How to be a bad boy?

Question

Women say they like good and nice boys but their actions completely speak in a different manner they love that guy that treats them badly they want to go to another date with a man who slept with them on the first date. Do u know how to be somewhat a bad guy.

alleng12345 · Accepted Answer

A few issues here.

Main one is you are focusing on something that you are not. Be yourself, attempt to be someone you perceive as 'better'.

Second, what do you mean a bad boy?

Do you mean a guy fresh out the pen that just finished a 15 year bid?

Do you mean a guy with slicked backed hair and tattoos that smoke cigarettes?

You are pulling on a stereotype that isn't really defined?

Or do you mean a confident man who. is. comfortable. with his sexuality and knows he is valuable?

Bad boys who are confident are confident because they are secure with themselves. If you dont like them, guess what, they dont care. If a girl rejects them, guess what they dont care. They say 'your lesson and search for someone else.

Ever wonder how an unattractive guy pulls an extremely attractive woman? Its confidence.

If you dress like a bad boy, get tattoos and start smoking and go to prison and then get out and think you will get hot woman who fall head over heels for you, guess what, you won't.

Women know you have no self-confidence (speaking in general, not to you).

When you know you are valuable and you are willing to allow a woman to experience how great life is with you, they will see it/feel it/want it.

Does that mean "all women"? Uh no. If you are not Christian and she is looking for a God fearing man, well good luck. Point being, you need to not generalize and think all woman are the same.

Same want you to tell them what you will do to them in bed that first night, some definitely do not want you talking like that.

You need to know who you are dealing with and deal with THEM specifically.

The same approach does not work with every woman, they are ALWAYS different.

If you want to be a Bad Boy, learn to be truly confident, and then learn how to adapt quickly and no when to take charge and when to let her take control.

Trust me, your sex life will be great if you know when to 'tell' her what to do and when to 'listen' to what she wants you to do.

You can tell a girl to take her skirt up and get the shit slapped out of you and left all alone, or you can watch as she does just what you ask. What's the difference? Your skill at reading what SHE wants...

I dont know shit though, I'm a virgin.

Obtuse · Accepted Answer

I really think the original appeal of the "bad" boy was not being "bad". It was being independent and critically-thinking. He didn't just play by the rules and conform and equate that to morality. He figured things out on his own.

Take Han Solo for a nerdy example. Han Solo isn't a bad person, per se. He is a guy living in a harsh world and learned to survive as a smuggler dealing with shady people. But he's a good guy at heart. Yet he's more independent than your Luke Skywalker who is just trying to follow the Jedi code. Han Solo asks more questions including ones like, "What's in it for me?" and is more critical in thought. And sometimes he might be a bit more selfish but he's a good guy when people need him to be.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

Any decently mature girl worth her salt doesn't like "bad boys". A lot of teens with basically zero life experience THINK they do and have a sort of a bad boy fantasy, UNTIL they get hurt and realize that there is no "taming" guys like this and that they're really just users.

Unfortunately, you are right about some people gravitating towards people who treat them poorly. I almost wonder if they see it as a challenge to try to impress them. People tend to treat people they don't need to impress and who they know already care about them like they're less important because they expect them to always be there and know they don't have to prove anything to them. I've noticed this in one relationship and a few friendships I've had. I was always the person to have these people's back, but I could tell I was kind of put on the back burner and not really appreciated. However, the ex seriously regrets how he treated me and treating the witch of a girl he stood me up for better, and two out of three of those friends have told me I'm the one they can trust and know will always be there for them, and so I think they realize now that the arrogant type to thump their chest and act like they're great when they're really just assholes are really not that great and that that's all just a show.

I think this kind of crap is rampant at our age because there are a lot of people in our age group who haven't outgrown the high school mentality and are still obsessed with impressing others and fall for people's shows they put on.

