Yes. We also like women to be submissive but once in a while we love women who take charge. Or we may say that sometimes we want to be 'fucked'. Sometimes we want to be a slave and do whatever the woman wants.
Why would you be a woman hater or insecure? In day to day life people take a dominant or submissive role, they way you act in a relationship is part of that.
I've just been on here long enough to know that when a guy says anything about being dominant on here they get attacked by a ton of SJW's
Then those people are incredibly misinformed.
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you never had a chance with me, honey
@2opaz I'm engaged.
Oh really you sound interesting, how do you like to be dominant
So it's somehow complicated: I like to be dominant when I feel she likes it and I want her to be dominant (but slow) if she likes it. The least she could do is to follow suit.
Guess I will not vote after all as there is no "depends/both" option.I'm mainly working it out as we go along, I don't have a rule. But (un) fortunately because most of my girlfriends had no experience, I ended up being the dominant one.
Let's just say I prefer to be dominant, but I want my partner to be assertive no matter what role she wants to play.
Have you tried this with any of your partners? :D
@Gramer With me being dominant, I've tied them up and teased a partner here and there, they liked it. I like it too. For most times though, I want him in control.
I guess you like to switch in most cases to keep it more exciting, right? :D
I feel that, understandable.
@The-Three You know there are those cases..
You misunderstood the question 💀
@The-Three Oh no my English is bad :( :(
Lol it's a sex question
I prefer dominant! I want a partner who knows what he wants and doesn't do whatever I say
I can sympathize with that.
Would you say dominant women have defective brains? Do you think your SO is defective for liking it?
Of course not, everyone is different, babe. Embrace your submissive side.
@Rose_Red No, I don't think those things. I think she is very bright and I think she has a winner's attitude, she is a go-getter and she's confident. We talked about this in the past and about insecurity, and we're trying to work together on confronting my insecurity in several different areas.@ZoeB95 I try, I really do. I can't escape it[my submissive side], so I should just enjoy it, right?
@ZoeB95 It's easier to enjoy in the moment I think. When we're together at a hookah bar on the couches late at night, and I'm laying into her in the way the girls are doing to their boyfriends, I'm never thinking to myself "Is it unbecoming of a man to let a girl be the dominant cuddler?", I just sit there and take it all in, and I enjoy it. It wouldn't be maybe until hours later that I consider "wow am I like a pathetic turbofaggot or something?"She is a very good relationship leader, and our personalities in that sense fit together really well. I know she would never call my masculinity into question. I am just sorta afraid someone else will. We talked about how it's not feminine to be in touch with my feelings and that it takes emotional maturity to be able to articulate them. I think it's really helping me personally for her to help me deconstruct insecurity that's plagued me ever since I started having attraction to girls and feeling adult feelings.
@ZoeB95 That's not even getting into sexual stuff. I've guilted myself for years for my role-reversal porn collection. I wonder still sometimes if having spanked and choked me with a leash would make me someone she can't see as a man. I enjoy the fuck out of it, there's nothing wrong with this. And I really don't think it does when I think soberly about it, I'm just psyching myself out.I guess I can't escape being scared of what I think other people are thinking.
Honestly she sounds like the best thing for you. Hopefully she can help you overcome these feelings of self-doubt and truly accept yourself for once. Just know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.I do think you two should look into joining a group for couples who love the same things. It would help you tremendously to be around someone like you.
Has this ever happened to you often? :D
Would you settle down with her?
@iLala_Water Perhaps, depends on if she's like that all the time or not.
What's the point then? If you're a dominant and she's a dominant how do you expect it to work out? Obviously she's not going to let you walk all over her. It would be wiser to get a submissive.
Of course she's not going to let me walk all over her that's the point :) submissive girls give in too easily, and I like the power struggle. In reality I'm always the one in control, the fun is in allowing them to be dominant until I feel like taking it back.People aren't always exclusively dominant or submissive, sometimes it goes back and forth.
Um... Honestly I'm pretty sure that that if your significant other were a dominant they wouldn't let you do that. dominace is nature. Most dominants tend to prefer submissive. If you have a relationship with a dominant it might get tricky and both of you could end up hurt. Maybe tell the submissive to try and resist? That could work.
Considering I'm talking from personal experience and not hypothesis, I'm pretty certain of this lol.The same person can be both dominant and submissive, and two doms together is a lot of fun.
Biological yes that's obvious, but in the reallife execution of it I wanted to see if I would be surprised by the results.
As I said. There is plenty of research on that matter. Not only biological, but psychological.In the end though the biological reality will almost always be reflected in the psychological reality. And absolutely nothing wrong with it - even if some people try everything to fight their biological reality.
Yes, but a lot of psychology stems from a persons biological circumstances. With this data i can see a lot of men prefer a dominant female (even if not most), which if not surprising, is interesting. As you could perhaps correlate that with the changes within society. How people view sex and relationships I mean. I just think it's cool. 😛
And as you can see there are a lot more guys who like a dominant girl than there are girls who like a submissive guy.Quite frankly - the competition among men is quite a bit harder to prove oneself to be "worthy". There is an interesting study about sexual economics by Roy F. Baumeister. You should be easily find it as a. pdf.Anyway, the point of it is that essentially women have the supply and men the demand. Aka women decide the "price" for their sexuality and men have to prove that they are capable of "paying" it. And I am not talking about money, but about quality, social status, etc.So considering women decide the "price" it means there are a good chunk of men who are incapable of "paying" it. For example - biologically speaking we have twice as much female than male ancestors. Those men just fall flat and out of the equation of having reasonable chances for intercourse.
They are the bottom of the quality-barrel. Not necessarily, because they are (though some really are), but because they lack any sense of confidence, masculinity and willpower to improve.So what's left for them? Either they start striving for improvement or they accept their fate. If it's the later, it is often developing and expressed in some weird sexual needs. Cuckolding would be a pretty extreme example of that - but feeling inferior to women and thus desiring a dominant one is a pretty common one among those kind of guys. Putting the woman on a pedestal and just acting like a backbone-free weasel.Oh, and while women control the supply of sex, men control the supply of commitment. So it kinda balances itself out.
And of course mankind isn't solely biological, but it still affects us to a good amount.
How is it different in the bedroom? Is this where you are the tool?
@Chiral I'll use a tool. lol
Have you tried it many times to be dominant? :D