We've been together about a year and what she's doing now is extremely unusual. She always is good at communicating and letting me know why she was caught up. At times I would worry if I was bothering her too much or being clingy and she said she never felt like I was being clingy and if I ever bothered her too much she would be honest and tell me. So I really have no idea what is going on now. Is it that something is going on with her and she really just needs space and time to clear her head? Is she going through that thing girls go through about not knowing what they want anymore?
I watched the videos on why your girlfriend isn't responding to you and they all say she's not ghosting you, it's nothing you've done just that they have things going on inside and they'll get back to you. This has happened to me with other girls in the past who did end up ghosting me for good and I worry now. Thoughts?
That sucks to hear, man. From the sound of it she is dealing with something, but it is going to take time for her to sort out. Personally I think it is rude she hasn't answered you back if what you are saying is true, but you are only pushing her away by asking her what's wrong and trying to talk to her on a daily basis.
I say your best bet is to give her space and focus on you. When she finally reaches back out, make a date to meet up at your place, have a dinner and talk it out to see what happened. Don't make this become a phone conversation or text conversation because you can't physically tell or get a feel for where she is at.
When you eventually see each other again, let her know you want to talk about what happened and and how it made you feel rude and disrespected. Listen to what she has to say and be calm the entire time. Be the man and take control.
Thanks for this. I haven't texted her anymore since Saturday afternoon. And that was my plan to only talk about it in person if she comes back.
It's so hard right now cuz I have all these fears in my head like what if she's running back to her ex. The thing that scares me the most is wondering if there could be someone else. I know in the past when I worried she would always say there was no one else and that she's not worried about us ending. So much mental stuff I got.
You attract what you fear. If you exhibit needy behavior and keep trying to talk to her it will come off as such, push her away and make it worse to the point it becomes irreparable.
Stop, breathe and let it go for now. Use this time to spend with friends. Hit the gym. Do something else. No if she is talking with her ex or someone else, it will become apparent because she will do one of two things. She will break it off with you or suggest taking a break (will probably use the break as an excuse to hook up with a guy she may be seeing). The second possibility is she just never reaches back out. If so, fuck her, let it go and find a different woman that respects you and your time.
Honestly your answer here tells me you are coming off needy and insecure if she was telling you "There's no one else." Or "She isn't worried about us." You are coming off as a woman and not masculine if she is telling you that. You are supposed to be the rock and can't be shaken.
Use this time to clear your head and meditate
I asked her before if I ever bothered her too much and she said no and would let me know if I did, she also knew I was insecure about seeming clingy and she said not to worry about that and again if I was she would let me know she needs space.
Now she's blocked me on FB but nowhere else. I texted her asking what this is all about, have I been too needy, has she gone with someone else or her ex, to give me the decency of telling me what's going on. She read that text but again said nothing. This is truly baffling. I can't make sense of it.
Again, dude, stop initiating and asking her if what you are doing is too needy and clingy. It is and it is unattractive in her eyes. She is just telling you what you want to hear. The fact she blocked you on FB is a red flag.
From here on out, do not call her or text her and let it be. Focus on yourself and get shit done like I said in the first post. Let her come to you from here on out. Right now you are too available and needy and it essentially has left her dry as hell. She knows she can have you at any time and there is no challenge.
Back off, and let her do the work and reach out to you. Understand me? What I would advise you to do is read "How to Be A 3% Man" by Coach Corey Wayne. Guy has a YouTube channel and is a good resource. If you decide to read that book, read it 10 to 15 times like he says. I am not joking. No shortcuts, no cherry picking. Invest time into it
Do you think it's too late now, given my last text to her? I mean she still hasn't blocked me anywhere else.
It will be too late if you don't fucking stop, dude. STOP. STOP. FUCKING STOP!! Have some respect and do what I told you. Other men have told you to do the same thing I did here.
Have some self respect, stop messaging her and move on with your life. If she comes back, do what I told you to do in the earlier messaging. If she doesn't get back to you, fuck it and move on. Clearly she wasn't the one for you if that happens.
That doesn't mean wait for her to eventually come back or to text her after set days. You don't reach out, period. Work on yourself and treat this as though she has already dumped you. Cry it out for a day, drink a beer then fucking get on your feet and move on with your life.
Do you understand me. Move on with your life like you did before you even met her.
Okay. I guess there's nothing else I can do anyways. My head is completely fucked up bro. I hate thinking she's with someone else. This is so mind boggling.
It does suck, but you can take that power back by doing what I said. Regain your composure after you cry it out and vent, but then focus on yourself.
If she cheats, that's on her and shows her true character. She is not relationship material if she cheats. Be cause if she chats on/with you, she will do it to the next guy she shacks up with. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Facts.