Are you attracted to more dominant or submissive partners?

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Curious to know if my hypothesis is correct. (I. e most women like dominant and most men like submissive)

oOsecret_starlandsOo · Accepted Answer

There is something comfortable about being his more delicate little flower and cuddling under his stronger more authoritive nature. Men tend to see things from an analytical point and their upbringing puts more pressure on them to be in spots of leadership and critical management. Not that us ladies can't do it, but society and nature rear us in a way to handle different aspects of life traditionally. Women keep order, men hold s*** down.

You know, she gets the kids out of the way of danger and calls for backup (if necessary) while he knocks the f*** out of the burglar.

The women maintained rationing and took up extra work during WW2 to assist the men as they fought.

Hubby is buried to his nose in work and honey keeps him well fed, relaxed and life in balance so he doesn't have to worry, likewise he picks up all slack and takes any hard blows life throws at the family.

I prefer men who take that role dominantly

Quintessence · Accepted Answer

Variety is the spice of life--especially a sex life.
I would want a partner who's versatile--someone who can be spontaneous and take control, but also someone who can 'roll with it' when I'm the one being spontaneous. It wouldn't be interesting to be with someone who's fixed on doing things a certain way every time.

At least, that's how my personality works. I'm neither strictly dominant nor strictly submissive in any regard. It depends on my mood.

nakesia · Accepted Answer

I like a dominant man. I don't like weak men. It shows a pitiful side of them. I want to be the submissive one except in the bedroom once in a while. But, it doesn't mean that I will let him disrespect me. But, I love me a dominant man. He take charge. That's what I'm talking about. That's a turn on

Lynnh · Accepted Answer

All depends on my mood; i'm a switch but sometimes the inner sub in me awakens and I just feel like I need a dom asap, maybe even a daddy.
On the other hand, dom moods of mine occur too, the mood when I just want to make my partner beg for release etc. Overeall, 'm leaning more to the sub side

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

I get REALLY turned on by a girl who can take charge. Like if she can do all the stuff to me that I'd do to her, that would be so hot.

But so far as the overall relationship goes, I need to be the dominant one. You can call me insecure or a woman hater or whatever you want. Your guess is probably as good as mine. I just really trust my judgement and don't feel comfortable at all not being in control. Which is why temporarily giving it up turns me on so much.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm attracted to dominant girls :D

ManOnFire · Answer

Definitely submissive. I really only like a woman to be dominant with blow jobs.

ChronicThinker · Answer

I can't date anyone who's a little bitch, so that axes all of the submissive guys on G@G.

784456 · Answer

I didn't vote as there is no "both" option. My favourite position is woman on top, but I also like to pleasure them. And I found out girls like to be dominated more, so it's somewhere in between.

Guess I'd better go vote "dominant", as it might have an edge: I feel pleasure when I make girls cum. Probably even more than when I cum! 😂

Hamfry · Answer

I'd like a girl who is a little in the middle. I tend to enjoy being dominant in certain situations, while in other situations it is fun to both try to be dominant. But then again, sometimes it can also be great to just let her take control.

So I'd like a more dominant girl but not too dominant. And yes I know I'm weird

coralee · Answer

I don't want either, although I may have them don one or the other role to mix things up. Sex is significantly more enjoyable if both parties are active participants. Dom/sub roles don't get me going nearly as much as two people who can't keep their hands off of each other.

BigGuy8 · Answer

Depends. I love a sexually aggressive woman, they're fun to have around when it's possible to get away with stuff in public. But submissive women will obey my commands, which is also fun. If I'm in an aggressive mood I'll take the submissive. If I'm in a more laid back mood I'll take the aggressive woman. I say aggressive instead of dominant for a simple reason, and that is I'm not submissive at all. I can't take her seriously if she's trying to dominate me.

MindYourEyes · Answer

hmmm my boyfriend can be both. Sometimes his dominate side pisses me off though but I like that he sticks with his guns. Haha. Maybe I’d like him to be a tad more submissive? XD I like having the upper hand more xD.
So how about a Domissive? XD hahah!

