Do you like your partner to be clingy?

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Axeldddd56 · Accepted Answer

Ah a lovely question this,

I've been in a few relationships with avoidant attachment styles and I can safely say those people should be thrown in the bin, anyone who says they want a relationship yet puts in no effort and distances themselves from you deserve to be alone forever,

For the first time in my life I've dated an anxious attachment style as I can safely say like it feels amazing

Having someone who is also putting in the effort wanting to build a mutual relationship is the most amazing thing ever

If you start dating the person says they don't know what their attachment style is chances are is avoidant,

My advice is seriously don't give avoidants any chance, cut them off as soon as you can, don't buy into the advice vids saying they deserve sympathy.. they don't, they are a massive waste of time,

If you've never heard of it before to anyone reading this please research more, but the bottom line is don't associate with avoidants

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Clingy partners are the worst. From my experience, it comes from people who can't entertain themselves, self-soothe, or do jackshit on their own.

I don't mean to say they can't cook themselves a meal or use the bathroom by themselves... but they're pretty bad.

Ex girlfriend would drag me to her family get-togethers against my will because I guess she can't deal with her own family by herself. Then when I'm hanging with the boys and trying to shoot the shit... her ass is hanging on my arm, trying to initiate PDA or makeout sessions basically, and just won't leave me the fuck alone. Like why does she even want to go to that shit if she can't handle it? She won't kick it with the weed-smoking girls with us, she won't go hang out with the domestic women in the house, it's just me... all over me and won't do anything else. <--That's what I remember when someone mentions a clingy partner.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Clingy = Suffocating... So no.  But if you mean affectionate and liking a cuddle, that's nice.

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

I don't like clingy lol but I don't mind wanting to spend quality time together.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the clinginess conundrum! As a relationship coach on a mission to build better bonds, here's my flirty take on it: clinginess can be a lovebombing delight or a suffocating embrace. It's all about balance, love! Some folks thrive on attention, while others need their space like cats avoiding water. If you're feeling smothered, set boundaries with charm and confidence. If you love the extra attention, soak it up like a romantic sponge! 😘

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ShellyB · Answer

I think it is good to have some separate activities, I would not like him to insist on coming to a girls hangout w my friends for example, and I also would not like him to insist I never go to those, and it is also good for him to do things with his guy friends and his family sometimes. That is how I would separate clingy behavior from behavior I prefer but I think people sometimes mean different things with it. I mean I do like for him to be into me lol.

Like sometimes he can’t keep his hands off me, for example it is winter now so I wear long coats more often than usual and he slips his hand under my coat around my back so it looks like his arm is around my waist but he will touch or squeeze my butt where nobody can see, when we are at events or in public, it is annoying in some ways and I have to keep smiling or not make a weird expression which has taken some practice, but I like to know he is attracted to me so overall I guess I like that he does it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I want a partner who can function independently when necessary, but I also want a partner who wants to hold me and to be held every night as we go to sleep.

Anonymous · Answer

Wanting this is a validation issue. And a clingy partner usually has very deep insecurities themselves. Their clingyness is really about them and not about you. They are fear mongering in a way.

Don’t get me wrong. If I had choose between a clingy vs a bitchy disrespectful one I would take clingy all day.

But the problem is the clingy person isn’t really in love. They are either projecting their fantasy of who they think you are and/or (again) are struggling with a very deep insecurity.

Anyway I will make an exception if the clingyness is sporadic. Both men and women will have their moments of deep doubt yet still be legitimately in love with someone. But if it’s a constant pattern that’s a problem.

A consistently clingy girlfriend/boyfriend will later turn into a cruel bitch/asshole. Because again it’s really all about them.

TCredo · Answer

lol to the AI relationship coach. God help us all :)

I enjoy being supportive but she (and I) need to have some independence. When I think of clingy, feels like little-to-no independence. I guess that is what our AI savior is saying about balance :)

MrOracle · Answer

I enjoy being physically close to my girlfriend whenever it's reasonable to do so, but that's not the same as clingy. Clingy means she gets upset if I have to leave to do something, even if that something is important. Like, say, going to work. Clingy is a problem. Being codependent is a problem.

Thus, I wouldn't want clingy. Closeness is great, clingy is not.

