesn't mean he won't later on. Depends on the guy's mindset.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Is Not bad! But hold back for a second and THINK!. Once you'll end up with a Wealthy man, then for him you'll become "just the housewife" just a "new possession" after his.. House, Car, Bank Account, Expensive jewelery, Expensive perfumes, etc... so you'll become just another "accessory" to his "collection of wealth", you'll just become the "neglected/in the corner forgotten" wife, that her role would be just to be a "maid & and a pump up kids"... no life/escursion trips", etc... but at the end of the day... It is what It Is! You do as you please... i know you just "think for now"...🤷‍♂️

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It's kinda a Grey area but you're still not what they're talking about.

Gold diggers mostly refers to a woman trying to move up in the economic ladder by dating up and the assumption is that she's going to leave with as many resources and assets as she can eventually.

I think most guys who aren't loosers can understand the concept that if you grow up a certain way, poor or rich, North or south, western or eastern etc. Culture changes with economic status too.

I would challenge you though, it you feel limited. It makes me wonder how rich are the guys with money you're talking to and how broke are the money conscious ones?

How realistic are your expectations? Do uou really know enough about money and careers to know?

Anonymous · Answer

It’s understandable in the sense of her getting pregnant, maybe a couple times, staying home taking care of the kids. I get that. You don’t want to be struggling if they agree to her being a stay at home mom. But a lot of women these days don’t come off like that. They feel entitled. Many of them don’t even bring a damn thing to the table to offer men in return for what he can provide. If I’m being honest in a way you’re coming off like that. Saying you want to be w someone who you can do a lot of things w. I’m thinking a lot of the things you want to do cost money because you can always do a lot of things w people that don’t cost money.

DextroShade · Answer

I highly recommend you checkout the  At your age you could still get a high value man, but: You will have to submit, get on his program, and not argue You can not be fat and must be pretty and feminine  You can't embarrass him by having slutty pictures of yourself online You can't have any contact with ex boyfriends You must accept the fact that he might have side bitches He will likely be significantly older than you because most dudes with money are older and the young guys with money usually aren't interested in relationships

whirled_up_girl · Answer

If the money is the only reason I would say yes. If you're also considering personal demeanor, motivations etc. I would like to think women would consider the wealth as a plus to those qualities. I make a decent salary I wouldn't say I am wealthy by any stretch but I do make a comfortable living compared to most. I would consider dating someone with less money as long as they had a good personality and good work ethic.

its_amelia_c · Answer

If you are dating a person just based on their bank account then yes it’s bad.

But if you like the person, he has great qualities, you have similar interests etc. and he happens to also have $$ then it’s not bad as it’s not just based on that one thing!

RebelinSteel · Answer

People are allowed to have standards but should not lose sight of why they want to date the other person, have a relationship with them, that needs to be because you make each other happy, have compatibility and have trust, communication, mutual respect for each other.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Broke guys have esteem issues because men interlace their value with their earning power/monetary level. So guys who aren't happy with their wealth status will either use you as a placeholder or take their demons out on you.

Not saying rich guys are any better but they do other things.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

If it's  only  their money and financial stuff you're after, then yes. But if there's other things you like about them, such as personality, interests, likes, etc. Then no.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

You are 18-24, dating a wealthier is fine as long as you give him biological children, you won’t even necessarily have to work if you don’t want to. You’d be the mother of his kids and births are healthier for both mother and child when the mother is young.

Its natural. Just as being attracted to attractive people is natural.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I don't like to use words like "bad" when talking about this kind of thing. So I'll just say, if you want to date a wealthier man, you need to do it with the understanding of what you're getting into.

Dating a wealthier man comes with the good and the bad aspects of dating that man.

Miristheiss · Answer

I can accept that is how women are naturally wired. Can you accept men are wired to want young, non-promiscuous women for long term mates?

Still-alive · Answer

that seemed a little pricey they would always make a remark. It just kind of annoyed me. Why does that annoy you? you realize money is tight these days? wages are stagnant, inflation is out of control... soooo yeah sometimes we are gonna skip things that are pricey. that should be a good thing because it means they are frugal and smart with their money. they don't just spend lavishly just because...

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No it is understandable to want a guy with money but if you yourself are broke and looking for someone with way more money than you yourself could ever make, you technically are a gold digger.