Yads_Is_Back · Accepted Answer

The attractive thing about "bad boys" is that they are confident, cool, and mysterious. Being "bad" is NOT why we like them. But when a guy is so confident that he has no doubts about himself or his life and is a little mysterious, we usually can't help ourselves. My boyfriend when I was 14 was a "bad boy," and I never had sex with him even as much as he tried to get me to, but I was crazy about that he was so confident and mysterious and didn't have a care in the world.

coachTanthony · Answer

----------------------Every dude can be a bad boy if they want on Halloween!

EABsTUQ · Answer

The best thing I can tell you is most of the people answering this question are full of shit. I've attempted to do what you talk about. I don't call it being a bad boy though. It ate me alive for a year. Trying to be that brave, in regards to women, all the time can make you go insane. I'm not going to sit here and tell you I've figured it out. But I do think it is something you have to overcome and master otherwise it will haunt you forever. Many men end up with women that they don't mind but would not have choose otherwise. If you're going to become the person you want in life you are going to have to go through some growing pains. The one piece of advice I will give you is to make it about yourself, not women. I tried to gain skills with women but what i didn't do first was work on myself. The thing about relationships is they are based around value. The less value you can bring to their lives the less someone wants to be your friend and or lover. Same with jobs etc. And value differs. Someone may value your humor while another may not. If you have a life where you are advancing and continue to look ahead and work on yourself that is half the battle and you dont do it for them. You do it for yourself. Who you want to become is apart of your dream. Lastly girls do not want bad guys. They want good guys not nice guys. They want good guys that have a backbone and who don't put them on a pedestal. But if I said it really only comes down to value my dude. This is about your dream life not women. They are apart of it ofc but don't get lost in just one section. Anyway if you want to see what men who are good with men actually look like and take some advice from them, so you can see what's possible in regards to women check out The Natural Lifestyles, Tony solo, or Owen Cook. They will show you what's possible and teach you far more than just about women. And again changing is gonna hurt... Like a lot. But if you find the metal tools you can flip it on its head and get far and beyond. Sorry if typos

akihon · Answer

You're asking this question means you don't have what you need to be that bad boy.

Men like me only have so many fucks per day to give out and if something happens that falls outside of that then guess what we don't give.

Men like me real don't care what others think of us, we do our thing and if your ok with that and happy to tag along then fine, if not then see ya bye then. Again only so many fucks to give

Men like me don't tell everyone what we are doing and in fact most of the time we don't tell anybody until after it's done and often ask to be forgiven rather than ask for permission.

These are things we do because we can, because we've had to and because we've been left often without a choice.

Now your wondering if that means we get more women, yes and no, yes we often do because of that attitude of self confidence that had come about through hard lessons, yes we do because very often many women think that their vagina is so special it will change us, soften us make us more adjusted men, they are often wrong.

Yes because we dress in a way that along with the self confidence we can carry off and for a lot of women that's very attractive.

No because we often end up with the wrong women, we often end up as damaged and burned by them as they are by us.

My advice then is this, be yourself, find out who that is first. Don't try to be something your not and don't try to play at being something you think a woman wants because that's not you.

Just be you and first be good enough for yourself, you'll never be good enough for anybody else otherwise, stop seeking your own self worth and value and validation from women, that is a very weak place to be, learn to see you own value

Above all remember if you aren't good enough as you are for any woman then you really don't want her in your life to begin with.

SueShe · Answer

I guess that your insecurity is the reflection of watching too many lewd movies where those paid actors pretend to like bad boys.

Life is different than what the porn industry wants you to believe and the vast majority of girls don't like to be humiliated, mistreated and demeaned.

You are undergoing brainwashing and it is high time for you to wake up and face reality.

englisc · Answer

Guys like yourself think too literally. Too "black and white".

The idea that if she doesn't want a guy who is extra nice to her, she must want a guy who treats her like absolute shit.

