Is a clingy partner a dealbreaker to you?

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  • I have to have my freedom I can't have a chick tieup my weekends every moment, I like to do guy things and I don't want to be taken shopping and watch you trying on many clothes and you asking my opinion on every outfit been there and done that before. Or you making plans behind my back getting me into some type of a commitment or always throwing out an errand for me to run. If I give you Monday through Thursday be very pleased with that unless it's Monday Night Football and the Dolphins are playing then you're out of luck unless you're a big Dolphin supporter then you can join me

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    • That's not me at all thankfully πŸ˜‚

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    • Oh you're most welcome πŸŽ€

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  • I often find girls define "clingy" in a different way than I do. Like in your comment:

    >> Wanting to spend a lot of time together, missing you easily, getting super happy and effectionate when you're around and stuff lol.

    I don't see that as "clingy". That just seems very affectionate and I don't mind if I like her back. I might even like that if there's no negativity there when I'm not around or miss a call or text.

    Clingy to me is like a girl who calls the police because she started to panic while thinking that you're hurt or dead because you got caught up in a business meeting and missed her repeated calls because you turned the cell phone off. It's like a girl who gives me an ultimatum between spending a weekend with her or my friends. It's like a girl who has no life of her own and revolves her entire happiness and well-being around me to the point of being suffocating. These are negative qualities; there's no positive aspect about them at all to me.

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    • I definitely get worried if it's a time someone is usually texting me and he didn't, or came in too late and all... I wouldn't call the police but I'd just get really worried 😬

      What you described is not me though thankfully πŸ˜‚

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    • So I think if you can tame any "negative energy" or thinking patterns you might have, you should be good. You can be super affectionate when a person is there without becoming crazy and obnoxious when they aren't there, you can miss a person like crazy without actually feeding all sorts of negative thoughts about losing them (just focus on the positive thoughts about seeing them again), etc. If you can do that reasonably well, I think you ought to be fine.

    • Yes true... I'm more positive about it I guess

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  • I've been in a relationship where the guy wasn't clingy what so ever, in fact he went to stuff on his own and didn't want me there for some reason. He preferred it that way πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ
    It made me feel pretty alone and neglected even though I had my own stuff it felt like pulling teeth trying to get him to spend time with me without complaining.

    Where as now I have the opposite where he wants to do everything with me! I'm clingy myself and have anxiety so for me it works quite well. There are times I wouldn't mind a bit of space but then I know I'd miss it if he wasn't like it because then I end up becoming clingier πŸ˜…

    I think it all depends on your personality type and lifestyle.
    Like I've always been a loner and not had friends so I like the company, where as I know extroverts who have loads of friends would hate the constant attention and clinginess.

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  • To be honest i would love a clingy girlfriend. I would love to have a girl be crazy about me and always wanna be with me. A girl that is over protective over me would make me feel great (I think lol). So pretty much clingy girls are cute in my opinion.

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  • I prefer clingy girls to be honest they make me feel more wanted. There are types of clingy though, there's cute clingy like calling to check up on you a little too much, not wanting you to leave, constant public displays of affection etc. Then there's creepy clingy like looking through your window for 25 minutes before coming inside to see if you're cheating on her. Ella, I know you use this app so if you're reading this you're fucking weird.

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      I'm defitnely not the second type πŸ˜‚ just the first... except for public displays of affection since I'd get too shy in public lol...

    • I asked my girlfriend why she keeps kissing my cheek and putting my hand around her waist in public and she said "because we haven't got wedding bands yet" and usually I'd find this creepy but she's too cute to be creepy 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

  • Yes. It's a definite dealbreaker for me.
    Clingy people tend to be (or at least come off as) jealous and sometimes paranoid. All that drama isn't worth it.
    I have no issues with wanting attention but she should also be able to do her own thing, on her own/without me.

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  • Yes. I'm a veteran, with PTSD. Hanging on me in public is going to drive me nuts. I need my limbs free to react to potential threats. In private, you can drape yourself on me like a blanket. :)

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    • I never ever get clingy with someone in public... it's too private... lol

      And wowwwwwww... veterns are amazing!

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    • I'd have thought having PTSD would make clingy girls even more attractive. Have you ever tried to be stressed while a girl you love is hugging you? It's impossible

    • @Devon_Ten On the contrary, it's VERY possible. In can not only be an aggravating factor, it can be the principle cause. Sorry, Devon, but "I'd've thought " doesn't trump actual experience. YMMV, of course. If you CAN use a hug from your sweetie to de-escalate, more power to you.

  • Not necessarily. It depends on how clingy, and at what stage into the relationship. And also how in love we are. If you are extremely, head-over-heels in love, and married, then you probably wouldn't mind, and actually enjoy having a clingy partner

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  • Yes, it often is. Wanting more time together is one thing, if I have the time. But girls who want to spend every spare minute together is just plain unhealthy, especially if they get real jealous if they don't monopolize all the guy's time. This normally indicates she will only have dysfunctional relationships.

    I'm not there to change her, so I have to break up with her if she's too clingy.

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  • Depends how much.
    Annoying clingy is monitoring who you talk to, can't go 5 mins without texting you and always talk about you.

