I found out from a mutual friend that my Crush likes me, as I do him. He is planning to tell me- how do I respond?

[Anonymous]

I feel like ‘I like you, too!’ Is too awkward? Plus, he has apparently been nervous to tell me because- for cultural reasons- I’m not allowed to date. Ever. And he doesn’t wanna make it awkward.

ahhh, what do i do?

We are both Sophomore’s, by the way. Thank you in advance!

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Update: figured it was important to note that we are actually already really close friends, and yes- I like him, too!

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HE ASKED TO MEET UP ON THE WEEKEND. I AM FREAKING OUT, IF ANYONE WANTED TO KNOW.

[JustSomeGuy11]

Stop it. You're not allowed to try and dodge the awkwardness 😂

I suppose it could be seen as awkward, but from his point of view, the girl he really likes just told him she likes him too.
I think you should tell him you like him instead, he's in a weird position where if he doesn't ask you out he carn't date you, yet if he does out you out he carn't date you anyway for cultural reasons.
So just be all 'hey I just wanted to say that I think you like me, it's ok if you do, and that I wanted to tell you that I like you too, but we carn't go around telling people because I'm not allowed to date.' type thing. He'll feel an 'Oh shit she knows' moment, but it'll be less awkward for both you and him in my opinion.

Compared to instantly hugging/kissing him, running away and hiding or screaming very loudly, saying 'I like you too' is the least awkward option. 😂

[Asker]

I was hoping to, but I suppose that is a little unrealistic :((. I suppose I should resign myself to weathering the awkwardness as other mortal people do!

Thank you for your response! I didn’t really consider it from his point of view, I was kinda just worrying about like. Whether that would seem over-eager or too ‘little’ to say, in a way? But alongside the other options you’ve mentioned, I agree- it is the least awkward!

TBH, I don’t think I’m brave enough to bring it up myself, but I know I should and will try my best to, if he doesn’t say anything next time we meet.

Ahhh, this is so complicated in my mind.

[JustSomeGuy11]

Nah it's not eager and if anything perhaps just right, as long as its said with enthusiasm... But of course not too much.
If you find yourself struggling to bring it up then perhaps ask a friend to tactically blurt up something along the lines of 'aahh *guys name* she knows... And *your name* he's knows too' 'knows what?' 'that you like eachother...' followed with a 'nnoo he doesn't know that' subtlety hinting that you do like him or something along those lines where you personally don't have to jump straight into it.

Good luck fellow mortal, may your head explode because of the complexities. 😂

[Asker]

Simple, honest response or the help of a tactful friend- got it! I shall no doubt spend the week pondering these options, but this has helped alot! Thanks again, mortal.

[Insomnia72]

My old fart advise? Just tell him. No pretences. Just put it out on the table. No games, no bullshit. Just tell him. Whatever the consequences, so what. I've been there, done that. I sufferered for it. I upset women just telling them, "I want to eat your pussy" and she frowned and walked away from me. I took a chance. But I put it out there. I took a chance. I told her what I was feeling and it failed miserably. I took a chance. So take a chance. Risk it. Enjoy life. Happy New Year :D

[Thatgirl_r]

😂 well thing is do you like him? 🤔 alsooooo yno in like 5 years it won’t matter so YOLO just do what you want and live life to your max x

[Asker]

Yes, I do- very much!

[oldoldold]

One day you will be an adult and then you can date him

[AllGirlsAreBeautiful]

take time before you respond