WhistleForTheChoir · Answer

Honestly, I know people are going to call me a weak character and I can already see in the female comments how many of them are talking about how being submissive shows how "weak" men are, but I like a dominant woman. Not super "fetish" type dominant though. Like I'll make decisions, sure, but I'm much better at bouncing ideas off someone rather than just "taking charge" or whatever the fuck I'm expected to do. That said, I'm not a "real man" (trademarked!) so my opinion is probably toxic.

zzzondarrr · Answer

I'm attracted only to super submissive girls lol, and though I usually appear as quite dominant, I mean I actually am towards random people I don't really care about, but when I'm in love I always become super submissive towards her as well...
I just think that true love implies submitting yourself completely to your loved one.
Also when I see that a girl is "confident" and not shy, I always get instantly turned off for some reason...

Ripper_E · Answer

I'm attracted to both. It really depends on the woman. I have a very strong and dominant personality, as I've been told many times. I love it when a woman is the same. Strong women are attractive but I find submissive women, ones who are "followers" if that makes sense, equally attractive.

Wulfila · Answer

Submissive, but not to the point of her being a doormat.

I'm part of a particular "finds ________ attractive" group that has an unusually high percentage of submissive heterosexual men, so I can vouch that there are definitely plenty of submissive dudes out there (as the poll results testify). I don't get it but whatever.

TomatoBoy · Answer

I want a woman that can be both, and I am not talking about sex only.
I think a woman who is completely submissive is no fun at all

on the other hand, a woman who is too dominant and stubborn, can be frustrating

I would say 65% of the time submissive
and 35% time dominant.

and guys should be 80% of the time Dominant, and 20% of the time submissive

Anonymous · Answer

I'm attracted to submissiveness in women, but there's always been a side of me that's wanted to encounter a more dominant, dominatrix type. The kind who demands obedience, will hit you, will call you belittling names, amongst other more kinky things I won't get into.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely dominant for the sex. Though I can only get submissive bf's. I've had 2 bfs and they were both submissive and the sex was the reason i broke up. I've had a shitload of ONS and always picked dominant guys, often horrible guys but the sex was awesome.

Felicia5567 · Answer

Neither. I want a partner who is my equal and who lives his own life beside me. That dominant/submissive thing might be fun in the bedroom but has no place in an adult relationship with equal partners in my opinion.

DanoMR98 · Answer

Only 13% of women like submissive guys? This is why I feel like such a fag. I have a sexually submissive nature, and my SO likes it, but deep down I feel like I'm fucked in the head. Do submissive guys have defective brains?

pingiluv · Answer

I’m submissive but if the guy doesn’t take charge I take charge

DodgersGM · Answer

I tend to like women who are strong and individualistic in their daily lives, but totally submissive in the bedroom. Something about that juxtaposition drives me crazy.

freakyzeaky · Answer

Both, sometimes dominant, sometimes submissive. I like to be surprised. Basically whoever is in the mood to initiate, whether it is me, or her, can be dominant, and that role can change over the course of a session depending on the mood.

SirBunBun · Answer

I'm definitely submissive, but I don't really know which I like. Honestly I'm intimidated by what they might do. I'm virgin and things like kissing already make me turn red. I don't know haha

vishna · Answer

I like a guy to be sexually dominant, but I have never dated a dominant personality guy. So, I guess I like something in the middle or more submissive. I know I can be very head strong, so, I guess I'm dominant.

bubble_tea · Answer

I think dominant is the wrong description.. maybe encouraging? If I explained 'I can't jump.. it's way too high!' I'd rather have someone tell me I can do it, because... than someone who tells me 'you know yourself best, honey. let's walk back'

NiteDreamer92 · Answer

Honestly, I like both. I am a switch so I guess thats why. I do like to be more dominated to a point. Then I turn around and say its my turn. Sometimes I like to see who would win to be the dominant. Maybe wrestle to see who can come out on top. lol I do like the power of a dominant, but as I said I like to be in control too.

