Can a woman be considered attractive and never get approached by guys?

[Anonymous]

Or are all beautiful women often desired? I’m told I’m attractive, I think I’m average. Most attractive women I know have been approached by guys often, especially guys they’d want to date.

I am 25 and can name a few times I’ve been approached, all by ugly guys. The last guy I saw was back in 2018 and I met him online. He had a good personality but was not attractive, I had to settle for him because no one better came along. I should have waited and kept my standards. He was ugly but had previous girlfriends he met online, all of them were cute.

I’ve been on dating apps for years and only ugly guys have come my way, creeps and still am always single. If he can find someone so easily then why can’t I? Does it mean I’m ugly if I only attract ugly guys?

Yes

No

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

It can because of a few reasons.
1. Men assume you're taken
2. Men assume you're uptight and self-absorbed
3. Men also fear rejection and may feel inadequate.

But there are other factors to consider well. How you present yourself, where you go to meet people etc.

Then there is the factor of less attractive people having a mindset of simply going for it because they, in a less polite way to put it, are desperate. And have nothing to loose. They are aware of how they look and frustration might drive them to be persistent, but that is just my theory.

[_SOARER_]

Its about what image you present, if you look miserable all the time, no one will approach you.
if you seem friendly, more people will approach you.

Attractive women usually have less men approaching them directly, because it takes courage. Ugly guys have nothing to lose and play the numbers game, so they are more likely to approach women.

Just be patient, and friendly. The right guys will come along.

[Anonymous]

I have the exact same problem. I’ve literally had guys on the street stop me to tell me I’m beautiful but then online the guys I’m attracted to ghost me and the ones I’m not won’t leave me alone. I’ve also only slept with guys I’m not attracted to bc eventually I break down and that’s all I can get and it doesn’t feel good. Also in public like at bars or the grocery store the only guys that actually ask my number are creepy or weird or old or ugly. Anyway sorry this wasn’t helpful but you’re not alone :(

[Olieegrant]

No ugly guys will shoot their shot no matter what you look like.
if you're not attracting the type of man that you want and maybe your attitude and not your looks, you may not be coming off as attractive to them because of what you may have said or how you act

[AestheticLife]

Doesn’t mean you’re ugly. I got the same issue as a dude. You just need to figure out what works for you, I meet attractive girls through connections then I do tinder. As for approaching at least now most guys won’t. They all got stories of doing it and some girl embarrassed them in front of everyone and did it cold.

If you want better looking dudes make it more obvious subtlety. If you can’t pull then you either aren’t as good looking as you think. Not trying to be mean.

[nerms123]

Try asking another anonymous question with a few of your dating profile photos then maybe we can help more

[anshubeta]

Yes because since you are attractive many think you as out of reach so they intend to not to initiate
Also it can be that you might appear arrogant to others

[OnionSilk]

Intimidation is a huge factor
That's why you can't be afraid to make the first move sometimes

[GreatnessBack]

You say never get approached, but then you say you do, but by ugly guys.
So, your do her approached, so find a way to make it but good looking guys.

[Anonymous]

It’s 2019 why don’t you women approach guys you like. Given the current climate many guys are afraid to approach women so it makes sense for women to approach men

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, especially today. Approaching women is a very risky thing for men now, and any woman that gives off a certain vibe is likely to not get approached for obvious reasons.

[BrotherFrost]

Absolutely. A 9 or a 10 is approached as much as a 3 and 4, although for opposite reasons.

[nightowl_28]

Yes but I'm an ugly guy so it doesn't mean much

[COMMODOREII]

Hell yeah. High maintenance.

[MannMitAntworten]

It is actually common.

[Aphrodite801]

Lol you are approached just by ugly ones