What is the winning strategy for succeeding with women?

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dangerDoge · Accepted Answer

From my perspective, there is no particular "one way," because there is a certain amount of individuality with each person. The thing I imagine that works with the best is being realistic with your strong suits, improving yourself, and then trying to emphasize your good points with a certain amount of tailoring to what she likes. In other words, improve yourself to be the best you can be, and then find out what she likes and show the better traits more than others. Don't make up things and be who you're not, but rather, show off your best points. The closest thing to a strategy in that case: reading the room well.

For example, let's say humor is naturally one of your strengths in your personality. You can make jokes spontaneously and are witty. This would be a strength of yours. However, if you are trying to flirt with a date or whatnot, it's important to realize that humor is individualized, meaning she may like some jokes, while others may not land. In that case, it may be better to read the room. If you made a dark humor joke and she gave you an awkward chuckle, maybe it's best to avoid the dark humor, even if you enjoy it on the side. Granted, if you get to a point where you feel like you're faking it (e. g. trying to make jokes in a type of humor you dislike to please her), chances are she just isn't right for you. Emphasizing your good points =/= fake it til you make it.

That being said, I think there are certain things that women like generally as a whole. (Not saying everyone... but most!) If I had to give a "tips for getting along well with women" (or really people in general), it'd be...
1.) Keep conversation light hearted, and be humorous when appropriate. People laugh in different ways, but pretty much everyone enjoys a good laugh in their own way. When conversation goes deep and they share something personal, show you're interested by talking about it, but try not to give unsolicited advice.
2.) Talk about yourself some, but make sure to ask them questions too. It takes a balance. Don't interview them, and don't expect them to interview you. If you find a subject/hobby that you two share, that's an easy conversation piece right there.
3.) Be flexible with ideas, but also be confident in your views too. People don't want a doormat, but they also don't want someone who pushes them around. If the person shares an opinion that you disagree with, ask them about. Be inquisitive (which goes along with point 2 as a conversation piece), and then discuss your own. This just goes along with getting to know the person.

If you have those 3 points down, I think you're set with most people, and then you can figure out the rest on your own. Ultimately, I think the points can be boiled down into: Be self aware. If you're self-aware and can read emotions well, you'll likely be a good conversationalist. Conversation is just like any other skill too, so the main way a person will get better at it is simply practice talking with people. Take me -- I was super awkward in high school, like "blush if anyone talked to me" kind of deal, and now I can carry a conversation, and people think I'm extraverted (which I definitely am not lol).

Lastly, there is the elephant in the room-- being their physical type & all that jazz. Personality may seal the deal, but looks get you in the door. Then there are all the billion other factors (e. g. success) that tie into it too.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

You want a girl, there's a few ways to do it, but the best is to learn to have the confidence to be honest with woman and not care at all about rejection.

Girls like guys with standards, who have a clear personality. Yes, girls like mysterious guys but if you're lying about your intentions or trying to mask certain parts of your personality, you're gonna turn off more girls then if you just acted like yourself.

Always be sexually escalating the conversation, no small talk. Small talk is pointless conversation that doesn't teach either of you something interesting or important to your ultimate goal. (ultimate goal being dating or just casual sex) also, not having too much small talk helps make you a little mysterious. Don't go off telling chicks your life story because you think "letting them in" is gonna get you laid. I'm actually thinking about writing a take on why that's not only manipulative but actions like that will invite manipulative woman into your life.

So basically, you want to find a girl who glances at you a few times, maybe she stares at you maybe she's smiling at you. If she's into you, you can start a conversation about ANYTHING. As long as you start building some sexual tension early on. You can even skip the whole beginning part and go straight to telling her you think she's cute.

And just be a man, speak confidently. Like let's say you tell a girl "I think you're cute, you should come over to my place"

If she tries to get you to wimp out by giving you a look and saying something like "oh really? And what are we gonna do at your place"

You double down bro's, you tell her "were gonna speak a lot of French, among other things"

She's gonna keep testing you, because she's gonna be surprised, she'll be intrigued, maybe even a little frustrated, but most importantly, she'll be engaged.

Girls want it as bad as guys do, sometimes, more but understanding some basic ideas about what turns them on or off is everything. They like to be playful but they don't like stupid games. So don't bead around the bush, be direct, be yourself and be honest. And whether you want casual sex or a relationship, you're gonna get your foot in a lot more doors this way.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

Have high self esteem. Know your needs. Don't take rejection personally. Career comes first. And you're already my dream guy.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

You think there's one. "I already know the answer..." Then tell us.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Always practice the Golden Rule.

