Is being clingy a deal breaker in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

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Thanks for the feedback everyone!!! AWESOME!!!

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I think we can agree a little clingy is good... Too much is bad... Thanks for the feedback

[DellBell]

I do and don't like it? I had guys into me in the past that wouldn't stop messaging me all day... then when I don't text them back right away, they are wondering if I'm mad at them etc... in that sense no thank you! That's one way to make a woman run for the hills!

But if he is very affectionate and that in person yet gives me space, if I am busy then I'm cool with that... I dig a guy that shows his partner how much they care than a guy that does but is distant and that his actions show different... so yes I rather clingy guys but not overly obsessive clingy...

I'm actually clingy myself when it comes to relationships anyway.. I am pretty affectionate and passionate to my partner etc but again I love my space to do me and so do they... I think it depends on the person

[Asker]

I loved reading this!!! Thanks for the detailed feedback 🌸

[Anonymous]

Definitely! I want an affectionate partner (someone to cuddle and send heart emojis because I’m a bit corny) but clingy people are the death of me. I hate it when they spam text me because I don’t respond since I have things to do or when their overly affectionate (such as saying “babyyyy text me back”) that gets on my nerves and is definitely a deal breaker! I prefer someone who texts me every day a few times when we’re free and wants to hang out often with me but isn't going to spam my phone 24/7

[Carnivoroustomatoe]

I don't necessarily mind clingyness as long as it's consistent. My ex used to be completely indifferent to me whenever it was just the two of us. But once we would go out to visit family she would suddenly become glued to my side and act like a super lovey-dovey newlywed (keep in mind this is after being married for 10 years). Once we were away from family, the cold shoulder came right back. It would piss me off so much. So as long as the other person isn't just putting on a show for extended family, I wouldn't mind.

[Asker]

I totally understand where you are coming from! Thanks for the awesome feedback 🌸

[Apope16]

Typically yes. But I think a lot of that depends on how you feel about the woman. I have had FWBs that were clingy and I ditched them because they always wanted to know where i was, where i was going, why i can't sleep over... its like... i dont love you. we aren't dating.

However, if you are really into a girl a lot of things she can get away with and you won't even think of what she does as clingy.

[Worhtyawas]

Then that’s when you tell the Fwb’s they are too invested. That’s all

[amyba]

Thats depressing because when I get clingy they always leave😣 but then again I use to get clingy before even knowing them well lool

[Apope16]

@amyba Yeah. It sucks. But sometimes both of you are fuck buddies or friends with benefits and you are both secretly falling in love with each other. I had a situation like that and so when they were clingy I wasn't bothered by it. Then I met her friends, etc. Sometimes FWBs become a real relationship. With a second girl that is how I moved in with her and had a two year relationship.

[amyba]

Wow but don't give me hope because that barley happens lol

[Jasper9694]

Clingy is adorable as long as it's not stalker level. Some spam messages can be alright in my opinion. Like if you are asleep but your partner is up and thought about you enough to send some really adorable messages so when you wake up, you have good morning texts. My ex used to absolutely love that I did that for her because no man ever did it for her prior. It made her desire to cuddle with me for it

[Asker]

Love this post! Thanks 🌸

[Abxah]

It depends on how clingy they are. If they’re so clingy as they can’t go anywhere without you, or they’re starting to get into your personal relationships with family, then yeah, it’s a big deal breaker. But if it’s just wholesome “I want attention” at random times in the day, then probably not.

[Asker]

Girlllllllllllll I've dealt with the first type you mentioned in your post... It's awfulllllllll and such a turn off

[torgor67]

Nope I actually find it quite attractive as I would love a girl like that personally. Not if it was overly obsessive however such as checking on me constantly when I'm in the middle of stuff but I really find clinginess attractive.

[Asker]

Awesome (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

[Josephx760]

Nah not a dealbreaker necessarily especially if you enjoy her company but also it depends on the relationship in one relationship i couldn't deal with it but in a different relationship later on I'd like her to be clinger..

[Asker]

Thanks for the feedback 😀 I appreciate it

[svengalikc]

I adore clingy if it's not too too much. But if it's out of a loving way, there is nothing better. ha

[Asker]

Great answer 👍

[svengalikc]

Thanks:)

[alice55]

I don't mind a clingy partner it's flattering after if they become agressive cause I don't give them enough attention then they become annoying.

[Asker]

I completely agree 🎀 OMG

[alice55]

We're the same ^-^

[RydiaMagnifique]

My man doesn't think it's a deal breaker. He loves it when I'm clingy.

[Asker]

Love that 💖

[sd1223]

When I’m into the guy, clingy is good otherwise no.

