Are you attracted to more dominant or submissive partners?

[Rose_Red]

Curious to know if my hypothesis is correct. (I. e most women like dominant and most men like submissive)

Dominant

Submissive

[oOsecret_starlandsOo]

There is something comfortable about being his more delicate little flower and cuddling under his stronger more authoritive nature. Men tend to see things from an analytical point and their upbringing puts more pressure on them to be in spots of leadership and critical management. Not that us ladies can't do it, but society and nature rear us in a way to handle different aspects of life traditionally. Women keep order, men hold s*** down.

You know, she gets the kids out of the way of danger and calls for backup (if necessary) while he knocks the f*** out of the burglar.

The women maintained rationing and took up extra work during WW2 to assist the men as they fought.

Hubby is buried to his nose in work and honey keeps him well fed, relaxed and life in balance so he doesn't have to worry, likewise he picks up all slack and takes any hard blows life throws at the family.

I prefer men who take that role dominantly

[Quintessence]

Variety is the spice of life--especially a sex life.
I would want a partner who's versatile--someone who can be spontaneous and take control, but also someone who can 'roll with it' when I'm the one being spontaneous. It wouldn't be interesting to be with someone who's fixed on doing things a certain way every time.

At least, that's how my personality works. I'm neither strictly dominant nor strictly submissive in any regard. It depends on my mood.

[nakesia]

I like a dominant man. I don't like weak men. It shows a pitiful side of them. I want to be the submissive one except in the bedroom once in a while. But, it doesn't mean that I will let him disrespect me. But, I love me a dominant man. He take charge. That's what I'm talking about. That's a turn on

[chetan_doku]

Yes. We also like women to be submissive but once in a while we love women who take charge. Or we may say that sometimes we want to be 'fucked'. Sometimes we want to be a slave and do whatever the woman wants.

[Lynnh]

All depends on my mood; i'm a switch but sometimes the inner sub in me awakens and I just feel like I need a dom asap, maybe even a daddy.
On the other hand, dom moods of mine occur too, the mood when I just want to make my partner beg for release etc. Overeall, 'm leaning more to the sub side

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I get REALLY turned on by a girl who can take charge. Like if she can do all the stuff to me that I'd do to her, that would be so hot.

But so far as the overall relationship goes, I need to be the dominant one. You can call me insecure or a woman hater or whatever you want. Your guess is probably as good as mine. I just really trust my judgement and don't feel comfortable at all not being in control. Which is why temporarily giving it up turns me on so much.

[Rose_Red]

Why would you be a woman hater or insecure? In day to day life people take a dominant or submissive role, they way you act in a relationship is part of that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I've just been on here long enough to know that when a guy says anything about being dominant on here they get attacked by a ton of SJW's

[Rose_Red]

Then those people are incredibly misinformed.

[Anonymous]

I'm attracted to dominant girls :D

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[ManOnFire]

Definitely submissive. I really only like a woman to be dominant with blow jobs.

[qwer3cdfsetg]

fair enough

[ChronicThinker]

I can't date anyone who's a little bitch, so that axes all of the submissive guys on G@G.

[2opaz]

you never had a chance with me, honey

[ChronicThinker]

@2opaz I'm engaged.

[784456]

I didn't vote as there is no "both" option. My favourite position is woman on top, but I also like to pleasure them. And I found out girls like to be dominated more, so it's somewhere in between.

Guess I'd better go vote "dominant", as it might have an edge: I feel pleasure when I make girls cum. Probably even more than when I cum! 😂

[784456]

So it's somehow complicated: I like to be dominant when I feel she likes it and I want her to be dominant (but slow) if she likes it. The least she could do is to follow suit.

[784456]

Guess I will not vote after all as there is no "depends/both" option.

I'm mainly working it out as we go along, I don't have a rule. But (un) fortunately because most of my girlfriends had no experience, I ended up being the dominant one.

[Hamfry]

I'd like a girl who is a little in the middle. I tend to enjoy being dominant in certain situations, while in other situations it is fun to both try to be dominant. But then again, sometimes it can also be great to just let her take control.

So I'd like a more dominant girl but not too dominant. And yes I know I'm weird

[coralee]

I don't want either, although I may have them don one or the other role to mix things up. Sex is significantly more enjoyable if both parties are active participants. Dom/sub roles don't get me going nearly as much as two people who can't keep their hands off of each other.

[BigGuy8]

Depends. I love a sexually aggressive woman, they're fun to have around when it's possible to get away with stuff in public. But submissive women will obey my commands, which is also fun. If I'm in an aggressive mood I'll take the submissive. If I'm in a more laid back mood I'll take the aggressive woman. I say aggressive instead of dominant for a simple reason, and that is I'm not submissive at all. I can't take her seriously if she's trying to dominate me.

[MindYourEyes]

hmmm my boyfriend can be both. Sometimes his dominate side pisses me off though but I like that he sticks with his guns. Haha. Maybe I’d like him to be a tad more submissive? XD I like having the upper hand more xD.
So how about a Domissive? XD hahah!

[WhistleForTheChoir]

Honestly, I know people are going to call me a weak character and I can already see in the female comments how many of them are talking about how being submissive shows how "weak" men are, but I like a dominant woman. Not super "fetish" type dominant though. Like I'll make decisions, sure, but I'm much better at bouncing ideas off someone rather than just "taking charge" or whatever the fuck I'm expected to do. That said, I'm not a "real man" (trademarked!) so my opinion is probably toxic.

