Is it bad to believe I deserve a man with an a rich and or millionaire man?

[Anonymous]

I make 120k annual but not millionaire money. I’ve been called shallow but I’ve been raised that men are providers and I believe women follow the leadership of men in a relationships and to gain my respect in a romantic relationship I’d expect my partner to make more than me.

My job doesn’t quite allow me to go above what I get paid now, I got a straight to a specific job type of career. I don’t have the means to build any more wealth, I’m not getting into those millionaire entrepreneur spaces on my own I can’t make that kinda rich money. My degree doesn’t allow any career flexibility, I passed that point where law or med school is possible or worth it.

I don’t get the issue with being attracted to your partner and financial stability. I bring things to a relationship, I have familial connections, negotiation/social skills, and a good ability to manage money and sorts. I want to bring peace and nurturing to my partner. Of course I’d never date a guy just for his money but effort into my beauty and upkeep and partial financial contribution should be enough in exchange for his wealth. Is that so wrong?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Respectfully, your ability to manage 120k/year doesn't impress many millionaires and we don't care about your job or your money. What does familial connections mean in this context? That you are in contact with your family? That's only a plus if I like them. I understand what you're trying to say about partial financial contributions, but the annual interest on a million bucks is the same as your take home pay and one comes into the household with far less effort/manhours expended. Now if you're an art curator then you may land a man who is heavily into art, or if you're a charity director you could get one who deems that an important cause. If you're, for lack of a better term, something boring like marketing, I wouldn't expect that aspect of you to have much pull with the millionaire crowd. With other people making around your pay, yeah, I actually think it may mean something to them, but that's not what you said you were seeking. Peace and nurturing. Yep. Yep that's good. How do you do that?

[Asker]

By family connections I mean a noteable background. I wasn't raised wealthy but I'm related to a prestigious name and a high class social network. Whenever you mention financial security as a woman especially a decently high earning women the conversation always turns to what are you worth. I would hope the personalities of me and the person would align. I'm loving, I'm caring, I'm compassionate and the type of person who will support you to the finish line of your goals. I understand a wealthy man may have less time to be around and I can offer support however he needs. I have class, maybe not here because I don't believe that I should settle for anything in life or that I can't achieve anything I set my mind to including a wealthy husband. There's never a satisfying answer so if these don't work for you please tell me what does a millionaire want? What is the answer you're for?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope, you answered me quite fully. I wish you luck in your search. Try to remember that his time is limited, so you're going to need to do all you can to get in front of him. "Be where the fish are biting" as the saying goes.

[slatyb]

You don't 'deserve' anything in the dating world. "Deserving" implies that some conscious entity is allocating resources. You can deserve a raise from your employer based on past performance, but you can't deserve a man with particular attributes. Independently wealthy men are rare, much rarer than women paid $120K/year. Millionaires are more common, I know many tech millionaires, but they are not private jets and yachts wealthy. They are "I don't pay much attention to restaurant prices" wealthy.

[wolfcat87]

Most wealthy men don't care about anything you listed... One of the top careers women who marry millionaires have is Elementary School Teacher. That says it all.

There's nothing wrong with wanting what you want. Whether or not it will lead to a happy marriage is questionable. Maybe if you marry Asian it will work? They are bigger on marrying wealth than most other cultures.

[kylee2437]

I understand entirely where you are coming from but if that’s a set standard for you for a guy to be making more money than you, you are going to be single for a long term time. More than 120k is a very high standard to hold someone up to and most men do not view a woman’s income as a dating standard. Do you have other aspects that men typically look for?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yeah thats pretty messed up.
You're too greedy.

Also its easy to turn 100,000 into 100,000,000. You just aren't thinking outside the box.
I'd not want to date a woman who isn't creative enough to do that.

I dont care if life gave her no opportunities, or too many problems to get out of a hole, or she has debt up to her eyeballs. But if she is already that wealthy, and still can't get into the entrepreneur headspace, then she's mentally incompatible.

[NathanDavis]

if you truly deserve and therefore, are worth... a richer-than-you-man

then you would have it already, or will find him eventually

and you should not care if it is "bad" or not... it will be your life and your choices, and it will be his life and his choices... lol

[Billlewis]

No, there's nothing wrong with that at all, and I think it's wonderful that you're comfortable acknowledging it.

[Daniela1982]

I think a lot of people would be in heaven to make 120K a year.

[Asker]

I live in a expensive area. My income is nice but not nice enough for a large family home. I sound ungrateful but, I’m incredibly grateful for the life I live. On the other hand, I believe you only get one life and I’d like to live mine in luxury.

[Daniela1982]

If that is where your heart is then go for it. Money does not automatically ensure happiness. Just ask all the lottery winners who had to file for bankruptcy after they blew their money.

[Anonymous]

No it's fine to believe it so long as you don't get pissed off and lash out when it inevitably doesn't happen. 😆

I'm not saying it CAN'T. I'm just saying the odds are mountainously stacked against it.

[Staximus]

You can invest your money wisely and make plenty more if you don't invest in dumb shit

[Asker]

I don't understand the stock market and I've heard for an average person there's not a likely high yield as much as you'll lose money. I’ll look into more but I’d prefer a stable chance at wealth over a gamble.

[Staximus]

I never said invest in the stock market. That's like betting money on horses if you don't know what you're doing. There's a lot more things to invest your money in

[Anonymous]

II isn't, But it's also not bad that a lot of Guys think they deserve a Virgin Girl they find Attractive.

[jahaims]

Nurturing is the only appealing thing you listed.

[KrakenAttackin]

Troll of the day award. 🏆

[LazerBean]

Yeah.

[Joker_]

could be