[Asker]

Great answer! Thanks 🌸

[Commander_Red]

Depends. If I say I'm busy and they still won't stop bothering me, that's annoying as hell, but in general, I like clingy men. As long as they still know their boundaries.

[Asker]

Thanks for the feedback 😀 I appreciate it

[Flaquita]

Honestly, yes. Well... Too clingy. Like i understand if we are cuddling or smth and he wants me to stay, but being too attacthd will abnoy the shit outta me

[Asker]

Thanks for the feedback!!! I appreciate it

[Flaquita]

☺ no problem!!

[humanearth]

In the beginning like the 1st year its adorable. But after 25 years its like go away from me and do your own thing. Unless its movie night or something

[Asker]

Ahahahaha that's true love though (◍•ᴗ•◍)

[humanearth]

Well thats how it really is

[Quidthonian]

As an introvert, this is a nightmare. Girl, I need a time out. I need my alone time to recharge my batteries. Battery [of partner] will result from a flat battery. Girl, get a [different] life to parasite off.

[Asker]

Danggggg 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[burlen]

Clinging can be a turn-off for people who like their personal space most of the time.

[Asker]

VERY true!!! Thanks for the feedback 🎀

[skeetskeetskeet]

I think it's kinda cute if its not to much... but if your a clingy guy that will dry that pussy up so fast

[Asker]

FACTS 💟

[SjE78]

no not particularly... posessive though and controlling would be

[Asker]

Cool 🦋

[SjE78]

I've never minded clingy tbf, i've just never liked controlling or possessive behaviours, as that can become very toxic very fast

[Asker]

I can understand that!!! Not too crazy possessive

[SjE78]

a little is fine but not the type that screams "you can't speak to other people" etc that i've experienced before and oh she was dumped faster than she could blink

[Asker]

Ohhhhhh nooooooo that's the worse!!!

[SjE78]

yep it was bad, she would eye every guy up and flirt away and the moment i spoke to someone even if it was someone i'd known for years who neither of us had any interest in each other... she'd be "i dont want you speaking to that trash"

[Amazingprincess]

Wow was she special ed or sometime why would she call a person trash that is way out of control

[SjE78]

@Amazingprincess not sure why she did it but i believe that she became too possessive and over privileged thinking she was better than anyone else... think in past relationships she was used to getting everything she wanted... so when her ass was dumped she whined about it so much i never looked back

[Amazingprincess]

How old was she?

[SjE78]

@Amazingprincess oddly enough she was same age as me and that was around early 30's at the time

[TheSimonymous]

For me not at all to be honest. I love it in fact that my girlfriend is clingy to me :)

[Asker]

YAY 🙋 sweet thanks 🌸

[rraaee]

I don't like clingy. I can be a very tactile person but I need my space, probably more than most people or I mentally burn out.

[blutwolfe]

clingy in a relationship or dating is preferred, something like ons or friends with benefits it's a turn off

[Asker]

Nice 🦋

[blutwolfe]

why is it nice, are you clingy? And side question do you think two clingy people is toxic, or codependent?

[Asker]

Just putting me on the spot huh...

[blutwolfe]

oh sorry I'm high lol I didn't mean to put you on the spot lol

[Asker]

It's okay lol I'm high too 😂🤣

[blutwolfe]

Lol hell yeah, oh ya you said you're from CO too, lol it's too easy to get high out here

[Asker]

You have no idea

[blutwolfe]

ya my brain can't manifest ideas rn, feels like a giant party sometimes here, can't wait to do shrooms this weekend lol

[Asker]

Lucky (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

[Jjpayne]

It's tough... I'd say yes and no. I'd love to have attention but how much attention? That is the question right there... Space and boundaries are important.. I'd say it's a balance, attention and space should be equally important

[Spyke_34]

For me personally I actually really like it, love to just be with them, it always brightens my day etc but I'm an Empath so I feel a lot from her aswell as stuff around me too.

[Asker]

Love this 🎀

[Spyke_34]

It's an amazing feeling tbh we've got an amazing connection, the air goes like electricity whenever we see eachother, we both suffer with bad anxiety & social awkwardness, but what's strange is whenever we're together our anxiety doesn't seem to show, the social awkwardness goes away, with being an empath I can get easily affected by anyone at any time, but I'm so lucky to have her as its like she protects me when we're together, we've yet to be intimate together which will be something amazing due to feeling her emotions & her mine too, plus the electricity around us... Personally if someone is clingy with you then I'd go with it as in my experience they're always ones to be respectful of you & show they're heart to you, basically to say this is me I'm trusting you with my heart etc... Hope this helps with your question too & sorry for the length too.

[Asker]

Absolutely 🎀 Thank you 🌸

[Spyke_34]

Not a problem at all, glad it helps 😊

[Asker]

Yes! Thanks 🥳