Would you befriend with a Escort/Sex Worker?

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Guys and Girls
Will you be ok to be friends with a girl who is a sex worker?
What if one of your friends chooses to be one would you leave her or keep on as usual?
Guys if yes would you keep it to just friendship or will take it further?
Girls if yes would you be ok having her in your parties and social gatherings?

Everyone's opinion is very respected for me and i am thankful for your time.
Those who dislike or dont agree please dont be rude and just leave your comment and thats it.. i am thankful to you too

chadpattan · Accepted Answer

Well, let's see.

My first girlfriend - 1996 - was a stripper. Though I didn't know it at the time, she told me after we started dating, but it didn't matter. I had suspicions that her sisters - at least one if not both - were escorts or strippers based on their bodies.

A friend was a webcammer before webcamming was a thing. We're talking Yahoo Chat here. SO around 1997-1998?

A later blind date - that would have been 1998, so probably my 3rd or 4th? - was an escort. I don't think she told me up front, I think I found out later through her sister (who tried to hook up with me and was also an escort) if I recall.

2003, A friend of mine was one of the very first "stars" for what is now known as "Naughty America". Not when I met her, but shortly after the fact.

2016-ish, was friends with a current "star" for that same company and a Hustler/Playboy model.

So - the answer to your question is yes. It seems like it should matter, but it doesn't. TO a lot of them it's just work.

drsatan · Accepted Answer

If she was an escort, working in porn or a stripper, I wouldn't care, in fact, it would probably make her more interesting.
If she was a street walker, I would try to convince her to try something else and if she didn't, I don't know how long a friendship could last.

And yeah, if she was an escort or working in porn, I probably would try to get in on the auction with her at least once, just out of curiosity. But I'd respect it if she wasn't up for that.

Tia_Maria · Accepted Answer

I would if she had the qualities I look for in a potential friend. And if any of my friends became one, I'd still remain close friends with her. I'd be worried about her safety and I'd probably be like a "mother hen" lol ; i'd always be telling her to keep safe.

An older woman that lived in my town was a prostitute; she wasn't a friend, but I felt no shame in talking to her. I'd often see her on a park bench when I walked my dog, and I always used to sit next to her and have a chat. Most people looked down on her; yet she was a better person than the people who looked down on her (I say "was" because she died about a year ago)

katjmj · Accepted Answer

Why not? I don't become friends with people because of their job. If she's cool and we click, whatever her work is, unless dangerously illegal, doesn't exactly matter.

If anything, props to her for capitalizing sex and her body - something regular people give away for free and sometimes, with unsatisfying results.

Widower123 · Answer

When I was 18, my first post high school girlfriend was a stripper. I should clarify first, she was an ex-stripper. As a not so experienced 18 year old (virgin), I was courted by this good looking woman who was so sensual and confident. On one Halloween night, she dressed up as a maid and teased me the whole night we were out, with a french accent speaking a little dirty. We went to bed and I cuddled her and the next morning the happiest (probably) 30 seconds of my life occurred when she took my virginity.

My comfortability around her started to wane because I often felt like I couldn't live up to the expectations she had with other men. Her body count, including me, was 42. My body count, including her, was 1. When she talked about stuff from her past, stripping, my own insecurities kept growing. Ultimately, she broke up with me and I felt less than for a long time.

Looking back on that relationship, I know we shouldn't have dated. We were better as friends and especially the sexual knowledge/experiences gap between us should have been an indicator to don't go past a certain point. My friendship with her was more valuable than us dating.

Fast forward to the current, 27 years later, my wife of 17 years has now passed and the loss of companionship, intimacy, touch, etc. are all gone. I was referred to a site that has sex workers. I used the service and I remembered from watching a TedTalk that most men use this time with a sex worker to just talk. The first time I used the service, I was extremely nervous, she knew it, and spent about an hour and I was finally comfortable. We talked about her life and what she wants to do in the future and what's best for her and her family. I told her about what I would like to do in the future for me and my child.

