What turn's a guy off on the first date?

[ferrer6060]

[CallMeDave]

For me, there could be a lot of things.
- if she shows up more than a few minutes late without a really good reason
- if she's wearing too much makeup or anything else that makes her look fake
- if she smokes/vapes
- if she drinks heavily
- if she has obvious bold tattoos
- if she talks a lot about her ex and doesn't seem to be over him (an occasional mention if it's relevant to the conversation is fine)
- if she seems too interested in my financial situation
- if she checks her phone too often (a couple of times is OK)
- if she complains a lot about other people in her life (a few complaints are fine if she also says positive things about people - I just don't want someone that's constantly critical)
- if she's rude to the server or other people we encounter
- if she talks about herself non-stop and never asks anything about me
- if she doesn't seem to want to share anything about herself and just asks me lots of questions (it should be a balanced discussion sharing information)

Or anything else that tells me that she's not the kind of person I would want to be in a relationship with.

[openminded60]

Perfect

[JackSmy]

Mostly just not taking the time to really get to know someone enough, as a person, before just writing them off.
Some have been quick looks, and a few words, then an excuse to the restroom and never returning.
At least have the decency to say, 'not my type' or better, if not too impatient and judgmental, take a while to talk and maybe see if the other is something of a 'Diamond' under the 'rough edges'.
I've almost missed some great experiences, and having some great friends and companions, just using my 'first impression' judgment!!

[Skyrim5346]

Simply give them the benefit of
Doubt this might sound kind of messed up and Corny but think about it like crab the shell is just on the outside the good parts are on the inside🕊🕊🕊

[Tommie21]

I could do without women that should otherwise be mature, being very shy and quiet. I wind up doing all the talking and usually end our date early. On the other side of the spectrum, I don't like women who come off like they have done everything there is to do. My cousin got me a date with a good friend of hers and I went over to the woman's house of which I had never met. I went in to her house, sat on the couch and talked to her a bit, which was very awkward because she didn't say much. It was very close to Halloween and I asked her if she wanted to go through a haunted house? She told me sure. The walk through was well done and I thought some of the goblins and such were some of the best I've ever seen. My date was telling me (yawn, yawn) I'm so scared. We finished the walk through and I dumped off at her house and never saw her again. I asked my cousin how she could be friends with such a creep?

[beldath]

That's all a matter of perspective.
The main ones I'm sure we can all agree on is not focusing discussions on your ex... or even bringing him/her up really. (That can come later in small. doses unless it's a specific conversation)
Assuming it's in a public place, stay off the phone, and ignore the TV behind their head. (Again, if something comes up in conversation, go ahead and show a picture or meme, but get off that phone.)
Bragging constantly is annoying too. I didn't call a girl for a second date because she kept bragging how she was better than everyone else at all of her jobs, and how they were stupid, and just wouldn't stop.
Past that it's really specific guys preferences.

[jcclifton]

Four me. Now that you've asked. There could be a hand full
Of things, maybe two. Does this mean I'm a picky bitch..
I guess I could make a list.

#1- Personal Hygiene.
#2- Her language.
#3- IF she has a bad attitude. .
#4- IF she was to spit in public.

I guess there's a lot of thing that I could sit here think up all kinds
critical bull shit I should not be thinking about be Four a date.

I think the that booth of us should go into the date open minded
and willing to have a good time.

What I'm looking for is if she hot.
Dressed provocative, maybe I'll get lucky.

NO. NO. NO.
I hope she's out going, smart, confident, independent
and just wanting to have a good time.

[BBFDancer]

- if she talks about herself non-stop and never asks anything about me

- if she checks her phone too often

- if she's wearing too much makeup

- if she's rude to the server or other people we encounter

- if she talks a lot about her ex and doesn't seem to be over him (an occasional mention if it's relevant to the conversation is fine).

-I can't understand her when she talks.

-Smoking or Dipping or drinking beer or wine.

-Talking bad about Animals and kids.

-Swearing uses God's name, Jesus Christ's name, and Holy Spirit's name in vain.

[openminded60]

Agreed

[litenen]

Well I'll tell you one thing first dates are awkward but the more comfortable the atmosphere the less people around I think walks a great way to talk about things that pop up just by seeing them even if there isn't anything you haven't, at least the day will go up but sometimes people have a problem with bringing up things that they into don't be afraid you're into the state for a reason tell them if you're into a lien so what not if you like believe in UFOs are you like stargazing if you don't like it at all tell him if you like to hang out with pajamas and watch TV and cuddle in front of a movie I think that's very important even on the first date because you know life is p shot so I'm assuming you don't get along with and if you are into someone you really do think that you will get along with them show them on the first date grab the hands hold them because you might not get another chance

[Lucky1974]

For me personally a real turn off is a date that is formal and disingenuous; I am a very sincere person, therefore I don’t like to give the impression that I’m better than I am. I am reasonably polite, and reasonably politically-correct, but not to the extent that I would compromise my personality. Therefore if a woman wants a man who is overly pretentious, polite and respectful then I’m not for her.

