Unghosted then reghosted?

[Anonymous]

A guy I was dating ghosted me for over a month, then during this time suffered a horrific family tragedy. I messaged to pass on my condolences despite the fact he was already ghosting me at this point. He eventually messaged out of the blue a few weeks after this, inviting me over. We spent 5 hours alone together and had a really intimate time together, both physically and emotionally. We seemingly parted on great terms, but I have heard nothing since. I know he is going through an absolutely horrendous time at the moment, so I don’t hold it against him. However, because he ghosted me before the tragedy occured I wonder if the reasons for re-ghosting are related directly to me or because he has a lot going on. I guess I am just looking for guidance on how to proceed with him. In person, he acts extremely keen but he has always been a patchy texter, even before he first ghosted me and before the tragedy occured.

[sheikalana]

I think you shouldn't invest nor lose your time with this guy anymore. Yes, he's been through a lot lately but is not your job to make him feel better when he's the one ignoring you. When a men ghosts you do nothing, don't be available if he contacts you because this type of men always have the perfect excuse to get what they want. Let him be dead.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I feel you frustration! I just ended something with a guy who was so awesome with me in person but then just disappeared when we were apart. It’s just the worst. Tbh with your guy, it seems like if you had not reached out to offer condolences then he would’ve been fine not speaking further. That is why he’s gone again. I know it sucks a lot but someone like that just isn’t worth the energy. Find someone who will meet you halfway and not go ghost.