Have you ever been in one sided love?

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Have you or have you not?

Obtuse · Accepted Answer

All of them ended up one-sided by the time we broke up, but I don't think I've been in any serious, really long-term ones where it was one-sided.

It always felt like we were falling for each other at the same time, like the fact that she was falling for me was making me fall for her, and the fact that I was falling for her was making her fall for me. We "reinforced" each other's feelings, and often to the point where it's like we were going to jinx each other almost simultaneously wanting to express when we started feeling really serious about each other.

I'm also the type where I kind of need a girl to fall for me and show her affections to me to fall for her, and also the girls I clicked with most seemed the same like they needed me to fall for them and show affections to them to fall for me. Given this sort of way of falling for each other, all my serious LTRs felt like we fell for each other peculiarly around the exact same time... no one ever far ahead of the other in terms of feelings.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

LOL yes every girl I been with was one sided love , the shit a guy has to do to keep a girls interest is insane. but we do it cuz we want her by our side , so yes it’s always one sided lol why I am staying single until I find a girl that isn’t one sided , I guess I will be single for the rest of my life lol

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

More than I care to admit...

It usually goes like this:
Girl likes guy. Guy winds up: friendzoning, sisterzoning, rejecting, ghosting, or breaking said girl's heart.

Girl is now bitter and alone. It sure would be nice to find a guy that actually WANTS to be with me, but I think I'm asking too much, lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and he still loved his ex and talked shit about me to her. I gave birth to his child and he left me when our child was only 3 weeks old. It hurts because I'm reminded by him daily with our child.

BruinBlue2 · Answer

Yea and it absolutely sucks. Best thing you can do if you find yourself in that situation is to completely cut ties. BUT for that to work, you must also wash away (mentally) any emotions regarding that person. Your goal is to feel NOTHING about that person. Not sadness, nor desire, and definitely not love or vengeful-anger... just nothing. Picture a wave crashing on the beach and as it rolls out it takes whatever emotion you’re feeling with it, leaving just freshly wet sand behind... total calm and blissful satisfaction are your rewards for diligence application of the above. Good luck!!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, that is why i broke up with my last girlfriend , i felt all she wanted was do sexual stuff like foreplay all the time. If i didn't finger her , she threatened to do it to herself
Like she touched my penis and i couldn't get hard but as of now , i have no problem
getting myself off and it's really amazing , so i don't know why things was that way
Now this neighbor girl came down one day, she rubbed up and down my penis and
it felt amazing kind of wish she went further and i got turned on but she was no
girlfriend so don't know what to think?

Clarity01 · Answer

Yeah, he was only sexually attracted to me, not romantically. Glad I realized what was going on before it was too late! It was hard for me to think that he was not as good of a person as I thought he was

Swantstoknow · Answer

I have one person I have a crush on except I made him angry because he thought I was into him and I explained to him that i was not. So yeah I have not found love yet

AlexanderBrunnrgaard · Answer

Not in truth. But on ocassion I have felt like it due to me being very comitted once in a relationship, and when my affections aren't matched it feels once sided, even though the relationship hasn't by any means been one of unrequited love.

silasw · Answer

Yes. For several years. I told her how I felt and everytime we would start to get close she would stop talking to me and then reappear with a boyfriend.

Bongem · Answer

I think most people have. And the feeling of loss without actually having it, is very intense. Your heart breaks and your world chatters. But then, after the storm, the sun comes up again.

wilxcool · Answer

Yes. for like a year and a half. one day i was like i gotta stop this because its toxic and just making me a sad desperate-looking person.

chadpattan · Answer

I'll be "that guy" and say there is no such thing as a "one-sided" love, because love does not have to be mutual.

Amizzen · Answer

I have a crush on a guy that is taken, so I think that counts. He's leaving school in two months and I will never see him again. That will be the best way to forget about him. Wish me luck guys.

Guest25 · Answer

I have, and I did things to myself to try and suppress my feelings, the pain only caused me to resent her.

Regmorus · Answer

I guess it can't happen to me lol. To much focus on myself.

Thieuphunglam · Answer

Yup and it was horrible, the ex got comfortable in the relationship and didn’t try anymore.

Ripper_E · Answer

Yes. I feel in love with someone who did not feel the same way, and if she did or does, never let me know that.

DiegoO · Answer

I think it was my case :/. I remember I wanted us to do things to make us know each other better, and she always use to set walls.  I felt we were more friends than actual partners.

simplelikeme · Answer

Yes I have, and it is not healthy. The best thing to do is remove yourself from the situation. It's happier to be alone land to be in a relationship that is one-sided

ArrrThePirate · Answer

Yea and it was so sad... i wanted to kill myself :(

FatherNewlySingle · Answer

Yes. I pined for a romance with a woman so sweet you'd Think her an angel. And she was a lesbian. Eh. Life happens

cute_short_nerd · Answer

Yes and I ended it because he couldn’t reciprocate back to me.

es20490446e · Answer

Yes. You should only be with someone who likes you back. Why? Cause it's easier 🤣

vxlsir · Answer

Yep I didn't realize it at the time I had my love blinders on and she said yes to marriage then left me for someone else

theCobbler · Answer

Yes, once, I thought it was Love , but I was just her doormat and a meal ticket!

maniaclaughter · Answer

Yes once and seeing that person with someone else really hurts

mrcoolhk · Answer

Yesss... that's very painful trust me it hurts deep inside

itsallaroundtheworld · Answer

One sided crushes have always been the story of my life. Sad!

Ma2215 · Answer

Kinda, like experimenting stuff, just to see what happens

anton_dee · Answer

Not me, but a few girls have been with me. I know its kinda bad but couldn't help it...

zane1987 · Answer

Yes I thought and felt one way and found out the hard way she did not

Plitty-Tank · Answer

Only once but when I realized she was using me, I left her high and dry without a notice.

BoxySama · Answer

Yes, you can be annoying as you want, just don't be a thief

Y2KxD · Answer

I thought so, until I learned that love isn't real. I'm so glad to know this fact now. Emotions make things messy.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but I smartened up and cut them out of my life.

OB1Jacoby · Answer

For sure. I fall for girls easier than a lot of people

Anand_89 · Answer

I have only been in one sided love. Be it office colleague, neighbour or girl in a train

OhWonderland · Answer

No, but I’ve had experienced an one-sided crush.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, for a few months and then I ended it.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, I have. Every time, it feels like.

justhereforthefood · Answer

Yes and it's a horrible feeling.

Theophain · Answer

Yes, it still hurts even now.

Ruby3 · Answer

No, but i was someone's one sided love interest

Shah11 · Answer

Nope I have many sided love. Lol

HeyMikie · Answer

Story of my life. LOL!

ChiTown33 · Answer

That's my life in a nutshell lol.

Gedaria · Answer

At times I felt like that with my first wife...

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

All the damn time... I am right now..

aly34 · Answer

All the time. i had many one sided crushes.

EricR2020 · Answer

People always want what they can't have

ajinmod · Answer

Yes. Once upon a time...

NightFalcon333 · Answer

Since I was born.

Bharataraj1975 · Answer

Yes I was in one sided love

loubyeolbit · Answer

Yeah :( I mean who hasn't

WhiteShoulder · Answer

Sure. Who hasn't?

Anonymous · Answer

No I've never been in any kind of love.

reptocarl · Answer

Yes.

GingerGuy · Answer

Unfortunately yes.

bethgurl · Answer

Yes plenty of times

Sweetnessxoxo · Answer

Yupp

TPtreasures · Answer

Yes.. i

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Many times

COMMODOREII · Answer

Yes I'm sure i was.

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