Has a very attractive guy ever fallen in love with an girl who wasn’t necessarily his type?

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Maybe she ugly or unattractive I don't know. Could a handsome guy love her and if so why would he? Have you fell in love with someone you didn’t expect or wasn’t necessarily your type and why?

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What first captured him to fall in love before it all etc

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serious | 4.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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1. "Maybe she ugly or unattractive I don't know. Could a handsome guy love her and if so why would he? "

If he didn't find her physically cute, appealing or attractive then he must surely find her personality very attractive. Maybe her personality was like gold, glittering all the time. Say her looks were 5/10 but her personality must be around 9.5/10 then of course it is possible in this case. Of course that is if as a guy he is willing to compromise on the looks and go for the personality only then what I said will happen and also the woman's personality should be worth it. If the woman lacks clearly in both the departments with lots of flaws then there is absolutely no chance that the guy will love her.

2. "Have you fell in love with someone you didn’t expect or wasn’t necessarily your type and why?"

Well, I have always been single and yes I have my standards and I give importance to both physical and personality standards equally and won't compromise one for another. Both the standards are high also.

However all this irrelevant as I never want to be in love (never been in love also) and just wish to remain single for life. My definition of love is also very different, given that I am a very logical person.

Hence in short ( #N/A).

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Matthew2222

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I am not really the narcissistic type enough to say I am attractive, but I have fallen for girls that were not my type in one way or another.

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Powderpuff97

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Why is that? What was it about them
Matthew2222

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Well, a few were a race that I am not normally that drawn to. Not sure why, but they just appealed to me on some level. I have fallen for a few dark haired girls, even though I prefer redheads or blondes. And I have fallen for a few girls that were on the skinny side, since I usually go for chubby girls. In every case, I was attracted to some aspect of them and only later did it dawn on me that they were not my "type". I consider "types" a probability distribution, rather than a rule.
Matthew2222

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@Powderpuff97 What made you ask this question?
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Powderpuff97

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Because I hate that this attractive guy that I’ve known is trying to get my attention and I’m honestly not his type at all. He dates girls who looks like models etc. Maybe he’s just bored or because he’s used to getting female attention. I hate the attention and constantly ignore him well avoid him because we don’t talk but we’ve been friends since kids
Matthew2222

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Well, you cannot be certain that he is not genuinely interested. I have gone after a few girls that sort of shocked my friends in that they had no idea I liked other kinds of girls. A few of my friends were very surprised to find out that I liked bigger girls too, since I had never said anything to them. If you are certain he is not interested that is one thing, but you need really high grade intel to be sure of that.
Powderpuff97

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I don’t know lol he followed me on Instagram and liked my pictures and was active on my page after moving away but then I unfollowed him and I haven’t seen him in awhile but then I saw that he subscribed to my friends channel on YouTube so I don't know he may be eyeing her now

This is why I say he probably wasn’t genuine because he never asked me out or told me he liked me
Matthew2222

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Well I cannot agree with that last conclusion. For every girl I have actually asked out or told I liked her there have been at least 10 that I genuinely liked but never got the courage, opportunity, etc. to ask or approach. Now that is just me, but even the most outgoing guy probably only asks every other girl.
Powderpuff97

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But like I remember one time when he gave me a hug it felt very affectionate/caring... not sexual in any way! He hugs everyone including me but this time it felt different. Or I can see him looking at me when I’m talking to someone or laughing or holding my niece, or simply just staring in space. When I was in deep thought before with my hand on my face he came up and gently touched my hand and said hey with a concerned look or are you ok look
Powderpuff97

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These don’t mean he likes me because he probably would have made a move because he’s not shy obviously and he’s used to getting female attention
Matthew2222

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Hmm. Based on the information you have, I do not think you can conclude he does not like you. If you like him the best course would be to see where things go, not trying to pull or push him either way.
Powderpuff97

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Him subscribing to my friends YouTube when they don’t talk or follow eachother makes me uneasy
Matthew2222

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That is hard to read. The significance of a Youtube subscription varies from person to person, but for a lot of people it is trivial to the point of meaninglessness.
Powderpuff97

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Yeah well then that just means I was basically a joke to him. Why else would he subscribe to her channel.

It’s her doing acting skits with another guy

by the way we all go to the same church
Matthew2222

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Hmm, well he might subscribe out of vague friendship or something. My background deals a lot with signaling and such. Youtube subscriptions are not a good signal either way because they are very low cost to send. Other signals, such as asking a girl out, are better since they are very high cost. In any case, I cannot see a better course than the wait and see game unfortunately. He could have subscribed to get closer to you and your friend, seeing her as a conduit of sorts. You do not have to put any effort into this guy, but if he really likes you, than it will come to light sooner rather than later. The fact that you are a church goer raises my opinion of you and your friends substantially though.
Powderpuff97

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Actually I just found out that he has a girlfriend now

I’m used to him bringing different girls every few months to church.

