Hell I'd be flattered if a girl asked for my number. It shows she's got guts and it's afraid of rejection. If a girl I wasn't attracted to asked, I'd simply say no thank you. Not give them, oh no I'm taken(when their clearly single), or give them a fake number, or anything else misleading or f***ed up. Women she first hand the reaction on guys faces when their rejected and some are too emotional to handle rejection themselves. They see guys get rejected and think, Damn I'm lucky I'm a chick, I couldn't handle that. Women aren't required to go out their comfort zone a lot of the time, for us men its almost a requirement. The chances of you being forever alone is greater when you don't suck it up and ask a girl out, women will never have to face that problem. No one ever said only men should ask girls out so any women talking down on other men who aren't confident enough to do it are hypocrites. And that whole thing about looking desperate if girls ask guys out is one lame ass excuse. It doesn't make you seem like a hoe, it shows you aren't afraid to go after what you want which is a compatible partner and not some snobby chick who doesn't feel she needs to do it because she thinks men should do all the work. Times are changing, a lot of things that were gender specific aren't anymore.
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Women these days are not afraid, they simply don't want to ask men out. The most common reasons is that either having a man in their life will ruin their careers or they are afraid of their image as looking desperate, slutty and needy. There's also another common belief that there are not enough quality men in the world. The few women that do have guts to ask a man out always approach the very best of the best: Tall, handsome, healthy, wealthy, athletic, age-specific, race-specific and rich. Personality? Ha! Confidence? Whatever. These things cannot be evaluated within the five-second time frame when a woman decides you MIGHT be the Chosen One.
Men in return shouldn't ask women out anymore. Just begging for sexual harassment charges. No defense, no early warning, just a complete ruination of your life or a good portion of it.
Would I reject a woman asking me out? It would take a lot for me to reject her, such as smoking, underaged, a welfare mommy and so on. Boobs, pretty face, ethnicity, income has no bearing on my expectations on a woman.
I can't pay enough for a woman to ask me out.
So, there it is. Feminism at it's fundamental core on dating. They have songs about women approaching men, but it rarely happens. Sad.
Honestly, it's 2013 and us women should not feel scared to ask a man out. Times have changed. But, for me, I always think . . . if he had any interest me HE WOULD'VE MADE AN ATTEMPT to talk to me and ask me out lmao. Which is probably the worst way to think because it doesn't get you anywhere because he is probably thinking that exact same thing. There's just something about a man asking you . . . their confidence . . if they approach you. I don't know. But, it's a turn on for me lol. Guys might feel the same way if a girl asks them out, but I always think doing that might send off a desperate type vibe. & that is not guaranteed . . where did you get that statistic from? lol. I have a couple of guy friends and girls have asked for their number and they gave it to them . . but never picked up when they called. It honestly just depends on if he is attracted to you or not . . he's not going to be interested in you just because you have a vagina lol. Even though that is the case for some men. I've always been raised with the mentality that MEN HAVE TO CHASE YOU not the other way around . . so I guess it's stuck with me lol. Which is definitely not fair to the male gender...but hey in the end...does it really matter who does the asking?
no. nothing to do with hunting. men are baby cowards when it comes to women asking them out and its freaking annoying.
many men throw tantrums when women ask them out so many women just don't feel like bothering,
personally I don't want to g out with someone who can't respect me. including my willingness to act in my interest instead of preening and brooding like an idiot- untill he decides to shed his light my way.
my asking, so it doesn't deter me from asking. its if anything avery good source of character information. whether he handles himself with grace or not- regardless of his interest level.
i have NEVER complained about not being asked out. imo, if you think something needs to be dine, no better person than yourself todo it.
ive been asking guys out since I was 4.
I know some girls might be afraid to ask a guy out because doing so might make them look desperate or needy. But I think it's a matter of attitude: if you ARE desperate or needy that will show and the other person might not like that, but if you're cool about it, and ask the guy out out of interest, not desperation, I don't see why guys would find that a turn-off.
Actually, girls don't like it when guys look needy either.
Nobody likes to be rejected, especially when we really like somebody, but I think the way rejection affects a person is directly related to the amount of expectations and the degree of desperation each person has.
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In Russia and other European countries girls ask guys out more than you can imagine, because in those countries girls understand that they are GIRLS and they have all cards in their hands, but in US it I very uncommon and considers to be a self disrespectful thing or they think that in guys eyes they look extremely desperate if they gona ask them out, and that's a flawed US thinking and extreme misunderstanding, petty isn't it.
You mean ask a total stranger out or someone you know and have been talking to?
