Would you date someone who works as an escort?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Or has worked as an escort in the past?
Motivate your answer.

[JayMichigan616]

yes I would absolutely. I don't have a problem with sex work on any level unless we're talking about exploitation so as long as it's her choice and isn't losing any sleep over it then actually feel like I have no place to tell her to stop I suppose if we're to that place in the relationship where we mutually agree that the other one has a say in it then I would ask for her to quit once we reached a certain line such as marriage or children. I've accepted all of the Girls I've been involved with regardless of my views and focused on their personality trades well as our chemistry as a potential couple. In fact I have been with several escorts some retired. I never paid any of them and nor did I meet any of them as a result of them propositioning me on the street. all of them organically usually through a mutual friend cuz let's not forget that these girls aren't engineered in some lab they are our sisters daughters in fact I'd wager that if you are reading this probably have known or at least been acquainted with more than one in your lifetime. I like that sex work as a whole is losing its stigma and I think porn and everyone having access to their own personal camera is helping but this is still dangerous work and they are still members of our community who deserve protection and respect I think that's why so knowledgeable when it comes to this I don't think it's my place to judge or to change anyone and I like aggressive girls put themselves out there and aren't afraid to make the first move on a guy in fact I don't even date virgins under any circumstances sound have to be madly in love to even consider it. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with good girls I just prefer a girl with some experience for so many reasons that I'd be happy to talk to you about if you just message me. at the end of the day I could care less what she does as long as she doesn't lie to me and although I personally have no desire to change them I would encourage them to stop if they told me that they were any kind of uncomfortable or felt any kind of exploited or degraded. If you're thinking about getting into the business or worried about telling your significant other about it I wouldn't lie but perhaps I would switch to camming or think about joining the sugar baby site at least until you know how they're going to react but but you already know the there's always going to be a double standard. I've considered making some solo videos or doing someone webcamming myself and none of the girls in my life that I have discussed it with seems even be a little grossed out by if anything they're intrigued but your significant other and most of the men in your life going to shame you blame you degrades you accuse you and not believe you. even the best guys like just okay morally and as boyfriends.

[ScottStevens]

The entire realm of the escort world is large and diverse. If I were attracted to someone who is also an escort, I probably would not know that when we met. I would assume she was on the high end of the market and not a high volume lady. She could be one of many very cool ladies I have known in my life. This "other " life she leads helps her enjoy things her normal job would never provide. She is also very carful with her body and what happens.

If that were the case, I may be shocked when told (and honestly if we got close i'm sure she would tell me) but I would still evaluate her for what we share. If our time together turned into a serious relationship, I would expect her to leave that behind her. I would not hold it against her if we both wanted to move forward. I have my skeletons in the closet too!

[SueShe]

I personally would not because a person that works in the escort business is likely to have been humiliated, demeaned and been mentally misused.

While a number of those girls work there because they may even like what they are doing, a larger percentage of them probably do it not because they like the working environment and the people they are dealing with but because the monetary incentives are higher than to work in an office.

Besides, they are probably frowned upon by society for being people of low morale and little ethics. I cannot imagine, if I was a guy, that I would enjoy being in the company of that person knowing that she had let herself be "bought" to be intimate because that is most likely also part of the business to be close to your sponsors.

Perhaps that I am naive for thinking that way but if I have a person that I would want to be with it is because I care for that person and that includes to accept what he or she has had a past that was not so glorious. I cannot accept the fact that I may be perceived just like another "client" since when you are together, you basically do the same things that the escort would have done while working.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thank your for sharing your opinion, as always I enjoy reading it and you brought up excellent points I wholeheartedly agree with.

Naturally, where there's a situation of abuse and cohercion, the person in question doesn't have much a say.
The only person I had to deal with who was in a this business however did it mainly because she enjoyed it and the luxuries it brought to her, and I think it was a determining factor alongside her stunted maturity in the failures of her marriages and the her failed relationship with her children.
I can confirm your points and that you are not naive regarding the matter since I witnessed everything you wrote firsthand.

[SueShe]

I am aware that you personally experienced a similar situation and I made sure to carefully chose my words in an attempt to to insult you or cause you stress with my answer. Normally, I would be much more direct but I have learned to respect you.

If, with my comment I disrespected you or those that mean a world to you, then I do sincerely apologize.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Don't worry, there's no offense taken.
On the contrary, especially because I lived through that situation I can affirm that everything you said it's perfectly right.