This girl isn’t really my friend I just call her that for the sake of this story. We were friends growing up and she admitted to me that she liked. I kept me liking him to myself but then I came out and told her that I liked him she started acting funny so we broke off being friends

But she’s pretty etc

Also like 6 years ago, (we were about 15) she said She asked for his number and they exchanged numbers. She admitted that she liked him but he said he had a girlfriend.

But I’m sure if I would have asked for his number he probably would have said no. He wasn’t attracted to me at all when we were younger. He barely would say hi sometimes like he was nice to me but like he acted shallow back then ig
Powderpuff97

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I just kind of ended up hating myself as always. Like here again I wasn’t enough

It would hurt if he ended up liking my ex friend
Matthew2222

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Well, guys have been known to "keep a girl in the wing" just in case their current relationship heads south. Not the most ethical thing, but it happens. However, I think the best thing for you to do is distance yourself from the whole mess. I know you cannot do that in the sense of never seeing these people, but at least emotionally you should distance yourself. I understand it sucks when the guy likes the friend instead, but you need to try and think about this as something besides a slap in the face.
It is not that your friend is "pretty" and you are not. She is one type of girl and you are another. The guy might have a preference for her type over yours. As I said, exceptions to types do happen, but not every time. If he does not like you than that is his loss.
Powderpuff97

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So by subscribing to her YouTube you think that he’s keeping an eye out for her
Powderpuff97

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They’re both in relationships at the moment.
Powderpuff97

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But thanks for your help you’re an asshole 👌
Matthew2222

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I have to admit I am a bit confused by your response.
Powderpuff97

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You’ve been helpful I’m just a little hurt by what you said about him probably keeping an out on her in case things don’t work out and how he may choose her cause she’s prettier
Matthew2222

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My apologies, my word choice was poor to say the least. I do not know the guy, so I cannot judge whether he is the type to keep a girl as a friend "just in case". All I can say is I know guys that have done that, bad as it is.
On the second point, let me reiterate, if he were to end up choosing either of you, it would not mean that one was prettier than the other, only that he prefers one over the other. My point is that you should try not to fret over his choice, because it only reflects his preferences, not who is "prettier" in any universal sense (as if one were possible). One guy may choose you, and the next one that comes along may choose your acquaintance, simply because they each have different preferences.

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Powderpuff97

Why is that? What was it about them

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Matthew2222

Well, a few were a race that I am not normally that drawn to. Not sure why, but they just appealed to me on some level. I have fallen for a few dark haired girls, even though I prefer redheads or blondes. And I have fallen for a few girls that were on the skinny side, since I usually go for chubby girls. In every case, I was attracted to some aspect of them and only later did it dawn on me that they were not my "type". I consider "types" a probability distribution, rather than a rule.

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Matthew2222

@Powderpuff97 What made you ask this question?

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Powderpuff97

Because I hate that this attractive guy that I’ve known is trying to get my attention and I’m honestly not his type at all. He dates girls who looks like models etc. Maybe he’s just bored or because he’s used to getting female attention. I hate the attention and constantly ignore him well avoid him because we don’t talk but we’ve been friends since kids

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Matthew2222

Well, you cannot be certain that he is not genuinely interested. I have gone after a few girls that sort of shocked my friends in that they had no idea I liked other kinds of girls. A few of my friends were very surprised to find out that I liked bigger girls too, since I had never said anything to them. If you are certain he is not interested that is one thing, but you need really high grade intel to be sure of that.

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Powderpuff97

I don’t know lol he followed me on Instagram and liked my pictures and was active on my page after moving away but then I unfollowed him and I haven’t seen him in awhile but then I saw that he subscribed to my friends channel on YouTube so I don't know he may be eyeing her now

This is why I say he probably wasn’t genuine because he never asked me out or told me he liked me

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Matthew2222

Well I cannot agree with that last conclusion. For every girl I have actually asked out or told I liked her there have been at least 10 that I genuinely liked but never got the courage, opportunity, etc. to ask or approach. Now that is just me, but even the most outgoing guy probably only asks every other girl.