Two days later I booked another appointment with her and really just wanted to talk. She saved my life for reals and in that space I felt whole again. I am always very respectful to everyone in general, but I think more so to sex workers because of their negative stigma. They're people just like anyone else that have good days and bad days. My point is that she helped me and I want to pay it forward and I enjoy listening to what she has to say and to be honest I don't need the happy ending with her. As I have learned my first experience with sex workers, is that I will always respect them and have their backs. Secondly, I don't know if I could date them only for the same reasons with my first encounter at age 18. But who am I to stop something good from happening, if the stars aligned and I had an opportunity to date a sex worker, I would date the first one I saw after my wife passed. She genuinely cares about how I am doing and even offered to chat anytime if I needed to talk.

In my opinion, I don't think that's normal for a sex worker to offer to talk outside of work. Please let me know what you all think?

KostasKouvalis · Answer

If she treats me good and we vibe well and have things in common, why not? I'd keep it on the down low though. I might tell some of my closest friends, but no one else. But I'm very curious about people and their behavior, especially controversial people. And I'm the sort of person who can see through the bullshit, so to me, it would be interesting to know what she's like as a person beyond the sex work stuff, and also the story of how she got into that line of work. I don't know if I want a relationship, but I'd be open to a friends with benefits thing as long as I know she's clean. She'd better be giving it to me for free though😂

But I'm actually friends with a sex addict and former stripper right now. Beyond all that stuff, she's just like everyone else.

Also, I'm a pervert myself, so it's always nice to be able to share that side of myself without being judged, and it definitely creates a bond and trust for sure. Ironically, these sorts of girls actually tend to be more trustworthy, loyal and genuine.

NetSapien · Answer

I worked in Strip Clubs for 10 years and around the escort business for 8.

I can honestly say that nearly all of these women, of which I was proud to work with and hang out with, were loyal, hard working, and the best friends I could've wished for.. and we made bank together. :)

When I got my divorce and I was left to solo parent my kid, the only friends I had that stepped in and I could count on with help raising a daughter, were the girls I knew from the clubs.

I would more than likely be friends with most all women in the adult industry than girls that looked down on them.

bobinnes00 · Answer

I have been fortunate to meet some wonderful ladies through sex work and if I knew any outside of that then sure I'd be friends. As for taking it further, if we both liked each other and wanted to date then sure, her profession wouldn't be a problem for me.

However, my question would be, if the sex worker was in a relationship with me, would she expect me to stop seeing sex workers while she continued to work as a sex worker?

I've read on forums SW's saying they wouldn't date someone who sees SW's because they couldn't trust them to be faithful (monogamous) because they are doing it as a job and their partner would be cheating, lol! :D

askmeanything875 · Answer

Yes I would and yes I am friends with a sex worker. We met by chance one night when she was having problems with somebody on the street and I stepped in and gave her a hand in getting rid of the prick she thanked me and I offered to buy her a coffee at the shop on the corner she agreed and we went. I had no idea she was an escort until we started talking about what we each do for a living and she was really casual about it and before I knew it I was asking her what her rates were she told me and they actually sounded reasonable she smiled and said why are you interested I was and we did.
That was 5 years ago and we still meet for coffee at the same shop every Monday no benefits just two friends talking about life.

thomual · Answer

I'm friends with an ex stripper. she's a joy to be around! Super flirty, dresses awesome, and comes on to me when she's single or drunk. I totally had/have a mini crush on her, and if it weren't for rumors of her not being clean, I'd probably take it further.

I whispered in her ear when she was heartbroken over a guy once, "I will be your emotional supporter anytime." And she replied, "I'll give you what you want too." She was drunk, she flashed me, it was fun. I helped her to bed. It was very sweet. I wish more girls were like that.

SoSavageSoCal · Answer

i don't feel as though just because someone is in this line of work it automatically indicates questionable character. I have had many friends that are call girls I have even ran security for them and I actually married a woman who I met dancing at a club where I used to work out of and a bunch of my friends had jobs as bouncers djs, doormen and such. she is the mother of both my baby girls and a CPA now and even though we are not together any longer I have a lot of respect and gratitude towards her for the mother she is to my daughters.

