Men, what do you think of women who can't cook or clean?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

EVERY adult - male or female - should be able to clean, do laundry, wash dishes, and cook meals. You needn't be a 5-star chef, but you ought to be able to make some basic meals and you should slowly expand your recipes. That's part of basic survival, and in my opinion it's ridiculous that anyone doesn't know these things (okay, if you have physical disabilities or something, you might get a pass).

I have no idea why so many women today seem to be PROUD of the fact that they can't cook or clean, but these are things that need to be done all the time for the rest of your life, and if you can't do it, you'll eventually find yourself in a bad situation - you can't count on other people doing these things for you forever. And given that most women want relationships with men, the fact that many women make virtually no effort to bring anything to the table (beyond sex) is crazy - and then when they complain that men only want them for sex, my mind boggles - because if sex is the only thing you bring to the table, when why else should he want you?

I cook, I clean, I do household maintenance, I do yard work, I fix cars, and I handle all of the technology. If I can do that, you (young folks in general) can cook a meal once in a while, or do the dishes, or put in a load of laundry.

mr_raizo94 · Accepted Answer

I think every body men or women should learn cook and clean. Its important.

Sleevey · Answer

I really don’t think of them much at all. I can cook, I even enjoy it sometimes but the mother of my children had better be able to feed them properly. No take out, junk food, fast food. That’s for rare occasions healthy balanced not processed home cooked meals are a must, and if we are splitting that responsibility they have to take it serious. If it’s just dating, he’ll why not, but in today’s world the only reason I can choke down marriage is to have kids. And once those kids are born, it’s no longer about you. Every study agrees, children who are raised by both parents under a single roof wil have a much greater chance of raising mature stable well adapted successful children. Out overwhelming in its benefits. So much so that the 2 biggest common factors for predicting failure, criminality, and poorly social and adapted kids is lack of a father. Almost to a one, school shooters are boys raised with no father or positive male role model. And even more scary, long term use of Ridilin or other ADD, ADHD drugs. Generations of lost boys with no confidence, told thier maleness makes them bad, toxic , broken even though the things the feel feel right. No father to give you strict guidance and structure and help you work through your aggression and give you guidance for constructive uses of your aggression and energy, and to tell you it ok, butt your gonna grow hair on your palms. It’s critical. Then bust single moms don’t get it have no time to fix it si they drug thier boys with amphetamines during the critical development stages,, well that’s bull shit

itsabout those kids. Even if you hate. Each other, do the rightthing. Stay, work it out, if it’s separate bedrooms and roommate lives then great, your both thier , you are close and agree hopefully on the kids. You are mature and are willing to sacrifice you fantasy life so those children are raised with all the advantages you can give the. If you can’t, don’t marry, don’t have kids your not mature enough, don’t marry, theirs no reason to, and DONT COOK, NOBODY CARES

sloppyjoe · Answer

Anyone who still feels that women have to be purely housewives who purely cook and clean are so out of touch. It's the same opinion which is the reason men don't feel they can admit to loving cooking and/or cleaning. Everybody should be able to cook and clean enough to survive, men shouldn't say I need someone to do that, and the one's who do, to me tend to be people who's parents have pampered them. For me I love cooking, and I enjoy a clean house, so I also clean. If a woman couldn't cook, then it would only be an issue if she expected me to do it all, I don't mind something super easy, and the same with cleaning. If a woman at least attempts or makes some effort, that's enough, everyone has things they aren't amazing at, and it's not fair to judge someone on that. With this being said, said woman, could not suddenly turn around and say a man should do all the manual labour and outside chores, she should see that everything as a marriage is a partnership, and if she does, she's perfect wife material

GoodManDave · Answer

Not very good at cooking? You'll probably have to learn. I mean, just as an adult fending for yourself. I'm not a great cook, but I know how to follow instructions. The tricky part is learning the quirks of different appliances. Some of the time, I accidentally burn stuff, because the oven runs a bit hotter, a bit faster, so I have to kind of play it by ear. But past that, I can follow instructions and it at least turns out fairly decent. I cook probably 5 meals a week. Most of it is quick and simple. Or something fancier will be made, and I freeze and reheat.

Not great at cleaning... well, you have to have something that will mesh with my cleaning style, at least. I can teach how I think and process. Now, if she wants to be the main breadwinner, and go off to work, and I work from home, AND can control the housework and cleaning, ok, as long as she's not too picky about her own style vs mine.

Now if she's constantly lazy about it then she has to step up a little bit. I'm not saying she has to handle it all. But help not make it too horrible.

