Do you prefer submissive or dominant men/women?

[MarianneAusten]

I prefer neither because I don't like it when men tell me what to do but I don't like telling men what to do either.

[adadi2ask]

Well in real world there is no dominate or submissive partners. your talking about a sexual lifestyle people choose to live. That has nothing to do with a marriage or partnership unless you choose to include it..
Some people are timid some people are loud and aggressive... some people are black and they tend to act accordingly. Some people are white and they tend to act accordingly. But we all share one thing that we have no boundaries too change or alter or add to... and that's called dignity a basic understanding that though we may be this that orvthe other NOBODY! rich or poor is any better than any other. Period! So to have a partner who is dominating you is to say they
Are controlling you that's not how you should ever be misled into believing is ok. That gives a person free right to treat you that way. Duh? I sometimes LoOk at our society and see nothing but a bunch if damaged people in marriages that should of never been lived lives completely wasted living with some complete idiot that says you must listen to and do as he says or beloved? R u Fnn kidding me? And just where is a loving anything in a wasted life of enduring someone rather than Loving someone together there's God... so I myself found out I like to be submissive sometimes sexually... its quite a teacher to put all your wants n needs aside and serve some one else's mmmm ah there's the rub... Soooo I hope I made you understand things are never as they seem NEVER! ... thanks

[AleDeEurope]

Neither. The only time I want a submissive woman is during sex, but not very submissive though.
In the rest of the relationship I don't want her to be either submissive or dominant, it's an equal thing.

[MarianneAusten]

That's interesting

[Azara]

i dont like extremes. but since you're asking about extremes, id prefer dominant women and submissive men., however in a relationship i like it nearly balanced. 40/60. sub/ dom. me/him.

i prefer women to be generally a bit more dominant bc men are often bigger and bigoted (even if its not conscious)... so just to even things out. make sure no one is getting taken advantage of and to keep corruption at a minimum.

[MarianneAusten]

That makes sense. And even if someone tells you this is sexist, it's not because it's the truth.

[Azara]

lol i was completely ready to say 'no not sexist. just a cultural fact'.,

but you were not saying what i expected you to say- though im sure its coming ;p - thanks for being thoughtful and not jumping to conclusions.:)

[Anonymous]

I guess I'd like a more assertive man in every day life; not a cocky guy but confident. In the bedroom, I am flexible so I can be either. I don't prefer one or the other type for my boyfriend, I would just care about him and will do what makes him happy as long as I am ok with it as well.

[MarianneAusten]

Why do you like assertive men?

[Opinion Owner]

I ideally want balance of course. But if ever I need help, I'd like to know my man has my back and won't run away.

[MarianneAusten]

Yeah that's true

I guess I'm just different

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing wrong with that! :) Everyone has their own preference. Can you imagine if everyone wanted the same thing? It'd be terrible lol

[MarianneAusten]

Yeah like hitler

[Opinion Owner]

Yeh :(

[ClariceOwen23]

Neither. I like a guy who can make decisions for himself but doesn't interfere with my stuff. If it's got something to do with the relationship, I prefer to talk about it with him until we come to the conclusion. I'm dominant in the bedroom though.

[HookingSwan]

Dominant men. Even if he'd have to share that role with me. 50/ 50 :)

[MarianneAusten]

Lol hhaha

[HereForTheDay]

Submissive women are a treasure...
If she cannot embody this, She is not someone that I am looking for.

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[MarianneAusten]

That is gross

[HereForTheDay]

Obviously not the lifestyle for you.

[MarianneAusten]

haha yeah

[KFettario]

OMG, this is so sexy... I think this is incredibly erotic. I need to meet a man like you...

[KFettario]

I love that image too.

[Chiino]

I think you're confused, a slave is the one who has no say in a relationship.

Majority of women prefer to be submissive in a sexual relationship. I'd feel masculine, if I was the dominant one.

[MarianneAusten]

I'm talking about every day life. Not sex. During that I'd like to be the submissive one

[Mesonfielde]

I prefer the people who don't even think about "dominance" and "submission". They just carry on being themselves.