[BrianTG78]

I really don't appreciate when someone wastes my time and wears on my emotions. It really drains me when we maintain a steady conversation and all is well... then when it's date night the communication drops to almost nothing. It's even worse if I'm picking her up and there are surprise tasks added to the agenda.

[Magicstar]

Turn off include: judgmental /steadfastly opinionated without factual Merritt to support the stand; texting or on phone, knowing too much about the place we are at, wanting to have sex on first date... even though we may have been talking for a week or more, I do not do sex on first or even second date.

[Magicstar]

Oh, and please, let me pay, the first time.

[anshubeta]

When you over explain yourself or talk about your ex boyfriend's or simply don't communicate with him

[Liston]

1. if she doesn't display a sense of humour and complains a bit too much or treats the staff with disdain.
2. If she doesn't have a fairly wide curiosity of the world or is simply closed minded.
3. if she is not a real conversationalist and focuses too much on herself.
4. If she has even the slightest tendency to racism.

[ChillMatic]

Receiving a set of rules and regulations regarding how he must act or behave. Instead of letting the man be who he is and making the decision to be with him based on that. Some men conform to what a woman asks just because they want to be with them so badly.

[Dystopian]

Omg.. this can be so many things. But assuming the girl isn't horrendous and mostly well-adjusted, I'd say it's simply a lack of a connection.
Men have feelings just as much as women do (even if we've usually been taught from a young age that we should suppress them) and if there's no chemistry, there's nothing.

[integrale77]

Constantly checking her phone.
Having numerous pets in the bedroom watching while trying to gives her a seeing to.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm big on grooming and punctuality. you knew we had a date and you knew what time it was. look nice and groomed and be on time. circumstances aside, i can wait 30 minutes, but invite a guy in.

[Chill_Meta]

1. Financial questions to see if a guy makes enough for greedy spending habits.

2. Excessive amounts of talking about nothing, overly opinionated biased subjects, and materialistic behavior

3. Sheer bad attitude overall (unnecessary bitchiness)
A little is always expected though

[theCobbler]

What makes it rain here, and not 100' away? Where does the white go , when the snow melts? ,
Your gonna have to ak the guy , your interested in that, ... just like personalities, everyone is different! For me , it would be the lack of Stimulating conversation, Knowing one another's Life/Sex/Family/ desires, ... ask! If he/ she doesn't want t ok answer... don't push it ,! All good things... n... All good time!

[Burtonfan]

I think it would be not being present in the moment would be the biggest. I wouldn't be on a date with her if she was a selfish, superficial, always texting, insecure, with ex boyfriend issues in the first place as I get to know someone a bit before asking them out on a date.

[sweet87]

Constantly playing with their phone, talking non stop about their friends or ex's, asking if I want kids (I've just met you, steady on!) Bad teeth as horrible as that sounds it's just something that turns me off. just be yourself and if we click we click and if we don't thanks for a lovely evening, who can say fairer than that?

[Skyrim5346]

I don't think about that too much I try too be as forgiving as possible since I figured this out because I didn't make a good impression on the first date more than several times so it's much easier to be forgiving

[sunsurfer0812]

If the woman I'm on the date with, doesn't have the courtesy to mute her phone and not look at it every 39 seconds.
If you're not that interested in me, then just tell me. I'm a big boy. You're not going to hurt my feelings.

[OnionSilk]

Showing too much interest in the guy will make him complacent

[MrMilti]

When she only talks about herself and is not interested at all in what I have to say.

[ShadezMcgee]

Texting on phone constantly, no good conversation, rude and disrespectful, talking about other men or ex boyfriends in general, no effort put into trying to make the date fun,

[MrHopper]

Worst date i ever had we went for coffee.. 45 minutes later she hadn't finished as she spent the whole time not stopping talking... i barely said a word

[complexthinker]

Turnoffs for me include maturity level or I should say the lack of. A lady who only talks about herself not having topics to talk about and being on the phone

[RobDude82]

Any personality traits that might indicate she's narcissistic/a bitch, and (tbh dates and txting with girls in general) having to make all the effort with the questions/conversation.

[Ianto]

Paying too much attention to the handsom waiter is a bit of a turn off.

[fgalvan]

Flirty and touching of the arm and standing close any contact. Shows they like you. And looking into my eyes

[fgalvan]

Sorry miss read didn't see the off disregard above... First date turn off asking for money for their bills. And to pay for friends

[cloud9vortex1234]

Casually texting your phone, or talking on it.
Being rude to the server.
Bad Hygiene
No sense of humor
Only Coming for the Free Meal
Not trying to engage in a conversation
Being excessively late

[Dusty_06]

Typically either of us having to talk about to the point where either of us start to tear up. Kind of a buzz kill