Do you prefer submissive or dominant men/women?

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I prefer neither because I don't like it when men tell me what to do but I don't like telling men what to do either.

adadi2ask · Accepted Answer

Well in real world there is no dominate or submissive partners. your talking about a sexual lifestyle people choose to live. That has nothing to do with a marriage or partnership unless you choose to include it..
Some people are timid some people are loud and aggressive... some people are black and they tend to act accordingly. Some people are white and they tend to act accordingly. But we all share one thing that we have no boundaries too change or alter or add to... and that's called dignity a basic understanding that though we may be this that orvthe other NOBODY! rich or poor is any better than any other. Period! So to have a partner who is dominating you is to say they
Are controlling you that's not how you should ever be misled into believing is ok. That gives a person free right to treat you that way. Duh? I sometimes LoOk at our society and see nothing but a bunch if damaged people in marriages that should of never been lived lives completely wasted living with some complete idiot that says you must listen to and do as he says or beloved? R u Fnn kidding me? And just where is a loving anything in a wasted life of enduring someone rather than Loving someone together there's God... so I myself found out I like to be submissive sometimes sexually... its quite a teacher to put all your wants n needs aside and serve some one else's mmmm ah there's the rub... Soooo I hope I made you understand things are never as they seem NEVER! ... thanks

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

Neither. The only time I want a submissive woman is during sex, but not very submissive though.
In the rest of the relationship I don't want her to be either submissive or dominant, it's an equal thing.

Azara · Accepted Answer

i dont like extremes. but since you're asking about extremes, id prefer dominant women and submissive men., however in a relationship i like it nearly balanced. 40/60. sub/ dom. me/him.

i prefer women to be generally a bit more dominant bc men are often bigger and bigoted (even if its not conscious)... so just to even things out. make sure no one is getting taken advantage of and to keep corruption at a minimum.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I guess I'd like a more assertive man in every day life; not a cocky guy but confident. In the bedroom, I am flexible so I can be either. I don't prefer one or the other type for my boyfriend, I would just care about him and will do what makes him happy as long as I am ok with it as well.

ClariceOwen23 · Accepted Answer

Neither. I like a guy who can make decisions for himself but doesn't interfere with my stuff. If it's got something to do with the relationship, I prefer to talk about it with him until we come to the conclusion. I'm dominant in the bedroom though.

HookingSwan · Accepted Answer

Dominant men. Even if he'd have to share that role with me. 50/ 50 :)

Hana_ema · Answer

In terms of education and career, I’m a successful and strong woman. I’ve always moved forward with full strength and never let my failures hold me back.

However, in my relationships, I tend to be somewhat submissive with a lot of feminine energy. I must say that in my first serious relationship, at first, I tried to act strong and in control, following the influence of the modern world, and I was very persistent in many matters. But given my inner nature, I usually treated my ex-boyfriend well. Since my ex lacked a good balance of masculinity, even though he could be aggressive with others outside the relationship, he didn't have enough control in our relationship and seemed quite weak-willed to me. This imbalance between us led to our relationship ending gradually, without any major arguments or fights, simply due to hopelessness.

My next serious relationship is with a man who’s younger than me and is currently my boyfriend. I have to say, he possesses a lot of masculine energy. Although he is a very patient man who doesn't react quickly in every situation, he always deals with matters firmly but with thought and wisdom. He is very caring, kind, and supportive while always treating me with respect. His masculine energy allowed me to freely express my feminine nature and relax next to him without any fear, and I could be myself. Alongside all the successes I’ve had in my life, with this man, I can freely show my emotions, including my fatigue, and sometimes express my need for rest.

Our dynamic is now very balanced, and I’m very happy with our relationship, and we’re going to get married in two months.

However, I must say some changes have occurred in our relationship compared to the beginning. Even though his masculine energy allowed me to express my femininity, I must say that in our relationship, he was always very gentle, kind, and even somewhat “vanilla.” Everything was good, but something seemed to be missing.

Once, when he asked me what I thought was needed in our relationship, I smiled and said, “I think you should be a bit more dominant.”

I'm sure he immediately started thinking about this. At first, during our intimate moments, he began showing slightly more dominant behaviors. After a few times, he started spanking me gently during our intimate times, and I responded well to it. Gradually, he started spanking with more firmness and strength until, recently, he whispered in my ear, “What do you think about spanking with a belt?” My heart skipped for a moment. I didn’t know what to say. On one hand, I craved this dominance, and on the other, I was scared. He could probably tell from my face that I wasn’t entirely against it. Guess what happened? He went to his closet, took out his belt, and started spanking me cautiously with it, and he likely noticed that I enjoyed it. He repeated this a few more times, and once he was sure I had no problem with it, he gave me a much harder spanking with the belt during the last time — but not hard enough to make me cry. After a hot and exciting session, he whispered in my ear, “I don’t think I punished you enough since you didn’t cry. Next time, I’ll make sure you cry.” To be honest, next time hasn’t come yet, and I feel both anxious and excited about it.

However, since I’m never stubborn and always treat him kindly, I don’t think he will feel the need to punish or spank me in everyday life. But if one day I don’t behave properly, I’d love it if he didn’t hesitate to put me over his knee and give me a good lesson, because I love our relationship, and I don’t want it to break due to any mistake on my part.

Maybe some women would resist this, but trust me, everything in a relationship improves incredibly after tasting your man’s dominance. Of course, you must be sure that he is wise and that he would never abuse the power he has. You have no idea how sweet it is, in a world where you’re always forced to fight and show your strength, to be in the hands of a strong man and have his support and love. When there’s no need to show your strength, and you just let go and enjoy your femininity. I’m sure after seeing your man’s dominance, he will become much more attractive to you. Trust me. There’s no harm in trying.

HereForTheDay · Answer

Submissive women are a treasure... If she cannot embody this, She is not someone that I am looking for.

Chiino · Answer

I think you're confused, a slave is the one who has no say in a relationship.  Majority of women prefer to be submissive in a sexual relationship. I'd feel masculine, if I was the dominant one.

Mesonfielde · Answer

I prefer the people who don't even think about "dominance" and "submission". They just carry on being themselves.

r0_0t · Answer

I've had submissive women and dominants too. Both of them require a ton of getting used to and requires a lotta work in the bed. You gotta step carefully one wrong step and you blow it. So better get everything clear in the dating phase.

sobg71124 · Answer

By nature, men (as a rule) are more dominant, and women more submissive. And I am most comfortable with that.

SNYSTIK · Answer

I quite like dominant girls ever since I was bossed around by my female cousin. She always took the initiative and I was happy to do what she wanted

sweetestxemily · Answer

I prefer a dominant guy that lets me take control when I need to

PT1911 · Answer

Submissive all around, but communication is important

WilliamWinslow · Answer

Neither, just independent and straightforward girl.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

I like them submissive in bed but more dominate in regular life

inamorata · Answer

I like dominant guys only.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I like my boyfriend being dominant. ^-^

hypno-trip · Answer

I would like some of both.

MarcusBorino · Answer

Both! I would say equal!

nalaa · Answer

dominant all the way

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

balance is key

I_am_repulsive · Answer

A bit of both

Cumere96 · Answer

submissive :P

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i like a balance

Cowboy6666 · Answer

In between them

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