Would you like to be the dominating person or the submissive one in the relationship?

[Elena_Stewart]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I have to be the dominant one. I become way too lazy when I'm with women who take on the dominant role and make the executive decisions that impact the both of us. I was with one like that long ago who moved into my apartment and took over the entire place and I became like a lazy boy just wanting to watch TV and play video games all the time while she told me what to do. I ended up breaking up with her not because I disliked her but I disliked the way I was becoming with her.

I'm admittedly lazy from time to time even in the dominant role as well, yet being the dominant leader brings out my best and most responsible side. I excel in situations where people look up to me to lead. It brings out my most responsible side that looks out for others and protects them from harm's way.

Yet I think most people think of dominance in an extreme way. I subscribe to the Servant Leadership Model in both business and the household:

>> Servant leadership is a leadership style that prioritizes the growth, well-being, and empowerment of employees. It aims to foster an inclusive environment that enables everyone in the organization to thrive as their authentic self.

So the needs of my followers come first above my own. I'm allergic to micromanaging and being bossy and only become so (begrudgingly) in cases where people are thoroughly out of line. Instead my priority is to listen carefully to people, resolve conflicts, and try to make the best decisions that impact everyone. I also only take on a leadership role in situations where it's needed.

The analogy I like to use is the burning building. It's important to me that I'm with a woman (thankfully my wife is like this) who trusts me to guide our family to safety and won't challenge me for the leadership role. Yet if she says, "Hey, I think there's a shorter path to the exit this way!" I'll go with her idea while still leading. It's not my job to come up with the ideas as I see it but to pick the best idea. My job at the end of the day is to be the last one to leave the burning building and the first one to die if someone has to die. To be dominant as I see it is to take on the ultimate responsibility of resolving conflicts and protecting others from harm; that if someone should be harmed by my executive decisions, it should be me as I made the decision for all of us.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Assertive women are also a must for me. Since my ultimate goal is to look after her well-being, she has to let me know what she wants, criticize my ideas if they think they're bad, because I'm blind as a leader trying to prioritize her well-being above mine if she doesn't even let me know what she thinks and wants. I can't be the responsible leader I need to be if I'm with a woman who just agrees with everything I say.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

[*] criticize my ideas if [she thinks] they're bad [...]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Another is that it's very important to me that a woman has leadership qualities of her own. I like to use the analogy of a first officer. My wife is my metaphorical first officer. While she trusts me to make the executive decisions, I also trust her to be a very capable leader if I'm away, incapacitated, or dead. If I should die in that metaphorical burning building, it will be up to her now to guide our family to safety. A great first officer doesn't challenge the captain for leadership but also still has leadership qualities of his/her own, and a great first officer is the type of woman most compatible with me.

[Elena_Stewart]

Very nice strategies and thoughts🙂

[Elena_Stewart]

I like your style of leadership 👍🏻👍🏻

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers!

[Squatting_Slav]

In my day-to-day life I'm naturally assertive I'll aim to get what I want and do what I want and dislike being told what to do inherently unless it's on a collaborative team based level i. e. work or sports etc.

I'm drawn to 'dominant' and submissive' women just as equally but in nature a dominant and dominant relationship might cause some clashes. It would be a powerhouse relationship for sure though.

having said that, i do like a woman who is assertive and driven as this is on my level. Super hot

[Elena_Stewart]

Nice🙂

[Jennz6]

@squatting_slav pick me because I’m submissive

[Squatting_Slav]

@Jennz6 👌

[Jennz6]

@squatting_slav thank you sweetheart

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I can be both… Depending on what situation asks from me and what mood I am in. I don’t like overpowering a man with my dominance, can I do that? I probably can… Do I want that? I don’t… Because what’s the point? I am not interested to scare him off, am I? I don’t want to make him think of himself as being somehow Less…

Then relationships would not be so fun…

I want him to think of him as being his best and happiest version by my side.

Woman is, in either case, the dominant partner, it’s your choice which road you choose, dominate by overpowering or empowering. I choose empowering a man, and dominate by being giving to him.

In that case, woman’s wish becomes his wish. Woman’s desire becomes his desire and his ultimate happiness is making his woman feel happy while being happy and content himself.

