OK so there's this girl who works as a teller at my bank, very cute pretty cool. About a year or so ago after finishing my banking I casually asked her about a movie and coming with me. She had a boyfriend(oh well).
I thought nothing of it and bounced back. Even so after this last year or so we've still built a banter, talked about what's up with each other etc.
So we were talking the other day and I was joking with her about how she never goes anywhere does anything, and then she told me she's been going out a lot more. I asked why and she said oh my boyfriend and I broke up.
So I took it as no biggie and just told her about my plans for later(dollar bowling) with friends and told her to stop up.
She never did lol.
So the next day I went in and banked again(I run my own business in and out of the bank 3-4 times a week). She was there and said sorry she lost the number I gave her. So I teased her a bit and said she owed me and told her about how me and the guys were going out later.
She is also a liquor promo girl for Three Olives Vodka. She told me she was working at a place from 8 to 10 pm and me and the guys should stop by, so we did, we talked for a bit, flirted etc and that was that(she had to work at 830 am the next day at the bank).
I took this as an opportunity to be a nice guy and asked if she wanted me to bring her a cup of coffee, she of course accepted.
I then proceeded to ask her weekend plans and she said she had nothing, and then I asked her if she wanted to do something and she said yes.
So I bring her the coffee on Friday morning now and tell her when I leave I'll call her later and we'll finalize Saturday.
Call her leave a voice mail...no response.
Try to text her Sunday just a simple hey what's up...and again nothing. I intend to go do banking like normal in the next couple days...how am I supposed to handle it? Am I wasting my time? Do I give her a chance to come up with an excuse? Do I not even say anything about it? Or do I not even bother asking her out ever again?
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She's being a flake. I'm actually very impressed as you seem to be showing plenty of interest without acting clingy. I couldn't tell you exactly why this girl is acting weird. She may be hung up on her boyfriend. She may have gotten nervous about going out with you on a "date." Girls over analyze, so if she's not 100% sure of you, she may be weighing the consequences. Wondering if it'll make things weird at work, etc. Or she may just not be interested =/ Either way, I admire your persistence and that you haven't gotten all pissed off and whiny about it. My brother gets like that when girls flake on him, he'll even call them up and leave nasty voicemails. It's so embarrassing. Acting like that is such a turn off and makes a guy look insecure.
My only advice would be to play it off. I wouldn't even say anything. If it naturally comes up then make a joke of it. Otherwise play it as usual and give it a while before making another move. She may even come to you if she decides she messed up.2