    Acceptable clingy is heavy want of physical affection, wanting to spend a lot of time with you and genuinely cares about you.

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  • Yes, an overly clingy partner is stifling to an introvert and comes across as being overly possessive and as if you don't trust your partner to not run off with someone else the moment you aren't with them

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  • Some people like to have a clingy partner, but for me it is a deal breaker. I don't really want to be "joined at the hip" with someone. For me, a clingy partner doesn't give me enough breathing space and it's annoying. But to each their own. Some people like it.

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  • Haven't had experience but for me it would be flattering at first but I feel it may become annoying later on. Not necessarily a deal breaker but I would definitely talk it out with her if it does become over bearing

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  • I have known women that feel one message a day to say you are thinking about them and wishing them a great day is too much. I have also known women that feel a message every couple of days is you not being interested in them. It all amounts to people's perception of what is clingy or not.

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  • Hell nah to be honest when a person is clingy it gives the feeling of wanting to just be around the person cause you have a mass amount of feelings for the other and I think clingy is cute af

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    • That makes me feel way better about myself...πŸ˜‚

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    • Sure lolol

    • Dang I was trying to message u direct but it didn't let me cause I'm to low level. (,,‒́ . β€’Μ€,,)

  • As long as she is not controlling and allows me to live my life and could tone it down once in awhile, I would be fine with it. She is expressing her love and maybe feeling a little insecure so I would help her feel secure.

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  • How clingy? Like I can deal with checking up on me and wanting to spend time together, but I cannot deal with 24/7 communication and contact.

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    • No no not 24/7 communication... I got work to do πŸ˜‚

  • If it's not very annoying, no. In fact I find a little clingyness to be the opposite of a deal breaker, because you know they're interested. You might say knowing they're interested is only helpful in the beginning stages, but I've been blindsided deep into a relationship where just all of a sudden she didn't care anymore. It's a good reassurance

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  • Depends on the clingyness. There are certain times where being clingy is really cute, others, where press super annoying. For instance, if you are worth your family or hers, and she's really close or next to you, that's really cute, however if you tell her you are hanging with the guys or gaming with them, and she invites herself or had to be there, annoying. In my humble opinion.

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  • Shouldn't really be a deal breaker for any man really, it's a sure sign they want you and only you and if they take up too much of your personal time you can work on it with them or just include them in your social activitiesπŸ‘Œ

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  • For a casual sex guy like me: yes.
    I only have sex with a few female friends and we stay casual, but once one of the girls decided it was a good idea to ask and do more. It wasn't. I'm not that person, if I had time for clingy girls I would be in relationship.

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  • What, someone who loves you so much they dont want to be without you... yea lets call them clingy and cast them aside.

    Me and my fiance have been together for three years and we have always spent almost all of our time together, we are honest with each other and we like to do the same stuff. If im working on a car she'll keep me company, if im going shooting you best bet im bringing my best spotter, she is right next to me giving me ballistic correction. If you feel like they are being to "clingy" maybe you are the problem in the relationship

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  • Depends. If she isn't able to give me my space when needed then yes it is. But it can be nice too if someone likes you that much to want to be with you.

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  • Depends how much i like them, i'll more likely put up with clingyness if i feel strongly about them.

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  • They’re not always bad. I think they’re cute and their love is true, once they’re gone you’ll miss their clinginess

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  • When I hear the word clingy it reminds me of someone who is desperate for constant approval or vulnerable. It is a weakness, and can be understood OR cringeworthy depending on how you look at it..

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  • Having someone be invested in you and want to be with you is not something I'd ever complain about but don't get to the extent that I can't take a shit without you breathing down my neck

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  • NOOO to my future boyfriend COME CLING ONTO ME SO I CAN LOVE YOU LMAO

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  • It's not much of a dealbreaker, but constant need of attention and talking is tiring. Sometimes you need your space and I don't think I'd work well with someone that's clingy because I really like my space to be available.

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  • Ugh like clingy as in what? texting , calling, or seeing you too much? I dont mind some text but yeah clingy would make me feel like I couldn't do anything

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  • If they are too clingy, then it will just annoy me. I don't think I'd dump them, though. I'd just let them know that I also want time/days to myself so I can do my own things.

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  • Nope I like my alone time but I'm extremely clingy so I would be happy with it

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  • Not in my opinion. I like all of their attention on me

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  • Well maybe if he’s too much that he seems obsessive and won’t let me do anything lol

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  • Yes. Dear God yes it's a dealbreaker. I need my space and if you're hanging off me, and following me to the bathroom lol then I'm out. Also constant texts and phone calls are a no go for me too.

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  • It's not a dealbreaker - but you don't have to phone every two minutes.

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  • No, I really hope that my boyfriend is a clingy one lol

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  • No i dont think is a dealbraker i think its cute and normal for other people:))

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  • Yeap, clingyness is probably the most annoying thing.

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  • Yes it is, I like my space and I want to be able to breathe a little.

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  • No way. Love meee!!!

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  • No. Some people just show love more.

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    • Don't you want your space?

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    • Yes or when you want to try for real. But I only meet girls that want space

    • I'm sorry.

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