[zzzondarrr]

I'm attracted only to super submissive girls lol, and though I usually appear as quite dominant, I mean I actually am towards random people I don't really care about, but when I'm in love I always become super submissive towards her as well...
I just think that true love implies submitting yourself completely to your loved one.
Also when I see that a girl is "confident" and not shy, I always get instantly turned off for some reason...

[Ripper_E]

I'm attracted to both. It really depends on the woman. I have a very strong and dominant personality, as I've been told many times. I love it when a woman is the same. Strong women are attractive but I find submissive women, ones who are "followers" if that makes sense, equally attractive.

[Wulfila]

Submissive, but not to the point of her being a doormat.

I'm part of a particular "finds ________ attractive" group that has an unusually high percentage of submissive heterosexual men, so I can vouch that there are definitely plenty of submissive dudes out there (as the poll results testify). I don't get it but whatever.

[TomatoBoy]

I want a woman that can be both, and I am not talking about sex only.
I think a woman who is completely submissive is no fun at all

on the other hand, a woman who is too dominant and stubborn, can be frustrating

I would say 65% of the time submissive
and 35% time dominant.

and guys should be 80% of the time Dominant, and 20% of the time submissive

[Anonymous]

Definitely dominant for the sex. Though I can only get submissive bf's. I've had 2 bfs and they were both submissive and the sex was the reason i broke up. I've had a shitload of ONS and always picked dominant guys, often horrible guys but the sex was awesome.

[Felicia5567]

Neither. I want a partner who is my equal and who lives his own life beside me. That dominant/submissive thing might be fun in the bedroom but has no place in an adult relationship with equal partners in my opinion.

[Rose_Red]

I can sympathize with that.

[DanoMR98]

Only 13% of women like submissive guys? This is why I feel like such a fag. I have a sexually submissive nature, and my SO likes it, but deep down I feel like I'm fucked in the head. Do submissive guys have defective brains?

[Rose_Red]

Would you say dominant women have defective brains? Do you think your SO is defective for liking it?

[ZoeB95]

Of course not, everyone is different, babe. Embrace your submissive side.

[DanoMR98]

@Rose_Red No, I don't think those things. I think she is very bright and I think she has a winner's attitude, she is a go-getter and she's confident. We talked about this in the past and about insecurity, and we're trying to work together on confronting my insecurity in several different areas.

@ZoeB95 I try, I really do. I can't escape it[my submissive side], so I should just enjoy it, right?

[ZoeB95]

Absolutely.

[DanoMR98]

@ZoeB95 It's easier to enjoy in the moment I think. When we're together at a hookah bar on the couches late at night, and I'm laying into her in the way the girls are doing to their boyfriends, I'm never thinking to myself "Is it unbecoming of a man to let a girl be the dominant cuddler?", I just sit there and take it all in, and I enjoy it. It wouldn't be maybe until hours later that I consider "wow am I like a pathetic turbofaggot or something?"

She is a very good relationship leader, and our personalities in that sense fit together really well. I know she would never call my masculinity into question. I am just sorta afraid someone else will.

We talked about how it's not feminine to be in touch with my feelings and that it takes emotional maturity to be able to articulate them. I think it's really helping me personally for her to help me deconstruct insecurity that's plagued me ever since I started having attraction to girls and feeling adult feelings.

[DanoMR98]

@ZoeB95 That's not even getting into sexual stuff. I've guilted myself for years for my role-reversal porn collection.

I wonder still sometimes if having spanked and choked me with a leash would make me someone she can't see as a man. I enjoy the fuck out of it, there's nothing wrong with this. And I really don't think it does when I think soberly about it, I'm just psyching myself out.

I guess I can't escape being scared of what I think other people are thinking.

[ZoeB95]

Honestly she sounds like the best thing for you. Hopefully she can help you overcome these feelings of self-doubt and truly accept yourself for once. Just know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.

I do think you two should look into joining a group for couples who love the same things. It would help you tremendously to be around someone like you.

[pingiluv]

I’m submissive but if the guy doesn’t take charge I take charge

[Gramer]

Has this ever happened to you often? :D

[Anonymous]

I'm attracted to submissiveness in women, but there's always been a side of me that's wanted to encounter a more dominant, dominatrix type. The kind who demands obedience, will hit you, will call you belittling names, amongst other more kinky things I won't get into.

[iLala_Water]

Would you settle down with her?

[Opinion Owner]

@iLala_Water Perhaps, depends on if she's like that all the time or not.

[DodgersGM]

I tend to like women who are strong and individualistic in their daily lives, but totally submissive in the bedroom. Something about that juxtaposition drives me crazy.

[freakyzeaky]

Both, sometimes dominant, sometimes submissive. I like to be surprised. Basically whoever is in the mood to initiate, whether it is me, or her, can be dominant, and that role can change over the course of a session depending on the mood.

[freakyzeaky]

Let's just say I prefer to be dominant, but I want my partner to be assertive no matter what role she wants to play.

[SirBunBun]

I'm definitely submissive, but I don't really know which I like. Honestly I'm intimidated by what they might do. I'm virgin and things like kissing already make me turn red. I don't know haha

[Rose_Red]

I feel that, understandable.