Is a clingy partner a dealbreaker to you?

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ak667 · Accepted Answer

I often find girls define "clingy" in a different way than I do. Like in your comment:

>> Wanting to spend a lot of time together, missing you easily, getting super happy and effectionate when you're around and stuff lol.

I don't see that as "clingy". That just seems very affectionate and I don't mind if I like her back. I might even like that if there's no negativity there when I'm not around or miss a call or text.

Clingy to me is like a girl who calls the police because she started to panic while thinking that you're hurt or dead because you got caught up in a business meeting and missed her repeated calls because you turned the cell phone off. It's like a girl who gives me an ultimatum between spending a weekend with her or my friends. It's like a girl who has no life of her own and revolves her entire happiness and well-being around me to the point of being suffocating. These are negative qualities; there's no positive aspect about them at all to me.

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

I have to have my freedom I can't have a chick tieup my weekends every moment, I like to do guy things and I don't want to be taken shopping and watch you trying on many clothes and you asking my opinion on every outfit been there and done that before. Or you making plans behind my back getting me into some type of a commitment or always throwing out an errand for me to run. If I give you Monday through Thursday be very pleased with that unless it's Monday Night Football and the Dolphins are playing then you're out of luck unless you're a big Dolphin supporter then you can join me

LifeIsStrange13 · Accepted Answer

I've been in a relationship where the guy wasn't clingy what so ever, in fact he went to stuff on his own and didn't want me there for some reason. He preferred it that way 🤷🏻‍♀️
It made me feel pretty alone and neglected even though I had my own stuff it felt like pulling teeth trying to get him to spend time with me without complaining.

Where as now I have the opposite where he wants to do everything with me! I'm clingy myself and have anxiety so for me it works quite well. There are times I wouldn't mind a bit of space but then I know I'd miss it if he wasn't like it because then I end up becoming clingier 😅

I think it all depends on your personality type and lifestyle.
Like I've always been a loner and not had friends so I like the company, where as I know extroverts who have loads of friends would hate the constant attention and clinginess.

He-Loves-Me-Not · Accepted Answer

‘Meow’ 😂

PrincessPie · Answer

Depends how much i like them, i'll more likely put up with clingyness if i feel strongly about them.

tking99 · Answer

What, someone who loves you so much they dont want to be without you... yea lets call them clingy and cast them aside.

Me and my fiance have been together for three years and we have always spent almost all of our time together, we are honest with each other and we like to do the same stuff. If im working on a car she'll keep me company, if im going shooting you best bet im bringing my best spotter, she is right next to me giving me ballistic correction. If you feel like they are being to "clingy" maybe you are the problem in the relationship

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Jason407 · Answer

To be honest i would love a clingy girlfriend. I would love to have a girl be crazy about me and always wanna be with me. A girl that is over protective over me would make me feel great (I think lol). So pretty much clingy girls are cute in my opinion.

Devon_Ten · Answer

I prefer clingy girls to be honest they make me feel more wanted. There are types of clingy though, there's cute clingy like calling to check up on you a little too much, not wanting you to leave, constant public displays of affection etc. Then there's creepy clingy like looking through your window for 25 minutes before coming inside to see if you're cheating on her. Ella, I know you use this app so if you're reading this you're fucking weird.

ZenKingdom · Answer

Yes. It's a definite dealbreaker for me.
Clingy people tend to be (or at least come off as) jealous and sometimes paranoid. All that drama isn't worth it.
I have no issues with wanting attention but she should also be able to do her own thing, on her own/without me.

bacca400 · Answer

Yes, it often is. Wanting more time together is one thing, if I have the time. But girls who want to spend every spare minute together is just plain unhealthy, especially if they get real jealous if they don't monopolize all the guy's time. This normally indicates she will only have dysfunctional relationships.

I'm not there to change her, so I have to break up with her if she's too clingy.

