Bailed on me twice, what’s going on?

[Anonymous]

We have been on two dates and we have made out once after the second date. He asked me out again... He had plans with me on Saturday and then bailed 10 mins before seeing me saying that he had a family thing... and rescheduled for the next day... next day comes and he then said he didn’t feel well like half an hour before meeting me and said can we do tomorrow? I feel if he didn’t like me he wouldn’t keep trying to reschedule but at the same time, am I even important to him at this point? I wanna be understanding but also being stood up two nights in a row kinda blows 🧐 at first didn’t respond and then he said “that’s if you don’t hate me now” I ignored it and half an hour later he said he knows he was lame for cancelling. After then responding he hasn’t said anything since

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Thanks for the advice. Appreciate it!

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+1 y

So he did end up coming over things got a little hawt! But he said he wanted to wait to do the deed sooo... now we are one day later and he’s hugging me but only saying he wants me to want more

[Screenwriter]

Sounds wishy washy. I don't know that you should spend any more of your time on this guy. There are others who will show up and not cancel at the last minute. There's no excuse for that.

[MissDawn7961]

give him one more chance to date you again ! if he cancels out then go on with your life without him in it ! for he evidently has no time for you at all now

[ecfresh]

He’s dating more than one person. At this moment you are the backup plan. That’s why he keeps making plans, in case the woman he is really into cancels on him.

[Asker]

Well that sucks... how can I be sure he’s seeing someone else?

[ecfresh]

You can’t be sure but if it’s a pattern of him bailing why would you keep accepting anyway? People can date more than one person at a time. Even if he isn’t, my rule is always 3 strikes and you are out. So far he missed twice, so in my opinion if he ghosts again then just move on.

[ecfresh]

by the way it does suck! Everyone wants to feel valued and excited when dating someone. When that person can’t even make time to see you it hurts. Hopefully it really was extraordinary circumstances and he steps up to date and woo you like you deserve

[Asker]

Thank you. That makes me feel a little better...:)

[ecfresh]

You are welcome. My guy ‘mr fix it hat’ was on in the 1st paragraph. Then I remembered to apply some emotional empathy because you mentioned your feelings. Ha ha gotta cover both basis in communication. I am sure you will be just fine!

[Asker]

No worries. I did ask. Haha

[Karl1982]

Move on. Your time is more important than this. Or give him one more chance. It's up to you how much self respect you have.

[Asker]

I feel like if he bailed on me tomorrow I’m gonna be done but I think if he’s actually sick I have to be able to excuse him for that!

[Karl1982]

Ok, one more chance. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[Screenwriter]

He's sick and he knows he'll be well a day later? Sounds like an excuse again. The two days in a row is what bothers me. It's too much.

[Asker]

That’s what I thought? Doesn’t feel well but promising tomorrow?

[Karl1982]

Maybe he's about to level on some video game he is playing... Definitely be good to go out tomorrow.

[Asker]

Lol oh good

[Karl1982]

Sorry, my sarcasm gets the best of me sometimes. It's up to you on if you're will to accept his excuses. If you're giving him one more chance... Stick to it, no more after that.

[Asker]

Deal. Thanks :)

[Screenwriter]

He just came over? Didn't take you out after bailing twice? Why don't you slow this roll. You barely know each other. Date some more before you bed hop. And have him take you out... See if this excuse stuff is some sort of pattern... I'd investigate before I'd do more than make out..

[genericname85]

i think he was too insecure or nervous and didn't know what to do. so he bailed.

[HusamRocks]

You're being silly, they're only two days so what's the big deal

[Asker]

Bailing on someone two days in a row?

[HusamRocks]

Duh yea so what?
You should see what I do sometimes 😂

[LaVillaStrangiato]

He's hiding shit from you. in my opinion
Move on, girl.

[loveslongnails]

Isn't it obvious he has better things to do... than be with you? Dump him. He is lame.

[Justin98k]

It's hard to say without more context, but it seems like maybe he wasn't feeling the vibe and is too anxious to say so?

[Asker]

Why would he keep rescheduling if he doesn’t feel it. Doesn’t make any sense? His coworker said he didn’t look too good leaving work so I wanna believe it buuuttt we’ll see.

[Justin98k]

I mean, it's entirely possible that what he's saying is true. However, anxiety could be a clue if he's just not interested, but terrified to break it to you. I'd wait and see

[Asker]

I guess see what he says tomorrow

[Screenwriter]

If he finally comes through, he'd better do some incredible song and dance routine to make up for two misses!!! We'd all like the hear what happens!! Good luck...

[Asker]

Haha I’ll let ya know!!!

[Joker_]

Something is definitely going on

[legalboxers]

walk away!

[Nahid1707]

Move on