I think being aggressively dominant puts men off. Why should we do that? I won’t do that, unless he asks for it. And even if he does, I would rarely enjoy that.

The balance is the key.

My dominant character will play out, but there’s no need for it to play out between me and him, I can show my dominance at work, in daily life, anywhere I set my foot in.

But hopefully, with him I can let my guard down and be myself, which is not quite so strong and dominant, as I often appear to be.

[Elena_Stewart]

Well said🙂

[elizamichale1]

I am an extreme kind of submissive person

[Bricealan]

@elizamichale1... I would never have thought that!! I thought you were a combination of both qualities and took a middle ground!

[elizamichale1]

@Bricealan noo not really... i just do wht i m told to

[Bricealan]

@elizamichale1 ... and you are alright with that?

[elizamichale1]

@Bricealan yea i m

[Bricealan]

@elizamichale1 I guess I am just a little surprised.

[elizamichale1]

@Bricealan why? I mean do i really give an impression of a dom? I m often told tht it was an easy guess tht i m a sub

[Bricealan]

@elizamichale1 I would have thought you were NEITHER a sub or a dom. I thought you were a free thinker that did what SHE wanted, when she wanted

[elizamichale1]

@Bricealan tht i do but when i m with someone i m his sub

[Bricealan]

@elizamichale1 Not a dom either. I just thought you were more neutral when it came to being either sub or dom. Kinda in between, and not being either of the two extremes.

[elizamichale1]

@Bricealan yea understood honey... i m more natural till i m with someone

[Jennz6]

@elizamichale1 me too 🥰💕

[elizamichale1]

@Jennz6 😘😘

[HawkPerception]

Sexually, definitely dominant. I prefer to be the one tying the girl up, bending them over, spanking them, gagging them, etc.

But overall, I don't care to be dominant in the relationship. I prefer making decisions together. Having someone that's your equal and to sail through with in life knowing that you support them and they support you.

[Elena_Stewart]

First part😳
Kidding😁

[HawkPerception]

Lmao 😂 basically I want a slave in the bedroom, but not in life 😅

[Elena_Stewart]

Lmao…..

[Elena_Stewart]

So, 50 shades of gray😁

[HawkPerception]

I've actually never watched it. Felt it was more for girls. But yeah let's go with that 😂

[Elena_Stewart]

👍🏻😁

[RebelinSteel]

I’ve always been dominant, sexually I get zero from trying to be submissive but do being Dominant. In the relationship itself then I’m Dominant unless it comes down to picking colours and wallpaper, then I take the back seat lol.

[Elena_Stewart]

Ok😁

[Bricealan]

Neither. I want a relationship that I can feel my partner is an equal person and NEVER had to feel that she was with someone who was domineering or a door mat, whatever that takes to have.

[Elena_Stewart]

Nice👍🏻🙂

[NathanDavis]

I like to switch it up...

but I'm also naturally inclined to switching it up on the spot...

[Elena_Stewart]

Alluring….

[sawno]

Equals outside of the bedroom, switches inside the bedroom.

[Elena_Stewart]

Switches to what exactly😁

[sawno]

Orgasm Control SM. So stuff like edging, orgasm denial, forced orgasm play (If she can handle them and likes that, I get to sensitive as a receiver so I can only do it as a dom, not to be confused with non-consent play, its the kind where you make your partner cum over and over until she can't take it anymore and is begging for it to stop).

In general I love that dynamic where you tease your partner relentlessly using their own pleasure against them to make their build-up and orgasms as intense as possible, and then they eagerly seek revenge by doing the same to you. So in a way thats also equals, but equals switching places on who is going to be the dominant that time. Whoever feels like domming would take charge that night.

[Berethor]

I don't care about it much, but I prefer to be dominant as I don't trust most women to lead.

[Jennz6]

@berethor 🥰💯💕

[Berethor]

Didn't expected to get likes from you girls but looks like submissive girls don't mind. :)

[Jennz6]

@berethor I need a Dom

[Yannae]

I just want us both to be happy. If I have to lead for that, so be it. I have no preference towards one or the other.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't dominate as it looks weak and super insecure.

I only dominate her in a sexual setting, but would lead in the relationship without being dominate.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Neither, I don't like the dom/sub dynamic when in a relationship.