Evo38 · Answer

I have known women that feel one message a day to say you are thinking about them and wishing them a great day is too much. I have also known women that feel a message every couple of days is you not being interested in them. It all amounts to people's perception of what is clingy or not.

knukles · Answer

I don't think a clingy Partners Adele breakup to be honest I actually like to give a lot of love to the woman I'm with and spoil her and make her feel like she special at the only one in the world I like to treat my women the way they deserve to be treated like a princess

A-man-22 · Answer

Depends how much.
Annoying clingy is monitoring who you talk to, can't go 5 mins without texting you and always talk about you.

Acceptable clingy is heavy want of physical affection, wanting to spend a lot of time with you and genuinely cares about you.

taleswapper · Answer

Yes. I'm a veteran, with PTSD. Hanging on me in public is going to drive me nuts. I need my limbs free to react to potential threats. In private, you can drape yourself on me like a blanket. :)

ShesAmerican · Answer

They’re not always bad. I think they’re cute and their love is true, once they’re gone you’ll miss their clinginess

SoundProtocol · Answer

For a casual sex guy like me: yes.
I only have sex with a few female friends and we stay casual, but once one of the girls decided it was a good idea to ask and do more. It wasn't. I'm not that person, if I had time for clingy girls I would be in relationship.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Some people like to have a clingy partner, but for me it is a deal breaker. I don't really want to be "joined at the hip" with someone. For me, a clingy partner doesn't give me enough breathing space and it's annoying. But to each their own. Some people like it.

stasia_ec2k18 · Answer

If it's not very annoying, no. In fact I find a little clingyness to be the opposite of a deal breaker, because you know they're interested. You might say knowing they're interested is only helpful in the beginning stages, but I've been blindsided deep into a relationship where just all of a sudden she didn't care anymore. It's a good reassurance

Sharknado88 · Answer

Haven't had experience but for me it would be flattering at first but I feel it may become annoying later on. Not necessarily a deal breaker but I would definitely talk it out with her if it does become over bearing

DanielOfTheNorth · Answer

Not necessarily. It depends on how clingy, and at what stage into the relationship. And also how in love we are. If you are extremely, head-over-heels in love, and married, then you probably wouldn't mind, and actually enjoy having a clingy partner

funguy90 · Answer

Depends. If she isn't able to give me my space when needed then yes it is. But it can be nice too if someone likes you that much to want to be with you.

Forgottenfables · Answer

Yes, an overly clingy partner is stifling to an introvert and comes across as being overly possessive and as if you don't trust your partner to not run off with someone else the moment you aren't with them

DFran · Answer

Depends on the clingyness. There are certain times where being clingy is really cute, others, where press super annoying. For instance, if you are worth your family or hers, and she's really close or next to you, that's really cute, however if you tell her you are hanging with the guys or gaming with them, and she invites herself or had to be there, annoying. In my humble opinion.

mikeygolfs · Answer

As long as she is not controlling and allows me to live my life and could tone it down once in awhile, I would be fine with it. She is expressing her love and maybe feeling a little insecure so I would help her feel secure.

Miss_missy77 · Answer

When I hear the word clingy it reminds me of someone who is desperate for constant approval or vulnerable. It is a weakness, and can be understood OR cringeworthy depending on how you look at it..

daniellemyers · Answer

Having someone be invested in you and want to be with you is not something I'd ever complain about but don't get to the extent that I can't take a shit without you breathing down my neck

Joshua22 · Answer

Shouldn't really be a deal breaker for any man really, it's a sure sign they want you and only you and if they take up too much of your personal time you can work on it with them or just include them in your social activities👌

AynonOMouse · Answer

I like it a lot if the girl is physically clingy and she initiates lots of affection when in private. I like her to be a little physically clingy and possessive in public if other girls are around to show that I belong to her.
I wouldn't like the kind of clingy where she would be constantly calling me every day.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I'm very independent and don't need someone constantly breathing down my neck. If you don't trust me enough to let me live, and feel the need to constantly check up on me, then it makes me think you're being controlling and will only serve to piss me off and make me push you away. In the same way I'd trust my partner to not cheat or do something stupid, I'd expect them to pay me the same respects.

sodaslut · Answer

NOOO to my future boyfriend COME CLING ONTO ME SO I CAN LOVE YOU LMAO

lngjhnbenha · Answer

No, I wouldn't say deal breaker. Though it can be annoying, space is valuable and you shouldn't try and take that away.

