Why is it that guys would date a hot girl who is broke, but girls won't go near a guy unless he's wealthy?

[John_Doesnt]

Any guy would date Scarlett Johansson if she was unemployed, living with her parents and had no money at all. But girls would lose all interest in Johnny Depp if he wasn't making millions of dollars from movies.

I don't care if she's a bum living on the streets

[ragequeen]

Lol here comes my confession. I met my boyfriend when he had no education and a minimum-wage job. We met online (tinder-no surprise lol), but spoke over the phone for several months before actually meeting in real life. During that time I spoke with him I could discuss things I had never spoken to a guy about before. He opened my mind and I opened his. We connected really deeply by talking for hours every night. Never had a sexual conversation and he never asked for nudes or sexy pictures. I knew at that time that he was uneducated with a minimum wage job, but that never bothered me because he was so interesting in other ways. LONG story short, he learned from me the importance of education and how fulfilling it can be if you have high ambitions. He also wanted to secure our future because we were getting serious. Today, he lives with his mom, but dedicates his time to studying and taking up classes, and I couldn't be more proud of him. Our plan further is to move in together once he gets accepted to uni! THAT is what real love is. Building a life and working together. It's PROGRESS and all good things take time. But to answer your question, men and women look for different things (from a biological standpoint). Women want money and stability so they can raise a family under safest possible circumstances. Men, on the other hand, are more looking for strong genes that they can spread to their future children. That could explain the difference. But in my case, education, money and stability is important, but if you love the person you can work together and figure ut out.

[ragequeen]

Also to add to what I said, I was not the one to initiate the idea of getting an education. This was all his idea and motivation! I loved him no matter what, and that wouldn't change. But I'm glad he realized our lives would be a lot easier if both had high-paying jobs and educations so we can fund our favorite activities and to pursue our dreams.

[Daniela1982]

It is all about sex. Any ugly girl can get sex. But a ugly guy without money is a lost cause. Look at all the sports or music stars who have trophy wives. Money talks.

[KrakenAttackin]

Truth.

[FruitAndBlueEyes]

I’d like to know this, too. There are women out there that don’t care, although they’re hard to find. I’ve always been told that a real woman would stick with you through thick and thin. If she doesn’t, then she isn’t worth your time. I understand everyone wants stability but what we all forget is that we each have to run our own race. We were all dealt different cards in life and the only thing that matters is how we finish.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Not true for every woman. Even on this site I have seen some posts of girls who shared their experiences and asked questions about dating guys who are broke.

[Anonymous]

I hate that generalization, all men don’t do the same thing and all women don’t. To be fair, guys could have the same outlook and be just as shallow. It’s about the individual and their standards. A hideous dude can be rich a pull women because of his money. A broke attractive guy can do the same thing because of his confidence. It’s not always about the money and there are plenty who feel the same.

[John_Doesnt]

Every man would date an unemployed woman if she was attractive and has a nice personality. Most women would never date a guy who doesn't have a job.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds like someone talking from his own experience.

[Opinion Owner]

@daniela spot on!

[Opinion Owner]

@john_doesnt you’re so biased and wanna look and sound good! No not every man would date an unemployed moment and I know that for a solid fact because men have standards too! A lot of dude won’t date women who aren’t making money because they don’t want to pay for everything and that is perfectly fine! Stipe Generalizing bc you’re poor and feel like no one wants you. Get your shit together and get in your bag then watch how the change happens.

[Opinion Owner]

*unemployed woman

[genericname85]

because women hate the "patriarchy" and want to be seen as equally strong, equally valuable human beings, so they only look for mates that are higher in socioeconomic status than them... wait a minute... there's a flaw somewhere in that logic.

[Dchrls78104]

Men are attracted to how the woman looks; women, by various other factors, such as his paycheque.

[KrakenAttackin]

This is simply how women roll. Men want sex, women want resources.

[In_Trance]

This is simply not true. There's no end of girls living with guys that can't hold jobs. Hell, there's girls calling their man in jail ffs

[Anonymous]

Unlike women, my interest in the opposite sex has nothing to do with her education, careen or financial position.

[Daniela1982]

So you only care about if she has tits and ass?

[Opinion Owner]

@Daniela1982 Nope, I care about a lot more than that. But unlike women, men do not see the opposite sex primarily as providers of resources, which is how women see men, as you made clear in your response to QA's question.

[Juxtapose]

@Daniela1982 That and personality.

I'm not going to discriminate based on someone's socioeconomic status. That's revolting & gold digger behavior.

[OddBeMe]

I guess it depends on whether she’s a mooch or not. Her personality matters.

[honeybunSs]

There are women who would date a broke man and there are guys who wouldn't date a broke woman. It goes both ways. Everyone isn't the same.

[John_Doesnt]

There's no straight man that would turn down an unemployed Scarlett Johansson

[honeybunSs]

Some straight men don't find Scarlett Johansson physically attractive and some women don't find Johnny Depp physically attractive with or without money.

[John_Doesnt]

you're only 17 so you haven't figured out that women know nothing

[honeybunSs]

Yeah, you're right. I am a 17-year-old girl but my morals are still higher than yours. And you're an adult male who hates women. You need to grow up and let go of the past. You wouldn't be so miserable if you would let go of the past🙂

[Anonymous]

You don't need to be wealthy
talk wealth enough and it will do wonders for you

[Anonymous]

Men's are shallow people no hard feelings just thoughts, but women are more hollowed than they seem.

[JaneDoe377]

Another sweeping generalization of females. 👏👏👍

[John_Doesnt]

Oh Sandra, you dumb bitch

[JaneDoe377]

😅🤣

[KrakenAttackin]

@John_Doesnt You mean "Oh Karen, you dumb bitch".

[Ana_Southerington]

False premise. I've dated many, many broke guys...

[asshole_]

Cause girls want a guy who can provide

[Cryptic-Game]

Women usually are more superficial.

[Chthou95]

Hypergamy 101