Do guys ever feel bad after hurting a girl?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing a guy for the last 2 months and everything has been great. Spending time on the weekends, during the week, really getting to know each other, etc. We were not boyfriend/girlfriend but like any early stage of a relationship, our relationship was definitely growing and getting stronger. He invited me to do things with his friends so even they knew about our growing relationship.

Yesterday I was completely blind sighted by him when I inconveniently (for him) ran into him and his friends while he was out with another girl. He pretended like he didn't see me and basically ignored me like I was nothing to him. I was caught so off guard by the whole situation and even his friends were apologizing to me saying they don't understand what he was thinking or why he did it. I was really hurt by the situation and if he had any heart like I thought he did I would assume he has to know he hurt me. I'm sure his friends said something to him too.

Do guys EVER feel bad about hurting a girl? Or maybe I was completely wrong about him and he never gave a damn about me. I can't imagine that was the case, but I wonder if guys have any conscious about hurting a girl or if they just ignore it to justify their actions.

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I don't think I'll ever understand men if that is the case. Why would he invest so much time with me if he never cared, even a little bit. Even if he is selfish (which he clearly is) and saw this other girl as something fun to try out on the side, how can he not feel somewhat bad for doing what he did?

[Anonymous]

You aren't his #1 priority I am sorry to say. Any guy who would do that to you isn't 100% about you. Granted you two don't have a title or anything like that, but if he were interested in you he would have invited you over to hang out. Or he would have at least told you what he was doing that day or night. Me personally, when I am interested in someone I take every available opportunity to get to know them and create a strong foundation for a future potential relationship. I would stop talking to him and see how he reacts and if he begs for your attention.

[stevo]

If that's the way that guy wants to be, sorry to say this, but you're better off finding someone who actually appreciates you. A shame his friends had to apologize to you when he himself wouldn't even do it because he 'didn't see you.' And I'd never do that to anyone.

[Spgtmonster]

Dealing with this myself, only we had clearly defined out relationship and decided to be exclusive! So he definitely became a cheater when he abruptly started treating me badly and alienating himself as he was seeking out other girls. I think with these types of guys, they're just too weak and insecure and need to pursue "new and exciting" experiences to validate themselves. The loyalty and kindness that we offer isn't enough for these self-serving individuals... That's how broken they are! Says more about them than us.

[lillianAngie]

I once wonder about the same question.. and I even convinced myself guys does "feel" like we do and they don't hurt as much as we do after a breakup.. and no one guy had proved otherwise..

This guy you were growing close too seems to be too immature or have a low EQ.. No.. he doesn't feel bad about hurting you.. and you shouldn't be hurt by him neither.

[emmabee11]

He doesn't sound like he gives a damn, he sounds like a player totally playing the field, I can never date most guys my age because they act so immature like this, I just don't bother so they will only mess me around.

[Allix93]

My boyfriend crystal if he knows he hurt my feelings. I don't make him feel guilty or anything. He just hates hurting me.

[Allix93]

Cries* not crystal

[Eugene]

I think he never cared about you that much. In this case it's unlikely that he'll feel bad.

[Asker]

I don't think I'll ever understand men if that is the case. Why would he invest so much time with me if he never cared, even a little bit. Even if he is selfish (which he clearly is) and saw this other girl as something fun to try out on the side, how can he not feel somewhat bad for doing what he did?

[Eugene]

Reasons might be different.

One of them might be that he just found her better in some matter.

[Leeroymac85]

I can't speak for him, but I recently hurt a friend of mine. I apologized to her immediately. Now I feel horrible and I can't look at myself the Same way again.

[Anonymous]

of course we feel bad for hurting girls. we're not emotionless beings like many like to believe

[Anonymous]

sounds like he was more concerned with messing things up with the other girl, he could of always said somthing to you and made her feel bad

[kapoor]

a guy who like me since 5 years suddenly when I was talking to other guy suddenly start telling me abusive lang I was hurt

[7121uc]

Maybe the other girl was prettier.

[emmabee11]

That is so shallow saying that, everyone is beautiful in their own way and she sounds like a nice girl who got messed around with an a**hole. Your only making girls feel like they are ugly by saying that, no wonder why girls slap on make-up all the time because of people saying things like that.

[7121uc]

well it might be true.

[Asker]

To be honest I am much more attractive than her if it comes down to looks. If he didin't care for my personality than I don't know why we did so much together and spent time with each others' friends and what not. I don't get guys!

[emmabee11]

Know how you feel, guys just tend to switch on and off whenever they feel like it, so annoyed and ignorant, I never let guys do that to me, I bug them till I get answers from them lol.

[Anonymous]

Wow, this is really sad. 😔😢😭

[Equinoxe]

Yes, of course.