Men, do you prefer a submissive, demure wife or an assertive, independent woman?

[Anonymous]

Let's see what most men want in this app lol

Submissive, demure

Assertive, independent

None? A mix of both?

I'm a woman

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Disclaimer: This obviously doesn’t make up the real % in real life, but I'm only curious what men prefer here.

[Lionman95]

I think a mixture of both is the better choice because both partner bring needs in a relationship. I don´t know why only submissive women are told to be demure but that´s another question. For me it´s important that the both find a constellation they like. I also clicked a mixture because I´m a different character being around different people. I behave differently talking to strangers than to talking to friends.

[RedThread]

I like an assertive woman who challenges me in life. It encourages me to grow.

[bamesjond0069]

The thing this doesn't quite show is that the alpha sort of men looking for relationships are the main ones selecting submissive while the beta sort of men are selecting independent. The next biggest group is alphas selecting independent but only because they are only wanting casual relationships and dont want to have any responsibility towards the woman.

So as a woman, even though yes its somewhat equal in a way... that hot, confident man you are crushing on most likely wants submissive for a relationship or he is just trying to pump and dump you basically.

[MCheetah]

Option C, a mix of both. A woman who isn't cowardly, meek, or a pushover, but at the same time, is nice, not negative or aggressive, feminine, and knows how to let her man be a man without trying to be the "man" herself. A woman can be brave and strong and stand-up for herself without being a b*tch doing it. Too bad, Hollywood doesn't understand this anymore.

[RosePrincess]

I’m a woman. He can make very submissive in bed but he can't make me in daily life. I worked so hard on myself in a younger age to be here today

[ArcticHamsters]

I prefer a woman who strives to have a good life in terms of independence and well being. It doesn't really matter in which state she's in life (independent or not), as long as she's trying her best to have a good life on her own.

[Unit1]

Strong & independent women 😍

[Shiroi_Kokkusuribu]

I'm a bi-slut, but I'd be more willing to straight up marry a dominant woman, even though I don't plan on getting married.

[guywithissues900]

Submissive and demure of course. If a girl is deluded enough to think she can be the leader and dominant one in a relationship then she is living in la la land and one day someone will snap her out of that stupidity.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

but... what girl would actually accept what you said in 2020? Let's be realistic, even "traditional" gals like Tomi Lahren refuse this. Most "trad" girls like her are like that.

[guywithissues900]

I’ve dated two amazing women like this, one in my late teens and the other in my early 20s. Sadly I had to end it though, had to move far away from them for work. But they’re both my ideal sort of women. Caring, nurturing, supportive, feminine, and they actually take care of themselves.

They don’t think they’re these big leaders trying to take over the world. They are grounded in reality. They are not deluded like most women. That’s the ideal woman.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Smaller town area Im guessing? I don't know dude. I hear horror stories about relationships with girls both too "traditional" and too "feminist." You also were only dating them at the time and my guess is that you payed for the meals, movie tickets, etc correct? Actual marriage can change many things. No offence, but the women you say are "ideal" sound like overpriced robots with babymaking abilities. No thanks, would rather save money, time, and effort and get an actual robot. Im not conerned about having kids anytime soon because Im not a horny sadist.

[guywithissues900]

I didn’t have children with them and I wasn’t really planning to do that anyway so I don’t know why you mention “baby making abilities”. If you want a woman who acts like a man then that’s you. But definitely not me.

[guywithissues900]

Even in the Bible it states that women should submit to their men, it’s not something I made up. If you’re not religious then we clearly differ in opinions and that’s fine with me.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Well... if they were your "dream girls" I suppose you wouldn't have minded marrying one of them and also doesn't the bible say "be fruitful and multiply"? I thought part of "submitting to men" was having kids on que? I never said either I wanted a woman that acts like a man. I think it's the most sane to go for BALANCE which apparently seems to be erased from the dictionary these days.

[guywithissues900]

You should read the Bible more thoroughly. I will be “fruitful” when the time is right and when I find the right woman for me to marry. For now this is my motto: Flowers for the ladies, dick for the sluts. And 99% of western women happen to be sluts.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

"But they’re both my ideal sort of women. Caring, nurturing, supportive, feminine, and they actually take care of themselves." But... too slutty I guess?

[guywithissues900]

You’re an idiot.
Do you know what slutty even means, bro? Of course you don’t. You probably grew up with fat unattractive women who love to bitch about everything. So you don’t understand what femininity even is.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

YoU dOnT aGrEe WiTh Me you're iN iDiOt RaGe RaGe RaGe!! RoAaAaAr! If you didn't get so angry so quickly, maybe you'd realize I meant you seemed to find the perfect woman twice but then you had no intention to at least consider marrying? It's just weird. Calm the fuck down bible boy, I don't know if Jesus would approve of you calling strangers idiots just for a conversation.

[Ripper_E]

It really depends on the woman so I just voted both.

[EssenceOfLight]

Mix of both, but not borderline and psychotic version where she switches between calm sheep and pissed Valkyrie

[Snakeyes7]

I’d rather not be in a constant power struggle with her over every little petty thing so I’d rather go with submissive if I had to go with only extremes in either direction.

[rames54]

Its a huge turn on to me to be involved in a relationship with a strong and independent woman it's always a going to be moments of mystery and surprise
Also gives me a chance to step out of my reality and into there fantasy

[_Moment]

I've been watching the t. v. show "don't trust the B in apartment 23". the two main characters are submissive/demure and assertive/independent. They're both attractive so honestly I don't think it makes a big difference.

[Wewladdy]

The men who answer independent or dominant are hardly men at all. Probably scared to take charge for themselves.

[MCheetah]

What about Alpha Women being with Alpha Men?

[Wewladdy]

Alpha woman is an oxymoron

[Anonymous]

A mix of both as most people really aren't as one dimensional as they think or want to be.

[NorthwestRider]

My fiancée is independent, dominant and leads the relationship

I like it hehe

[JimboGB]

A real man is dominate and expects a submissive wife.

[bulletbob555]

Either or doesn't matter. Assertive can't be overboard or its just bossy etc.

[Protein_mate]

A balance, i'd like her to challenge me and be aggressive too

[Anonymous]

Mixture of both. Strong women in life but the more submissive and obedient in the bedroom the better

[90sVibe]

What about being a switch in the private dynamic of that relationship?

[errorgoodnameunfound]

dude, does that mean no cowgirl position? BOOOOOORING! That's how many gals end up cheating. Boredom of the bedroom. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

I love assertive, dominant and sexually aggressive girls.

[Anonymous]

Now go make me a sandwich and then let me feed you with my tube steak.

[nodnol32]

Assertive, independent and dominant.

[DavidHart]

i chose assertive and independent.

[tartaarsaus]

I’m gonna go with independent

[Posterboy56]

We prefer whichever is more attractive.

[A_Nihilist]

A good middle ground of both.

[Anonymous]

Most guys secretly prefer dominant girls ;)

[OddBeMe]

Independent, I’m too lazy to be dominant.

[Sabretooth]

a mix. submissive but won't allow abuse.

[Grond21]

In between for me

[hknmhmn4]

Mixed

[gandolph3]

About 50, 50