Have feelings for a guy friend?

[Anonymous]

I have feelings for a guy friend of mine. We’ve been close friends for over a year. We dated for a little over a month (December into January). He broke up with me because he wasn’t in a good place. It was multiple things, one of which was him still moving past a past relationship (so rebound). I took space for about a week and he messaged me everyday a good morning/night text. At that point he was terrified of losing me. We’ve talked almost every day since then and have seen each other. At this point we are ‘just friends’. I care about him a lot and can picture a future with him. We haven’t talked about dating in a long time but when we’re around each other we don’t act like we’re just friends either. It’s not that I can’t talk to him but I’m terrified of rejection and I can’t imagine my life without him. If he were to reject me I don’t think remaining friends would be healthy but I would be much lonelier without him. What would be the best thing to do in this situation? I don’t think he fears losing me anymore since I’m always there and he hasn’t talked to anyone else romantically as far as I know. He pretty much tells me what he’s up to generally. I don’t know if I’m truly just a friend to him at this point, because he isn’t just one to me

[Anonymous]

if he likes you, then he would of gotten back together with you. to be fully honest it doesn't sound like he was interested in you at all in the first place, cause he wouldn't of dumped you. I dont care how much of a hard time this guy might of been going through, if he really wanted you then he would of stayed. Men are chasers and pressures and nothing in the world stops them from being with a girl they want. Remember that. Dont even bother with this guy, dont chase, and go for someone that actively wants you romantically.

[Rebecka33]

Let this guy know how you feel and move on he has your number. Let him know he knows how to get a hold of you. Let him know your glad you met him but you also can't make him love you a certain way. He might be attracted to you sexually however it takes more then that to have a life partner. If he's in a relationship you can be a friend but it won't be all the time talking but if he really really needs something.

[Rebecka33]

there's guys that come and go but your life is better cause they were in it and then there's guys that come and go and come back again.

[An_Impulse]

i would suggest you to get some more friends then try...

it seems your only fear is being lonely. not getting rejected. you seem to like the guy. and he seems like a decent person. not abusing your care.. and you suddenly think 'thats the one with the cherry top on it' but its not. i suppose you shouldn't waste a perfect friendship for some happy 2 or 5 months.

[AmeerX]

From friend to girlfriend to wife to a mom. You have to provide him all of these.

I think you should meet him and propose to him with a strong will.
Tell him you want to be able to care for him emotionally. I don't think he will resist you if you tell him what you told us.

[Desconhecida]

Put yourself first. Stay away of complicated relationships and you'll start to attract healthier ones

[GloryQueen]

I think this guy needs space...
Let him approach you, test him, see what questions he asks you, try to talk about other men to see his reaction..
Similar thing happened to me. Think what you want. If you can accept his needing of space, just go with the flow. I get you, but you can't force someone to fall in love with you. If he needs time it depends on you, will you accept it or move on..

[_SOARER]

Be honest with him
That's what real friends do
You sound like a sweet caring girl. He should be open to be with you again, of he fixed his problems

[Avicenna]

Ask him how he feels about you. Before you have this convo, make sure you know what you want.

[Anonymous]

I’d have a one on one convo. Maybe he’s just trying to get his life together/get over his ex still, but he still wants a relationship. I’d just try to hash it together.