Jiovanny · Answer

Hell nah to be honest when a person is clingy it gives the feeling of wanting to just be around the person cause you have a mass amount of feelings for the other and I think clingy is cute af

Kj_TheKing_kane · Answer

How clingy? Like I can deal with checking up on me and wanting to spend time together, but I cannot deal with 24/7 communication and contact.

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend is clingy. We've found balance tho by her hanging out with me on cam when I play video games and she masturbates on the phone late at night while I try to sleep. So it all depends what you two are like.

iamconfusion111 · Answer

It's not much of a dealbreaker, but constant need of attention and talking is tiring. Sometimes you need your space and I don't think I'd work well with someone that's clingy because I really like my space to be available.

chunkycheeks · Answer

Not in my opinion. I like all of their attention on me

xTom98 · Answer

Clingy CAN be cute, most of the time however it isn't 😂

maddithebaddi · Answer

Ugh like clingy as in what? texting , calling, or seeing you too much? I dont mind some text but yeah clingy would make me feel like I couldn't do anything

Anonymous · Answer

NOOOO. Okay so at first im a distant kind of person. But clingy when i get comfortable w the person and when i see the person likes me despite all the shitty parts of me. I’d die for a clingy one.

Alice2398 · Answer

Nope I like my alone time but I'm extremely clingy so I would be happy with it

Jaybear0123 · Answer

Well maybe if he’s too much that he seems obsessive and won’t let me do anything lol

Lovi87 · Answer

If they are too clingy, then it will just annoy me. I don't think I'd dump them, though. I'd just let them know that I also want time/days to myself so I can do my own things.

AbdKilani · Answer

I don't think so  I never had a girlfriend so , i won't know how annoying it would be, but if it is too much i might be annoyed

Anonymous · Answer

no because my ex cheated on me and she wasn't clingy and the best most loving girlfriend I've ever had was clingy so i say that clingy is better

vexxedvixon · Answer

Yes. Dear God yes it's a dealbreaker. I need my space and if you're hanging off me, and following me to the bathroom lol then I'm out. Also constant texts and phone calls are a no go for me too.

Bluedream13 · Answer

If a clingy partner is a dealbreaker then you aren't really craving a relationship that badly

Foreverdark · Answer

Not at all, in my opinion the clingier she, the less she'll be tempted to cheat.

xSpencerx · Answer

NO!!! clingy is good because first off it shows they care and second off cuddling and all that is the best.

SupernovaV10 · Answer

Depending on the level of clinginess. If I don't text back in 5 minutes and she's blowing up my phone every single time no matter what I'm doing then yes that's ridiculous.

DakotaNorth · Answer

It's not a dealbreaker - but you don't have to phone every two minutes.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

Not at all. I would rather have a clingy girl than have someone who drops off the face of the earth suddenly and never message me again.

lukasw · Answer

Id prefer a clingy one a lot more. It makes you feel like she really loves you, cares about you and really enjoys your company.

jean_A · Answer

Define clingy. Because these days sending a message a day is already seen as clingy

anonpanda · Answer

Not necessarily, if they are clingy to the point where they will become jelous of a mutual relationship between others then yes but if not then definitely not

HALKYXN · Answer

Uh no not really. But if it's too clingy, like so clingy to the point where they expect my whole life to revolve around them and them only, then no thanks.

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

No I'll be clingy right back especially if her hair smells good

johnmichaei · Answer

Sweet little kitty needs to be caressed held and petted

Potatocream · Answer

If she doesn't chain me up in the basement is it really love?

afterlongtime · Answer

lol depends how much clingy she is if she is same as ambitious like me then nope

Animagis · Answer

Being an only child, I would love a clingy partner..

Youngjefe1998 · Answer

nah, but if you're needy and clingy than it's a deal breaker

TBnhr · Answer

No, I really hope that my boyfriend is a clingy one lol

phantomf1121m · Answer

No, that's how you know they love you and they ain't cheating when you think about it, I be looking for 1 😭😂💀

Rule1 · Answer

No way I clingy partner she'd what they want shouldn't have to worry much about them sneaking around and if they did it would need obvious

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