[Luckycharms12]

I'm layed back and easy going but dominating when I need to be

[Surely]

It is fun to be either. For a change of pace!

[Jennz6]

I have always been the submissive one

[Jennz6]

@elena_stewart Real guys are not submissive

[Elena_Stewart]

Like what (Surely) said “It is fun to be either. For a change of pace!”🙂

[Minahh]

@Jennz6 that's not true

[Jennz6]

@elena_stewart but girls should be obedient and get their directions from the guy

[Elena_Stewart]

@Jennz6 not all of them🙂

[Jennz6]

@elena_stewart no not sissy men

[Wallythewalrus2]

@jennz6 Your “sissy man” description, is spot on for @Billlewis if you read his comment on here, he loves to be dominated! I agree with you, nobody should even in the most remote way, want to be like him.

[Elena_Stewart]

@Wallythewalrus2 leave the poor man alone😁

[Billlewis]

@Wallythewalrus2 Yes, Sir, thank you very much.

[Jennz6]

@Wallythewalrus2 Yes, I know Bill quite well and I agree with you

[Jennz6]

@elena_stewart
@wallythewalrus2
Bill loves the attention he gets from me

[Billlewis]

Thank you for your concern, but Mr. Wally is so utterly magnificent that even being ridiculed by him is an accomplishment, in my opinion.

[Wallythewalrus2]

@Billlewis That’s more like it, Bill! 💋 my tanned ass like there’s no tomorrow!

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis you are tired of me?

[Billlewis]

Tired of you? I'd likely be more tired of finding a hundred dollar bill on the sidewalk than ever being tired of you, ma'am ❤️

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis thank you Bill

[Billlewis]

@Wallythewalrus2 Yes, Sir.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis people are feeling sorry for you?

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, you're welcome. And thank *You* very much for existing ❤️

[Billlewis]

I doubt it;). I mean, I suppose it could happen, since I'm so pathetic, but hopefully no one will, because I don't deserve even the tiniest bit of sympathy.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis go hide Bill before I punish you

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am.

[Bricealan]

@Jennz6 No, no, no, Jennz6 don't do that! Don't let someone push you around

[Jennz6]

@Bricealan thank you for being so helpful

[Bricealan]

@Jennz6 Just being honest with you. From my POV, I don't like the idea of either partner being Subservient or domineering in a successful relationship/marriage.

[Jennz6]

@Bricealan I have a slave mentality

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis What should I do Bill?

[Billlewis]

I'll tell you exactly what you should do -- set aside a weekend this spring, because I'm going to fly out there and just tan your hide. I think you and I both know that it's long past time for you to get your plump little fanny smacked, spanked, walloped and scorched.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis ohm Bill? You would Spank me?

[Billlewis]

You'd better believe it, young lady; if ever someone needed a good, hard, bare bottom spanking, you most certainly do, and then you'll hopefully conduct yourself like a lady again, instead of like a common strumpet.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis Please Bill don’t hurt me

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis Bill, I am sorry for humiliating you. Please don’t spank me

[Wallythewalrus2]

Goddamn, Bill, you must have the tweezers out trying to pull your dick out to beat it! Sorry to interrupt!

[Billlewis]

Oh, you needn't worry about that; I wouldn't do anything to harm you. I'm just going to warm your bottom and make you squeal... my open hand your cheeks will feel... and as you wag your scalded butt, you'll rue that you became a slut... but by the time the spanking ends, the love you won't have to pretend... and as you settle gingerly, into a chair -- epiphany ❤️

[Jennz6]

@Wallythewalrus2 Bill is threatening to Spank me

[Billlewis]

I suppose there could be the slight possibility of a reprieve... let's see how well you behave this weekend.

[Jennz6]

@Billlewis DM me Bill we have to talk

[Billlewis]

Alright.

[Jennz6]

@Minahh what isn’t true?

[Billlewis]

Extremely submissive, always.

[DJB72]

More submissive probably.

[LavLavLuv]

A mix of both 🙂

[OtterMan68]

I'm a man, so not the submissive one.

[Kelly6]

Submissive

[Bricealan]

Same with you, I would never have thought that!

[Minahh]

Dominanating ofc

[Booklover_90]

Submissive.

[Ironic_Method]

Dominate, always.