I've lived with messy people, and I've cared for people who have gotten so overweight that they can't/won't wash properly and they (or the whole house) smells horrible... or they won't take care of their pets, and the place smells of cat feces and 6-month-old rotten food; if she's like that... then it's an immediate issue. If it's out of laziness, and it's gross, then it's an issue. She lets the dog poop where it pleases in the house... and won't train the dog or clean up after it... it's a BIG issue. But if she's broken her leg and we have 3 kids and are both pulling in a 60 hour work week and it gets a little crazy for the time being... I'm cool with a little mess from time to time.

MCheetah · Answer

I'd prefer that together we'd be able to do both of these when combined together as a couple (I can't cook for sh*t, but I don't mind doing housecleaning, as long as I don't become someone's nanny/maid), but it's no biggie if she can't cook or clean.

I can clean decently (mostly by just avoiding making a mess, rather than being messy and frequently cleaning up after it all the time) and I own a Swiffer mop, toilet cleaner gel and wand, toilet bowl pucks, a dustpan, bleach, etc, at my current apartment I live alone in. However, I can't cook, so having a girl who can is a BIG plus to me. Or at least, if she's willing to learn how to cook, while I clean, that's all good. But if I can only clean, and she can't of either one, it's a minor negative, but one that isn't too bad.

Regmorus · Answer

I kinda have prejudices against any people who can't clean. It can only mean they are lazy. Because it's no art, it's simple work. And what about cooking if someone can't cook completely it's the same. There is nothing complex about cooking some (simple) dishes. To cook good and with some aesthetics is something else, but that is not what you mean probably.

So I think people who are that lazy can't be considered as any good to live with tbh. And I had quite some experiences with such life... I know exactly what I'm talking. Especially as to cleaning. It's horrible.

NightFalcon333 · Answer

Can’t cook? No problem, it needs skill & takes time to learn

Can’t clean? Are you freakin’ kidding me? Japanese kids can do that themselves even before they entered elementary high and I could clean the entire 2 levels house & cook for family when I was 6.. and I’m a man.

So, in my opinion, please learn how to do that. It’s basic in life, you can’t always depend on someone else to do basic things in life.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No one "can not clean.". You might not be very good at it, but all it takes is a go-getter attitude and asking someone for advice on how to do it correctly. Mostly it's just a matter of using the right cleaning agent, but a lot of them are versatile and can be used for more than one surface. (Just be sure you don't mix them together.). ... Look- I'm not great at cleaning myself, but I can get it done when I make an effort.

As far as cooking goes, that's kind of an art which is learned over time. But there are many simple things you can make just by following directions.

I don't look down on any woman for not being a good cook or for not being sure of what to do when cleaning. Everyone can learn, and people get better over time.

I also don't believe it's a woman's JOB to cook and clean. I personally think that that's everyone's responsibility.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Not my problem. Am a chef, so i cook and 70% of a cook's job is hygiene so cleaning is not a problem for me. Wife material !!! Am already married and she can cook and clean too, will it effect our marriage if she couldn't cook or clean? I don't think so.

egarcia1360 · Answer

Every adult should be capable of at least some very basic cooking and cleaning for the sake of self-reliance. If you can't fry up a couple of eggs or a slab of meat, or sweep/vacuum the floor and do some laundry, you're probably not ready to maintain a marriage (or children).

ShortCircuit · Answer

If that's the case, then that's fine, but she better bring enough money to the table that we can afford to hire cleaning services and order takeout every night with our combined income.

She either needs to learn how to pull her weight or pay someone else to do it for her, because I'm not going to pick up her slack.

Anonymous · Answer

She has to be very rich in that case or starve to death straight after moving out of parents house.

It is basic survival skills, you need to feed yourself and clean your environment to avoid bacterias, infection and other stuff coursed by dirty environment...

Or you could pay other people to do it for you.

In todays culture, people don't live together as often...

I don't really care I can cook and clean,... you need to be very posh or mentally challenged not to be able to do this...

cth96190 · Answer

There is no such things as cannot cook, or cannot clean.
If you want to learn how to cook, buy a cook book and get to it. Cooking is an exercise in chemistry. Follow the instructions and all will be well.
Someone who does not clean is lazy and filthy.
Anyone can clean a house.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

I didn't know how to cook or clean until I learned how and if I can anyone can as a matter of fact you can do anything you want to do that is IF you want to do it or have to do it if you're talking about yourself when you are on your own you will see that if you don't cook take gets expensive and if you don't clean rats will come in it's not a matter of can you it's a matter of will you

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I can cook, I can clean. Maybe cooking isn't such a big deal but if I live with someone relationship or not, they better pick up after themselves and help clean the place up. there's no such thing as someone who can't clean. . . unless you have no arms or something.

