How to end up on the winning side of women's dual mating strategy?

[Anonymous]

So I just need to get a 6 pack, look handsome, get a nice haircut and a charming smile and be charismatic?
Getting that 6 pack is the hardest part of all.

[RagnarRedbeard]

The dual-mating strategy is about what women find sexually arousing vs what women find attractive in a long-term partner. Lover vs provider. Bad boy vs nice guy. The guy she'll have a casual fling with vs marry.

These things don't need to be mutually exclusive however. You don't really need to think of it in terms of categories at all. All you need to understand is that there are things that make a good long-term partner, things which make someone sexy to the opposite sex, and you can have the good qualities of both if you know what they are.

Arousal for women is about a lot more than just looks. Looks definitely do help, they get your foot in the door, but it's also about the way you carry yourself, the way you behave, the way you talk to her, how well you're able to create sexual tension, your ability to take the lead, masculine dominance, sexual confidence.

[Slartybartfast]

It's a strange game, the only winning move is not to play.

[honeybunSs]

Why not just be yourself and look for a woman who will accept you for who you are instead of being someone you're not and attracting toxic women? You'd be much happier being with someone who accepts you🙂.

[Asker]

Easier said than done. A genuine woman has a rarity of 1 in 100.

[honeybunSs]

Based on what statistics?

[Asker]

Based from what I have seen.

[honeybunSs]

Right, so not actual statistics. Have you ever thought about what you might be doing wrong? Sometimes we dont realize that it's us who are the problem. Are you portraying yourself as someone you're not? Are your expectations unrealistic? Are you looking for women in the wrong places?

[Asker]

I have thought about it for a long time but things don't change. Or maybe I changed in the wrong ways, which didn't attract women.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Why would being in shape automatically mean that he attracts toxic women?

[honeybunSs]

I didn't say that. I meant he should be himself personality-wise (i guess i should have been more specific). Becoming a gorgeous fuckboy or an industrious cuck boy will only attract toxic women. If he wants to get in better shape it will definitely help him.

[RagnarRedbeard]

Okay I see what you're saying. Maybe. As I said in my answer I think that having the good traits of both is a good thing, and that needn't be about completely changing yourself or pretending to be something you're not. As a woman ideally you want a guy who you find hot but who is also a good long-term boyfriend right? As I see it the fuckboy is a guy who is hot but no good long-term, and the cuckboy is a guy who is good long-term but not particularly hot.

[Asker]

We'll see about that. Or maybe not. Who knows.

[honeybunSs]

I agree @ragnarredbeard

[honeybunSs]

Good luck to you OP.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Espresso-Grande]

Get training then!

Once you've achieved your ideal physique, you then need to continually maintain it through dedication and discipline. Those are admirable traits few people pocess.

[Quackthulu]

Just because stupid shit pops into your head doesn't mean you have to post it online.