Yes, for most people it takes courage, regardless of the gender that is asking.
The reason is that you are de facto in an inferior position since you are the asker, the beggar in this case and in most cases, the only reply to be expected is rejection. Nobody likes to be rejected because it is a direct blow at the ego.
Introvert people are more likely to give up sooner because they tend to give up sooner.
But then you have also those guys that make it a habit to just ask any girl age 16+ for a date in the hope to get under just any skirt. Looks don't matter as long as they are successful. Those don't need to gather courage anymore since they know the game inside out. For them, rejection is just part of the game.
Women are chickenshits. Asking someone out is scary as hell. But being afraid to take half of the risk is beyond stupid. You both have to meet each other half way.
I've asked out a lot of girls, and I can say it takes a lot of courage. Why? First of all, most social contact happens in public, so rejections tend to be public as well. Second, women tend to be brutal to guys they don't like. If you're not sure where you stand with a girl, that can make things a bit dicey in the runup. Third, most guys don't just ask to ask. Most guys ask out girls they really like. That means that they have already emotionally invested in the girl to some degree, i. e. they really like her... and stuff. The reason players take rejection so well is that they're not emotionally invested in girls at all. They're just running a game trying to get their dicks wet in any girl who will let them.
u I am not afraid to ask out a woman. If she says "no," my life will go on. This is the attitude that develops with actually asking women out either in person or on the phone, rather than sending a stupid, cowardly text.
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I can only answer this question for my self. First let me say I'm a combat veteran I have had people shooting at me who wanted to kill me and that's not as frightening as asking a girl out. Rejection is a bitch and if that's not bad enough some women are particularly cruel about the way they shoot a guy down
My problem is being too direct, it takes no time to "work up the courage" If there's free time, and I'm having a conversation with a woman I'm going to try and get her to come with me somewhere, anywhere with things to do, alcohol close by, and definitely food with background music. If that goes smooth, trying for back at my place, or another date. Again and again, day after day, striking out does not phase me, and you try try try
Fear isn't the problem, it's that even if things go right, the reward doesn't justify the risk. Women don't put much effort into relationships. So from our perspective, we're just paying tons of money for a headache. It doesn't help that the signs you think are so clear, aren't clear to us at all.
As a youngster I was a bit reticent about asking pretty girls out. That changed when I realised that paying attention to a girl with a prettier friend got the pretty friend flirting with me. Girls want to be asked out as much as guys want to ask, if not more, and seem to count it as some sort of trophy status.
Look I've been holding out but after this question came out then i think i should ask. So @Curlybrunette111 would you like to get a beer with me and some pizza? I've been wanting to ask you but wasn't sure how to ask. So i really would like to go with you. 😃😂
It’s not bad if you dont put too much stake in it like brooding over a crush curled up in a pity ball all alone in a dark room.
There are tons of hot girls out there the moment you get fixated on one and obsess it’s going to really hurt when they say no and prevent future attempts.
Trouble is getting them alone and in an appropriate area to engage in conversation. keep your attempts light hearted and frequent
Can’t speak for other dudes. But I’m really shy toward girls I suspect might like me. Like I love teasing girls, making silly jokes, but as soon as I realize that they might actually be seriously accepting my jokes as advances, I become shy. I might be the only one in the world who’s both an introvert and an extrovert.
But to answer your question, I’m so scared of asking out girls I’ve only ever gone on one single date in my 23 years here. And that’s because she asked me.
Pretty scared it's the ultimate test. Human females make the choice so it's literally getting judged as to whether your worth keeping in the gene pool.
Not at all, actually. What we're afraid of is that we won't ask in such a way that it maximizes our chances of sex occurring.
I don’t chase women. Guys need to start viewing themselves as the prize
i feel like often times, the possibility of getting rejected seems so high, it's not worth it to even ask. that's basically the only reason i may not do it.
If she’s a smoke show... unless she gives me signs that she finds interest in me. I’d probably never make a move. Unless it’s full moon and I’m feeling ballsy
We can have all the same thoughts, feelings and insecurities that you women do about approaching. Like you, it can and does stop some of us from doing it at all.
What I notice among friends is that it just depends on the girl. If it is someone you know for a longer time, it can be far more scary
Well, no one likes being rejected. So, there is that
Somewhat scared, I do need some courage but not a lot.
I'd be more inclined to stick my dick in the mashed potatoes. At least I'd anticipate the correct amount approval vs rejection more accurately.
if you really want to know what it's like, then maybe you should try asking a guy out yourself.
Like anything else in life, confidence comes from experience.
Okay, I'll just say it: Women asking such questions sound too desperate to just ask a man out.
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