I know that you respect me and I wholeheartedly appreciate it, and I assure you the respect is perfectly mutual.
I admire that you have strong ideals and stick to them, it's a rare quality nowadays.

[Account]

I could not. It is not that I have anything against them, on contrary...

It is just that I have never put monetary value to sex and I would not want to be with anyone who thinks/has thought of it that way. I tend to like people who remind me of myself, therefore I could not see myself falling for an ex escort. I'd be a friend to them, but I could never be anything else

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Excellent points.

[Account]

Thanks!

[OlderAndWiser]

I did that once about 5 years ago. After about 6 weeks, it became obvious that we were not a good match for reasons unrelated to her résumé.

[Finchie40]

It depends , I would be worried that she had STD’s and feel that sex wasn’t really fulfilling to her considering they were able to have sex with random strangers for money , so having an emotional chemistry with them would be very slim chances , I would hold a lot of walls up to her so if she really liked me she would have a lot of climbing to do to prove to me that she only wants me , if she was still an escort no way in hell I could date her knowing she is out getting screwed by another guy while she is with me isn’t going to fly very far with me

[Finchie40]

But if it was her past then maybe cuz it’s really no difference from just meeting a non escort girl today , most girls today aren’t virgins and already had dicks in them so an ex escort just got paid for it instead lol

[Miristheiss]

"Just got paid for it"
You see/feel no difference in her having sex with her former boyfriend she loved, found attractive, she had feelings for, possibly wanted to marry vs. a complete stranger, someone possibly gross, old. fat, hairy, someone she finds revolted yet still did it for money, 100s...1000s of times?

[Anonymous]

I don't think our personalities would mesh. Men who do escort tend to be more adventurous people and sometimes need more variety unless they've worked in the business because of dire financial needs. Also, I'd have to say the huge number of sex partners would definitely play with my head. I'm to vanilla down to the core.

Post Note: my statement is a generalization but from watching interview videos and reading articles about people who are on the upper end of the sex worker work.

[DiscomfortZone]

Now there's an interesting question... As for a woman currently working as an "escort" (by which we of course mean prostitute or whore) I wouldn't be comfortable at all, in fact I'd be quite appalled. It's not just that she fucks other men all day long. Think of the potential for STDs and such diseases, her risk becomes my risk. Besides, what happens when she comes home one day after a john beat her up? Escorts often get assaulted...

Now as for someone who used to be an escort in her past - well I'd want to know that she was really out of it, and it was out of her. That she doesn't even consider the option of going back to it. In which case I'd happily and quite easily ignore her past.

[hellionthesagereborn]

God no! What would be the point in that? First, she is sleeping with other men while I am expected to be loyal to her. Second, I'm suppose to make her feel special when she actively has treated herself like an every day commodity, that is contradictory (its like asking for respect when you have done nothing worth respecting.). Third promiscuity increases the chances of cheating, divorce, unhappiness in longer term relationships, dissatisfaction with sex (its not special if your doing it all the time and you can't see it as something of value if your giving it away to any one who is willing to pay for it), increased rates of anxiety as well as depression. Nothing about that is a good thing plus we clearly have different values because I do not believe in sleeping around and an escort obviously sees no issue with it.

[oldawg]

Yes I would date a lady who is an escort and I have a few times in the past. But that also depends on what level your relationship is. Being in the Biker lifestyle I have dated and lived with a lot of Peelers (Strippers) I usually find that these women are a lot more fun to be with. But when dating an escort I have more problems with some of my friends who think that because she is an escort that she's fair game for them to have their way with. I have had to tune a few of them up in other words they wore my fists. Just because she's an escort doesn't mean you don't treat her like a lady.

[Kaneki05]

Of course. I wouldn't judge on that at all unless if she is doing without protection with none clean people.

I would be aboustly okay with dating. Key word dating if we became a thing i wouldn't want her with any of that. Cause that would be cheating. I would help them with money and job and shit tho if we were a thing so we could get her out.

And i have no problem with an esscort there ain't a problem. What is a problem is if sheis in dangerous situation like a pimp or something.

[jamesgoldman]

Probably not if they still did... your needs would be another task at the end of the day
If they had been but had given up... maybe we all have done things in the past we regret or gave up when it got out of hand (at one point I used to huff nail varnish I don't anymore as it would have killed me and well I can drink as my worst case quick destress scenario)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't necessarily date someone who is in that niche. Maybe hookups and casual sex and whatnot.

