Why is it wrong for women to want to date a man who is well off?

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Life is hard when you are broke or struggling to make ends meet. Anyone that thinks it isn't, has never been broke or struggling to pay the bills. If women have a choice, what exactly is wrong with them wanting to date/marry someone in a higher tax bracket? PLEASE READ: I'M NOT SAYING SHE SHOULDN'T ALSO HAVE HER OWN MONEY AS WELL, but just this dumb idea that all that really matters is love and love is all you need isn't true. Love won't pay for a roof over your head, it won't put food on the table, it won't allow you to have a life that isn't just going to work until you both die.

DarkWinterNights · Accepted Answer

Nothing wrong with that. But you’re competing with literally every other single woman out there and statistically most men don’t meet most women’s qualifications and requirements. So the likelihood of finding, let alone getting the kind of man you think you deserve is low- like 0.05% low. And you can’t really blame regular 9-5 guys for passing you over when you get to the age that you decide you’ll just settle for said regular man.

The reality is while the trope has been for awhile that men treat women like objects, women treat men like bank accounts. The only real difference is one is socially unacceptable and the other is just fine.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

The point of a relationship is to work together to live out a vision you both desire.

There's nothing inherently wrong with wanting a man who is on your level or higher. The issue guys have is that some woman think that what men want out of a relationship is sex and a certain personality but all we want is someone to build a life with. And if you need the man to already have the money in order to believe that the vision for the life you want together is achievable, then we don't trust you and the relationship can only ever be worth so much to us.

Account · Accepted Answer

Not my cup of tea since I wouldn't want anyone to have any form of control over me and deep inside I am stupidly romantic in odd ways, but I do not consider that wrong.
It is whatever, people will talk regardless what you do or don't do. The key is to not allow it affect you.

Ecologygirl76 · Accepted Answer

The people who express their opinion on it being wrong are the men who are misogynists or the women who are bitter that they aren't pretty enough to snag a guy with money

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why is it wrong for men to want to date a much younger woman who is attractive and sexually uninhibited?

Levin · Answer

I don't think there is any issue with it.

Although there are a few implications.

A man who has prioritised amassing wealth and social power may have done so at the expense of the higher realms of consciousness. If this is the case I am not sympathetic if the guy is some kind of egotistical or self absorbed douchebag who treats her poorly. She has made the choice to prioritise this over anything else.

Of course, just because the guy is well off does not mean he's a dick. He may be well balanced individual, in which case, fine.

I also believe your outlook may be unbalanced in itself. A bit of a false dichotomisation which admittedly you could accuse me of, also. But really the choice generally isn't between poverty and wealth, most people are somewhere in the middle. Being comfortable is fine with me. You have to remember there is an opportunity cost. If the guy has to put in 80 hour weeks to accumulate his wealth, or overwise is highly stressed, then sorry, that's an awful kind of existence even if one has wealth. The image that comes in my mind is of these rather tragic aging celebrities. I can see they have all the wealth in the world. But inwardly, they have nothing. I can see it with my own eyes. They are wholly focused on externals. Inwardly, they are poor. And being inwardly sick, flimsy, spiritually poor, at the whimsy of the most basic of emotions such as fear. It is not much fun. It is beyond a dismal existence. And sure enough, we all shuffle off this mortal coil sooner rather than later.

QuickToAsk · Answer

It's not wrong, but it's highly tacky for a woman to say she wants it, is doing it, or even for other women to tell her she's fortunate for dating him & things of that nature. It would be like a guy saying he's dating a woman with really big breasts & other guys congratulating him on it & asking him if he's had sex with her yet. Think of how tacky it would be if you overheard this conversation taking place. It's like, certain things you want, but you don't talk about it. It makes you look like you're only into that one thing above all else. Peers will want you to to lock that cash, give advise as to not screw up because, after all, this guy's special! Date the guy, sure, but any conversations with peers will come across as highly gold diggerish & tacky. It'll be the female version of "Yo, man... Did you hit dat?"

DextroShade · Answer

It isn't wrong for women to want a wealthy man anymore than it is wrong for men to want a beautiful woman. That being said, women need to seriously consider what these men want and if they qualify. Just as a supermodel isn't going to date an unemployed guy living in his parent's basement, a high-value man isn't going to take women seriously if they are fat, have kids, have a high body count, have any history of sex work, or aren't feminine. Many women think that they are denial or exceptional when in truth they are just average and only qualify for average men. A high value man might fuck them but he would never take them seriously.

tremendousfern · Answer

Women will act like anything less than a 6 figure income is literal poverty tier to justify their coom-brained obsession with treating men as ATMs to drain dry so they can live the pampered life of luxury that social media tells them they deserve for possessing a pussy.

Read this post again, but imagine it's a guy lusting over only ever wanting to date women with huge boobs. That's how immature and silly this sounds.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

That makes perfect sense to me in the same way a man who cares deeply about the long-term future would favor a woman who is slim and active and in good health.

The only time I see it as wrong is if a man only dates a woman for her body while pretending to care about more, or if a woman only dates a man for his money while pretending to care about more.

Otherwise, I see nothing wrong with it. It's actually wise.

JacobJordan · Answer

Nothing wrong with dating a man who is well off. Provided you are a virgin, feminine, not fat, don't smoke, drink or do drugs have little interest in going out without him etc. Why should a wealthy man date any other type of woman? Lol nah. If I was single that and more would be my requirements. I don't need the bs that comes with women outside those requirements

captain_voidwalker · Answer

It's not that we think it's wrong It's that you need to understand that you and every other woman on the planet are going after the same man. So that man is never going to settle down, he dosen't have to. Once you get old he will just trade you in for a new younger model. If you want a man to commit to you you need to look for men on your level.

rebeliouse · Answer

guess it just depends on her motives if she is just after guy cos he is richer than her and thinks she gets a cushdy life then why would he be interested?

what does she have to offer / bring to the table?

why can't both parties be well off?

FunkyMonkee · Answer

The point is to want to be with him for who he is, the kind of person he is, NOT for how much is in his wallet!! Finding out he's got lots of money SHOULD be a bonus AFTER the fact, NOT the main attraction!

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not wrong. What’s wrong if she feels entitled to a rich man w nothing to bring to the table. That she deserves it just cause she deserves it. She feels like she’s a 10, that she deserves the best, won’t settle for anything less.

dustybiker2 · Answer

You might be sacrificing happier relationships simply for the comfort of easy living.

laly520 · Answer

on side note many girls were raised to think in that way they would grow up hearing to only settle down with wealthy guy

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Nothing wrong with wanting a man who can take care of his finances. Nothing wrong with me wanting a woman that can take care of her body.

Unit1 · Answer

Nobody cares. Date whoever you want. Go after Andrew Tate or Bill Gates or Jeff Bezos or Warren Buffet or 6ix9ine or Kanye West or whoever all you want.

Anonymous · Answer

Its okay if she has her own shit together as well. Otherwise she’s a bit of a financial burden and it looks like gold digging

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because its not her money.  If he can make himself well off, then so can she. No excuses.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Why do u even care? Like Jesus christ , it's not like you'll get a wealthy man.98.5% of the chicks here are airheads, insecure , unattractive, need therapy and have no personality.

Anonymous · Answer

the problem is dating the guy in the first place BECAUSE he has money. not any other reason. that being the main big reason.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

It's only wrong if that's the only reason. That's a gold digger

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