Cormac995 · Answer

Depends on your definition of clingy. If you mean they're being controlling and trying to force you to do things then yea it's bad. If by clingy you mean they want a lot of physical contact like hugs, kisses, cuddles etc. though for me that's a definitely yes in that case and I would find it very attractive.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't mind, as long as she's not overly clingy, like, keeping me from getting things done kinda clingy. If she wants to sit here beside me and watch what I'm doing, rest her chin on my shoulder or what have you, that's fine. Just let me get my stuff done. If she needs me to spend more time with her, just say so and I probably will.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Maybe a little bit, but not so much as to where she doesn't have her own life.. Just enough to where she tells me that she's missing me.

Leave Love Doctor Brad alone.. 😂😂.. But seriously, these AI bots suck..

Unit1 · Answer

Of course. Like so Love 🥰😍

Staximus · Answer

I'd want her to want me around all the time but not need me around all the time for her mental health, if that makes sense. Like I don't want to be her fucking emotional support animal. But when she is around I want her stuck to me like horny Velcro haha

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, there is a big difference between clinginess and neediness.  Clinginess can sometimes be a sign of underlying insecurities or anxieties, and that is a turn-off. I need a certain level of freedom.

molonski2 · Answer

My experiences with Clingy have not been positive , that being said I suppose you dont want non existent care either , so its a matter of scale.

Wiredone · Answer

Hell no. I dumped 2 girlfriends because they were too clingy. It was like they were glued to my side

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I think I would like a partner who is a little bit clingy just so I know he really loves me but not one that is constantly bugging me.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

I would like that, of course though not to the point she starts having a seizure when I’m not around and breathes hard enough to power a dang wind turbine. Definitely would prefer clingy over distant. Ew that’s nasty

12karen · Answer

I don't mind but when I say I need to be alone, he gotta respect that.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. There's a time to be together and there is a time to be apart for personal space.

A clingy person wants to be around all the time and that isn't a healthy way to live being with a person like that.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

yes and obsessive like a stalker  tho needless to say  based on my below average face & overweight body  he probably won't follow me home unless I took something of his or kicked his nuts

Kaneki05 · Answer

I have mommy issues so what do you think? 😅 I am a loner but yeah when it comes to having a partner that's a need really.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I'd say I've even come across women who wear into me who seemed clingy with their eyeballs.  You read that correctly 👀 👁️ 👁️ 👁️ 👀

Flower7 · Answer

No I hate that. Its so boring and stressful when people behave that way.

Anonymous · Answer

sometimes but not really. i can be clingy tho lol. but i do prefer my own space when i want it. i know i sound selfish lol. but i guess i wouldn't mind it every once in awhile.

HungTexan · Answer

I don’t like clingy, but I do like attention!

exitseven · Answer

Maybe a little. Not exactly clingy but maybe just a little bit needy.

RHK36 · Answer

I'm indifferent, I guess depends on how clingy they get

Misscouincouin · Answer

Dont know about clingy but love kind of over protective I feel loved 😗

YourExLover69 · Answer

I love clingy, romantic, chatty, loyal, talkative, open minded lady tbh.

Anonymous · Answer

Look I’m a extremely lovey person…. With the right person.

Anonymous · Answer

More clingy than she is would be nice. I feel like the invisible man. Do you lot come with manual settings?

Pete671 · Answer

Yes if they are obedient to me lol, clingy and demanding is a deal breaker,,,

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

No, I prefer someone who doesn't have mental health issues

Ariesman81 · Answer

I agree with you though. I'd rather have her on the clingier side of perfect.

Stravoula96 · Answer

I like it in the middle.

scooogy · Answer

Nope, might be challenging if you go shower.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't bother me if she's really my type of girl.

Itried2help · Answer

No because causes me to return the favor then they lose interest.

UknowJT93 · Answer

I wish not to be myself and not my partner as clingy or demotivated

Tryingsohard444 · Answer

Hell no. But I also haven't found a partner that's a good fit for me. Maybe then I would.

1920s_Vamp · Answer

Yep, I love it.

jazzy34 · Answer

No. Please have a life outside of me. 😣

glennos89 · Answer

Depends on how clingy she is

dustybiker2 · Answer

Uh. No.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, it shows that she cares

itsannalee · Answer

Yes but not too much

Dina2000 · Answer

Make feel wanted but be overwhelming. So no.

Rahuk_3254 · Answer

No , Clingy partners are the worst i think

MemeSupreme · Answer

no it's suffocating

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Not at all.

Justneedtokno · Answer

To a certain extent.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Oh hell no

Jay-_- · Answer

Yes.

dudeinohio · Answer

Absolutely

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Yep 👍

zombiewoof · Answer

No way

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

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