Is it shallow to refuse to date any diabetics?

[Avicenna]

[alice55]

It's not, diabetics usually die younger than others people so it's understandable to not want to date someone unhealthy.
But I say you said you wanted more kids and pregnancy can heal diabetics though, my aunt got pregnant 3 times and after her second kids she didn't have diabetes anymore (just had to be careful with sugar but that's all). She also get pregnant very easily (her first 2 kids weren't planned and at the time if her first kids she had diabetes for many years).
Also a woman who's normal can get diabetes during her pregnancy and keep having it even after giving birth (happened to my mother cousins).

[fauchelevent]

I mean kinda? But all dating preferences (e. g. refusing to date someone overweight, refusing to date someone shorter/taller than you) can be considered shallow so it's not a huge deal. My partner is diabetic though and it doesn't hugely affect our relationship, could I ask why you wouldn't date one?

[Avicenna]

I'd like to have more kids and it's harder for diabetics to get pregnant, plus pregnancy can exacerbate the health problems diabetics face. Don't forget I am not going to have a partner your age, most likely she'd be in her late 30s.

[fauchelevent]

That makes sense. I think in men, diabetes is thought to potentially reduce sperm quality but not to cause infertility as a result, and since my partner is in his early 20s, it would be a very different situation for us than for you and a female partner of an advanced age where it's already beginning to become more difficult to concieve.

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you dating for casual sex or to find a long term partner? Is having children in the future part of your plans? A diabetic woman will have more problems with a pregnancy and is more likely to pass along her diabetes to her children. I think those are legitimate concerns.

[Avicenna]

Yes, having children is part of my plans.

[OlderAndWiser]

Obviously, the woman you marry is the source of 50% of the DNA that your children will have. It is wise to consider the quality of that DNA.

[Avicenna]

I don't do casual sex anyway and I like having a family and building something special. As I learned this year in Texas, you have to have the right person for that.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes it is Shallow cause i am a Diabetic and i feel girls
won't date me cause they think i have ED ( Erectile Dysfunction)
which i feel i masturbate pretty well and have no problem.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

[CapricornHoney]

That depends on what your reasoning is for not dating a diabetic.

[eviegurl]

Not really it's kinda a big thing and can really end up with you feeling a lot of pain because of thier condishions so not getting in olved I the first place is a good idea if your weak and don't want to have to deal with something as hard as watching someone you love die slowly because the medical system is to greedy to simply cure them even tho it's possible instead they use them for money while they prolong thoes suffering and actually create the condishions for witch they claim to be treating with little to no effect that one I wouldn't say is shallow but rather selfish but not shallow

[NightOwl8801]

Diabetes runs in my family...
My late grandmother was diabetic, had to take insulin shots since she was in her 40s , diabetes didn't kill her...
My aunt has an insulin pump , she used to take a pill to manage her diabetes until she got the pump , she's a survivor of breast cancer for over 15 years now. I highly doubt diabetes will get her anytime soon...
I don't hold diabetes against anyone unless they just don't take care of themselves and ignore advice from doctors and friends, this happened to a coworker I used to work with. He pretty much ate what ever he wanted , ignoring the doctor and the people he worked with. He came back to work and that was the last week he was physically able to , about three months or so he became medically retired due to his own health problems, he now lives on medical disability

[Mädchen]

Dating preferences are always kind of shallow. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't have them. But what do you have against diabetics? They aren't necessarly overweight.

[Avicenna]

I'd like to have some more kids

[Mädchen]

But diabetics can still have kids. And it doesn't necessarly decrease the quality of Life. Plus it's not always hereditable. My father has diabetes but neither me nor my sibligs have it.

[Avicenna]

It makes a pregnancy considerably more difficult, and these would be women in their 30s.

[Jaximus-Lion]

MEH! You are not the only one. I am diabetic since 1998 and there was nothing much i could do about to avoid it, i can't avoid my genes and DNA plus if the person have diabetes and they have it under control i don't see what the problem is but if they don't have it under control and all out of shape and complaining about how it effected their lives and all that nig nag so am on your side.

[Tommie21]

How would you know if they're diabetic or not? Do you make them fill out a questionnaire, or do you wait until you see tell tell signs before dumping her?

[Avicenna]

Obviously she told me. It's not something I'd ask.

[Tommie21]

I didn't mean to be insensitive. My son is diabetic and he tries to hide the fact. Diabetes, in some cases, can be reversed or at least diminished a great deal. I think I would find out what type she has, how far along it has progressed, and what kind of other health problems the disease is causing. But ultimately, it is your decision. If you are compatible and you enjoy each other's company, then it makes your life more enjoyable.

[Avicenna]

She's Type II and thinks undergoing a pregnancy could be life threatening.

[tallandsweet]

If they’re a Type 1 diabetic, yes. If they’re a type 2 diabetic, the other answers apply... it really depends on how you define shallowness

[Avicenna]

In this case they're Type 2. I should have mentioned that- thanks for bringing it up.

[slatyb]

It's not shallow to refuse to date diabetics who don't manage the disease. That will end badly, and probably relatively soon. If the disease is managed then people can have a normal lifespan.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes, probably. But you do what makes you happy, it's your decsission.

[ninjafemme]

Its complex. They are ill and likely not to be around for very long. Its a tough call.

[truthbeknown]

It's your life and your personal choice who you date. I believe in dating someone to make you happy, not society. You have every right to avoid someone for any reason you see fit.

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Not necessarily. I can understand wanting a healthy woman, although her diabetics wasn't her fault or self inflicted disease.

[Mayfair]

Agree with Capricornhoney, depends on a reason

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends how they treat people

[JustforLaughs1]

It is cold, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

[Jasiouz]

Yes 25% of my women are vegan

[outside_Toronto]

not really

[RosePetal0260]

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[GreenGold1992]

yeah