Thoughs on a possible ghosting by girl I know?

[Anonymous]

i haven't seen or heard from this girl i know in over a week , had been seeing her all summer at this pub where she worked but nothing in a week and i can't think of any reason to explain her absence. i've had various issues with some of the girls she's friends with there and i can't help but wonder if one of them said something about me to her.

they seemed to be annoyed i liked her and paid more attention to her and talked to her a lot there

now she just disappeared and i don't know why and its driving me nuts , i think she ghosted me or is planning to ghost me once summer is over and she starts a program at school

[Hiitsme23]

1 I think you're paranoid.
2. Every girl is annoyed cause you're trying to score with every girl... that's not hot

[Asker]

not sure about # 1 but agree with # 2 somewhat , the place she works , just seemed to be a lot of interesting girls there and i always seem to notice them so its easy to become interested in more than 1 girl at a time there.

[Asker]

you think she ghosted me cause she thinks i like another girl that she works with there?

[Hiitsme23]

Nah. I dont think she ghosted you. She could be sick... or even out of town. There could be multiple reasons why she hasn't shown up. But she will be back. You do need a hobby though..

[Asker]

my gut tells me she'll be back before the summer is over , i do have hobbies , i collect things and find stuff

[Hiitsme23]

You need a different hobby. Something that will take over your time and mind... and miss some days at the bar (pub) let people miss you

[Asker]

my exploring usually takes me to different places , just been exploring spots nearby , this summer i haven't traveled as much and not sure where i'd want to even go with covid and time left of summer

[Hiitsme23]

Go somewhere further and wear a mask ;)

[Asker]

still haven't figured out what happened to that girl , she hasn't been in for over a week. i happened to catch a glimse of the schedule as it was lying on a stand as i walked by she has no shifts this week , is an X beside her name and someone drew a band aid.

so new theory is some sort of mystery illness? whatever that could be , she hasn't felt well enough to come to work for the remainder of the summer. but i don't know what the illness could be , she did seem rather thin although for her size it appeared to be a healthy weight. her friends don't seem that worried about her , maybe this is a re occurring issue whatever her problem is or there just too busy with own life to worry about this

[Dragonstarterplus]

So you only see her at her job and can't call/text her?

[Asker]

i had been talking to her in person , had been meaning to ask for her # but hadn't done that yet , i see a lot of her girlfriend's there so i could ask them about her , maybe one would give it to me if they realised i had genuine intentions to speak to her

[Dragonstarterplus]

So you've basically just been flirting with your waitress while she's at work for 3 months, but haven't managed to get her number and haven't talked to her at all outside of her scheduled working hours?

Yeah this is most likely nothing in her mind. Hell summer is over, so she's probably back at school

[Asker]

her girlfriend's are still working there , her school doesn't start till September , i should of asked for some contact info but i'm not good at asking or do i know when the moment is right. i'm pretty sure she was suppose to work until the end of summer which would be end of August so she should of been there last week and this week. the note i saw on schedule indicated she's sick and has no scheduled hours this week but not sure what her illness is , mystery to me , wondered if she had covid but never heard of anyone at pub with it , if she does they've kept it secret

[Iron_Man]

I don’t put up with that

[Asker]

i just seemed to keep running into her girlfriend's , a couple are servers there too and another at sports bar across street. we got along really good and had this connection , all i can think of is one of them said something and she decided she couldn't deal with me rate now

[Dragonstarterplus]

Yes she decided to miss work and lose money all because she couldn't deal with you because you are the center of her world /sarcasm