I called my girlfriend a slut for dating her ex while being with me and trying to hide it, can I be forgiven, and what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and girlfriend were having a fight. We used to text and talk all the time, but she only texted very little after the fight. Weeks later, I find out she was spending time with her ex, and I got her to admit that she tried dating him when we were fighting.

She left me for another guy before, and she denied it was cheating, just disloyal. She also refused to cut off communication with her ex when i asked.

A day after she admitted to trying to date her ex, I snapped at her and said I should just break up with her forever, and I called her a slut. She isn't a slut, and hates promiscuous behavior.

Her ex told her that she has dropped down too low to let someone call her a slut. She breaks up with me and we get back together. She's somewhat distant with me now, and still spends time with her ex. She won't forgive me for calling her a slut, and acts like she didn't act disloyal to me twice.

I always try to make things work, but I don't know. I feel really bad for hurting her, and I regret it. But she won't cut her ex off, and won't forgive me or start treating me with love again. Should I keep letting her treat me like trash because I called her a slut? Is calling her a slut worse than her being disloyal to me? How do i fix this?

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+1 y

We break up a lot, but we always get back together within the week. Is it still considered cheating if she "broke up" with me and tried dating her ex during that time? Thank u for all the responses, I think she gaslights me a lot and I'm trying to be a better person, so I always try to play it in my mind like I need to improve

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+1 y

Yeah, I'm going to break up with her, I've been meaning to for so long, but she keeps apologizing and saying she will be better. I just needed others' opinion on this so I know that she's gaslighting me instead of me being a bad person.

She did not have sex with her ex, but I definitely feel like she tried to leave me for good, it's just that I'm the only guy who ever treats her well because she has trouble making friends and she also hates men

[CapricornHoney]

Why do you want to be forgiven after everything she’s done to you? I’d advise you to move, lots of major red flags in that relationship.

[EmmaMary]

@capricornhoney You have said precisely what I was thinking myself.

[CapricornHoney]

@EmmaMary I imagine it’s what most people are thinking reading it 😂

[hellionthesagereborn]

So she is trying to be with every one but you, even when you are together and now you feel you need to apologize to her and make this right? Do you enjoy being a cuck, or do you have that little self respect? Dump her, she is toxic she is cheating, she is disloyal and she doesn't care about you.

[wankiam]

you reacted to her doing wrong and now want her to forgive you? surely its you that needs to forgive her but realistically i think you would be better to forget about her instead because she clearly isn't the loyal sort and worse than that, she isn't honest either

[Quackthulu]

The only thing you did wrong was staying with her after she cheated on you

[Asker]

she didn't have sex with him, is it still considered cheating?

[Quackthulu]

Cheating has never been about sex. Otherwise an open relationship should have no such thing as cheating.

It has always been about breaking trust, and a blatant lack of respect. Even if she didn't bang the dude, she wanted to.

[Pegases]

She cheated once, which means she deosnt respect you. Respect yourself enough to walk away. She will never be loyal to you buddy. As men, we have to start acknowledging as a whole that there are two types of women, for fun, and for marriage. DO NOT try to change a woman. Simply allow her to show you which one she is, and treat her accordingly. Trying to win over a woman with no morals by being nice to her, and essentially losing your self respect in the process, will no nothing but leave you more angry in the end. Either keep her around for sex while you look for a better woman, or cut her off altogether if you can't control your emotions, but either way, this girl is for the streets, not for you.

[tzdc21]

Don't. You don't fix this. And why are you apologizing for calling her a slut? That's what she was based on what you wrote. All you did was tell the truth. The only screw up you made was staying with her after she cheated on you. Do yourself a favor and move on from that slut and find yourself a woman who actually gives a damn about you.

[nodnol32]

The damages have been done. Cheating is unacceptable and unforgiveable. You on the other hand don't need to be in a toxic relationship. There was no need to call her a slut, just ending it there and then would have been the right call

[Asker]

she didn't have sex with him, is it still considered cheating?

[nodnol32]

She admitted trying to date her ex. Thats a red flag mate.

[Kaneki05]

That literally is a slut? But now your been dumb for staying with her and feeling bad for calling her what she is.

[Asker]

she didn't have sex with him. does putting urself out there still count as being a slut? cus i thought so

[Kaneki05]

For sure. Trying to do something behind someones back when in a relationship that is cheating even if there was no actual sex is still slut. Because she is no caring about her actions for her own selfless lust or desire for someone else.

[NarutoUzumaki007]

she should be the one asking for forgiveness

dont be a beta male , let her go its not your fault

[NarutoUzumaki007]

there is no hope for you

why are you so desperate? have some self respect man , she broke up with you on purpose so she could fuck her ex

it doesn't sound like you are boyfriend/girlfriend , it sounds like you are fuckbuddies who have a relationship just for sexual purposes

[NarutoUzumaki007]

there are tons of girls out there , find someone who is satisfied with just you and doesn't need extra cock

[Asker]

she didn't have sex with him, i know this for a fact, that's why i even gave her another chance

[AD240pCharlie]

While I don't want to judge a situation when all I hear is one persons retelling of the story, what you have written makes it sound like your relationship is really fucking unhealthy. The best thing, for both of you, would be to leave.

[Jamie05rhs]

Why do you want to be forgiven? You were right. She is a slut. Leave her.

[asshole_]

I mean, you told her the truth

Why should you apologize for the truth, right?

[hellacray]

You don't need that slut.

[Fuentes]

What she cheated and you want her back u crazy

[Leojames]

You can't be forgiven

[JessieBellll]

She is a a slut though.

[Anonymous]

Does she have sex with him while you were together

[Asker]

she didn't that's why i even gave her another chance

[Iron_Man]

Move on