Omg, im sorry to hear that. That sounds terrible!But i agree with you, my very first relationship i was totally submissive and was basically bullied into everything and now i feel disgusted looking back because im not that kind of a person. I think the older we get the wiser we get and realjze we have a voice and to always use it. I notice the same. I try to keep an even balance but i won't be submissive to any man unless its occasionally in the bedroom.At the end of the day, I've learned men respect the more assertive woman anyways, and some healthy assertion never hurt anyone anyways.Thanks for your comment, as always so well said❤️☺️
Ah I’m sorry I’m glad you see out of that.. for real. You are quite a force From what I have seen.. I never would have guessed it. ❤️🌹In my case it was s but lies complicated bc it was as a Choi’s my relationship between myself and my legal guardian. I left at 15 and I’ve been becoming more and more myself ever since and I love it. It’s Like meeting a long list friend.. I can recognize myself from when I was 6.. then I was taken over by sone other life form and jus I’m Back. But older lol
Awwh thanks🥰 definatly something thats happend with age! LolAnd omg, you left at 15 and moved in with a guy? Girlll Wow. I think that was my dream at that age but i can't imagine if i actually did it. Or had them as my legal guadriam. I can see why u felt u had to listen to him. Im so glad u got out of that and it seems to have made u the person you are today❤️❤️🥰
Nooo I’m sorry I didn’t explain that well 🤦♀️😁I was living with my legal guardian from age 7 to 15 I walked out when I was too tall for her to stop me. Luckily she was relieved to have me gone, and did not call the authorities. Though I don’t think she’d want the embarrassment. Height was always a sore spot growing up as a child, but it really helped me get work.. People took me more seriously and assumed I was older. I rented a room from some cousins of a person I had volunteered with- I was old enough to rent on my own. Lol that would make QUITE a movie.. moved out at 15 with boyfriend who was also legal guardian 😅😅❤️
I always felt you had a spark about you that caught my attention. You have a strong spirit and i love your strong will. I agree with about the reality of just being a person and not trying to dominate or be submissive. You can always count me to never seek submission from you, i have too much respect for you. On your thoughts about sex I too believe to is a sensual experience that two people can enjoy and it never is about trying to over power the other partner. I love seeing the person you are and have with all my heart great respect for you. My friend, my equal. ☺🌹
@VIVANT I feel exactly the same way about sex.
Sorry for grammar and spelling, walking and typing in the cold is a bitch lol
Sounds like the guys i usually go for. Lol
a big pussy in the real world who only gets his own back in private :)
Hahaha, well said😄👍
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Awwwh jean🙈I mean i can understand that, you seem very easy going. Usually that stems from childhood too. Was your mom the more assertive parent?
Not really, my mom has been pretty much absent from my life and we are getting back in touch only now.My sister did educate me though and I had to do what she said, so I guess that could be a reason.
Awwh im sorry. Glad y'all are getting re aquainted thoughAnd awhh yeah that totally makes sense. That is why then. Crazy how we kind of hold onto these things subconciously and dont really even realize it
Awwh thats so cool! I've found relationships where friendship came first soo much more rewarding❤️
Me too! 😊 😊 😊
She sounds fun!
Also I don't think me dominating makes him emasculated or it creates any power dynamic. It's just me wanting to express my passion in bed. In the end it all comes down to both of us enjoying and fulfilling one another, having effective communication, and HAVE FUN IT'S JUST SEX. I'd be worried if a man thinks a dominant wife makes him emasculated. And this is coming from a girl who wants a man that can provide for the family, be a respon man who can take the lead and be a good role model to our children on what a true man should be like.
Smart man:)I think it comes with age to understand this. I think its important for a guy to be dominant in the beginning but after that its in their better interest to let the woman take charge. Leads to a lot less fights:)
yes! men learn eventually.. its not that she has the balls or the pants, it's that he has the heart know who has the priority and value! It's nature... watch bumble bees... she hangs out in the nest... he flies to his death protecting. That's the order of things... he is a sacrifice! I see young guys doing this for their women too... working 2 jobs, etc.. Her job... respect him! If she cannot, she must learn or move on.It's the egg and the sperm as well... The sperm is a tiny aggressive runt that gets consumed and controlled!:)
Lol id think itd be totally opposite!
Yeah, I don't know. For some reason when a girl is small, skinny, and almost pathetically weak it just feels better to let her take control more and I like it that way. Like if she was so wimpy that as an adult a 6th grader could legitimately beat her up I would find her so hot and want to let her be dominant so much more. I just wish I could find a wimpy pathetic girl that was a good match for me for a relationship. :P
Lol typical you hear men say they can toss you around a lot easier or get called a spinner. I would know because im one of them😄But its interesting ur take. Definatly something new
Tbh i think a lot of men are like this though, they just dont say it
My humor is always way over the top. But I have to say that there's a lot of truth to it. You will see a lot of people in power who seek to be dominated better partner. Like a CEO of a major corporation. Sometimes they make the alpha dog thing look easy but it often takes more effort than you would think. Mentally, you have got to be on your game. so for a lot of these guys, when they're done running the world for the day, they secretly love to come home and be dominated. I have never really met the right partner for it, but if I did I think I would submit. It sounds sexy and I think it would be a lot of fun. I'm not saying I'm interested in being the Gimp from Pulp Fiction. But within reason I would let her do what she wanted. :)And you're absolutely right that there are a lot of guys who are interested and won't talk about it. I guess they feel will be judged harshly or something like that. I personally think society represses us enough. I'm not going to repress myself and lie or hold back when it comes to sex. I was in a marriage for 12 years where there was little to no sexual communication. That was like pushing around a wheelbarrow full of suck. I'm never going to let that happen again.
This! Very smart at 16.Thanks for your comment:)
Thanks Miss! It's Even smarter if you to clearly get the meaning.
Of you *
I believe the same but i also have a dominating personality i realize so thats hard for me to even do. I think there's a time and a place
If you only are summisive when your husband do what you like then it is no real summision. 😂
Girl i agree 100% with that!
Lol okay? Sounds personal
Im the same way! But i also think it depends on the nature of the guy
True if they're shy then im a little more dominate
I know right
you're young, i was like that too.Wait a few years, itll happen❤️
I wouldn't have assumed this from you actually lolI always thought u seemed to be nicer and kind of let the girl take the reigns
I am a Man before I am kind haha :pKindness =/= submissiveness
Omggg😋😋Well this is a good to know
I actually think opposite. Most men come to be a little of both as they age.
Lol hmm I don't know about that.I ususally come off submissive in the beginning but its an act. Then my dominant side comes out when i start feeling comfortable
This is true!
Alas … a woman who admits it !! LOL
Yeah, I would want to be dominant in a way that makes her feel liberated and open. Like I'm really seeing her and connecting with her.Riding roughshod would just be doing what I want regardless of what she wanted
This wasn't about sex but ok👍
Oh, this is the first time this type of question wasn't about sex. But then again, isn't it?
Lol that may change with age, i used to be the same
No I want to be like that forever, its just me
Thats good. Just learn to keep a balance of the two!
Lol, I'll try
Get it girlll💪💪