Earlier today I tried to help a younger guy with some friendzone bs he’s going through. I’ve been there before and I remember exactly how he feels. Nowadays I’ve developed radar for that crap and I don’t tolerate it. I’ve also been honest earlier with women I’ve had to friendzone out of respect.
The only way he change the problem is to stand his ground, give his ultimatum and walk & never look back if she’s not interested. But he’s trying to rationalize an alternative because he’s afraid of confrontation. Easy to call him a bitch for acting that way but I recall exactly how he feels. Still though I wish I had a coach back then (friendzone phrase didn’t even exist at the time). No one taught me the ropes. I had a domineering mother and a passive father (passive with women but TOUGH guy otherwise) who were a horrible example for how to deal with women.
At least this kid has someone who can relate to his problem and give him better advice. If I can help one of my younger brothers out there do better with the ladies it does make me feel better. I do have a soft spot for young men who are struggling with common insecurities with this.
But anyway GAG is about volunteering advice. I’ve been around a bit longer and have a better idea of what works vs what doesn’t. But what good is it to give advice if people don’t want to act on it?
The only way he change the problem is to stand his ground, give his ultimatum and walk & never look back if she’s not interested. But he’s trying to rationalize an alternative because he’s afraid of confrontation. Easy to call him a bitch for acting that way but I recall exactly how he feels. Still though I wish I had a coach back then (friendzone phrase didn’t even exist at the time). No one taught me the ropes. I had a domineering mother and a passive father (passive with women but TOUGH guy otherwise) who were a horrible example for how to deal with women.
At least this kid has someone who can relate to his problem and give him better advice. If I can help one of my younger brothers out there do better with the ladies it does make me feel better. I do have a soft spot for young men who are struggling with common insecurities with this.
But anyway GAG is about volunteering advice. I’ve been around a bit longer and have a better idea of what works vs what doesn’t. But what good is it to give advice if people don’t want to act on it?