Browneye57 · Answer

Well, I don't think, I KNOW. That's what teacher said to Johnny. And he said, "I don't think I know either." :L)

Guys need three things to get the ladies:
1. Looks
2. Money
3. Confidence. Irrational confidence.
You can get by with any two of these, but having all three is key. So hit the gym, HARD, and make a shit-ton of dough. The confidence will come with the effort. And you'll have all the pussy you can stand, I guarantee it. You'll be beating them off with a stick. :)

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Being yourself, treat them with respect, be honest, funny, confident, hygiene, decent dress sense, make them laugh, feel safe, earn their trust, do the little nice things, help out, do stuff to help rather than expect her to do it.

don’t try and be one of these pathetic alpha male types 😂
don’t feel entitled to sex or anything

there’s more

RoxyFoxx · Answer

There is none. That is the winning strategy. Understand that each girl is different, and try to appeal to her according to what she likes.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Geeeeez "I already know the answer"... women aren't all the same

Anonymous · Answer

Be positive, have a happy fulfilled life without a woman, a partnership should not be a 'saviour'. Then go out and meet people, if a woman is interesting get to know her better to see if you really do fit together. Accept there are no guarantees that you will find love, not everyone can 'win' that game, and if you make sure life is good without then it is not a big loss.
This all go the other way around if anyone is in doubt.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Abandoning the inappropriate metaphors succeed or fail with woman, as if they are a mountain to be conquered, or a 🏅🥇 to be won and worn. This strategy is fundamentally flawed, in that it implies that dating and sexual gratification is the objective goal, rather than making someone who really cares about you, happy 😊🖖.
Live long with one partner.

HannaIsInnocent · Answer

Not all women are the same so once you lose that mentality you might start winning. 🙃

Anonymous · Answer

A woman is looking for a mature and independent man (when I say independent I mean who manages his life as a couple without involving people around him or sharing the details of his life with people), who takes responsibility for his actions, no betrayal, no mental games, have a strong personality when necessary, because the woman needs to feel safe... But above all... to be yourself playing perfection does not work with women you will be unmasked from the first testre-state://background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (32, 33, 36), justifyLeft, pre

aarnasen · Answer

There is no "the winning" strategy in succeeding with women. You should know we are literally half the world's population, so there's a lot of diversity in wants and expectations.

The_Maphio · Answer

Do not fake being somebody you're not. Do not act forced nor appear like a bufoon to make sorry attempts at being likeable. There are women taht are basically a man's copy in the other gender. Just act natural.

slatyb · Answer

It's simple. Be nice, be interesting, but most importantly, pay attention. Listen attentively when they talk, and remember what they tell you. In bed, pay attention to their body language.

karaspara · Answer

There isn’t one women are as varied in desires attractions and personalities as men are

Anonymous · Answer

Be an asshole. They dig that shit. Flowers and chivalry is a no no. Spank her ass and grab her everywhere. Make her pay for dates. Reply after hours and even days. Tell her how ugly she is and how lucky she is to have you. You'll be swimming in women in no time.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's all about the way he looks at you. And also the energy in the room with some people it just doen't match even though you don't know him you just don't feel comfortable. If he looks like he would do anything for you he loves you (I think). Love is a feeling it is not logic you may fall in love with someone annoying, disrespectful, etc...

Anonymous · Answer

The winning strategy is don't play the game with women.

If you need sex, patronize prostitutes, who cost less, are nicer, welcome repeat business, and won't make false accusations. Also generally better looking and much better at sex. Treat them nicely, always tip, and come back for more whenever you want to.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Chase money and your purpose and women will end up chasing you. Never chase a woman, if she likes you she will show it

RelevantJ · Answer

The strategy is stop thinkin we are all the same and realize we act and think differently because... we... are... all... individuals 🤯

Unit1 · Answer

(don't say money) ... (don't say money) ... (don't say money) ... (do NOT say money) ... (don't say money) ... (don't say money) ... Money 😶 DAMN! I was so close 🙁:(

adorable_petite · Answer

you must be honest you must be able to make me laugh you must be yourself

GnatSocks · Answer

Step 1, be attractive. Step 2, go talk them. Anyone you see not succeeding with women forgot one of these two steps.

jshm2 · Answer

That there is no strategy.  It's only instinct and practice. Just like a good cook isn't going to become a married cook, if he just doesn't bother with his game, and relies on luck alone.

nevernevernever · Answer

The winning strategy is to not think about getting women as a strategy that works for all women

Grl2live_nlearn4u · Answer

It's important to make a good impression the first time a guy talks to me. Or any girl. Have a nice smile and get her 2b interested in you.

