For me, there could be a lot of things.
- if she shows up more than a few minutes late without a really good reason
- if she's wearing too much makeup or anything else that makes her look fake
- if she smokes/vapes
- if she drinks heavily
- if she has obvious bold tattoos
- if she talks a lot about her ex and doesn't seem to be over him (an occasional mention if it's relevant to the conversation is fine)
- if she seems too interested in my financial situation
- if she checks her phone too often (a couple of times is OK)
- if she complains a lot about other people in her life (a few complaints are fine if she also says positive things about people - I just don't want someone that's constantly critical)
- if she's rude to the server or other people we encounter
- if she talks about herself non-stop and never asks anything about me
- if she doesn't seem to want to share anything about herself and just asks me lots of questions (it should be a balanced discussion sharing information)
Or anything else that tells me that she's not the kind of person I would want to be in a relationship with.
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Mostly just not taking the time to really get to know someone enough, as a person, before just writing them off.
Some have been quick looks, and a few words, then an excuse to the restroom and never returning.
At least have the decency to say, 'not my type' or better, if not too impatient and judgmental, take a while to talk and maybe see if the other is something of a 'Diamond' under the 'rough edges'.
I've almost missed some great experiences, and having some great friends and companions, just using my 'first impression' judgment!!
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I could do without women that should otherwise be mature, being very shy and quiet. I wind up doing all the talking and usually end our date early. On the other side of the spectrum, I don't like women who come off like they have done everything there is to do. My cousin got me a date with a good friend of hers and I went over to the woman's house of which I had never met. I went in to her house, sat on the couch and talked to her a bit, which was very awkward because she didn't say much. It was very close to Halloween and I asked her if she wanted to go through a haunted house? She told me sure. The walk through was well done and I thought some of the goblins and such were some of the best I've ever seen. My date was telling me (yawn, yawn) I'm so scared. We finished the walk through and I dumped off at her house and never saw her again. I asked my cousin how she could be friends with such a creep?
That's all a matter of perspective.
The main ones I'm sure we can all agree on is not focusing discussions on your ex... or even bringing him/her up really. (That can come later in small. doses unless it's a specific conversation)
Assuming it's in a public place, stay off the phone, and ignore the TV behind their head. (Again, if something comes up in conversation, go ahead and show a picture or meme, but get off that phone.)
Bragging constantly is annoying too. I didn't call a girl for a second date because she kept bragging how she was better than everyone else at all of her jobs, and how they were stupid, and just wouldn't stop.
Past that it's really specific guys preferences.Four me. Now that you've asked. There could be a hand full
Of things, maybe two. Does this mean I'm a picky bitch..
I guess I could make a list.
#1- Personal Hygiene.
#2- Her language.
#3- IF she has a bad attitude. .
#4- IF she was to spit in public.
I guess there's a lot of thing that I could sit here think up all kinds
critical bull shit I should not be thinking about be Four a date.
I think the that booth of us should go into the date open minded
and willing to have a good time.
What I'm looking for is if she hot.
Dressed provocative, maybe I'll get lucky.
NO. NO. NO.
I hope she's out going, smart, confident, independent
and just wanting to have a good time.- if she talks about herself non-stop and never asks anything about me
- if she checks her phone too often
- if she's wearing too much makeup
- if she's rude to the server or other people we encounter
- if she talks a lot about her ex and doesn't seem to be over him (an occasional mention if it's relevant to the conversation is fine).
-I can't understand her when she talks.
-Smoking or Dipping or drinking beer or wine.
-Talking bad about Animals and kids.
-Swearing uses God's name, Jesus Christ's name, and Holy Spirit's name in vain.Well I'll tell you one thing first dates are awkward but the more comfortable the atmosphere the less people around I think walks a great way to talk about things that pop up just by seeing them even if there isn't anything you haven't, at least the day will go up but sometimes people have a problem with bringing up things that they into don't be afraid you're into the state for a reason tell them if you're into a lien so what not if you like believe in UFOs are you like stargazing if you don't like it at all tell him if you like to hang out with pajamas and watch TV and cuddle in front of a movie I think that's very important even on the first date because you know life is p shot so I'm assuming you don't get along with and if you are into someone you really do think that you will get along with them show them on the first date grab the hands hold them because you might not get another chance
For me personally a real turn off is a date that is formal and disingenuous; I am a very sincere person, therefore I don’t like to give the impression that I’m better than I am. I am reasonably polite, and reasonably politically-correct, but not to the extent that I would compromise my personality. Therefore if a woman wants a man who is overly pretentious, polite and respectful then I’m not for her.
I really don't appreciate when someone wastes my time and wears on my emotions. It really drains me when we maintain a steady conversation and all is well... then when it's date night the communication drops to almost nothing. It's even worse if I'm picking her up and there are surprise tasks added to the agenda.
Turn off include: judgmental /steadfastly opinionated without factual Merritt to support the stand; texting or on phone, knowing too much about the place we are at, wanting to have sex on first date... even though we may have been talking for a week or more, I do not do sex on first or even second date.
When you over explain yourself or talk about your ex boyfriend's or simply don't communicate with him
1. if she doesn't display a sense of humour and complains a bit too much or treats the staff with disdain.
2. If she doesn't have a fairly wide curiosity of the world or is simply closed minded.
3. if she is not a real conversationalist and focuses too much on herself.
4. If she has even the slightest tendency to racism.
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