Derekk · Answer

I can't either frankly. Then again, I expect most self-sufficient adults to be able to feed themselves and take care of themselves. So if "cooking" means creating fancy meals for a family, I don't expect her to have that skill. But if she can't make mac n' cheese I'd wonder how she managed to live as long as she has.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Can't or won't?
I am not going to assume any one person should do everything. We will share the responsability to life healthy lives. I will gladly do my part in co-operation towards our potential future. And I will not assign you a role to obey and follow as I hope you won't put me in a box and make me a function with expectations. You do you as I do me in support of eachother. Unless that's what we agree to do together.

Barbaric · Answer

Just the same as women think of a man who can't hold down a job. Most women will not be interested in such a man, even feminist women.

Some think it's a sexist expectation but men and women want different things, including many women who'd say that.

pajamasam · Answer

Doesn't matter really I don't know how too cook anything except eggs, bacon, hamburgers and steaks. And when it comes to cleaning I know enough to get by but if you asked me what kinda laundry detergent is the best I would say " the cheapest"

I dont know a lot of cooking and cleaning skills either so it doesn't really bother me if she doesn't either. Plus it's not like these skills are impossible to learn.

Bananaman177 · Answer

I can teach anyone how to cook and clean, but if she refuses to learn then she's trash.

Just like a man who can't cook or clean is trash. Gender doesn't matter, this is just being a grown-up 101. If you can't hack it, then just go back home and let your mommy pick up after you for the rest of your life.

Men, what do you think of women who can't cook or clean?

BillOwen · Answer

Naaah!!!  Once i find out! She will to return to her parents and wait someone who don't care to come date her. How she gonna take care of me and my kids? No, i don't want a sexdoll in my house.

DeeToPlay · Answer

I would be alright if she doesn't cook but not being able to clean is bullshit, what should be said is she won't clean and that means she could never cohabitate with me. That's just nasty and lazy. Not everyone can cook but I definitely have very good kitchen skills and I must say that I have never been with a woman who's cooking I preferred over my own food. Lazy is one of those red flags we're always warned about.

here2helpuALL · Answer

Cleaning is easy af. Cooking requires a little patience and the ability to learn. If women or men can't do these simple tasks then it isn't a matter of them not being able to but inability to learn. Lazy too. Pass on those people. I'm not carrying the both of us. We are carrying each other

DamnSam · Answer

Well usual no problem, if she stays away from cleaning or cooking

Did see 9 times my ex setting her kitchen on fire because, every time, oil in a pan, sets heat to maximum and walks away to do aomething she wants to finish before start cooking... its fckn oil which you dont heat to max because it catches fire

blutwolfe · Answer

I assume she's a career woman who wants to play the provider role, or she doesn't want kids/traditional values and would rather have both man and her bring an income in.

At the very worst is she has no life skills, and still expects someone to provide for her, which is definitely a big red flag.

thatsafact · Answer

I think that anyone can clean if they want to. cmon it's not hard to make something clean. cooking is really hard for some people. once again I think everyone should be able to cook a little. my wife has a great career and doesn't cook or clean much. i am a stay at home parent. i absolutelt love her and dont think any less of her because she doesn't cook or clean.

TDDMS · Answer

When she tells me that she can't cook or clean, then I reply with, "Well, best of luck in finding a boyfriend let alone a husband." Women who can't do basic cooking and tending house is no different than men who can't change a tire. Unless she is from the wealthy, then there's no reason for a woman not to know how to clean and cook. And considering women can't do iron work or carpentry, then she defaults to traditional gender roles.

VanillaSalt · Answer

No such thing as a woman that can’t clean just as there’s no such thing as a man that can’t clean. I expect everyone to do their part and it sounds like she just don’t want to... I work 12 hr shifts 6-7 days a week. I expect any woman I’m with to handle the other shit if she works less hours than me...

lucas262 · Answer

I mean mom taught me to clean uo agyef myself and I intend to lesrn to cook cause its convenient and looks fun,

I think it makes her maternal appeal/ wife skillz look lacking but its not a hard thing to pick up and do its more that she has the character to want to take care of her husband and children that kind of thing would go straight to the heart.

Bluemax · Answer

I think of her the same way I think of a man who can't cook or clean. Such a person lacks basic life skills. Such a person should acquire those skills to become more well rounded and hence be a better spouse.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I really couldn't care about that. Unless if there reason is legit i am lazy. Cause well yeah so am i but we have to clean and cook to live really unless if there loaded with cash well in that case i would care even less. But i mostly eat microwave food or noodles so cooking really ain't a problem. If she can somehow basically get by without doing so while functioning a normal life I really couldn't care then. It only becomes a problem if they cannot function normally.

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