I am aware that there are a lot of women in the "escort" world.

by the way escort is basically a "soft-landing" title for legalized prostitution.

The women in this business - I really feel sorry for them. They can get monetary gains in a short period of time. It is only a matter of time before they want to actually settle down. By then it would be too late because a lot of men would not want to date these types of individuals. High body count is a BIG TURN OFF for me and probably a lot of guys out there. Not just that, the women in these business practices practically become "damaged goods". Turn off for me and possibly other men out there.

But do whatever da FUQ YOU WANNA DOOOOO!

[robertKugler]

I could the right person.. i wouldn't want it hidden from me.. and be kept in the dark.. if im kept in the loop.. not saying full disclosure .. but in the loop n having regard for her relationship... balance... is possible it can be easy.. stress free.. in sync.. a time and place.. partner know... hey client flying in from Outta town its a sleep over... ill call u... all i need to know... but hon.. going for a coffee.. n two days later.. i have to hear so what WERE u DOING? that wouldn't fly.. mutual respect.. aderation.. honour, sincere, devotion... mutually beneficial... win win.. less keeping score the better..

[Miristheiss]

Bye, my love, you are so special to me, I am so lucky to have you in my life... now I am off ro have full blown sexual intercourse with some other guys, some foreign dicks are about to go in me, I will spend the afternoon blowing some men and they'll have there hands all over me... see ya tonight... love.

You are the 1000th guy I have had sex with. You are soooo "special".

HEEEEEEEEEEELL NO!!!

[padreflint]

If it was in her past, absolutely, but she'd have to give me proof she's got a clean bill of health. If she's currently working in the industry I don't think I could. I think it would be stressful worrying about her health and safety. But, you never know it could happen.

[shreya62]

If that is his past then I am ok with it...
Your thoughts?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I would, but only if I was really drawn to the person.
My mother worked has one and it's one of the reasons her marriages failed.

[shreya62]

I can understand that... there is chances that he/she like to go back there...

[Miristheiss]

That is insane ANYONE EVER married her.
Bye love, I am going to go screw 10 men... see ya this evening.
What a "marriage"

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Miristheiss I know.

[Miristheiss]

My mom and dad have been married over 30 years... dad is her only.
I know her and dad do it but I do not really think about it... I can't imagine the mental picture of mom doing 1000's of random men... many strangers.

I cannot even imagine.
I think I would hate her.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@Miristheiss thank you for stating the obvious. I'm happy you didn't have to grow up with that.

[claryy]

I think that if someone did it in the past is not a problem, the important thing is that he isn't doing it in the present. I don't care the past of a person, but if he wants to do it again while we are in a relationship, I am sorry but it can't work

[WhiteShoulder]

No. Absolutely not. Not currently.

In the past? I try to be open minded, but I am prejudiced against professional sex workers. Unless I REALLY liked them (probably because I knew before that), I still wouldn’t date them.

[Reaperbot666]

Just because they worked as a escort does not mean they had sex with any or all there clients.

However it is highly possible they did sleep with a few of them. Depending on cost and/or connection they had.

[pajamasam]

No.. not out of disrespect to that person's struggles or life choices, but because I have to be honest and admit that that person most likely has far more baggage than I am capable of unpacking. I would love to help someone like that or be friends with them, but a committed relationship would require a lot that I know I wouldn't be ready for.

[PeterSmiths]

Jealous insecure and inadequately providing. Are things a lot of guys might feel. To fall helplessly in love with someone especially young before sexual maturity has peeked and feel like what you were contributing isn't enough would be a common thing especially for some young males not all.
A mutual understanding between 2 adults who are comfortable with there sexuality and in there trust in each others comfortability in what is happening on the other hand. I think for a guy to really be comfortable with it. He would also be prepared and comfortable in participating with he's partner to also service the same clients if requested eliminating judgement and any sense off shame or guilt.

[i1T2daty]

Been there, done that. Some- not all, are beautiful and hyper-sexual. More escorts than any other group I know of are capable of multiple orgasms and I find that to be extraordinarily hot

[Malakai117]

If she was a sexual escort, I would need to see recent medical reports. To prove she was STD free. If she was clean no problem. That is her past.
If she is a current escort, I probably couldn't. I would stress over her safety. And would most likely be highly insecure about her being with other guys. It would not be good for me, son I would have to say no.