This is a topic that pops up a lot in relationship discussions, and honestly, it can be a bit subjective. What one person sees as being affectionate and attentive, another might perceive as being clingy. But let's break it down a bit.
Being "clingy" typically refers to a behavior in relationships where one person demands a lot of attention, time, and assurance from their partner, often to an extent that can feel suffocating or controlling for the other person. It's like having a little koala attached to you all the time, which sounds cute in theory but can be a bit much in reality.
Here are some common signs of clingy behavior:
Constant Need for Communication: We're talking non-stop texting, calling, or needing to be in touch all the time. If your partner can't go a few hours without texting you or gets upset if you don't reply immediately, that could be a sign of clinginess.
Struggling with Independence: If someone struggles to spend time alone or always needs their partner around, it might be a clingy red flag. It's healthy for partners to have their own hobbies, friends, and alone time.
Jealousy and Insecurity: This is a big one. If someone is constantly worried about what their partner is doing, who they're with, or if they're constantly needing reassurance that they're loved, it can come off as clingy.
Disrespecting Boundaries: If your partner doesn't respect your personal space or time (like insisting on being together all the time, even when you've said you need some alone time), that's a hallmark of clinginess.
Manipulation: Sometimes clingy behavior can turn into emotional manipulation.
Sometimes what we call clinginess is just a mismatch in how two people prefer to express and receive affection...
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People who say their partner is "too clingy" are just unwilling to admit they don't like their partner. People who truly love eachother and are compatible, spend pretty much all of their time together and are inseperable. They share the same hobbies, the same interests, the same views, the same lifestyle choices, and can be 100% themselves around their partner without any issues occuring.
Excessive physical contact (glued to you), attempts to contact (texting repeatedly through out the day with no reciprocation), obsessive focus (constantly fixated on you such as with discussions with others), and whining/complaining about not being around you 24/7.
I've been told I was clingy, because I'm an insane double texter.
I don't need a response, I just need an outlet for my stream of consciousness.
However, since, of course, texting is associated with a necessity to interact, this has often been rejected and was very unwelcome.
I used to feel bad about that, but now I can understand. I would probably be annoyed too.
It did make me self conscious to the point where I eventually stopped even considering the possibility to reach out to someone with the intention of dating, because I don't want to be a burden.
So hopefully I've shredded a part of that and no longer am as demanding as I have been experienced to be.
Although, I don't think anyone would say so at this point, since I now rarely share my number/media or - if I do - don't initiate conversations, to prevent that from happening.
Clingy is just a way to say that the people in the relationship are incompatible.
One may have an Avoidant attachment style while the other may have a Secure or Insecure attachment style.
One may be more social and loving while the other may hate physical contact and interacting with other people.
So, clingy is very subjective and a mostly useless term. I love when partners message me every day to know they are thinking about me. Heck yes for a person who wants to spend lots of time with me as well. There's nothing wrong with it.
For a partner to be too clingy in my opinion, they would have to get in the way of me having a life basically. Trying to restrict my social life by not letting me go out or imposing when unwanted. Not respecting boundaries.
I don't think worse of those people, they just need to find someone more compatible.
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Clinginess and insecurity go hand-in-hand. It's the desperate need to know everything your partner is doing, being near them 24/7, and often asking them how they feel about you. If you don't allow your partner room to live their life outside of your existence then you are clingy
It may be rooted in internal factors, such as anxiety or insecurities. Reflecting on and addressing these underlying issues could be beneficial for improving your relationship.
It’s generally healthier to share and discuss emotions with someone you trust. :)Being clingy in a good way is fine in my view. Just like how there is a good fear and bad fear, in the same way if a partner is clingy in good ways then it is totally fine.
Im clingy, my husband is clingly. 10 years 4 kids and still happy and clingy 😂 I don't know what else ta say
It's not the worst thing. Hard to say since I don't think I've ever experienced it to the extreme. But I'd say it's more problematic when they can't do things for themselves. One issue is usually that person doesn't have their own life.
Helpfully, she wants to be involved in my day to day, without telling me no no no otherwise that's just hurting my feelings 24/7 of "what about me and my itinerary" lol
Some people might be autistic so they’re clingy, or it might be their personality. People can’t help but be clingy.
Someone who can't do anything by themselves. Always looking for their partner to go with them.
When communication needs are misaligned. The one requiring more attention is considered clingy
Being clingy is not having your own social life and not wanting your partner to have their own social life
I guess being arm candy, constantly hugging or wanting affection / reassurance. But none of these are a problem for me
Always wanting to be around me or calling me a lot.
A person who is constantly needy and who doesn't give me any space.
Someone who calls and text too much
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