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Powderpuff97

But like I remember one time when he gave me a hug it felt very affectionate/caring... not sexual in any way! He hugs everyone including me but this time it felt different. Or I can see him looking at me when I’m talking to someone or laughing or holding my niece, or simply just staring in space. When I was in deep thought before with my hand on my face he came up and gently touched my hand and said hey with a concerned look or are you ok look

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Powderpuff97

These don’t mean he likes me because he probably would have made a move because he’s not shy obviously and he’s used to getting female attention

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Matthew2222

Hmm. Based on the information you have, I do not think you can conclude he does not like you. If you like him the best course would be to see where things go, not trying to pull or push him either way.

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Powderpuff97

Him subscribing to my friends YouTube when they don’t talk or follow eachother makes me uneasy

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Matthew2222

That is hard to read. The significance of a Youtube subscription varies from person to person, but for a lot of people it is trivial to the point of meaninglessness.

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Powderpuff97

Yeah well then that just means I was basically a joke to him. Why else would he subscribe to her channel.

It’s her doing acting skits with another guy

by the way we all go to the same church

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Matthew2222

Hmm, well he might subscribe out of vague friendship or something. My background deals a lot with signaling and such. Youtube subscriptions are not a good signal either way because they are very low cost to send. Other signals, such as asking a girl out, are better since they are very high cost. In any case, I cannot see a better course than the wait and see game unfortunately. He could have subscribed to get closer to you and your friend, seeing her as a conduit of sorts. You do not have to put any effort into this guy, but if he really likes you, than it will come to light sooner rather than later. The fact that you are a church goer raises my opinion of you and your friends substantially though.

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Powderpuff97

Actually I just found out that he has a girlfriend now

I’m used to him bringing different girls every few months to church.

This girl isn’t really my friend I just call her that for the sake of this story. We were friends growing up and she admitted to me that she liked. I kept me liking him to myself but then I came out and told her that I liked him she started acting funny so we broke off being friends

But she’s pretty etc

Also like 6 years ago, (we were about 15) she said She asked for his number and they exchanged numbers. She admitted that she liked him but he said he had a girlfriend.

But I’m sure if I would have asked for his number he probably would have said no. He wasn’t attracted to me at all when we were younger. He barely would say hi sometimes like he was nice to me but like he acted shallow back then ig

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Powderpuff97

I just kind of ended up hating myself as always. Like here again I wasn’t enough

It would hurt if he ended up liking my ex friend

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Matthew2222

Well, guys have been known to "keep a girl in the wing" just in case their current relationship heads south. Not the most ethical thing, but it happens. However, I think the best thing for you to do is distance yourself from the whole mess. I know you cannot do that in the sense of never seeing these people, but at least emotionally you should distance yourself. I understand it sucks when the guy likes the friend instead, but you need to try and think about this as something besides a slap in the face.
It is not that your friend is "pretty" and you are not. She is one type of girl and you are another. The guy might have a preference for her type over yours. As I said, exceptions to types do happen, but not every time. If he does not like you than that is his loss.

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Powderpuff97

So by subscribing to her YouTube you think that he’s keeping an eye out for her

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Powderpuff97

They’re both in relationships at the moment.

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Powderpuff97

But thanks for your help you’re an asshole 👌

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Matthew2222

I have to admit I am a bit confused by your response.

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Powderpuff97

You’ve been helpful I’m just a little hurt by what you said about him probably keeping an out on her in case things don’t work out and how he may choose her cause she’s prettier

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Matthew2222

My apologies, my word choice was poor to say the least. I do not know the guy, so I cannot judge whether he is the type to keep a girl as a friend "just in case". All I can say is I know guys that have done that, bad as it is.
On the second point, let me reiterate, if he were to end up choosing either of you, it would not mean that one was prettier than the other, only that he prefers one over the other. My point is that you should try not to fret over his choice, because it only reflects his preferences, not who is "prettier" in any universal sense (as if one were possible). One guy may choose you, and the next one that comes along may choose your acquaintance, simply because they each have different preferences.

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rockrewls | 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I'm sure it has happen a fair bit, and outside appearance probably wasn't all he was looking for, he probably like how beautiful she was inside?

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Powderpuff97

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What does that look like? What does a woman do specifically to be beautiful on the outside
rockrewls

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You mean't inside I assume, well she would be kind, compassionate, faithful, humorous, intelligent, attentive, loving, mentally stable, confident, most of the good qualities of humanity I would guess.

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Powderpuff97

What does that look like? What does a woman do specifically to be beautiful on the outside

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rockrewls

You mean't inside I assume, well she would be kind, compassionate, faithful, humorous, intelligent, attentive, loving, mentally stable, confident, most of the good qualities of humanity I would guess.

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