When guys are hurt by girl do they usually try to hurt her back?

[Anonymous]

I did something and it hurt my crush’s feelings. It wasn’t my intention. He was very mean rude to me after which really hurt me…

[OlderThanILook]

Yeah because I don't go bothering girls in the first place. If a girl does something to me, it's 100% unprovoked and I will be as petty as possible.

[Asker]

Why would you be petty?

[OlderThanILook]

Because that's just the way I'm built. I don't like eating abuse. If someone does something stupid to me, I'm going to call them out and get them back (if it's worth the effort). Like of course that only applies to things that are actually bad. If someone called me ugly on Twitter or something I wouldn't even respond

[OlderThanILook]

Like an example is when my group members didn't do any work on our group project. They all pushed more tha half of their work on me on short notice, so I quite literally didn't turn the assignment in and made sure all 4 of us got 0's.

[Asker]

I was 40 minutes late to our first date. He was very rude to me after that. After that he didn’t want to talk to me or see me again. He told me” I don’t want to waste time, I’m looking for my soulmate and good wife”. I tried to apologize to him but he wasn’t having it. He denied being mad…

[OlderThanILook]

Yeahhh that's like.. being late is one of those things that pisses some people off. I personally dont mind it that much, but some of my friends, and especially my boss, will flip out over 2 minutes.

[Asker]

Do you think he really got mad/ upset about that?

[OlderThanILook]

Yeah. If I made my friends wait 40 minutes somewhere I think we'd just brawl as soon as I showed up

[Asker]

What do you think about his words? Did he said that out of hurt or something?

[OlderThanILook]

Probably. I think he's trying to let you know that he thinks what you did was pretty bad.

[Asker]

But why did he pretend that he wasn’t mad about me being late?

[OlderThanILook]

I dunno, that's what is weird to me. Either he was doing that thing where people that are clearly mad go "it's fine, I'm not mad" sarcastically, or I have no clue what he's thinking on that point.

[Asker]

Do you think it was bad what I did? I did let him know when he got there that I’m going to be late

[Asker]

? :)

[OlderThanILook]

I don't think it's that bad normally, but on a first date it is a bit offputting

[FilmGuy93]

Sometimes. Many times we don't.

[Asker]

I was late to our first date. He was very rude to me after that. After that he didn’t want to talk to me or see me again. He told me” I don’t want to waste time, I’m looking for my soulmate and good wife”. I tried to apologize to him but he wasn’t having it. He denied being mad…

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like he is a bit up tight any way. It was a good fit for you

[FilmGuy93]

It was not a good fit*

[Asker]

Up tight in what way?

[FilmGuy93]

No accepting your appology and overreacting to your lateness.

[Asker]

Why would guy do that?

[FilmGuy93]

Because he is uptight.

[Asker]

And hurt?

[FilmGuy93]

Probably

[spartan55]

Depends on what we are talking about.

[In_Trance]

depends on the guy