[JulyAndrews]

Perfect answer.

[MarianneAusten]

Oh look, two love birds

[r0_0t]

I've had submissive women and dominants too. Both of them require a ton of getting used to and requires a lotta work in the bed. You gotta step carefully one wrong step and you blow it. So better get everything clear in the dating phase.

[sobg71124]

By nature, men (as a rule) are more dominant, and women more submissive. And I am most comfortable with that.

[MarianneAusten]

I know why

[sobg71124]

You know why what?

[SNYSTIK]

I quite like dominant girls ever since I was bossed around by my female cousin. She always took the initiative and I was happy to do what she wanted

[sweetestxemily]

I prefer a dominant guy that lets me take control when I need to

[PT1911]

Submissive all around, but communication is important

[MarianneAusten]

But why do you like submissive women? Is it because they'll listen to everything you say without having any opinions of their own?

[PT1911]

Oh little girl that's not what submissive means.

It means that she respects my role as a man, as a leader. I'd shoot myself if she constantly said yes, instead its about her respecting that I have the final and last word.

Of course, I have to take her needs/wants in consideration as well.

All of this existed and functioned great before 3rd wave feminism destroyed gender roles/identity

[MarianneAusten]

I'm not a little girl

[PT1911]

I like after explaing all of that, that's what you take away... -_-

[PT1911]

by the way, I don't really like that...

[WilliamWinslow]

Neither, just independent and straightforward girl.

[MarianneAusten]

So dominant by herself?

[WilliamWinslow]

Generally, except I like a girl being totally submissive on bed, I like a girlfriend who has her independent hobbies and values while have shared principles with me.
I do not need a girl to be dominant nor submissive to me, and do not need her to be totally the same, but I need her to have shared principles.
So dominant by herself? You can perceive like that, I think.

[MarianneAusten]

Yeah it makes a lot of sense to see it like that. That's what I want too. Only dominant in bed and everything's by else that your be said

I might give you go. MAYBE

[WilliamWinslow]

Yeah, I think the most important for me is shared core principles. With that, many differences are actually not damaging.

[jakeofalltrades]

I like them submissive in bed but more dominate in regular life

[MarianneAusten]

That's interesting too

[inamorata]

I like dominant guys only.

[Lyndsielee666]

I like my boyfriend being dominant. ^-^

[hypno-trip]

I would like some of both.

[MarianneAusten]

Why are you here? I remember I told you something

[MarcusBorino]

Both! I would say equal!

[nalaa]

dominant all the way

[MarianneAusten]

why though?

[nalaa]

I don't know, it's hard to explain. I just find there is something very masculine about that

[MarianneAusten]

There is and that's a little sexy but only sometimes

[nalaa]

well not to me

[MarianneAusten]

Yeah... You've said it above

[BertMacklinFBI]

balance is key

[MarianneAusten]

I agree with that

[Cumere96]

submissive :P

[MarianneAusten]

What makes you find submissive women so appealing?

[I_am_repulsive]

A bit of both

[MarianneAusten]

So like 50-50?

[I_am_repulsive]

40/60. I like it sometimes when a women takes charge and initiates; the rougher the sex the better

[MarianneAusten]

I'm not talking about sex

[I_am_repulsive]

It could also be in general. I like a girl who's feisty and somewhat bossy

[MarianneAusten]

Most men don't like feisty girls butI get told I'm feisty

I cri all the time ;_;

[I_am_repulsive]

Some men wants it easy, but I do like the challenge and the chase

[MarianneAusten]

Most men want it easy

[I_am_repulsive]

Can't argue with that

[MarianneAusten]

Because I've heard that the word "feisty" is another word for "bitch"

[I_am_repulsive]

Feisty is a nicer way of saying it, but it can also mean that she's very lively and interesting

[MarianneAusten]

Like boisterous... Which is also has very negative connotations surrounding it

[COCOCHANEL]

i like a balance

[MarianneAusten]

I like balance too

[Cowboy6666]

In between them

[MarianneAusten]

I prefer that too