Do guys know when they hurt a girl?

[elizabethluz]

For example when a guy dates a girl and randomly cuts her off, it can really affect the girl is she caught feelings. The question is do guys know wether they hurt her and just don’t care or do they just not know? Tell me about your experience if you have any.

[Anonymous]

Guys are aware when they hurt you. They justify their actions by calling it ‘tough love’. That they try to change you by provoking you with little remarks and actions that leave HUGE wounds on us. That all their efforts of putting us down, they get bored with us cause we’ve been emotionally knocked down by them to please them. They leave feeling nothing while we carry these wounds with our defensive mechanism up and treat other guys like shit while healing ourselves.

[looneymalooney]

hmmm, the situation in your example is way too subtle for most guys to notice. takes observing to start noticing. Observing which most guys don't even bother with, truth be told. Most want things to be said rather than having to use their intuition to figure things out.

I personally notice everything because I pay attention and I care about the well-being, both physical and psychological, of the ones around me.

[dmgstarfleet]

Women shoot men down all the time, ghost them, mock them for asking them out, etc. Interesting that when the situation is reversed -when she is the one cut off or rejected how they react. In short-it doesn't feel nice for either gender to experience this.

[pajamasam]

It depends. Sometimes they do know and feel guilty about it. Sometimes they are vindictive and know it hurts and want it to hurt them. Sometimes they are oblivious and have no idea. And sometimes we know we are breaking her heart but we know we have to be honest with ourselves.

I broke a girls heart once I still feel terrible about it.

[elizabethluz]

How did you break her heart?

[pajamasam]

She was a close friend for many years and we started dating and that attraction wasn't there. I couldn't get past that friendship, I didn't feel the same way she did about me and I had to let her down.
I guess I friendzoned her technically but I know it hurt her because i knew she had a crush on me for a long time.

[elizabethluz]

Ah shit thats sad. You were just trying to see if there was anything there. She might of been hurt but at least you were honest with her and did not lead her on. I wish guys were just honest. Some guy I was dating told me he was into me and was intimate. He did it all, it seemed like he was heavily into me. But then he dropped me. I know he feels guilty but he lied about his intentions. Girls rather hear the harsh truth then bullshit lies

[pajamasam]

I think some guys lie because they think the girl won't notice and it will spare their emotions. I've learned the hard way that girls always figure out eventually, your better off being honest up front lol.

[elizabethluz]

Not just girls. Everyone will have a gut feeling but try to avoid it because of uncertainty.

[ecfresh]

No, by instinct guys don’t understand how important consistent communication and that feeling of a connection is important to women. It’s a skill they have to learn over time.

[elizabethluz]

Hello, I completely agree with this. It’s probably natural behavior but some guys overcome this behavior based on how they were brought up.

[ecfresh]

Yes. I had to learn in my romantic relationships, with friends, and years of research learning about men and women. Certainly women grow up more connected and maintain all relationships be it family and friends better than guys. But as I said it’s a learned skill and guys can acquire the knowledge and put in the effort.

[Anonymous]

If we had to care about every little thing girls got their feelings hurt by, we would spend our lives being sorry.
Girls are suppose to be "strong and independent" so we treat them as such and if they aren't actually what they constantly claim to be, that shouldn't be our problem.

[Anonymous]

Probably not because more often then not, the girl doesn't make her feelings known so he has no idea. And/or he's only thinking about himself, which is sadly how most people are these days, women too.

[BodyShop]

Yes and no. Depends on how self absorbed they are. However it's your own fault if you're dating a narcissistic asshole.

[RLovesD7792]

sometimes they don't know other times they just don't care it depends on the guy the girl and the situation that took place

[Browneye57]

They are not responsible for YOUR feelings. YOU ARE. You get to choose!!
Or are you saying your own feelings are out of your control?

[The_Outlaw]

Yes. I never set out to do it on purpose, but god, I can do is subconsciously with little to no effort. And overall people don't forget.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No. Usually because the girl doesn't let him know until she's talked to her pack of women! Or some sort of lawsuit 20 years later..

[Sabretooth]

takes me about over 9 years ago-my intentions were good-but the words were all rong.

[Iron_Man]

Yes of course we can read her expressions

[elizabethluz]

You’re annoying

[Iron_Man]

You have a problem with me level 1 troll then block me

[elizabethluz]

Actually I’ve seen you on every forum. I’m sure everyone thinks your obnoxious. You’re not funny too, just a total bum you probably are

[Iron_Man]

I'm not trying to be funny just tell it like it is. If you wanna hate then block me

[Iron_Man]

I have plenty of followers more then you can imagine

[Laozi]

Sometimes.

[Romeocuck]

sometimes