Ryry97 · Answer

I like semi-dominant girls but submissive is fine too. Preferably I’d like it to be equal/switch

Anonymous · Answer

Submissive, but I like it when she is dominant some of the time.

MScifiwriter · Answer

I'd like a partner who can hold her own with confidence, but also not afraid to show vulnerability and a bit of weakness, at least in private.

A partner who is always submissive or dominant would seem a bit artificial to me.

candy831 · Answer

I'm a tall strong dude, and seeing a girl know what's she wants and takes it is sooo freaking hot. Keep in mind I'm not the kind if guy that likes getting beat and treated like a dog though

Astoriana · Answer

There’s no option for “I don’t like either and prefer a healthy balance.”

Deydey12345 · Answer

I like if the guy is neutral most of the time, and sometimes really submissive.

TheMoroccangirl · Answer

I´m attracted to masculinity so dominance for sure.

designer1 · Answer

Definitely depends on my mood. Like you can’t be acting all dominant when I’m already in a bad mood🙄

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Umm, I'm kind of a sadistic person so I would only enjoy a relationship with another sadistic person or a really submissive person.

Levin · Answer

I like submissive girls, at least in terms of sexual dynamics. But she should have a strong personality and her own mind :)

blisslovesferrets15 · Answer

Both. But I’m guessing my boyfriend likes it better when I’m submissive... he doesn’t like being dominated...

Leafpool2 · Answer

I like either. Me and my girlfriend tend to be either/or depending on how we feel at the moment. Sometimes u wanna just be held man

i_am_shyvana · Answer

i guess i fall in love with people in the middle who just feel that we should be equal, but during sex and things like that, definitely dominant

datgirl · Answer

Dominant all the fucking way. I have absolutely zero interest in submissive men either sexually or personality wise or both. If i smell a little submissiveness i lose all interest and i friendzone him.

xmasterx · Answer

I find Submissive partner is more attractive , i feel it’s more natural for man to be dominant : )

Chiral · Answer

I like females who can be sexually dominant I can deal with it if a female prefers not to be submissive

SteamBuns · Answer

I am ashamed at the amount of Men who chose a Dominant female.

Pink1996 · Answer

I like my men submissive in the day and dominant at night ;)

cosanostrakosa · Answer

Dominant Without a doubt !  Nothing beats a dominant woman!

_bunny_ · Answer

I like a dominant man but I always attracted submissive ones

Sandrino2 · Answer

I am absolutely dominant and boss over my partner haha. Or I try to be lol

KyaRaposinha · Answer

Honestly, I think it is better to have dominant parents, because they need to guide you as a kid, not the other way around.

carlos06 · Answer

That's an obvious theory. Though I prefer dominant women

BlondeBlueEyes84 · Answer

A man who doesn't desire a submissive woman is not a man. It's that simple. A "man" who desires a strong, independent "woman" is in the closet.

Glass_Cat · Answer

Either is fine I’m sure i could do well with whichever

jaqueline22 · Answer

My boyfriend is dominant and i like that but sometimes we switch it

AquaBun · Answer

Definitely dominant, I'm super shy so it takes a confident man or woman to drag me out of it!!

estoydorado1 · Answer

I can work with either or. I would become more stressed in time with a submissive guy, though.

FakeName123 · Answer

There is plenty of researcdh on your hypothesis, so its obvious you are correct.

dk96123 · Answer

Switch its nice to have options. Both are fun. But what I want one day may be different from the last.

SparklingNight · Answer

Actually I love my boyfriend who can be both. Maybe a bit more dominant but both is hella sexy

Gypsy_x · Answer

Do you have to be one or the other? I feel like I want a guy thats a mix of both

GreedyGiver651 · Answer

Technically it's correct. As far as evolution goes. Personally, I prefer a switch.

Spencer10 · Answer

I can play any role but naturally I tend to enjoy strong more dominant women.

backdoorman · Answer

I'm dominant by nature so she's gotta be submissive or we're not gonna last.

Kiran04 · Answer

Submissive. I have other men to compete with. I don't need to compete with my lover too.

Meninist · Answer

Dominant because with submissive women it can feel like I'm doing all the work.

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