Id say I'm less afraid to hit on a total stranger because if he says no I wouldn't be too shocked and its not like id probably ever see him again.
But a guy I've been talking to is much worse because its usually a guy at school and I know from experience seeing that same face after a rejection is awful. Id start to walk a different route just to avoid the guy.
I never actually asked the guy out but the two times I tried to get to know a guy I first liked for his looks didn't turn out well. It made me give up on talking to guys beyond the friend level but I tried again after the first time and the second and last time resulted in a similar fashion. I'll probably try again but I'm better off letting the guy come to me first.That's just not true. First off we aren't afraid of the 5 seconds of embarrassment from the rejection, women have much more at stake in this than guys. Women's reputations are on the line, first off not only do you seem desperate as a girl asking out a guy, but second, you look pretty skanky. I mean it is awesome for girls to do that if they want a casual hookup in a bar, but not for an actual relationship. If a guy can't gather the stones to ask a girl out maybe he has no business dating in the first place. The only thing guys have to be afraid of is being ignored for a minute by a stranger or 5 seconds of rejection, it boosts their reputation asking girls about and playing the field..women not so much. Just being realistic here.
I feel women and men are just as uncomfortable / fearful of asking out each other.
The only difference is that males are PRESSURED to overcome this fear...while girls for the very vast majority of humankind have had zero pressure to overcome this fear.Yes. I'm not popular at all. If someone knows me, they know me as "the quiet girl". And I have a lot to improve physically. So asking someone out is absolutely terrifying. Especially since women don't often ask guys out, so I don't want to risk looking desperate if I don't have to. I'll wait for him to ask me out and if he doesn't, then I will have to ask him out.
Yes they're scared of rejection just like a lot of people. The thing is that it will NEVER change. Women find it attractive and overall, you gotta do what you gotta do to go out with them. You need 30 seconds of confidence and you can do it!
I can't speak for all women but I sure am terrified of asking out guys. I'm just really shy and would cry if I got rejected. Its humiliating. I actually did ask out a guy recently for the first time in my life and got rejected. I was so embarrassed. Good thing I did it online. I don't think id do it ever again though. It was not a good experience.
Actually it depends on the guy, usually we're not comfortable with asking guys out because the moment we do, nothing can ever be the same, like his behavior towards her changes completely and usually we feel they get weirded out after they know that we are attracted to them.
I believe many people are afraid of rejections regardless of gender. I do not think that a man would always say a yes to a woman who approach him, this is based on your own assumption and not fact. Like Anon user who commented if the guys are taken, he wouldn't say yes.
I'm not sure what makes you think that 9x out of 10x a man won't reject her. A guy won't simply say a yes to a woman if he isn't attracted to her. He can't be out with women he isn't attracted to. Same rule applies for women.Women are scared to get a bad reputation if they ask men out. A good reputation is easily lost and it's difficult to repair a damaged reputation: other women take care of that. To keep their (potential or not) boyfriends out of reach of the competition.
"9 times out of 10, he won't reject her." I disagree. A woman might ask out a guy that has a girlfriend, or simply doesn't have time to date at that point in his life. Also some guys are so afraid of women they will turn her down even if he likes her. Women would also be more likely to only ask out guys that are out of her league so they would get rejected more often than not.
if I really like him and I know that he likes me, I would let him know some way.
Humans are scared sh*tless of asking other humans to engage in long-standing relationships knowing full well it's for mating. Because that's kind of a "big thing" in the species.
Because a lot of women believe the lie of advice that men will find them less desirable if they asked the guy out.
Yes. I'm either:
A: "not their type"
B: " My ass is too big"
c: Not popular enoughOh yeah... most women really have no guts... they're petrified of taking risks (with EVERYTHING pretty much).
Yeah I'm scared. I did it once and I'm never going to do it again.
Most guys are not friendly enough. I probably won't even approach a guy much less ask one out. 9 times out of 10 he won't reject her? Yeah right.
Plus it looks kinda desperate when a girl asks a guy out. I don't recommend a girl ask a guy out unless she is about 99% sure that he really really likes her.
I don't care if a guy thinks I don't have guts. I'm sure girls don't care whether or not girls as a whole have guts.Most guys don't like black girls so asking them out would be pointless. I'll wait until one asks me out, and that way I know they really like me.
Because women and girls believe their too good to approach men but if he's really good looking, tall and smart she won't hesitate but even then she's waits for him. There's no law or rule that says its a guys job to do all the approaching.
when you mean hunters, you mean hunting in prehistoric times right? if we were in those times, I wouldn't have a problem with that
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