JDRocker · Answer

As a sex worker not a problem your in relationship or a open one do u live with ur pRtner,? N cum home to him every night n to you take care if him when he wants n never tell him no , like before work n after, are you honest with him with everything dibu keep it strictly bus, n then pleasure in the side, are you safe when your with clientele so your not catching anything n do u do it only for money or dibu like the lifestyle n would u ever change , could you be monogamous n still dance , is your partner enough for you when it comes to sex or are u always looking for more or better n could you you work as a team together as sex workers b be happy

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Well one of my male mates works as a part time escort.

a good friend put her through University working at a Gentleman’s Club.

I've spent time doing outreach work dealing with mental health issues in sex work.

still have chunk of people I go out of my way to see and check if okay.

Also when a school, we had girls on the game for extra cash.

so yes not a problem for me.

robvc1 · Answer

I personally wouldn't mind at all.

It's a job like another. It's also very well paid so I can't blame her for taking on such a job for quick cash.

I would be able to take it further because she discussed it with me and she's honest about it. That's very important for me.

But ofcourse that doesn't change the fact that some things need some talking.

I would say it may not have influence on how much we do it. Because than I will get annoyed you know. If she doesn't want sex anymore with me because she already had much sex I would get frustrated.
Also I would ask the question may I have other girls? The answer doesn't matter honestly but it's only fair we would ask don't we?

But if she's fun loving nice and very in to me than I'm sure we would figure it out together!

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Befriended a couple of strippers, one actually made a move on me and wanted to hang out with me outside the club. Either paying for food when we went to eat or we split the costs at wherever we went.

Came to a grinding halt because I thi k management caught her kissing me one night when we were hanging out and talked to her about it. She became distant after that and now we don't talk anymore. That really hurt.

TonyV · Answer

Yeah I'd make friends with one and would remain friends if she became one. Depending on how close a friend I might not want to see her strip or get a lap dance from her but definitely still be friends. And maybe i would partake in her new business venture.😎

opnbuk59 · Answer

I'm not here to pass judgement on any one for what they do with their life I don't look down on any one and treat all I encounter with same level of respect no matter their lot in this life, see one thing I realized early on in my life, is at the end of the day all people want is respect, not judged or look down on respect if only more people used it towards others, be surprised how valuable it is and beneficial it's effect can be

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Why not I would be her friend, she's my Sister through Christ, Whether she is a sex worker or stripper or poll dancer, Why can't we be friends and if people can't accept whose my friends than they can go get a life and move on cause I'm a sweet guy and I highly respect all people?

dandiecandie · Answer

I'd befrienda sex worker although I know that sex workers get treated terribly. I probably would feel bad for my friend and try go get her out of it but with her compliance of course. But i wouldn't stop being her friend because of it. That's just cruel. Everyone has a story. Some just have it rougher than others.

bella4eva · Answer

I currently am friends with a stripper. No problems hanging with her and have her meet friends. She's not shy about telling people she's a stripper. No one yet offended or disrespectful. Everything chill

Tonytoutouni123 · Answer

Of course I would. I wouldn't care at all. A friendship for me is only about the character of the person and I honestly don't understand why some people have a problem with it.

In general I think it's complete nonsense and I can't understand that some people have a negative image of sex workers and consider it an immoral profession.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Beats me. I mean, maybe I already have and I just never know. I have a friend who became a stripper at one point which led her to becoming a Vegas showgirl who wore those giant head pieces. Granted, she stopped doing that years ago and is just a physical trainer now. Anyway, beats me.

FancyPantzzz · Answer

sure, why not, dont care what they do, infact i encourage it, they are helping lonely virgin men like myself to get pussy, thats a nice thing to do and very helping to the community (being serious)
i dont know why so many guys see them as skum and worthless.. i dont understand it

Rippersavage · Answer

I would definitely be friends with an escort/sex worker.
If one of my friends chose to be one I'd keep on as usual (stay friends).
I would never take it further than just a friendship but not because she's an escort/sex worker but because I have a personal rule against having sex or dating girls that r in my friend-zone.

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