The truth is somewhere in the middle. A man who is nice, but who also has a backbone, boundaries. One who treats her respectfully, but doesn't constantly kiss her ass to try to curry favour with her.

The trouble with many "nice guys" in fact is actually that they see a man being assertive in any way, rather than trying to do whatever the woman wants (or at least what he thinks she wants), as being an "asshole".

Browneye57 · Answer

Uh, you're a bit confused. Yes, for sure women don't really know what they want - it is just ALWAYS about the FEELZ.
And don't confuse 'nice' with 'kind'. Being 'bad' isn't the key, it's being a strong man, a leader of men, to be rich in talent and affluence.
So hit the gym, hard, and make a shit-ton of dough - that covers #1 and 2 of the three things you need to get the ladies. #3 is confidence, and you'll get that from the effort need to attain #1 and 2. Don't confuse this with being 'bad'.
And never forget, YOU ARE THE PRIZE! So do the work to actually be one, and start acting like it. Being the prize surely isn't about being a fake 'bad' guy. The see right through that.

krsajo95 · Answer

I have never liked «bad boys» to be honest. I actually dated one when I was in high school and I’m so happy I left him, because I realized how bad he was for me. It was a really toxic relationship. I’m in a long term relationship with a so called «good guy» now and I have seriously never been happier.

Just be yourself, whoever you are. ☺️ Being yourself and happy about it is a lot more attractive. Confidence is amazing. A girl will pick up on low self esteem, it’s so easy to see someone who is unsure of themselves or if they’re trying too hard. Well, I do at least... 😅

kaylaS91 · Answer

What’s appealing about ‘bad boys’ to many women is not the fact that they’re doing things that defy the norm, but the confidence they have to not be phased by having to behave in a way that most view as expected. So.. basically, the taboo nature of the guy makes him all the more appealing.

Nik1hil · Answer

The kind of girls that are Attracted to bad boys are mental disasters.  Do you really want all the psycho girls of town chasing you...

Shiver · Answer

Just don't, it's short lasting success at best and a cringey mess that will haunt you for the rest of your life at worst.
There's a difference between being alpha and being and idiot pretending to be an asshole that missed the point of being alpha.

Slim57 · Answer

It's not something you can be if you're already not, it is possible I guess, but extremely difficult, and it's honestly more of mind games and how you make them feel rather than outright treating them bad, you always have to leave them wondering, let them give you the attention, not vice versa, that's what I pick up from my co-worker anyway, he never had a girlfriend in highschool and in college he changed and now not all, but a lot of women he messes with find him irresistible and he's just an average looking guy like me, learn from someone you know, not people off the internet

es20490446e · Answer

Women just want to know that you genuinely like them, not that you would be giving your love for free to anyone.

There's people that say respect shall be earned, there's others that say that you have it by default. I say you have it except if you lose it.

MonicaTessler · Answer

I don't know about all girls  But most girls prefer good guys with whom they feel safe and secure

randamonious · Answer

"Women say" thats your problem right there. No two people in the world have the exact same tastes or opinions. Trying to be something you're not takes away from the beauty of your own individuality. If one girl dislikes you because you're a "nice guy" then thats not the right one for you. If you're looking at women who want something specific, and you try to force yourself into becoming that something specific, it will always come off as sleazy and fake.

little_bird1 · Answer

It's because they feel chemistry with that guy, usually because he's hot. What we want is a hot guy who's also good & nice.

Secret6620 · Answer

Don't be a bad guy. We need more sweet ones. 🤓✌️❣️

Joe_Barbaro · Answer

Do what you want, when you want, how you want, and fuck everyone else.