TDDMS · Answer

Women who make a man's money primary reason for dating/marrying, the truth of the matter is that those relationships don't last. In fact they never get off the ground simply because us guys can sniff out a cheap $3 304. Here's another example, 20 years ago I worked with a woman who said that her love is proportional to the amount of money a man has. Today she's 45, no children, no husband, no boyfriend, nothing.

the29thhuman · Answer

Not at all! It’s the classic way.  Guys that can’t provide just stink. They’d rather flash off some new shoes or a hair cut and he thinks that should be enough to bust his nutt. 😂😂😂

Vanny20 · Answer

Well as a lady I would say it's my choice, cause I would rather have a man with good heart, attributes and attitudes than to date a man who's wealthier but with bad traits cause money or material related will fade one day, but a man with a good heart will stand the test of time

Staximus · Answer

If you're looking for a guy who makes as much money as you, that's one thing. If you want to go do a bunch of silly fancy shit like go to Europe and stuff and want him to be able to pay his fair share, that's fine. If you want him to pay for everything, you're a gold digger.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

No it is not. Everyone has preference, need, and desire. There is nothing wrong with wanting a wealthy man.

BetaBucks · Answer

Nope. It's biological instinct. Better than cranking out unlimited babies with broke men, and relying on strangers to support them.

Light_beam · Answer

You can want anything.. you want him rich? Fine.. it doesn't make you bad.. it makes you a money lover.. but it is still you who will live with this choice.. just don't come crying if it was not as you wished.. Rich guys have very high standards and many many girls after them.. they are aware that girls like money and they believe they can buy women with money

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

I still remember what my grandpa said, "If men have beauty standards, then why can't women also have standards?" :)

Billlewis · Answer

No, not at all. You can also date a wealthy guy while also dating other men, as well.

Kaneki05 · Answer

No, date whom you want. Even if you were a gold digger it don't mean you shouldn't.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Not at all. It's only natural in reality but money is a very sensitive topic for a lot of people and culturally people speak of it very differently.

Unit1 · Answer

Be up front and honest about your intentions. As much as I despise gold diggers, the one's I don't hate are the one's, that are being up front and transparent about it and not deliberately deceive the boys with charm and (fake) love.

AshleyJarrett · Answer

Nope. It’s smart, use what you have to get what you want in life

ponybabies · Answer

I honestly could care less about the money because you could either build that with someone or lose it all and still have that man. So.. as long as you love that man without his money too I guess.

Saggitariusdiva · Answer

nope not bad   it's   normal   I guess

Anonymous · Answer

From a demographic point of view thanks to how post-1990's public Schools go about and motivate education. Dating a wealthier man is simply not an option for many if not most girls anymore unless they want to be dating the same man.

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

1 Timothy 6:10 King James Version 10 For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Well it does make sense that if the priority is the wealth of the other - not sufficiency, but wealth - that people would see that as gold-digging.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  Translator   if your intention is to take advantage of his wealth and only like the guy cause of his money, you ARE a gold digger

Anonymous · Answer

Wealthier Men want to date children.  Not adult women with an adult body shape. Just Being Real 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

genericname85 · Answer

It's not bad. It's just superficial as fuck. But you're entitled to be that.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

You are a gold digger. I see them everywhere.

Nifrayu · Answer

Not at all. I would certainly like to date a wealthier woman.

art84 · Answer

Nothing wrong if you want to date a wealthy guy like doctor for example.

Juxtapose · Answer

In this economy? Haha.. good luck. You'll have a small dating pool. 18% of Americans.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Well if you're using him for his money, then by definition, you are a gold digger.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No, i think it’s bad to date someone that can’t provide for themselves

BarryLiverstone · Answer

It’s not bad. Just like a guy who wants a girl who isn’t poor

Anonymous · Answer

Only if you're only worth🤔... well let me see how much change I got in my pocket.😆😆

Serkee · Answer

It depends, what can you offer him in return?

Anonymous · Answer

No because guys want to date hot girls.

Anonymous · Answer

not necessarily.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Pretty standard

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

SOME BITCHES MAKE ME SO GLAD TO BE SINGLE

AnnaCT · Answer

No, if you don’t some other woman will.

Ladsin2 · Answer

It's female nature.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

No, it's understandable.

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

Yeah

Is wanting to date a wealthier man bad?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is wanting to date a wealthier man bad?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.