Rangers · Answer

Don't mould yourself to try to fit what they want, rather mould yourself into the man you want to be and a woman you'll talk to will see you for who you are and want to be with you.

Levin · Answer

Have your shit in order. Don't take yourself too seriously. Poke fun, flirt, be carefree.

Billyscotter · Answer

You already know the answer. LOL. I needed a laugh, thanks.

MrWolf · Answer

The answer is russian roulette till the end! You either bite the bullet or just her the chilling click sound!

jgokgotit · Answer

The winning strategy is to be yourself and take time to get to know your date.

jasco · Answer

Be kind, gentle, not to emotional but not a stone. Talking to them is a good way to be friends, listening is better, flirt, have fun with them, be easy going but not easy to get in bed with, smart, strong and flexible.

StunningANDbrave · Answer

To not chase them and putting your efforts into becoming the best version of yourself, joining a gym, martial art, getting a better job/income. And being dominant without being abusive. There is a fine line in all of this.

friendzoned4life · Answer

Be rich or attractive and mentally/physically abuse them is what I am getting from the ones that rejected me as the thing u should tho.

But if you're not that desperate Just be yourself and keep hoping.

pokerbot · Answer

You just have to put yourself out there, and be persistent. Don't take any of this me too crap that scares off the Incels. Having said that there's no "winning strategy". Just be tall, good looking and witty. And have a huge penis.

AlexanderAnttila · Answer

When you say, being successful with women; does that imply going from one to another in one night stands or do you actually pursue "the one"?

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

The "winning strategy" is to learn that there isn't one strategy that will work on all women for all guys

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Be friendly, be playful, be kind, but NEVER go to them. Make them come to you; life will be better that way.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Do the opposite of what 99% of the pinks below tell you do to.

Dontaaa · Answer

Literally all you gotta do is be a desirable human being. Obtain all the positive traits that you can get and work on fixing the negative ones.

serious · Answer

Good question. Tough to answer. A whole lot of things are required.

normalice · Answer

Learn what a particular woman considers "succeeding with men" and strive to become that.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Model the behaviours and habits of the most "successful" men in that department. Success leaves clues, as they say.

NathanDavis · Answer

Now I am wondering, what do you consider "success with women", for starters.

HiveBee · Answer

Be a kinky dominant freak and fulfill her darkest fantsies.

moviedude714 · Answer

That's why there's an entire industry out there, its overwhelming as it is and a reminder I don't like the Dynamics of dating but sadly can't do anything about it

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

There is no strategy unless you mean strictly sex and whoring around. If a woman likes you then you don't need a "strategy" she will just like you and makes herself available to you.

sheikalana · Answer

Spoil them with loyalty, honesty and respect.

dandiecandie · Answer

Women are complex for men who don't understand love.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Be attractive, don’t be unattractive; be wealthy, don’t be poor; make other women jealous, be able to cheat.

Shihab91 · Answer

Success isn't about women i just need one girl in life and that when i feel ready so i don't mind staying single until then i prefer to focus on myself

Anonymous · Answer

You've got the secret? You should write it down and sell it on gumroad for $97.

exitseven · Answer

Date as many women as you can and hope the law of averages works in your favor.

pigoat · Answer

Ask them out if they say no Walk away immediately

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Don’t be an asshole and always have honor. This is good for everything

lsksni · Answer

Giving it some time and letting her do some work too. But while on date, I do everything to do it memorable. It works. Women like surprises.

Nazgol · Answer

Be attractive & take care of yourself, be charming & seductive, be sexually appealing, be loving and caring, offer to pay for things & spend $$ on her

genericname85 · Answer

by making sure you succeed in having your own shit together first.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Never allow yourself to love a woman and always keep your options open. Don't be afraid to eject her at a moments notice.

Anonymous · Answer

Here’s the list you need: -Have a personality -Don’t try too hard and be laid back -Be a gentleman -Pay on dates And you won.

OddBeMe · Answer

Realizing that there’s 4 billion “winning strategies”. Each girl has their own winning strategy to win their heart.

Jack9949 · Answer

Pursuing the right women. Aka non-white women. @notarobberyet knows everything about this.

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