I could write you an essay, but this sums it up. Just don't care what people think. Dress how you want, talk how you want, do what you want, and don't give a fuck how others feel.

wankiam · Answer

just be yourself because whether your notion that women like bad boys is true or not its clear that one thing they dont like is posers or fakes

jacket_off · Answer

Life sucks. I just realize I'm 41 and only had sex three times for the last 3 years and I was horrible. This last girl went to the police with allegations. Long story. Well heard her results came back negative. She does have a boyfriend and we was drunk. I really like her. But know she hates me and there's nothing i can do to fix it. Whos bad

Margines · Answer

In my opinion , be Yourself , Do whatever You want , gave Your opinion , don't Be scared to share it. If You don't agree with a women , tell her.
It's to how You lead Your women without being directed by her.
You are an Alfa male, remember that. So be nice and in this same time don't give a fuck.

DashboardLight · Answer

How to not be that nice guy that gets stood up by women? Don't be afraid to get in a disagreement with them or joke around a bit about each other. Don't be a dick per sé, but fool around. Any emotionally attractive person has some kind of personality attached to him-/herself that people can notice.

standingUP · Answer

If you have to ask then you don't have what it takes.

SnowMoon · Answer

Little girls like bad boys, I real woman will appreciate the kindness of a good guy :) x

Unit1 · Answer

Do what the famous rappers do

PinkTerran · Answer

It's not that they like being treated that way, but just like all of us males, they like excitement. Be exciting, too many guys think being nice means being boring.

justjared · Answer

Be yourself, if she doesn't like u for u then she ain't the one. I can say they dont want you to wait hand and feet for them

TonyBologna25 · Answer

If you act like a dick, you'll attract women who are bitches. How about you just be yourself and stop putting on a facade in a desperate attempt to attract women.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Easy. Pretend to be a good guy. Pretend to listen, care, show interest, then dump her once you've had enough. You might surprise yourself and actually begin to care, but if you don't - no harm done to you :)

Silverio_Stieger · Answer

To be a bad boy: respect yourself, priorize your opinions over other ones, do not try to impress any one (if they like you your way great, and if they don't, don't give a shit), and overall, treat people as they deserved to be treat

StarGayle · Answer

I've never met a girl looking for something serious who said she wants a "bad boy." We just wanna be loved and treated right.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

You don't have to be a bad boy. You have to be passionate, be confident and assertive. Secure on who you are. You can be that while being gentleman.

Anoniemus · Answer

Because of your assumptions, you deserve to be alone.

Cage4 · Answer

Just be yourself dude. Fuck anyone who tells you to change for the society

Anonymous · Answer

Be a good guy with a public personality of a prick... a leather jacket will put you in the zone

BasicBad · Answer

Girls have low self esteem so you can crap on them all you want.

winterfox10 · Answer

Start by being in great shape and not letting people push you around when you know what's right.

killerboots · Answer

you don't have to be a bad guy. just be yourself. The only thing you may have to work on is your choosing skills of women.

mycke74 · Answer

There is a saying " treat them like dirt , they stick to you like mud". And it's so true. And I have never figured that out.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Bad boys" normally peak in High School. Just concentrate on developing yourself and making your own path. The women will come.

OddBeMe · Answer

Seems like it’s a marketing idea. Either your guy breaks the law and you get wet, or us “good” guys don’t.

Fryjiiuyt · Answer

Can’t be someone you’re not be yourself you get more respect and feel comfortable with you and your life just leave those type of bitches alone it’s about looks and money and move tf on

Mamamialetmego · Answer

They don't want bad boys or hate nice guys they want masculine confident but good and fun guy.

purplepoppy · Answer

Only bad girls want badboys.

Kejaco · Answer

Dude just be yourself, don't try be a bad guy because you won't get far

NickiB1 · Answer

be a dumbass and you'll be one

Anonymous · Answer

Don't believe everything you read.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

If you have to ask, you don't want to know..

JetJas · Answer

*facepalm*

Vivaldi · Answer

What does a bad boy do, anyway?

jeniffer99 · Answer

Just be urself bro

sh_awesome · Answer

Kids these days...

rickle · Answer

Objectify women

BronzedAdonis · Answer

Grow up

Mb1008 · Answer

Don't

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